Thanks! I found it especially hard at the very beginning of a relationship. 90% of the folks get turned off by that. June 20, 2021 at 11:54PM

I'm demi, so sorry if this is a very demi approach. I came up with it long before I knew demi existed. I always started off as friends. All I ever did was attempt to form as solid a friendship as possible with people. Sometimes those friendships became more intense and it was clear that we both wanted more than friendship. After that point in time, we'd agree to take it further. Being a demi, this was always after I formed an emotional connection. I didn't know what it was, I just knew that I needed it before I'd go further than "friends". I have to admit that I could never comprehend the idea of dating strangers. June 20, 2021 at 11:52PM

it’s not that the majority of people in this sub are somewhat into sex. but the sub does reference sex quite often and if that’s something you don’t want, it’s gonna be hard to find a place that doesn’t reference sex June 20, 2021 at 11:50PM

I’m dyslexic but I’m not sure if that counts June 20, 2021 at 11:47PM

This is bomb, please draw me June 20, 2021 at 11:47PM

It's between the cramping, libido, and dropped mood for me. I struggle with depression and it's always worse around my periods. What implant? I've been thinking about talking to my doc about something, birth control or something, to help me out. June 20, 2021 at 11:45PM

r/apothisexual ? June 20, 2021 at 11:43PM

The “super dry” part makes me laugh, because aces are least likely to be “super wet” June 20, 2021 at 11:42PM

That’s so cool! I did a bi pride cake for my friend last year and I did cookies this year June 20, 2021 at 11:42PM

thanks! seems tricky bc I’ve only really had romantic feelings once so not much to go on June 20, 2021 at 11:42PM

Feelings are not wrong; they just are. Don't feel shame for having feelings you can't control. They are what they are. The Ace Police are not going to arrest you for crimes against asexuality. Having a crush on a fictional character doesn't exclude the fact that you don't feel sexual attraction. No or limited sexual attraction = asexual. If it eases your mind, fictosexuality (orientation towards fictional characters) is still a part of the ace spectrum. Like you, I'm also sex-repulsed. But if Astarion from Balder's Gate comes through that door, well... June 20, 2021 at 11:42PM

For me sex kinda scares me in general but the thing that makes me uncomfortable isn't the thought of having sex as a whole, it's the thought of having sex with someone. If I imagine having sex with someone who is just faceless/without identity that's fine but the moment I think of someone specific, say an anime character or my crush or smth it just makes me extremely uncomfortable. June 20, 2021 at 11:42PM

I definitely have an obsession with villains. I'd never say that someone did nothing wrong because that's a part of the plot and their character tho (except for Underverse!Ink, I'm really attached to him and I'll defend him till the day I die) June 20, 2021 at 11:42PM

I alternate between being insanely proud and insanely depressed June 20, 2021 at 11:41PM

This sounds a lot like aegosexuality if you curious I recommend looking into it. But no matter what your valid labels are more about what your comfortable with. June 20, 2021 at 11:41PM

"Anyone else feel this way? Do you ever just wish you felt “normal”?" Yeah June 20, 2021 at 11:39PM

Different kinds of attraction: Aesthetic: They look beautiful. Romantic: They make my heart beat faster thinking about doing nice things for them to make them happy. Sensual: I want to touch and be touched by them. Sexual: I want to take off their clothes and... Libido isn't directed at someone. It's just an overall desire for sexual release of some kind. Some sex repulsed asexuals have high libido and it annoys them. Asexuality is very specifically about not experiencing sexual attraction towards others. That's the entire deal. If you don't experience sexual attraction towards others, you're asexual. It's not all that complicated, really. It doesn't matter why. Could be trauma, hormones, or you were just always that way. Cause is irrelevant to the label. Asexuality has nothing to do with: romantic attraction, kissing, cuddling, gender preferences, masturbation, porn, kinks, or actually having sex. It's just about sexual attraction towards othe...

why did i see a deleted account above this lol June 20, 2021 at 11:36PM

ooh alright! good luck! June 20, 2021 at 11:36PM

We’ve stepped into a war with the Cabal. June 20, 2021 at 11:35PM

woahh, your reply just made me start wondering if I’m demiromantic...gonna go do some digging now. June 20, 2021 at 11:35PM

My dad just said it’s a phase June 20, 2021 at 11:34PM

I can understand when people like characters like that because I also find them interesting, sometimes. It depends on how bad. Murder I can excuse but I draw the line at sexual or child abuse. For example. What I don't get is when seemingly reasonable characters in a show are like "ohhh I know they're evil and irredeemable but I can't stop having sex with them!" Like these are supposedly people who are appalled by wrongdoing, and yet they suddenly flip and seem to get off on it because the one doing the wrong is hot? Like are real humans like that? So weak that some hanky panky could change their whole personality or is it just bad writing June 20, 2021 at 11:33PM