My boyfriend (17M) and I (17F) had a pretty bad fight last night. I was dropping him home and we were sitting in the parked car and he used my phone to look something up. He opened up the page where you can see the history and I snatched my phone from him and quickly deleted it because sometimes I look up weird questions and shit. He immediately got passive aggressive and left the car without saying goodnight or anything. I opened the door and asked him to come back but he didn’t and asked when I would see him again but he just said soon and kept walking. I cried on the car ride home but he called me (after I tried calling) and said that to him it seems like I always have something to hide and he is so open. Even if that is true, which I don’t think it is, did he deal with it in the right way? Is it normal for me to keep things private or should I be sharing everything with him? TLDR- boyfriend and I had a fight and he became passive aggressive and left because I “hide things” ...

So, this is a really long story and not one I'm particularly comfortable sharing. I'm mostly here to get this off my chest and, hopefully, stop feeling like I'm about to have a panic attack from the shock of it all. (No idea if this is even the right place. If not, feel free to yell at me.) Let me profess by saying, 1. My ex was a lot older, and very different, than me. 2. I was, and am, an unstable trainwreck who makes terrible decisions. And 3. He wasn't exactly in the wrong in this situation. I have a history of abuse, physical and mental. I have a bad home life, shitty parents. I never went to public school, in fact I hadn't had friends off the internet since I was 11. (Read, "my parents never let me leave, literally, and got a house in the middle of no where with no neighbors for miles, just to be sure.") When I was 17, I met this group of great people online whilst gaming (yeah, I know.) We were all friends on this game, a fairly tight knit group...

Throaway for safety, might delete later. TL;DR at the end. Hey there. I normally don't post this kind of stuff, but this is really bothering me and I need neutral opinions. I'm currently living far away from my family. As I grew up my parents were caring, but very strict. Just to be clear, some of the major stuff they did: - No concept of privacy. For example, I was never allowed to close my door except when dressing up (and even then my mum would just knock and enter without giving me time to say no); they read my journals, controlled my bagpack when I was a teen everyday when I came back from school; read my chats with friends...you get the picture. - My mum especially is very controlling of my image. If I said I liked something and she didn't she'd say I have poor taste and buy something she liked for me. I love goth fashion, but because of that I basically got tired and decided to just let her buy whatever she wanted until I moved out and could buy my own cloth...

My (21f) brother (24m)and I have been very close growing up. We’re the only 2 siblings, we do fight a lot, but other than that we’re like best friends. That is, until he started dating his current girlfriend. He used to be good friends with her for years, and I don’t have a problem with her as a person, but I don’t think she’s long term relationship potential. She is lazy, unmovitated, and seems likely to live in her parents basement forever. My brother is doing all the work it seems to maintain relationship (he always has to go visit her, they live about 3 hours apart) Anyways, he assumed we didn’t like her (we being my parents and me) and one day he got angry and asked why we didn’t like her... and we told him. My mom was the most vocal about it in saying she doesn’t support them. Since then my brother hasn’t visited home in over a month, won’t talk to either me or my mother, and only texted my dad to say he won’t be coming home for the holidays. I’ve tried to reach out to see why h...

Ok the tetrahedron was a joke, but a little back story. My ex and i had a child last year. she had issues during her pregnancy with depression and what not where i pleaded with her to get help and she never did. those issues continued shortly after birth with post partum psychosis where she threatened me, herself, and our son (this was on and off for about 10mo). As the year progressed so did her threats (no one takes her threats seriously enough though as she has hit me earlier this year (yea cops did nothing)). As of now she has been on medication and has calmed down due to those, but if she doesn't take them she goes right back to how she was last year. we are in "family therapy" to try to communicate and co-parent at the very least. she has said many times recently she "loves me" or "wants to be a family" or "wants to live together". during the last year i became much closer with a wonderful girl whom I've known for a while now. she...

Hi, I’ve never posted to reddit before but I’m struggling with my feelings at the moment so looking for some advice about whether or not I’m still being an idiot. I’m 24, I’ve been with my wife since we were 16. 2.5 years ago we found out she was pregnant (we were trying) A few month after that I found messages on her phone joking about pictures that her and the guy had sent to each other and talking about how he’d found somewhere good for them to fuck next. I was an idiot, she was pregnant and she persuaded me that they’d sent pictures but never done anything physical. We had our son and everything was good, she’s now pregnant again. During a conversation she finally admitted that she was sleeping with him, unprotected, at the same time as we were trying for our first baby. She says it happened 3 times but our son is definitely mine because she took the morning after pill. It broke me, I’ve been depressed and anxious about everything since finding out. Do you think that now she’s...

