I honestly have no clue anymore, most of the time if I find peace its only temporary... but thank you. I appreciate the help April 25, 2021 at 12:00AM

It is brushed off by exclusionists,they are creating a paradox by saying that certain sexualities(especially asexuality,bisexuality,pansexuality etc.) and romantic interests aren't welcomed in the LGBT,which only creates more separation.These people became what they swore to destroy. Can't talk for the whole community since ,haven't met everybody on the ace or aro spectrum,but it feels like the asexual community,at least here on reddit ,it's very welcoming and warm and fun.To me at least ,the asexual community feels like a bunch of old people playing a very intense match of cards(unrelated). It's nasty how people would just tell you 'no' and not even listen to what you have to say,they don't evwn want to try and see any other possibility.Personally,I don't have the patience to deal with those people.At the end of the day you need to be contwnt with yourself,there's no need to explain yourself to people that hate for fun. And your ex boyfriend?If

I feel the same way in a way but then again I’ve never had a real prolonged kiss with anyone so I might love it. April 24, 2021 at 11:57PM

Took a long time. I knew I preferred long-distance relationships to nearby ones. I knew I had a bad habit of sabotaging relationships that went on more than 2-3 weeks. The few that went on longer, I was totally fine if they were seeing someone else on the side, the more often the better actually. Finally coming to the realization that "Holy Crap... I just DON'T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP AT ALL!" was a shock and liberated me from the guilt of not making more of an effort to find the 'right person' to settle down with. April 24, 2021 at 11:56PM

I kinda figured, yeah. I would say I get that kind of urge once in a while, though I can usually pinpoint a specific reason for it. Honestly though you're probably right that it's a little bit of graysexuality April 24, 2021 at 11:56PM

> It's almost like our friendship was just a filler for them until they met their S/O's, and now that they have them, they no longer need me. Honestly, it sounds to me like you're pushing your friends away with this kind of toxic attitude. April 24, 2021 at 11:52PM

I really needed that actually. I feel like people get really obsessed with boxes (myself included, admittedly), so this is really nice to hear April 24, 2021 at 11:52PM

I'm 22 and I figured it out like a few months ago. Came out as ace this year, then realized hmmmmmmm wait a min I am aromantic too! Indicator: Never had a crush for 22 years, never understood what is romance, 0 interest in dating, relating hard to aro memes, list goes on....... It kinda just clicked one day. I had all the facts gathered up but it just didn't register. And after I figured out I'm aromantic, the relief and just joy I felt affirmed that yep that's me. ( Also for the longest time I would list my ideal guy as this pretty much ultimate butler who would just make my life easier. I just didn't get that there was any other reason to want a partner apart from pure mutual benefit) April 24, 2021 at 11:51PM

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Well, I've been having this as a hobby for a long while now. But "officially" I've been published with a group of other students (book writing group project) in early 2020, I believe. Since then I've been working on my own book and comics. What about you? April 24, 2021 at 11:44PM

Hugs incoming! I relate to you 100%. Never had a crush/attraction or anything and all my friends are getting S/O's and kinda nudging me to do the same. Since like 5 years now. And honestly I have broken down crying because of it. Like why can't I have that basic thing everyone does. How did I break myself so bad that I cant love. Its taken me a long time just to come to terms with the fact that I am who I am and even then I have my ups and downs. Not broken, just me. In terms of what to do, I have no clue honestly, but I'll just tell you what did and didn't work for me. Its not the answer but just possible steps. - I would suggest maybe not coming out to most of your friends till you are a bit more figured out. Made that mistake myself and it just broke me. - If you have that one friend who is really close or who you feel would be open, you can just tell them how you feel. It went really well for me with my best friend, kinda the reason I could keep going. I'm

Nananana BAT RING! Super cute ❤ April 24, 2021 at 11:33PM

I’m still figuring things out but pretty sure I’m gray-asexual. I lovveeeee cuddling and pretty much all kinds of non-sexual physical touch. There are still some parts about sex that I enjoy, like orgasming or making my partner happy, but I don’t feel sexual attraction towards anyone (including my partner). I also don’t get the urge to have sex or initiate sex, and I’m fine going long periods of time without it/not having it at all. April 24, 2021 at 11:32PM

Well in that way you are the odd one out. That’s not a bad thing. There’s a 100 different ways you’re the “odd one out”, and there’s 10000 different ways you’re not. Your sexuality just happens to be one of them where you are. April 24, 2021 at 11:27PM

All I ever hear is sex this and that and child making this and that and when I explain that I just don’t want it, it seems like I’m the odd one out. Fuck that and fuck them. I’m who I am and I never need or want anything to do with sex, relationships etc etc. April 24, 2021 at 11:26PM

I'd say more of us do then don't, but plenty of us don't. For one, a number of ace people are actually just people with haphephobia / thixophobia (Fear of being touched, or skin-to-skin contact) that find all or most human touch pretty unpleasant. ​ As someone with a very mild case of this, I can confirm, I like being cuddled but prefer it be done THROUGH CLOTHES. But I can see where someone who feels this repulsion / phobia much worse could struggle to enjoy even clothed cuddling. Cause, it's an awful lot of prolonged touching. April 24, 2021 at 11:23PM

Hmmm I guess y'all are right. April 24, 2021 at 11:22PM

This world is so sex crazy its- well- crazy. I sorta relate. April 24, 2021 at 11:18PM

Personally, most definitely! It's almost a personal necessity, I love that intimate but not necessarily sexual contact with someone I have a relationship with. April 24, 2021 at 11:16PM

Yes April 24, 2021 at 11:14PM

*Acefist* (It's like an ordinary fist bump but better) I used to believe that the things I was feeling must be sexual desire until I realized that I only believed it because it was the "normal" thing to do. April 24, 2021 at 11:12PM

cute ring but also veeeery pretty hands! April 24, 2021 at 11:11PM

I am demisexual but I don't nessasarily need a deep connection and even when I get the attraction it's small. You are definitely a-spec tho. April 24, 2021 at 11:11PM