OK so, this happened just a few minutes ago and I'm conflicted whether i am the asshole or Not. So i Need you to Tell me, If i am or not. It turned Out longer than expected and English is Not my First language, any mistakes are for your Entertainment purposes. TL;DR at the end And I'm on the phone so don't expect amazing formating. Alright Here we Go. Context: I've been with this Girl who we shall call R and we broke up a few Times within the year of the Relationship, but in the end We settled on being Friends with benefits since we noticed that being single Had more of What each of us needed/wanted but still enjoyed Our bodily affections. Now There is this other Girl we will call A. A is a really nice Person, maybe distant (especially to R), but is really really nice. I don't really know why exactly but R really despises A (I knew and know that, she even called her the Devil today). I for my Part was interested in A even during the relationship (R knew that)...

When I met my gf I was 16 and she was 14 (that in 2017) but I said that I was 15 ( I don't know why exactly I lied my age, I was thinking at the time that I was too old for her and I thought that we were just going to date a couple of times, I wasn't expecting she to become my gf).. Now I'm 18 and she thinks I'm 17.. I know it doesn't sound a big deal, but she hates lies and I've been lying my age for almost 2 years now.. I don't know what I should do and how I should tell her that I'm actually 18 and not 17.. What would you do if you find out that your bf/gf lied his/her age for almost 2 years? TL;DR:  I lied my age to my gf and don't know what to do Submitted September 18, 2019 at 11:37PM When I met my gf I was 16 and she was 14 (that in 2017) but I said that I was 15 ( I don't know why exactly I lied my age, I was thinking at the time that I was too old for her and I thought that we were just going to date a couple of times, I wasn...

My husband (30) and I (28) make pretty good money together (relevant later) and we have two kids (3 yo and 5 months old). We’ve been married for 4 years together for 7 years. My relationship with his mother (58) hasn’t been the best. She’s been very lazy (refusing to work) and live with his sister for free. Now her sister can’t take care of her anymore and asking us to let her live with us. For the record his mom is perfectly healthy. My husband is asking me about it. He said she can help us with day care cost. I honestly don’t care if it helps with our expenses I just really cant live with her. She actually lived with us in the beginning of our marriage 4 years ago and it was a disaster. She has no respect for boundaries and privacy. The last string was I forgot to get her groceries cause I worked 12 hours (and work at the time was 1.5 hours away) and she slammed the door on my face. We fought almost every single day just because of his mom. I think our marriage worth much more than...

Tl;dr: Me working full-time and going to school is making my husband's depression worse. I’m debating if I should just drop out of school. I realize this is outside of Reddit’s pay grade, but I would just like some different opinions. My husband and I have 3 kids. I had the oldest when I was 18, so I didn’t actually start taking college classes until around 23. Over the past 6 years, I have taken a class or two every semester to chip away. We also added 2 more kids to the mix during that time (one intentional, one surprise). I have still continued to work full-time and work towards my degree by taking online classes and it hasn’t really been an issue until now. I’m at a point in my degree where the classes I need are only offered on campus and primarily during the day. So I got a job at a clinic that is open 7 days a week, that way I can work nights and weekends to afford putting the kids in daycare while I attend day classes. My husband told me last week that he’s sick of bein...

tl;dr Both parents are stopping me from leaving through finances - they refuse to confirm that I am financially independent (although both are unemployed), and have been trying to coerce me into giving them my student loan which doesn’t cover half of my rent as it is. Both parents are mentally ill but undiagnosed and there has been physical abuse involving police on several occasions I’ll try to keep this short so here is factual background: I’m 20, so no longer can be assisted by social services. I have reached out to my university and to the national student loan company aiming to be granted independent status. Unfortunately my university is notoriously unhelpful and can’t (by policy) write notes for the student loan company. Student loan company has been unhelpful so far and dismissed the factor of domestic abuse, however I am in appeal. University is my only immediate way to get away from home - I can’t stay longer and wait it out, because it’s really detrimental to my wellbei...

