Too real! I've lost count of how many times I've had sex out of a desire for connection/attention from a distant partner or a fear of abandonment. May 02, 2021 at 11:57PM

We call them boys incels, and they ain't you folk. May 02, 2021 at 11:57PM

Oh, fair, I wasn't even thinking about rhizomes, I pretty much assumed that anyone who was bringing up plants was in the "magnets, how do they work" category of deep thought. Someone who's all like "plants, they just sit there, guess they're asexual." May 02, 2021 at 11:57PM

i feel like its a reach lol for me i dont really care it doesn't bother me but i get how someone else would be upset May 02, 2021 at 11:57PM

And sensual. Because when you feel both toward a person it is REAL difficult to separate it from being demi or Allo. May 02, 2021 at 11:56PM

Depends; are we talking about our personal relationship with sex, or our ideas about sex in general? For example, I'm sex-repulsed when it comes to the thought of myself being involved in it at all, but otherwise fine with sex. May 02, 2021 at 11:55PM

I usually follow the adage of don't like, don't read, which it seems you do as well. I like very certain ships, in the sense that it allows me to get a view into people's thoughts on something that is generally very foreign to me, but I also am usually more uncomfortable with M-rated stories than anything else. That said, if there is one inevitability in this world, it is that someone, somewhere, will write or draw smut about something. I think what I'm far more uncomfortable with are when the main ships in some story are underage - sure, maybe sometimes the authors are teenagers which makes it more understandable, but in some of the bigger fandoms the more well known writers definitely aren't. It's one thing to read m/m slash a het pairing when the focus characters are in their thirties, I suppose when characters are older and more mature their relationships seem "safer" to me. May 02, 2021 at 11:53PM

You shouldn't need to keep your pride a secret. We need representation. Just think, how long did you go before you realized asexuality was a thing? For me it was almost 30 years. May 02, 2021 at 11:53PM

Welcome! I like it here too. I feel so at home in this sub, and I hope you do as well! May 02, 2021 at 11:52PM

You seem like you could use a spiritual hug. A couple of things to consider: No one can win with sex. Pretty much everyone gets called either prude, slut, or pathetic by someone with a different sexual history at some point. There’s no way to have an amount of sex that will gain everyone’s respect. So... it’s kind of pointless to try and sex it up for other people. Don’t worry about impressing anyone else or being laughed at, because someone will always be doing that. This is one of the things that makes me feel odd when people talk about sex as “experience,” because it makes it sound like people who don’t have sex are immature or that people who have lots of sex are wiser. It doesn’t work that way. And there’s nothing cringe about sexual history, whether a person’s slept with no one or 100+ folks. Cringe is for the dog that gets stuck in a fence, not for someone’s love life! Being asexual has nothing to do with sexual attractiveNESS or history. If you don’t want to have sex wi...

That’s a good point about waiting a little bit before jumping into the sexual boundaries and stuff, I will definitely do that. May 02, 2021 at 11:48PM

That's not even getting into the fact that rhizomes are genetic copies and not "plant children" like seeds are, making the asexual reproduction argument even dumber. Unless they're fans of cuz nuzzling they probably don't wanna bring that up at all. People really do need to just chill tf out and not bother people about words if they're not gonna use them right either. May 02, 2021 at 11:43PM

People who say that go around having sex all the time and are still sad. Not so important after all, is it? May 02, 2021 at 11:40PM

The funny thing is that anyone who's go to is plants doesn't understand botany at all, let alone anything else about the conversation. Meanwhile the northern hemisphere is currently enduring the yearly weird plant orgy, with all the pollen allergies that come with it. May 02, 2021 at 11:39PM

2 babies came out of my uterus. I'm not a virgin. May 02, 2021 at 11:39PM

Nothing wrong with being a virgin. May 02, 2021 at 11:39PM

See, the thing is that I was In my 30s before I realized I was ace and made a lot of poor decisions trying to figure out what I was all about and seeking companionship, so… anyone who says that can fuck all the way off. May 02, 2021 at 11:37PM

"Words don't evolve at all, language is static WARGABLE." May 02, 2021 at 11:36PM

I think you're the only one who can answer it, whatever you feel describes you best. You are valid and welcome regardless May 02, 2021 at 11:35PM

How often does sexuality come up in conversation? May 02, 2021 at 11:32PM

Yes, I am a sad virgin A Super Awesome Devoted virgin So sad, isn’t it...🤷🏻‍♀️ May 02, 2021 at 11:26PM

You should post this to r/niceguys smh May 02, 2021 at 11:26PM

Next time someone makes a weird joke about ordering asparagus order this instead lol May 02, 2021 at 11:24PM