FEMALE (21) DROOLING OVER A VERY PIOUS, HOT, AND SMART GUY(25)

So a friend of mine saw a guy whom he thought would be a great match for me. He had seen him at church before and was surprised how a hotty like him could be so pious. He introduced himself to him and found out that he's in the same program as me at grad school. So he told him about me. He technically told him that I'm his cousin (because people keep thinking that my friend and I are dating). So, anyways. My friend tells me about him and then a few days later, he sees him at a bar and texts me: "Your Husband is at BAR X". It was funny because I was studying in a place nearby and had decided to shut my phone off completely because I really needed to finish studying and the minute i decide to turn my phone back on, I get my friend's message. So i think to myself: This must be a sign. I literally call my friend and the minute he answers i tell him,"I'm coming". He laughs so hard and tells me that he'll be my wingman. Anyways, i get to the bar and my friend starts chickening out. He's unsure as to how he'll introduce us especially since he had spoken to the guy this one time at church. Anyways, we linger a bit and then I come up with the idea that we should just sit at the bar and then we'll be close enough to his table and we'll just randomly say hi. So as soon as we sit at the bar, cute guy's table gets merged with another table and at this point, he's not even aware we're right next to him. And then we start panicking and thinking that we should maybe abort the mission. AND THEN just like that cute guy gets up to the bar to grab some drinks and my friend directly extends his hand to say hi and he introduces me to him. So cute guy says the most SURPRISING thing ever. He tells me how he heard me give a speech during orientation and how he was impressed. I had not expected that at all. It was super cool and it kindda showed that he was interested. He then asks me what classes I'm taking and while we're talking about classes he was like:" Oh wait, are you taking class X? I don't think so i haven't seen you in that class." And i was so surprised that i didn't say a thing, but my friend was like "Oh, how do u know that she isn't in that class? 😏" so the guy just says that there are a few people there and that's why. Anyways, the conversation ends and the guy offers to buy us beer. I refuse politely and that was it. The next time i see him is in class. And we just say hi.

The weird thing is that i can't grow up tje courage to talk to him and open up a conversation. It's weird because I'm the sassy, flirtatious type who always has something smart to say, but when it comes to him, i cam barely say hi. Like, i cannot tell u the amount of times i have passed by him and not said a word because of how panicky i got.

Anyways, i went to Sunday mass and during mass I saw him there, my friend called me over and cute guy said Hi and then i just went to take a seat because mass was about to start. Anyways, i could see him looking for something in the crowd. I was hoping that he was looking for me.

Anyways, at university i can feel him looking at me and wherever i end up sitting, he's always close in that area. This one time, i had actually just come back from a roadtrip and had passed by his hometown and wanted to tell him about it. And conveniently he sat right behind me on the couches so I said hi and told him that i passed through his hometown. I then asked him some questions about class.

At this point i felt a bit discouraged because we haven't had an actual conversation yet.

One day , i came to university with a tupperware of brownies which i distributed to my friends. I made sure to keep one brownie for him and was determined in a way or another to grow up the courage to offer it to him.

So i had my chances like a billion times, but i was too nervous to go up to him. Anyways, because it bugged me so much that i was acting this way i eventually just went up to him and asked him if he liked brownies. He said yeah and i told him that i made them and that i was giving some to friends. It was the first time i had ever baked brownies so i told him that if anything happens to him I'm not liable. He laughed. But then he ended up just sitting there scrolling through his phone. I was like: what? Seriously? And just sat there right next to him fumbling with my papers just to seem like i was busy. Anyways, some friends come up to me and say hi and we chat for a bit. The minute i turn around, he's not there anymore.

I'm honestly confused. But then i remember that there was a meeting at 12 that he usually goes to and it was almost 12 when i came up to him.

So, this past Sunday. I went to mass as per usual and ended up sitting not too far from him. I made sure to act as if i hadn't noticed his presence.

The minute he noticed me, he kept staring and I could feel his eyes on me, but i never looked towards him. And then when people were giving each other handshakes and hugs as a sign of peace, he did not turn towards me. So at this point i was like forget about it. He's not interested. BUT THEN. After mass was done and people started leaving, he passed by me and i made sure to turn to the other side to get my bag and act as if i didn't know he was there, but what he does at that moment is that he actually touches my shoulder for me to notice him and says hi.

So i don't know what to think. Is he shy? Is he inexperienced? But in my head he's very intimidating because of how good looking he is.

Just 2 days ago, i was studying for a class and notice that ine example contained his name. I found it super funny and i really wanted to use that as a way to flirt with him. BUT stupid me can't say a word to him. Every time i see him, my heart startes beating so fast that i feel it'll explode any time soon. AND IT'S WEIRD BECAUSE IT HAS NEVER EVER HAPPENED TO ME BEFORE. I swear I'm like the queen of flirtation...except with him.

