I matched with a cute guy a couple days ago. Best conversation and connection I've ever had through an app. Very deep, honest, funny, etc. I was so excited to meet him. Then he said those words... "I'm not looking for a relationship. I'm just looking for friends." Follow up questions reveal that he isn't talking about FWB. Or casual. He's legit looking for regular friends. He's terrified of romantic relationships after his divorce and just wants deep connection with no romance. I'm proud of myself. I didn't schedule a date with him in hopes our in person chemistry would change his mind. I also didn't pretend like I wanted to hang out as friends when I'm looking for a relationship. I just thanked him for being honest and told him we shouldn't waste each others time. I know that seems like a no brainer, but my people pleasing and recovering codependent tendencies wanted me to tell him that we could be friends. But it's not wha

So about two weeks ago I went on my first date in 10 years. The last time I dated was in high school. When that relationship ended I was afraid to date again. I didn’t put myself out there for years until recently. I met this girl on tinder,I asked her out we went out for drinks. She said she had fun and liked me and I like her. I was head over heals. She suggested a second date before the first one ended. Well we walked in a park for our second date. She told me I was kind and caring but she wasn’t ready to date. She said she thought she was but changed her mind and just wanted to be friends. Since then I have had this feeling of being unworthy and been thinking about what I did wrong. Does anyone have any advice how to overcome this feeling and get back into dating. Does anyone have any dating advice. Submitted October 14, 2020 at 12:55AM So about two weeks ago I went on my first date in 10 years. The last time I dated was in high school. When that relationship ended I was afr

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now and lately I don’t feel like I’ve been giving all that I can as a boyfriend. I always tell her she can come to me with whatever she wants/needs, make sure she’s okay, and treat her right. I want to ask her if there’s anything more I can do for her or if perhaps is there anything I’m doing too much. But I’m afraid asking her might push her back or make her lose faith in me. How can I tackle this? Submitted October 14, 2020 at 01:10AM I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now and lately I don’t feel like I’ve been giving all that I can as a boyfriend. I always tell her she can come to me with whatever she wants/needs, make sure she’s okay, and treat her right. I want to ask her if there’s anything more I can do for her or if perhaps is there anything I’m doing too much. But I’m afraid asking her might push her back or make her lose faith in me. How can I tackle this?

I marched with a girl on hinge. We haven’t met yet. Her profile seemed compatible with my interests, she seems good looking, and potentially someone who I’d like to meet. After some chit chat about mutual interests, I asked her if she would like to meet up for coffee, or do a video date next week. She responded by saying she is carefully vetting people right now because of covid and wants to see if we would be compatible in our outlook towards relationships, kids, expectations, dealbreakers etc... no big deal, I answered those questions, asked her the same, and I think we’re on the same page. Now she wants to have a call or video chat before she agrees to a date to see if we’re on the same page and to see if there are any red flags. This whole situation seems weird to me. I want to meet her and see if we would get along, but I feel like I’m being made to check all her boxes before we’ve even met. For me, the box checking comes after meeting someone and finding out if you’re compati

This is probably the weirdest thing that has happened to me in forever !🤔 Long story short a good looking girl followed me on Instagram randomly and liked a lot of my photos .(this is back in January) I liked hers back and dmed her and we made plans to meet up for a little photo shoot, she was very playful with me and our photos came out great only at the end did she mention that she had a a BF... but wanted to be my friend since she liked My energy ... we ended up linking up again at a restaurant for brunch, we talked and made plans to link then Covid happened.. we made plans to go for a ride on my my Motorcyle back in August but the day we where supposed to ride it got to 100 plus degrees .. we canceled and then I went away to flight academy.. I just now got back and tried to message her and realized that she not only blocked me on Instagram but when I texted her she read it and then blocked my number ... what could have possible happened.. before all of this we Where super cool an

As the title asks, how are guys supposed to approach girls in public without being weird or a creep? Im (M29) not the most experienced with dating and have been single for around 4yrs now, and am trying to find my confidence with approaching girls in public, but I never know how to do this! Where are acceptable places to meet and approach someone?? Is there really anywhere thats plain off limits? What are good openers? Everything I play out in my head just sounds cheesy and weird. By some miracle I actually say something and she's not completely weirded out that some random guy is talking to her, how do you transition to asking to meet her again...if you dont get the "just leave me alone" vibe of course? Then of course is the COVID aspect that makes all of this more difficult! Does that make you more cautious and less likly to want to be approached in any way, even if the guy is trying to be courteous about it? Thanks for any advice...from anyone haha Submitted

