oh, to be fair, it's totally possible it could be a mix. trauma doesn't have to be excluded, if it feels like it plays a role. just maybe this has offered an alternative angle. ^ October 07, 2019 at 12:02AM

I'm sure it's healthy that they think trauma is necessary to join the lgbt October 07, 2019 at 12:01AM

I'm so sorry. Glad to hear you at least have a supporting girlfriend! These things just take time. At some point your parents hopefully realise you weren't joking and this isn't "a phase". Good luck! October 07, 2019 at 12:01AM

Get real good at reading body language and dont take rejection personally, i guess. Hard situation to be in. Hope you're up to it! October 06, 2019 at 11:58PM

31F here, and this speaks to me on so many levels. I assumed this is how everyone else felt, but I'm starting to learn that's not the case with many of my views and feelings on the world. I'm glad to see so many kindred spirits on here! October 06, 2019 at 11:57PM

I'm 40F, ace and aspie. I feel grown up until I'm next to someone my own age talking about their day-to-day lives and then I'm like, whoa, I don't relate to any of this! I never call myself a woman. Girl feels awkward at this age so I stick with chick. Maybe eventually I'll graduate to old broad. :D October 06, 2019 at 11:55PM

Yeh October 06, 2019 at 11:55PM

I am generally more apathetic, than disgusted by sex, but "that's not clean/expels bodily waste!" is a thought that will forever make me repulsed by oral sex... October 06, 2019 at 11:53PM

I (40F) dated a guy for a month. We got along incredibly well, like a couple of teenagers. It was fun! But I let my anxiety get the better of me (he has some issues with PTSD, not violent, but a bit of a checkered past). I decided to break it off over the phone, and cried the whole time. I liked him so much, but really worried about our respective mental health issues triggering each other. He was very understanding. It’s been a month of sporadic messages since then. The other night, we ended up having an actual chat in which we both admitted to still having feelings for each other. Part of me thinks I was right to end things, that he has too many issues, and I should stick to that decision and leave him alone. Part of me also thinks this level of mutual attraction doesn’t come along every day, and that life is short. I ended things to prevent possible future problems for myself, without waiting to see if the actual problems even happened...and in doing so, denied myself some poten...

So, I'm looking to build up some dating ideas. I'm curious: What kind of dates do you find most comfortable to go on, helpful for getting to know the other person, and/or fun? By "kind of dates" I mean: dinner/trivia/movies/dancing...etc. If have you particular memories of dates you liked and why, please describe! Also, if you have kind of dates that really don't do it for you (for instance, I don't like bars with loud music), please explain. (Please note: Nothing against sex while dating, but I tend to prefer several meet ups with a prospective SO before becoming more physically intimate, so I'm less interested in scenarios for casual hookups.) Submitted October 07, 2019 at 12:06AM So, I'm looking to build up some dating ideas. I'm curious: What kind of dates do you find most comfortable to go on, helpful for getting to know the other person, and/or fun?By "kind of dates" I mean: dinner/trivia/movies/dancing...etc. If have you p...

Hi I dont really have anyone to talk to about this so I wanna ask y'all experts If any of you experienced this. So I just turned 20 the other day and have been super horny and wand a baby since, I classify as an Asexual so this is really weird (before ya judge me Asexuals do get horny!) I was wondering if this is just a me thing or if this is normal for 20 something year old females??? Submitted October 06, 2019 at 11:28PM Hi I dont really have anyone to talk to about this so I wanna ask y'all experts If any of you experienced this. So I just turned 20 the other day and have been super horny and wand a baby since, I classify as an Asexual so this is really weird (before ya judge me Asexuals do get horny!) I was wondering if this is just a me thing or if this is normal for 20 something year old females???

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Hey i was wondering if people have made marriages work when their partner has a extremely low sex drive. My wife who I love so much has a very low sex drive and I think I have a high sex drive. Almost to the point I'm wondering if its going to work. I do alot of housework and look after our 1 year old when I can. But all she wants to do is sleep and go on social media (one of our main reasons for arguments) is there any hope for us? Submitted October 06, 2019 at 11:30PM Hey i was wondering if people have made marriages work when their partner has a extremely low sex drive. My wife who I love so much has a very low sex drive and I think I have a high sex drive. Almost to the point I'm wondering if its going to work. I do alot of housework and look after our 1 year old when I can. But all she wants to do is sleep and go on social media (one of our main reasons for arguments) is there any hope for us?

Guy here, decent amount of women partners in my sexual history. I have always had an ass fetish and it's usually the first thing I start thinking about with a potential new partner. When I go down on a girl it's like I can't get close enough to her ass and I want to lick it. Doggy has become my favorite position so that I can stare at her butthole. When it puckers or moves when I thrust it makes me cum almost immediately. My question to the ladies, how do I share this fetish with new partners without turning them away? I can tell you that unless a woman enjoys and wants ass play it won't work out between us. Submitted October 06, 2019 at 11:41PM Guy here, decent amount of women partners in my sexual history.I have always had an ass fetish and it's usually the first thing I start thinking about with a potential new partner. When I go down on a girl it's like I can't get close enough to her ass and I want to lick it. Doggy has become my favorite posit...

