Should I stay ot should I go?

So I've [M-20] been friends with this one girl [F-19] for around two years now. Back in April 2018 she told me she liked me and I reciprocated but, due to conflicting life schedules (She left for nine months to study abroad), we were unable to date at the time. Throughout all of that time we kept in touch and she reassured me she still wanted to be with me.

Fast forward to February 2019, she's back home and we start talking again. She tells me she wants to see me, has so much to tell me and that she still wants to be with me but needs some time to get her life back together. Time goes by and I eventually (early May, 2019) managed to go out with her. Took me around three times to do this, as each time she would say she was busy, but eventually she accepted.

The date went great, we went to the movies, we caught up with each others lives, had a lot of fun and I walked her back home. As I dropped her off at her house, she told me she had a great time and wanted to go out again, even suggested a couple options.

So, I waited a couple weeks and asked her out again, she told me she was busy and told me to ask her again the next week. I did, and got the same response. It's been almost a month and a half since and this has been going on week after week. I ask her out, she tells me she's busy, rinse and repeat. I have made efforts to work around her schedule and offered different date options to no avail.

I know for a fact she actually leads a pretty busy life. Works monday to friday, trains with her volleyball team several times a week, plays several games with them during the weekends and attends a couple college classes as well so, at first, the excuses seemed believable but they have started getting ridiculous. The latest one being 'One of my college friends (Whom she's known for less than 3 months) is singing at this one bar and she asked me like a month ago to save the date and go support her, but I forgot to tell you'.

Two weeks ago, she texted me in the middle of the night while drunk. She had gone out with her friends in the middle of the week. She told me she really cared for me, that she wanted to be with me and is really sorry for always being busy. To top it off, she said she didn't want to lose me. Since then, every time I ask her out and she proceeds to reject the invitation she leads with 'I feel like shit turning down plans again, I'm not doing it on purpose I swear but.. ' and ends it with 'I really wanna be with you and don't want to lose you'.

I want to believe she's actually a decent human being and is not doing this on purpose, but at the same time I feel like, for whatever reason, she's choosing to prioritize other things over me. Partly this is my fault for the simple fact that I tend to enable her behaviour by telling her 'it's ok, we'll try again next week'.

I frankly don't know how to approach this. Should I just stop talking to her? Should I confront her about it, give her some sort of ultimatum?

TL;DR Girl I've been talking to keeps on telling me she wants to go out with me, but everytime I ask her out she has a different excuse and postpones.

Submitted July 01, 2019 at 11:45PM

So I've [M-20] been friends with this one girl [F-19] for around two years now. Back in April 2018 she told me she liked me and I reciprocated but, due to conflicting life schedules (She left for nine months to study abroad), we were unable to date at the time. Throughout all of that time we kept in touch and she reassured me she still wanted to be with me.Fast forward to February 2019, she's back home and we start talking again. She tells me she wants to see me, has so much to tell me and that she still wants to be with me but needs some time to get her life back together. Time goes by and I eventually (early May, 2019) managed to go out with her. Took me around three times to do this, as each time she would say she was busy, but eventually she accepted.The date went great, we went to the movies, we caught up with each others lives, had a lot of fun and I walked her back home. As I dropped her off at her house, she told me she had a great time and wanted to go out again, even suggested a couple options.So, I waited a couple weeks and asked her out again, she told me she was busy and told me to ask her again the next week. I did, and got the same response. It's been almost a month and a half since and this has been going on week after week. I ask her out, she tells me she's busy, rinse and repeat. I have made efforts to work around her schedule and offered different date options to no avail.I know for a fact she actually leads a pretty busy life. Works monday to friday, trains with her volleyball team several times a week, plays several games with them during the weekends and attends a couple college classes as well so, at first, the excuses seemed believable but they have started getting ridiculous. The latest one being 'One of my college friends (Whom she's known for less than 3 months) is singing at this one bar and she asked me like a month ago to save the date and go support her, but I forgot to tell you'.Two weeks ago, she texted me in the middle of the night while drunk. She had gone out with her friends in the middle of the week. She told me she really cared for me, that she wanted to be with me and is really sorry for always being busy. To top it off, she said she didn't want to lose me. Since then, every time I ask her out and she proceeds to reject the invitation she leads with 'I feel like shit turning down plans again, I'm not doing it on purpose I swear but.. ' and ends it with 'I really wanna be with you and don't want to lose you'.I want to believe she's actually a decent human being and is not doing this on purpose, but at the same time I feel like, for whatever reason, she's choosing to prioritize other things over me. Partly this is my fault for the simple fact that I tend to enable her behaviour by telling her 'it's ok, we'll try again next week'.I frankly don't know how to approach this. Should I just stop talking to her? Should I confront her about it, give her some sort of ultimatum?TL;DR Girl I've been talking to keeps on telling me she wants to go out with me, but everytime I ask her out she has a different excuse and postpones.