So yesterday, i couldn't grow the courage to talk to him. So today was the day. And i came early before class and just sat in the common area waiting for him to show up. And im trying to study, but i can't because I'm thinking of him. So the moment he arrives, i look towards him and smile, but he doesn't make eye contact with me. So i just turn around. And my heart is beating so fast. And then i said I'd give it a few seconds before looking back towards him and i chicken out. 5 minutes later, he's surrounded by his friends and I'm not going to approach him with all of these people around. So i just give up and talk to my best friend about it and she laughs at the whole situation and the fact that I'm acting in a way that she has never seen me act in.

Anyways, during the day there was like a debate kind of thing happening and so i decided to watch it with my friends. I ended up sitting right next to a guy who was also taking the same class as cute guy and me. Also, the guy seems to be good friends with the cute guy. So we just say hi.

When we're back in class, i don't usually talk to anyone, but i decided that the best way to approach cute guy would be through his friend. So i just randomly turn around and ask the guy if he liked the debate and what side he was on. It was a pretty cool conversation. The guy was fun to talk to and he was super friendly. So while we were debating, cute guy, who sat one row behind his friend was looking and smiling at me and listening ot what i was saying. Anyways, the class started and so we just turned around. But when class ended again, his friend starts asking me more questions and i end up introducing myself to him and then when everyone is about to leave, including cute guy, i grow up the courage to just tell him that he's in the book. And he's a but confused, and so i open the book and tell him how i was studying the other day and that i read the name and it sounded familiar so i facebooked it and it turns out that it was him. (PS: I had played this scenario a billion times in my mind before saying it and it seemed well rounded especially since it suggested that i know his full name, that i checked out his profile on facebook, and that I'm flirting with him and telling him about it and i might or might not have stalked him.) He laughs and says how funny that it is, but then the conversation ended here and he just said "bye".

TL;DR IDON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK OF IT ALL. PLEASE HELP. I SOMETIMES FEEL THAT HE'S INTERESTED BUT THEN HE NEVER REALLY CONTinues or even initiates the conversation. I DON'T know. Could a gorgeous guy be shy? Btw he's a solid 20 out of 10. He's beyond hot. German Calvin klein model kind of hot with a jaw that could carve diamonds. HELP