My gf of a year and I went to a comedy show, then out for pool, drinks and dancing. She got pretty drunk for the first time ever at 22 (When we got back to her place, I had a couple more so I was 4 drinks in.) She initiated and we went for like 2-3 hours. It was amazing. Never been able to climax more than 1-2 times and hit like 4-5 that night and so did she. Super awesome sex, she's super anxious and I am a bit so with that gone it was amazing. The next morning she said she was so drunk she forgot. Made me feel kinda weird cause I guess I thought she was more sober than that? Should I feel weird about it? Submitted October 06, 2019 at 11:42PM My gf of a year and I went to a comedy show, then out for pool, drinks and dancing. She got pretty drunk for the first time ever at 22 (When we got back to her place, I had a couple more so I was 4 drinks in.) She initiated and we went for like 2-3 hours. It was amazing. Never been able to climax more than 1-2 times and hit like 4-5 th...

I have found my first dom recently. We have been seeing each other (mostly me worshipping him) for about a month. Out of this month he has not sexually pleased me once , even though I please him at least 3 times every time I see him. Is this normal in a D/S dynamic. Also he says I’m his sub under consideration.. what does that mean . Lol please help lol Submitted October 06, 2019 at 11:47PM I have found my first dom recently. We have been seeing each other (mostly me worshipping him) for about a month. Out of this month he has not sexually pleased me once , even though I please him at least 3 times every time I see him. Is this normal in a D/S dynamic. Also he says I’m his sub under consideration.. what does that mean . Lol please help lol

(F19) It's been so long since I've been sexual with another female but I'm in a serious relationship with a male. I feel like a threesome would make me jealous and destroy my relationship. I just want to experience a female hook up again by myself but my boyfriend is not okay with that. I don't know how to stop feeling selfish but this craving doesn't go away Submitted October 06, 2019 at 11:49PM (F19) It's been so long since I've been sexual with another female but I'm in a serious relationship with a male. I feel like a threesome would make me jealous and destroy my relationship. I just want to experience a female hook up again by myself but my boyfriend is not okay with that. I don't know how to stop feeling selfish but this craving doesn't go away

I’m going thru a really long dry spell and the worst part of it my libido. It’s really been torturous the last couple months cuz whenever I’m idle, I’m horny. Masturbating doesn’t help and even makes me more horny. What can I do since it doesn’t seem like this dry spell is ending any time soon. Submitted October 06, 2019 at 11:53PM I’m going thru a really long dry spell and the worst part of it my libido. It’s really been torturous the last couple months cuz whenever I’m idle, I’m horny. Masturbating doesn’t help and even makes me more horny. What can I do since it doesn’t seem like this dry spell is ending any time soon.

obviously not the pull out method, but im 18 and i want to have responsible sex. how safe exactly is the Pill? im ready to take it regulatly but i dont think i can have complete faith in just a tiny pill. would the combination of both a condom and the pill be best? Submitted October 06, 2019 at 11:54PM obviously not the pull out method, but im 18 and i want to have responsible sex. how safe exactly is the Pill? im ready to take it regulatly but i dont think i can have complete faith in just a tiny pill. would the combination of both a condom and the pill be best?

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So I'm 17 ftm (pretransition) and I had sex for the first time a couple months ago. The first time, even foreplay hurt really bad, but not too much that it didn't feel at least kinda good. My boyfriend and I have been having sex fairly regularly since then, w condoms, and the pain never really went away. After a couple minutes of penetration it starts burning more and more until I call for a break or stop. Luckily my boyfriend is incredibly gracious and pampers me when I have to stop, but I still feel bad cause we can never go long enough for either of us to finish, and in my case it just never feels good enough. Also certain condoms do better than others? Some with special kinds of lube on them burn more and we have to switch. I figured lube may help us out, but I'm not sure. Any advice? Submitted October 07, 2019 at 12:00AM So I'm 17 ftm (pretransition) and I had sex for the first time a couple months ago. The first time, even foreplay hurt really bad, but n...

Just now found this subreddit because I have a problem, I can't figure out how to masturbate and have it feel good. For info, I'm a trans man on HRT. My bottom growth has just begun but it is definitely not finished. HRT increases sex drive and I also have a long distance boyfriend whom I have just begun interacting with sexually. He has sent be videos of him jacking off and we have sexual conversations which does arouse me, but every time I reach down to try to do something about it, I can't feel ANYTHING. I know where my clitoris is (it has become especially obvious now), I know about labia minora and majora, the inner clitoris, etc. I've tried my best to stimulate my outer clitoris but it feels either like nothing, or it hurts (not in an oversensitive way, just like soreness from touching something that shouldn't be touched). This is extremely frustrating as I've tried multiple things to feel sexual pleasure, and I know that I can feel it because on very ...

Each appear to be an app that allows each partner to pick activities he/she would like to do and sort of matches those activities with their partner's answers. We (M45 and F45) just started exploring. Wondering if anyone had any luck or know of any hidden land mines to look out for. Seems like a fairly low risk way of communicating. Submitted October 07, 2019 at 12:07AM Each appear to be an app that allows each partner to pick activities he/she would like to do and sort of matches those activities with their partner's answers. We (M45 and F45) just started exploring. Wondering if anyone had any luck or know of any hidden land mines to look out for. Seems like a fairly low risk way of communicating.