Sorry if this is not the correct subreddit, and for the many English mistakes I'll probably make, but right now, I just really need to write it all down to whoever will land here, and let it out of my heart. So long story long, I (25M) met this girl way back at a sport lesson. I was 13, she was 12, and I fell in love immediately, she had amazingly blue/greyish eyes, with brown curly hairs, freckles and the warmest smile I ever saw (okay I'm probably idealizing her, but you get the picture). We practiced the same sport, both had great grades in math, and many others common points. So we get closer, both are participating to the same sport's camps, and so on, and spend most of that time together, always having a good laugh. A 14 y.o. confident me (ya kidding, I was pissing myself...) ask her out. "Hum I don't know, we're really great and close friends, I wouldn't want to loose you". Shit, things are awkward for a few days/week, but we rapidly forgot my...

I (39M) have been with my partner (43M) for almost 11 years. He owned and ran a successful business until about two years ago which he sold due to stress. He planned to start a new career, but instead he just works a few hours a week doing massage. It’s inconsistent. Sometimes he can contribute financially sometimes he can’t. More and more I’ve had to handle the financial responsibilities. We’ve talked about how much stress it puts on me. He says he’ll find other work but it never happens. To make things worse he still spends like he used to. He can’t pay the bills but that doesn’t stop him from ordering a new iPhone every year or getting lunch at expensive restaurants or going out drinking with friends. My phone is 4 years old. I drive a beat up old car with 200k mikes on it while he has the newer one. I take lunch to work every day to save money. I make a lot of sacrifices. On top of all this he doesn’t help out around the house. He likes cooking so he does that (when he feels lik...

For background, the girl has never had a boyfriend nor has she ever had sexual intimacy with a guy. She’s from my group of friends and it just sort of happened. We started speaking at the beginning of August and kissed before I went on holiday for almost month. During this time we spoke almost every day and kept the initial interest going. I returned at the end of August and since then we have seen each other two times alone and multiple times with friends. We’ve kissed a lot but nothing more than that as I don’t want to pressure her or make her feel pressured at all. She’s not a very affectionate girl and I think that comes from the fact that she has never been like this with a guy, in fact she has said to her friends she doesn’t like when guys are too affectionate because she isn’t used to it. She isn’t very good at flirting and pretty much shuts me down every time I flirt with her on text, in person it’s different. It is starting to grate on me a bit, there is only so much energ...

So a friend of mine saw a guy whom he thought would be a great match for me. He had seen him at church before and was surprised how a hotty like him could be so pious. He introduced himself to him and found out that he's in the same program as me at grad school. So he told him about me. He technically told him that I'm his cousin (because people keep thinking that my friend and I are dating). So, anyways. My friend tells me about him and then a few days later, he sees him at a bar and texts me: "Your Husband is at BAR X". It was funny because I was studying in a place nearby and had decided to shut my phone off completely because I really needed to finish studying and the minute i decide to turn my phone back on, I get my friend's message. So i think to myself: This must be a sign. I literally call my friend and the minute he answers i tell him,"I'm coming". He laughs so hard and tells me that he'll be my wingman. Anyways, i get to the bar and m...

Being single is boring to me. But I've actually never been in a real relationship. Having men as company is fun for me but it's also toxic. I don't enjoy sex. I also don't want to be in a relationship with most men I encounter however I get jealous if they talk to any other girls beside me. That's why I'm immature. I have issues with low self esteem and jealousy. I have multiple insecurities. So I would say that being single is necessary for me. But I get bored and lonely and then i sign up for dating sites. Hanging out with my female friends are not as exciting as hanging out with guys. And hanging out with myself is not exciting either. Tl;dr: i can't be happy by myself Submitted September 19, 2019 at 12:01AM Being single is boring to me. But I've actually never been in a real relationship. Having men as company is fun for me but it's also toxic. I don't enjoy sex. I also don't want to be in a relationship with most men I encounter ...

This has been somewhat of a talking point for a while. Together 4 years, married 3, have a 2yo. When we started dating, he owned his own home and had a car. Today, we just bought another house and his credit isn't good enough, and he doesn't make enough, to have added him to the mortgage. I'm the sole mortgagee, but we'll both be on the deed when we close. My lease ended, and we traded it his car in for a minivan. I financed it on my own, for the same reason as above. We will be buying another car in the near future, but for now it's just the one since we're moving across country. We finally found where we both wanted to move, both sacrificing about the same for location (he wanted rural mountains, I wanted urban something, we settled on a nice small town). I would never move where we're moving if it were just me, and we're moving to be closer to his family, but he wanted a rural property out of town with a large lot. We ended up with a house in tow...