Thanks! My parents were super cool but if you think yours aren't ready for that wait a little bit more take your time July 02, 2019 at 12:19AM

cool congrats bro July 02, 2019 at 12:18AM

I kinda might consider myself( if this is a thing )light grey asexual maybe since gray is every once in a while but I sometimes do but less than the average person, is light grey an actual description? July 02, 2019 at 12:14AM

Yeah same kinda, never met a homoromantic Asexual in real life. July 02, 2019 at 12:13AM

I'm gonna guess that the majority are either heteromantic or aro. July 02, 2019 at 12:12AM

I don't know, man. I think a lot of asexuals feel this way even if they've never felt sexual attraction before bc of the whole "never say never" mindset, and bc they secretly really hope one person comes along one day that can make them feel what everyone else gets to feel normally. I've felt this way too. I know it's hard to put into practice, but the revelation that changed the way I think is that I need to stop thinking of a relationship with no sexual attraction as "settling." I had internalized the idea that asexual relationships and ace love were less real than those with sexual attraction in the mix, and that was really harmful for me. It's still sometimes hard to train myself to think positively and inclusively, but it's better for me and my mental health. As normal as it is to want what most other people have, we can't let allonormative society brainwash us into thinking that we're failures or "settling" if we brea...

Yes! Red is ace btw. Love her content July 02, 2019 at 12:10AM

So I (f22) have been talking with this guy (m23) for about two months. We've met a handful of times and everything seemed great. We would talk on the phone about once a week. He has now rescheduled and canceled 4 dates. Some due to being tired from work and the most recent saying his anxiety/depression is bad. He hardly text me. I have text him things asking if he is okay and how I can help but he just ignores it and I'll get get a "hey" a few hours later. I haven't seen him in about 2.5 weeks and we hardly text. I wanted to talk yesterday but said he couldn't because he said he still didn't feel 100% So me with my great timing sends a text that says I feel like he is pushing me away right as he sends a text saying that he is spending time with his uncle who doesn't feel well. I don't know what to do. It feels like he might be ghosting me. We've never talked about his anxiety/depression before. Submitted July 01, 2019 at 11:41PM So I...

So I've [M-20] been friends with this one girl [F-19] for around two years now. Back in April 2018 she told me she liked me and I reciprocated but, due to conflicting life schedules (She left for nine months to study abroad), we were unable to date at the time. Throughout all of that time we kept in touch and she reassured me she still wanted to be with me. Fast forward to February 2019, she's back home and we start talking again. She tells me she wants to see me, has so much to tell me and that she still wants to be with me but needs some time to get her life back together. Time goes by and I eventually (early May, 2019) managed to go out with her. Took me around three times to do this, as each time she would say she was busy, but eventually she accepted. The date went great, we went to the movies, we caught up with each others lives, had a lot of fun and I walked her back home. As I dropped her off at her house, she told me she had a great time and wanted to go out again, ...

I(24M) just had a first date last night with this single mom(25F). We went bowling. It was fun. This girl didn’t really ask me a whole lot of questions but did ask me a couple. After our date, I message her a little while later saying that I had fun and that I’d like to take her out on a second date if she’s willing and able. With her being a single mom, free time is limited. She replied and said, “Thank you I had fun as well! I’ll let you know the next time I’m able to escape for a bit 😊” What does this mean? Submitted July 01, 2019 at 11:53PM I(24M) just had a first date last night with this single mom(25F). We went bowling. It was fun. This girl didn’t really ask me a whole lot of questions but did ask me a couple. After our date, I message her a little while later saying that I had fun and that I’d like to take her out on a second date if she’s willing and able. With her being a single mom, free time is limited. She replied and said, “Thank you I had fun as well! I’ll let y...

