My wife (F30) and myself (M34) are in process of buying a house. Only I work in the family and I saved up $10K and put deposit towards is 3BHK house. It’s been 10 days and my wife is now saying she doesn’t like the house because the fengshui (changed concept, she follows something similar to fengshui) is not correct. She will only move if she can use one of the bedrooms as entertainment room. This will leave only 1 bedroom for guest with Master bedroom being used by us. The problem here is we bought the house because we needed at least 3 bedrooms. One for us, one for my daughter from previous marriage and one for family/friends staying over. Both of us are immigrants and my family comes over 2-3 months on summer. She is new here and her family hasn’t been over. She is telling me her family will never come over, my family cannot stay in guest bedroom and she wants them to share room with my daughter. I don’t want that simply because I am not paying $500K on a house and not use extra b...

TL,DR: Guy acting weird at my introduction to coworkers, seems aloof in other interactions, wouldn't normally stress over this but we may be working together in the not-so-far future and I don't know why I put him off, but can't directly ask because it would get around... could someone help me figure this out? This occurrence has been on my mind because I may be working with this guy soonish. I just started a new job in July, at a very relaxed and friendly workplace where the people are truly welcoming. I'm slowly making friends, mostly with the women there since I don't go out of my way to chat with the guys, they're on different projects so we don't have much of a chance to interact. One guy reacted very strangely when I met him. On that day I was a nervous wreck, hadn't slept the night before, managed to be quite presentable anyways but smiled a bit too much etc. you get the picture. I was shaking hands with most of the people I met and there was ...

Oh man. I( I'm 16 male) just told my best friend( shes 16 F) I like her but she said she doesnt feel the same. The thing that sucks the most is that before we were extremely touchy and kissed each other on the cheek and I touched her explicitly like I softcore fingered u with her pants on and touched her breast and butt and we were very like compassionate and we both said to each other that we said we think we are the best ppl we have ever met. We also had like a dom and sub relationship where she called herself my cat and myself her owner and we have also been through a lot together . But it makes no sense that she rejected me cuz she says I'm not the one shes looking for and that she wasnt aware that what we were doing was wrong and she says she never thought that I liked her but still wants me in her life. Why would she think that and can anyone just help me understand this and what to do. TL;DR I confessed to my bestfriend and she still wants to be friends even after I co...

My girlfriend and I just broke up and I dont know whats even the right course of action to take. Me (32), and my ex (32) have been living with our housemates (m37, and f35) for several months and she just left us over the abuses my roommates have done to her. My roommates (we'll call them j and k) are named on the lease and have often used that as leverage whenever we try to make changes or add ons to the house. Today the reason shes leaving was the final straw to her. She came down earlier and asked loudly if I wanted to move out. So I came up to take a look and see whats going on. There was a bit of back and forth, as to why she cant screw in a spice rack to the wall so she can access the spices she bought yet they screwed in their curtains with no provlem. Apparently its because J didnt want us to leave so many screw marks as we did in the apartment we all shared (which we cleaned up). This goes on for a while and eventually we compromise. Me and the girlfriend left to do an ...

I know the title sounds bad but hear me out. I have 2 lists (both younger). I am 19 and my sisters are 18 and 17, they HATE each other, I used t be like them but I made peace with both of them when I was like 14 and they get along and are close with me but not with each other. Its not just arguing but they have full on fights. I usually just break it up and act like a 3rd parent cause my parents don't really know how to deal with them and they are super rebellious except with me, I have no idea why thats the case but they respect me I guess. This whole situation started at like 10 or 11, I was with the older sister in the kitchen and when the other one woke up and got pissed that we ate the rest of the cereal. I rolled my eyes knowing there was gonna be another fight, I tried to stop it tho by saying that id go to the store and get more and I planned on doing that cause I really didn't want to hear screaming THIS early in the morning. I got ready and they had full on red face...

Hello Reddit, This is quite complex but I'll do my best to keep it short. Feel free to ask for more info if I've missed anything important. This happened 5 weeks ago. We had been together for 9 months semi-distance (she lives 1.5hrs drive away) seeing eachother almost every weekend and it was the best time of my life. I was absolutely crazy about her and she told me she felt the same. We went to concerts and did fun things etc. as couples do. Huge chemistry and very easy connection. Met her parents a few times and she met mine, everything is amazing, how could this possibly go wrong? One week she starts being a little more distant than usual and I ask if everything is okay (she could get down sometimes). She gives me a call and starts off with the usual stuff but then tells me that her ex had contacted her earlier in the week and she is "shocked at what has been awoken in her" it's not fair to keep seeing me and we're done, she's going to pursue this an...