Not using a throw away for once but I’m really struggling with my mental health. I’ve been struggling since I was a kid with being a pessimistic person and basically just ruining everyone’s mood/day with how negative I am. I’ve been with my partner for about 8 months and he is completely drained from me. At this point, I feel like I can’t talk to him about what I’m struggling with without irritating him and him basically saying it’s all self inflicted and that I’m self centered for putting my feelings first and not letting us be “good”. I’m breaking down almost every day because I’m frustrated with myself for whatever negative thoughts come out of nowhere and I know it’s going to drag my mood down and effect him. I’m not sure what to do. I am in therapy and I am trying to work on it but negativity still overwhelms me and I’m just not sure what to do at the point. I really don’t want to keep draining him or any of my other relationships, and I can’t talk to him about it either but if I...

I (M,17) have been dating a girl (F,18) for slightly over a year now, but I feel like I dont trust her completly. Jill (NOT HER ACTUAL NAME) is really a wonderful girl, she really cares about animals alot, and is really nice and sweet. Thing is that she has a tendancy to trust people way too easily (Opposite of me, who barely trusts anyone), and I have a bad feeling that if I leave for an extended amount of time (ex. to be shipped out to some military base far from the US), she will do stuff behind my back, as I have seen several of my friends girlfriends do when they're sent out to wherever in the world. I've had a coversation about this with her, and she assured me that she would never cheat, but I really am unsure about whether she will uphold that. I thought that maybe the best course of action would be to talk about this again, but I dont know whether that would be appropiate becuase we have had this conversation before, but even then I am still unsure of what to say ...

Could I get a link? I find it a bit of a pain to scroll through trying to find what it is that I actually want. September 19, 2019 at 12:08AM

TV and movies usually don't have much of an effect on me, as even something like Game of Thrones isn't really explicit. It's not like the actors are having sex on camera. I don't really think they're interesting, but it's not like I'm closing my eyes or fast-forwarding. On the other hand, I usually do skip sex scenes in books, because I find the level of detail - both in terms of what's physically happening and what the characters are thinking - extremely unsettling sometimes. One of my regular book clubs just randomly decided to throw in a romance novel this past month, and I literally couldn't even get through it once I realized there was practically a sex scene in every chapter. September 19, 2019 at 12:04AM

I have 'a type'. If I'm ever in a friendly social environment surrounded by people of my 'type', I won't identify as ace, because in that environment it won't be true. My type's not that common and has never really been part of my social circle, which is why it's not wrong to call myself ace. That, and my basic lack of motivation to seek out people who match my 'type'. September 19, 2019 at 12:01AM

It doesn't gross me out, but when it comes on I just feel like... Awkward? I don't know where to look, I usually end up looking away from the screen a bit to stare at the floor or sofa or bed or sometimes try to look at the faces of the people around me if I'm watching with other people. Usually I'll drink or est something or pick at my nails. I just get fidgety. Most of the time these scenes feel tacked on and don't add much, and if they drag on it feels like a cut in the immersion. September 18, 2019 at 11:59PM

Amazon September 18, 2019 at 11:59PM

It does make me feel a lot better September 18, 2019 at 11:59PM

Of course they are...what's a Discord server without some favoritism, right? I'm glad I could help! September 18, 2019 at 11:58PM

Yeah alright- they're dating one of the mods so I dont think anything will happen but I'll definitely block them. Thank you September 18, 2019 at 11:54PM

Ugh, I can't stand allos who act like sex is the best thing in the world. You should talk to a mod or admin (assuming that they aren't one) or if that doesn't work, block them so you don't have to put up with them anymore. September 18, 2019 at 11:53PM

It's an ace thing! Often ace folk will get a black coloured ring on their right middle finger, it's a neato fashion thing and also a good way to find other aces! Also they can be super stylish, there are some really cool ones out there. September 18, 2019 at 11:51PM