Hi welcome to my TED talk on how I met my spouse I do want to encourage people that there’s ways to meet people where you least expect them, and how relationships can literally hit you like a brick. Sometimes, you just gotta show someone you like them, and not really care about the consequences, because in the end, a good person would still be your friend. During college, I met my husband through some... Really shitty friends, considering one of them had a crush on him and concluded he didn’t like her because he was gay. Ironically, she concluded I was a lesbian because I had a mild crush on her. Me and my husband are pretty 50/50 bi. Anyway, one night we were just playing games together, and it was starting to get really late. Since it was a weekend and it was like 2 in the morning, I suggested for him to just stay over. Me being loopy from sleep deprivation and wanting to act on my crush, I just kinda gave him a good ol night night smooch and crashed on the floor. About two hours...

Hello, I (23M) have been broken up with almost half a year ago. It happened after af 2 month relationship, she (21F) used the slow fade to ghosting method, it taking abort a month for her to completely stop the contact. We were very quick to bond, and I specially felt that this was the woman I was to be with for at least a long time. Now I'm trying to deal with the shock that she apparently sees me as the worst possible human being on earth, as well as the heartbreak itself, never really being good at letting go. I'm currently using my martial arts practice as well as frequent gym trips as a way to deal, but it's only working as a quick fix, so I hoped you guys n' gals had some tips for me to be better at dealing with breakups? TL;DR I'm looking for tips to deal with breakups. Submitted July 02, 2019 at 12:06AM Hello, I (23M) have been broken up with almost half a year ago. It happened after af 2 month relationship, she (21F) used the slow fade to ghosting ...

I (F24) have been talking to a guy (25) for a few months and we have been out on a few dates. We have a great time, and I'm really into him, but it seems like as soon as we get closer he becomes more distant. I don't want to be pushy, so I try to be understanding and not ask for any type of commitment, but I wish he would tell me how he's feeling. Our communication is great when it comes to every day stuff, but anything that has to do with feelings makes him shut down completely. I have told him that I'm cool with taking things slow, but that I would like him to let me know how he feels about our situation. Idk, I feel like I'm in similar situations with every guy I try to date and I don't know what I should be doing differently. Submitted July 02, 2019 at 12:13AM I (F24) have been talking to a guy (25) for a few months and we have been out on a few dates. We have a great time, and I'm really into him, but it seems like as soon as we get closer he bec...

This happened to me many times. Once I intentionally try to get someone’s attention other guys start hitting on me. Why are they doing it - to compete or because they think I’m free and will dance with anyone if I’m signaling someone? It doesn’t make sense to me and very annoying as the guy I like gets mixed signals when this happens and eventually gets confused and turns away from me or avoids me. Guys, please explain why you do it and what should I do to attract the right guy and not others? Submitted July 02, 2019 at 12:14AM This happened to me many times. Once I intentionally try to get someone’s attention other guys start hitting on me. Why are they doing it - to compete or because they think I’m free and will dance with anyone if I’m signaling someone? It doesn’t make sense to me and very annoying as the guy I like gets mixed signals when this happens and eventually gets confused and turns away from me or avoids me. Guys, please explain why you do it and what should I do t...

Thanks! Just ordered two sets for my DM and myself!!! July 01, 2019 at 11:58PM

Demisexual need to feel strong emotional bond in order to feel sexual attraction to person. Isn't it impossible to tell if you're demi until after that happens, though? Like isn't it basically indistinguishable from ace until then? Like in light of that, I don't see much point in suggesting it to someone who's questioning if they're asexual, unless they've already been in a relationship like that. I mean, it is technically a possibility, but I'm not sure it's immediately useful. I mean, OTOH I guess it's good for them to have at least heard of it, so it doesn't catch them off guard if they start identifying as ace and ultimately do turn out to be demi, but... I dunno. July 01, 2019 at 11:58PM

Three weeks ago my crush came towards me and told me how she feels and I said I feel the same. We got together but we didn’t really have any physical contact besides hugs. We were both so happy and a week ago she told me we don’t need to rush anything and that she really wants this to work and to last. We met two days ago and she told me she’s not ready to be in a relationship. Today I messaged her to understand what happened. I asked her if it was because I didn’t take enough initiatives she said that it’s true that I didn’t take a lot of initiatives but it’s just that she’s not ready but I know it’s the reason and it’s killing me. She told me I would be the one getting bored of her and that I should trust her 100% and I did and now this happens. Why the duck does this shit always happen to me. I don’t get how you can loose feelings for someone in such a short period of time. I can’t handle this fucking shit anymore Submitted July 01, 2019 at 11:40PM Three weeks ago my crush ca...