Hey y'all- figured I should get some alternate perspectives. I met a girl at college a year ago, and she's basically perfect- if I made a list of everything I'm looking for in a partner, she would hit almost every bullet point. We hooked up a few times at the end of last year/over the summer, but now she's telling me that she wants something deeper than that. Normally I would've been ecstatic, but I've got one hangup: this July, she'll be leaving for a 6 month study abroad trip; I won't get to see her again until December. I know that's almost a year away, and I don't want to stop her from doing something she's always wanted to do, but I still worry. I hear all sorts of horror stories about the strain long distance puts on a relationship, and I definitely want to keep her my life in some capacity; I don't want a failed romance to ruin that. I explained to her how I felt; she said my concerns were reasonable, and that she also worried s...

I have known him since he was 6 and I was 7. I’m one year older and he is one of my best friends that I have met throughout my life. We grew up together since we were neughbors, but then we both moved and we only saw each other like once every 2 or 3 weeks after that. My sister has always had this weird crush on him even though she is a whole 7 years older than him. I do remember one time when we were kids, my sister made him kiss her on the lips and you could tell he didn’t want to. Then when we got older, I had this huge crush on him and it seemed like he really liked me too since we would hang out a lot and go out together. I the got a boyfriend (we broke up months ago) because he seemed uninterested and started to avoid me. I thought he was no longer into me, but it turns out that he still really likes me. So it was my birthday last week and his family came, but he didn’t come and I was really sad since I have been wanting to see him. Then I asked him why he was avoiding me and ...

I've felt this exact same way about sex my whole life and could never really put it in to words. The only way I would even engage in sexual activities was if I was blackout drunk. It always felt like a chore to me as well. Realizing that I'm asexual and that it's okay to not want to have sex with anyone has been a huge relief to me. It sounds like our journeys have been similar in a lot of ways. I hope that you continue to find support with your friends and know that, if your family won't accept you for who you are, they aren't worth your time. October 05, 2019 at 11:50PM

I'm so sorry to hear that but the truth is that is who you are and you have to find like minded people to date. There is NOTHING wrong with you. October 05, 2019 at 11:47PM

About a month ago, I left a job where I was very close friends with most of my coworkers outside of work. About 6 months before I left, a new guy was hired. We worked together a lot over that 6 months, but never hung out otherwise. My former coworkers are my main social circle and we typically hang out 2-3 nights a month. New guy is now being invited and so we’ve spent time together in a group the last 2 weekends. I’m beginning to realize how much I enjoy talking to him and how attractive I find him. But I really don’t know how to approach the situation without it getting awkward. I don’t want this to cause either of us to leave the group because I still want to be his friend, even if he is not interested in me. Any ideas? Submitted October 05, 2019 at 11:45PM About a month ago, I left a job where I was very close friends with most of my coworkers outside of work. About 6 months before I left, a new guy was hired. We worked together a lot over that 6 months, but never hung out ...

Hi everyone, I (33/m) have trouble building a romantic/emotional connection with the women during dates. I live in a relatively big city in the United States and usually do low-activity dates for the first and second meet-up. After the second, I'll plan an activity one. My time with the person usually lasts between 1 to 3 dates. Building a connection has been difficult for me because I have never been in a long-term relationship (+6 months) before. In dates, most the conversation topics are hobbies, families, trips, TV shows/books, goals, and whatever is unique about the person. Over the last two weeks, I received text messages from at least four women who didn’t feel a connection. I also received messages from women who felt a friend vibe. I understand that you won’t connect with every person you meet, but this has been a long-term problem for me (maybe 4 years). In the last few months, I started reading books on relationships (e.g. Love Languages) and asked my dates what’s imp...

I went out with a great guy tonight, first date, we seemed to get along and we’ve planned on meeting up again later this week. We went for a walk for about and hour and he said he liked pub food and I suggested the pub down the road where we could get a bite and keep the date going. So we walked down to the pub, had a good meal and when it was over the waitress asked if it was together or separate and without hesitation he said separate. Now I do not mind paying at all, I always offer on dates and am prepared, but this is the first time where the guy I’m out with just very quickly responds separately... is this a concern? Is it stupid that I think it could be? Ha ha I seem silly asking this but it definitely stood out to me. Submitted October 06, 2019 at 12:00AM I went out with a great guy tonight, first date, we seemed to get along and we’ve planned on meeting up again later this week. We went for a walk for about and hour and he said he liked pub food and I suggested the pub d...