Submitted September 18, 2019 at 11:59PM

So a friend of mine saw a guy whom he thought would be a great match for me. He had seen him at church before and was surprised how a hotty like him could be so pious. He introduced himself to him and found out that he's in the same program as me at grad school. So he told him about me. He technically told him that I'm his cousin (because people keep thinking that my friend and I are dating). So, anyways. My friend tells me about him and then a few days later, he sees him at a bar and texts me: "Your Husband is at BAR X". It was funny because I was studying in a place nearby and had decided to shut my phone off completely because I really needed to finish studying and the minute i decide to turn my phone back on, I get my friend's message. So i think to myself: This must be a sign. I literally call my friend and the minute he answers i tell him,"I'm coming". He laughs so hard and tells me that he'll be my wingman. Anyways, i get to the bar and my friend starts chickening out. He's unsure as to how he'll introduce us especially since he had spoken to the guy this one time at church. Anyways, we linger a bit and then I come up with the idea that we should just sit at the bar and then we'll be close enough to his table and we'll just randomly say hi. So as soon as we sit at the bar, cute guy's table gets merged with another table and at this point, he's not even aware we're right next to him. And then we start panicking and thinking that we should maybe abort the mission. AND THEN just like that cute guy gets up to the bar to grab some drinks and my friend directly extends his hand to say hi and he introduces me to him. So cute guy says the most SURPRISING thing ever. He tells me how he heard me give a speech during orientation and how he was impressed. I had not expected that at all. It was super cool and it kindda showed that he was interested. He then asks me what classes I'm taking and while we're talking about classes he was like:" Oh wait, are you taking class X? I don't think so i haven't seen you in that class." And i was so surprised that i didn't say a thing, but my friend was like "Oh, how do u know that she isn't in that class? 😏" so the guy just says that there are a few people there and that's why. Anyways, the conversation ends and the guy offers to buy us beer. I refuse politely and that was it. The next time i see him is in class. And we just say hi.The weird thing is that i can't grow up tje courage to talk to him and open up a conversation. It's weird because I'm the sassy, flirtatious type who always has something smart to say, but when it comes to him, i cam barely say hi. Like, i cannot tell u the amount of times i have passed by him and not said a word because of how panicky i got.Anyways, i went to Sunday mass and during mass I saw him there, my friend called me over and cute guy said Hi and then i just went to take a seat because mass was about to start. Anyways, i could see him looking for something in the crowd. I was hoping that he was looking for me.Anyways, at university i can feel him looking at me and wherever i end up sitting, he's always close in that area. This one time, i had actually just come back from a roadtrip and had passed by his hometown and wanted to tell him about it. And conveniently he sat right behind me on the couches so I said hi and told him that i passed through his hometown. I then asked him some questions about class.At this point i felt a bit discouraged because we haven't had an actual conversation yet.One day , i came to university with a tupperware of brownies which i distributed to my friends. I made sure to keep one brownie for him and was determined in a way or another to grow up the courage to offer it to him.So i had my chances like a billion times, but i was too nervous to go up to him. Anyways, because it bugged me so much that i was acting this way i eventually just went up to him and asked him if he liked brownies. He said yeah and i told him that i made them and that i was giving some to friends. It was the first time i had ever baked brownies so i told him that if anything happens to him I'm not liable. He laughed. But then he ended up just sitting there scrolling through his phone. I was like: what? Seriously? And just sat there right next to him fumbling with my papers just to seem like i was busy. Anyways, some friends come up to me and say hi and we chat for a bit. The minute i turn around, he's not there anymore.I'm honestly confused. But then i remember that there was a meeting at 12 that he usually goes to and it was almost 12 when i came up to him.So, this past Sunday. I went to mass as per usual and ended up sitting not too far from him. I made sure to act as if i hadn't noticed his presence.The minute he noticed me, he kept staring and I could feel his eyes on me, but i never looked towards him. And then when people were giving each other handshakes and hugs as a sign of peace, he did not turn towards me. So at this point i was like forget about it. He's not interested. BUT THEN. After mass was done and people started leaving, he passed by me and i made sure to turn to the other side to get my bag and act as if i didn't know he was there, but what he does at that moment is that he actually touches my shoulder for me to notice him and says hi.So i don't know what to think. Is he shy? Is he inexperienced? But in my head he's very intimidating because of how good looking he is.Just 2 days ago, i was studying for a class and notice that ine example contained his name. I found it super funny and i really wanted to use that as a way to flirt with him. BUT stupid me can't say a word to him. Every time i see him, my heart startes beating so fast that i feel it'll explode any time soon. AND IT'S WEIRD BECAUSE IT HAS NEVER EVER HAPPENED TO ME BEFORE. I swear I'm like the queen of flirtation...except with him.So yesterday, i couldn't grow the courage to talk to him. So today was the day. And i came early before class and just sat in the common area waiting for him to show up. And im trying to study, but i can't because I'm thinking of him. So the moment he arrives, i look towards him and smile, but he doesn't make eye contact with me. So i just turn around. And my heart is beating so fast. And then i said I'd give it a few seconds before looking back towards him and i chicken out. 5 minutes later, he's surrounded by his friends and I'm not going to approach him with all of these people around. So i just give up and talk to my best friend about it and she laughs at the whole situation and the fact that I'm acting in a way that she has never seen me act in.Anyways, during the day there was like a debate kind of thing happening and so i decided to watch it with my friends. I ended up sitting right next to a guy who was also taking the same class as cute guy and me. Also, the guy seems to be good friends with the cute guy. So we just say hi.When we're back in class, i don't usually talk to anyone, but i decided that the best way to approach cute guy would be through his friend. So i just randomly turn around and ask the guy if he liked the debate and what side he was on. It was a pretty cool conversation. The guy was fun to talk to and he was super friendly. So while we were debating, cute guy, who sat one row behind his friend was looking and smiling at me and listening ot what i was saying. Anyways, the class started and so we just turned around. But when class ended again, his friend starts asking me more questions and i end up introducing myself to him and then when everyone is about to leave, including cute guy, i grow up the courage to just tell him that he's in the book. And he's a but confused, and so i open the book and tell him how i was studying the other day and that i read the name and it sounded familiar so i facebooked it and it turns out that it was him. (PS: I had played this scenario a billion times in my mind before saying it and it seemed well rounded especially since it suggested that i know his full name, that i checked out his profile on facebook, and that I'm flirting with him and telling him about it and i might or might not have stalked him.) He laughs and says how funny that it is, but then the conversation ended here and he just said "bye".TL;DR IDON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK OF IT ALL. PLEASE HELP. I SOMETIMES FEEL THAT HE'S INTERESTED BUT THEN HE NEVER REALLY CONTinues or even initiates the conversation. I DON'T know. Could a gorgeous guy be shy? Btw he's a solid 20 out of 10. He's beyond hot. German Calvin klein model kind of hot with a jaw that could carve diamonds. HELP