Am male in my late 20's and got out of a 5 year relationship a few months ago. Before this I had no real success with women and nothing has changed. I learned that it's better to be alone than with someone who isn't an ideal match and my standards are a lot higher now. My two biggest issues are I'd like someone ambitious though they always want someone who has more than me, and I find it hard to meet people who I connect with. ​ I've been on literally every app and aside from tinder/okc get 0 matches. I'm working towards living my best life, and always do things I enjoy even though I'm alone. I'm wondering how to shut up that voice that says I won't find anyone even though I strongly believe it's correct. Submitted October 14, 2020 at 01:17AM Am male in my late 20's and got out of a 5 year relationship a few months ago. Before this I had no real success with women and nothing has changed. I learned that it's better to be alone t

This has been typed out after months and months of thinking (or overthinking if that's more accurate). First, here's a few things about me. I'm a single extrovert (ENFP in particular if you're one of the people who wonder about those) who's never been in a relationship with anyone and yet I know my way around when it comes to dealing with people of all sorts. I have this habit where I keep analysing every single detail, gestures made by people, the way they talk, etc. I used not to be like this but because of traumatizing experience and multiple melancholic ordeals I've been through in my life, I came into a certain agreement with myself that something had to change. I became a better version of myself despite never going through any therapy sessions (or at least that's what I'd like to believe—you'll find out why those brackets are here in a bit) . I used to be sensitive as fuck, but, like I said, something had to change. I stopped crying over ev

I have always been self conscious about being small everytime I go to preform I get worried about what she will think is there anyway to help me block out the thought and be able to preform better Submitted October 14, 2020 at 12:38AM I have always been self conscious about being small everytime I go to preform I get worried about what she will think is there anyway to help me block out the thought and be able to preform better

Background story: End of August, I walked away from a situationship of 6 months. We met earlier this year and were quarantined separately during the summer. On the first date we both agreed that we take things slow and go take the short term first before entering into long term later on. The connection were really strong in the first 4 months or so and things started to cool down by May. He initiated 85% of all communications during the whole time. Now after quarantine...we touchbased again on both of our intentions and he wants to continue to casually date while I want something more exclusive. So I broke things off since our wants are different. I saw a recent pictures of him on social media and he looked really upset in there. Those were taken two weeks after our break up. I don't understand...why be so upset/mad when he wasn't ready to be exclusive? Would appreciate an your thoughts and stay safe out there!! xo Submitted October 13, 2020 at 11:39PM Background stor

I see so many posts on reddit by 18 - 25 year olds asking serious life and relationships questions. I can’t help thinking WTF? This is the age where you discover yourself, pursue your goals, explore your curiosity. Be a fool and not have to greatly pay for it... depending on how foolish you chose to be. Yet, so many people are asking if they should be with their cheating boyfriend or girlfriend who keeps behaving like the young idiot that they rightfully should be. My youth was ... for a lack of better word, LIT! I loved every bit of it. Established myself. Yes, dating sucks when you are fully aware of who you are and what you want/need but I’d still not have it any other way. Submitted October 14, 2020 at 12:25AM I see so many posts on reddit by 18 - 25 year olds asking serious life and relationships questions. I can’t help thinking WTF? This is the age where you discover yourself, pursue your goals, explore your curiosity. Be a fool and not have to greatly pay for it... depen

As men on dating apps such as Tinder, we're competing very hard for just average girls. I was talking to a decent looking girl that I met from Tinder - she's relatively cute but there's nothing too significant about her looks. In public she would just be an average girl, to be honest. We followed each other on Instagram and a couple days later, I creeped her profile out of curiosity and decided to check her Followers list. Since I followed her, 5 other men have followed her as well. I know that there's a chance that not all of them are from Tinder but 5 men in a row? Pretty low chance that they're not all from Tinder if it was 5 men in a row, after me. Surprise, she stopped talking to me and has probably shifted her attention to one of those other guys. This just made me realize how horrible dating apps are for us men and why we should quit them or not take them as seriously. I honestly don't think we would have a fraction of the competition if we went for wome

Anyone have advice to stop constantly thinking about an ex? Submitted October 14, 2020 at 12:17AM Anyone have advice to stop constantly thinking about an ex?