OK, its not quite what that title sounds like but I'm not sure how else to phrase it in a single sentence without being even more misleading. I left the job for a much better career opportunity unrelated to the gossip, but I just had dinner with former co-workers last night and a co-worker was still still teasing/poking at my supposed relationship with the woman in question (let's call her Maya for the purpose of this post). ​ Some quick bullet points: As far as I am concerned I've only maintained a professional relationship in the office and very normal friendship during lunches with "Maya". At that time, Maya was living with her boyfriend of 7 years who's much better-looking (he has a strong resemblence to Joseph Gordon-Levitt) and equal or better pay than I at the time. They're married with child now. They were college sweethearts. I was in a senior/supervisory role to Maya. I directly trained her for the job. I was known to be a strict trainer/s...

My very close friend's brother just passed away unexpectedly. The incident happened Thursday night, she let me know Friday morning as we had plans that evening and she obviously canceled. I am close with her family, I have spent few christmases and family trips with them over the years. I wasn't super close with her brother, but we got along well when we saw and I cared about him, and we often talked about what he was up to and how he was doing in life. I've reached out and offered her condolences and help with whatever she needs, and only had a short reply back of I love you, which is of course totally understandable. She has a lot on her plate and I dont expect her to talk to me until shes ready, I just wanted her to know I am here. Obviously I want to attend the funeral, and I've already talked to my boss and he is more than willing to work around it, but he needs to know the date. The problem is I work remotely with a fairly long commute and generally 8-15 day s...

Title says it all. Its my fault she was broke in college her work was having layoffs her family didnt take care of her. I introduced her to a chick that did it. As soon as she started I didn't think I would be a jealous guy. I went to see her once, that changed instantly. She was a dancer for a while my parents found out and offered to pay for her bills if she stopped because they saw what it was doing to me. She quit for the rest of college and my parents helped her through it. Then we moved to a different city where we got desk jobs. She eventually realized she hated it because she didn't feel like she had purpose (I get it.) The company was shit in the end literally every employee left because of management. She needed money for car repairs etc and the desk job just wasnt doing it she said she needed to get back into dancing. The clubs in the area are not full nude they are topless but still. I understand her reasoning. She is using it to put herself through college and ...

I'm looking for some thoughts and experiences on a relationship matter I'm going through right now. My [20M] girlfriend [20F] was diagnosed with mild depression and anxiety last summer. Everything was great, she seemed happy as can be except a few nights where she couldn't stop crying. I was able to calm her down and bring her out of that dark place she spoke about. On Sep. 7th though things took a turn for the worse. Due to one relationship issue I allow her to build up instead of talking to her about it, she flew off the page. She wanted to take a break to take a step back and cool down. About 2 weeks prior she began to not take her medication because it caused her to feel "numb inside" and she didn't like it. She didn't seem abnormal or in any way different except higher levels of stress because of some family issues and college courses. Fast forward to today, we are broken up but still loyal to one another, meaning not seeing other people... stuff li...

i apologize if this read is all over the place, I’m trying not to cry as I type Recently discovered that I (27) was pregnant with my SO (36) of 3 years. We’ve had a pretty bumpy relationship, very far from perfect and this is the second time I’ve been pregnant with the same guy. The first one happened when we first started dating, decided to have a procedure and I hopped on BC immediately after. Fast forward to now; still on the pill but somehow managed to conceive. At first he was super supportive of any decision I decided to make and we would figure it out from there. I’ve been leaning towards keeping since I couldn’t bear to go through that procedure again. So with that in mind, my hormones have been all over the place and I’m having these melts down left and right. What’s made things worse is that I’ve caught my SO in 3 lies back to back. Not only has my trust been betrayed, I can’t seem to calm down from these “episodes” and I’ve lashed out at him multiple times over these lies....

My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year now. She's very outgoing and bubbly while I consider myself fairly shy and introverted. Recently she's expressed to me that she wants me to be more talkative. She feels like she talks way more than I do and she would love to hear the things I have to say. I've always been the type of person that enjoyed listening to others instead of expressing my own thoughts. So I've never truly developed conversation skills. As an introvert it's also foreign to me to just strike up conversation. For most people it's second nature but for someone with my personality it comes as a challenge to me. I want some tips on how I can be a better conversationalist. Ultimately I want to improve on myself. It is a small problem in our relationship but I also feel like it will be a consistent problem throughout my life. I don't know if this fits this sub but any advice would be greatly appreciated. tl;dr I'm an introvert a...