"I want you in my life, but I need time. I want us to start as friends and work our way potentially into something if that's where we end up. I'm asking for time which is a lot to ask for. I need time to get to know and understand you to let my walls go down. Or I shut down and run. If you can work with that solid, if not I won't blame you." I'm (23m) very keen on this woman (22F), so let's just say it's in my high interest to "work my way potentially into something with her". I wish to be very diligent about her requests so I want to work hard to make it work for us. However, I can't stop thinking about the way she phrased that particular line. She has told me she struggles with intimacy and trusting people in the past so it's not a huge surprise that she is not about to just dive into a relationship like that. But, the possibly insecure side of me wonders if that something she said because she's not all actually that intereste...

I'm sex-indifferent but I would never kiss anyone because kissing is unappealing to me. All I can think of is the physical feeling of lips and saliva. I'm guessing those thoughts are usually covered up by romantic or sexual feelings, but I would have nothing to distract me lol I think kissing can be both romantic or sexual depending on the situation. Consider soft and slow kisses vs passionate make out sessions. July 21, 2021 at 04:06AM

It's not too much! If you want subtle ways to show off your pride, go for it! :) July 21, 2021 at 04:00AM

Yay, so I can be a citizen of both Iceland and Denmark, sweet July 21, 2021 at 03:58AM

He also said he wants to “promote traditional Chinese culture” which tends to place a heavy emphasis on continuing the family line and respecting/taking care of parents and other elders, so presumably he’s worried that allowing people to remain childless would cause them to stop conforming to the “traditional culture”. July 21, 2021 at 03:53AM

Hmmm ok July 21, 2021 at 03:52AM

China: is the most populous country to ever exist in history and comprises almost 20% of the entire human population Junius Ho: “if we don’t pressure literally every single individual to have children, how are we supposed to maintain our population and keep out unhealthy thoughts?! Three kids for everyone!” July 21, 2021 at 03:47AM

Welcome. I understand. I was about 42 when I learned about asexuality, and knew immediately that it described me. July 21, 2021 at 03:46AM

The reason Denmark was chosen was because their population of <6 million would be vastly outnumbered by the estimated 70 million asexuals worldwide. Meanwhile, 70 million is a measly 5% of China’s population of 1.4 billion. July 21, 2021 at 03:40AM

It sucks when even a small thing like a different pair of earrings can kick off teasing like that, I don’t get teased for what earrings I wear because I’m a guy and just get teased no matter which ones July 21, 2021 at 03:38AM

I never understood why people are so quick to deny or diminish asexuality. I’ve been told so many times that it’s a “phase” or I’m “with the wrong person”. Ive even had people tell me to see a doctor as if it were a disease or something. I’m comfortable with my asexuality but nobody I talk to seems to be. Why does it matter if I like sex or not. It shouldn’t be weird for me to not have a sex drive, what’s weird is the obsession people have with insisting that I do. July 21, 2021 at 03:36AM

Kissing for me has always been about romance vs. sexual desire. I don’t really know how to categorize myself, maybe sex averse? July 21, 2021 at 03:29AM

That's a great idea. Oh and don't forget to get your dragon ready... Or if you don't have one make sure you contact the generals and you'll be given one instantly. GOOD LUCK COMRADE!! July 21, 2021 at 03:28AM

thank you. and i have had the hormone thing from actual well meaning friends that work as MAs, lab techs and nurses, so i know it was a genuine question in those instances. July 21, 2021 at 03:27AM

minimal awkwardness lmao good luck, I don't think it's possible For real tho I just started a conversation about sexuality and stuff like that in the group chat, and when it got to me I just said I didn't really want to smash anyone. They were really cool about it and helpful. I wouldn't go with a long ramble just tell em and answer any questions they have, be patent tho and understand that they probably have no clue what asexuality is. Good luck in whatever you do and let us know how it goes! July 21, 2021 at 03:26AM

That sucks, I hate it when people push their ideas of what "normal" onto us. I know the feeling of family pressure. Just know you're valid how ever you feel. July 21, 2021 at 03:24AM

wasn't me, I just wanted to chime in bc I agreed with them _ . No biggie! Hope your day is good. July 21, 2021 at 03:24AM

I'll be sure to start stockpiling garlic bread: extra crusty so its battle ready XD July 21, 2021 at 03:20AM

Isn't it just! "Oh! What was wrong with me was... nothing at all?! Ooooooh!" Definitely liberating! :D July 21, 2021 at 03:19AM

I really relate to this. I sincerely hope you do find someone. July 21, 2021 at 03:15AM

Thank you, SuperShoyu! July 21, 2021 at 03:12AM

Thanks Tree-Wiggler! I appreciate that :) July 21, 2021 at 03:11AM

Thank you Amaryllis! Here's to us slightly-older aces :D (You know, within days of realizing I was ace, I was wishing my great aunt were still alive; she was 87 when she died. I'm almost certain she was ace too - probably aro ace - and it would have been wonderful to talk to her about it, and hear some truly older ace perspectives!) July 21, 2021 at 03:07AM