I thought LGBTQ+ included all orientations except straight, so it doesnt matter what others say. I could just be a troll or something. December 05, 2019 at 12:27AM

Spoiler, she isn't but some of the other characters really give off ace vibes. December 05, 2019 at 12:25AM

Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship. It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others. The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time. While the term has several meanings, the most frequent usage refers to two people exploring whether they are romantically or sexually compatible by participating in dates with the other. With the use of modern technology, people can date via telephone or computer or meet in person Submitted December 04, 2019 at 11:18PM Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship. It is a...

I haven't been on a date or in the dating scene in... Maybe five or six years. It feels like the whole process just changed so dramatically in that time. I've been trying to get back into the swing of things with online dating, but I can't help but feel a bit bummed out when it seems like someone loses interest after maybe five minutes. I like to think I'm not that boring, but I know it's not just me. I guess I'm just holding out hope that maybe I'll get lucky and find that one person out there. I can't just give up without trying, I'd never stop kicking myself for it. Anyway, don't mind me, just needing to get things off my chest and write it down to vent. Submitted December 04, 2019 at 11:34PM I haven't been on a date or in the dating scene in... Maybe five or six years. It feels like the whole process just changed so dramatically in that time. I've been trying to get back into the swing of things with online dating, but I can...

I just wanna know for those of you who found that special someone, what it’s like to make the decision or discovery, that you wanna spend the rest of your life with your SO. Did it take time for you to find that he/she is “the one”, or was it instantaneous, like love at first sight? I’m all ears, cheers! Submitted December 04, 2019 at 11:46PM I just wanna know for those of you who found that special someone, what it’s like to make the decision or discovery, that you wanna spend the rest of your life with your SO. Did it take time for you to find that he/she is “the one”, or was it instantaneous, like love at first sight? I’m all ears, cheers!

So I’m in college rn, and I had a crush on this tutor at this tutoring center at the beginning of semester. I always wanted to talk/approach her but couldn’t due to me being shy and the tutoring center is very small (other people can hear me/didn’t want others to hear my awkward attempts of trying to talk to her). She doesn’t tutor my subject, so I would kind of have to initiate conversation which I haven’t the whole semester. So this week was the last week where the tutoring center is open, and I was determined to go to ask her for number/ if she’s single or not. I sat down kinda near her and overheard her conversation about her having a boyfriend. Instantly felt disappointed and thought to myself ofc the pretty girls are taken. Left the tutoring center lowkey sad. Hindsight I wish I asked her early in the semester so I wouldn’t have this pent up anxiety of how to ask her/talk to her throughout the semester. Sorry not sure if posts like this are allowed, kinda just wanted to vent/ ...

How do you suffer and how do you cope? Why have you not ended the relationship? Have you thought about or made plans to leave? Have you thought about having an affair? Thanks for your responses. I'm trying to improve my understanding of the reasons for why people accept relationships that don't meet their needs and how not having your needs met affects you in the long term. Submitted December 05, 2019 at 12:17AM How do you suffer and how do you cope?Why have you not ended the relationship?Have you thought about or made plans to leave?Have you thought about having an affair?Thanks for your responses. I'm trying to improve my understanding of the reasons for why people accept relationships that don't meet their needs and how not having your needs met affects you in the long term.

I’ve been married just over a year and we moved to a new city right at the start. For me, I love where we moved and I’m thriving in ALL aspects. He on the other hand, seems to have given up in every aspect other than work. He’s gained MAJOR weight, hasn’t attempted to make friends, create a hobby, etc. How do I create a soft wake up call that if he continues to act as though he’s given up, I might give up myself?! I hope this doesn’t come out as rude or horrible but I want him to become a better person and start loving life again!! Submitted December 05, 2019 at 12:24AM I’ve been married just over a year and we moved to a new city right at the start. For me, I love where we moved and I’m thriving in ALL aspects. He on the other hand, seems to have given up in every aspect other than work. He’s gained MAJOR weight, hasn’t attempted to make friends, create a hobby, etc. How do I create a soft wake up call that if he continues to act as though he’s given up, I might give up myself?...

The lgbt community is full of gate keepers. 🤦‍♀️ December 05, 2019 at 12:23AM

You could be romantic and asexual or grey-sexual, meaning you like the closeness and affection, but sex is far less or intermittently significant/not significant in your relationship. December 05, 2019 at 12:23AM

This is wonderful, thanks for sharing. December 05, 2019 at 12:23AM

That was a fun read and i like your omnivore analogy! I will be borrowing it for explaining asexuality in the future. Good point about gratitude - I've experienced that problem too. December 05, 2019 at 12:21AM

Now, I'm only 18 and we're probably from different cultures, but I don't think you should worry too much. I have an uncle who didn't have a partner for 48 years (got one a few years ago though) but I've never heard anyone say anything bad or made assumptions about him in the past. He was just living his life the way he felt like (enjoying his solitude) and was content that way and people knew that. Being super nice and funny probably helped too, but living alone in the middle of nowhere on a rundown farm is definitely higher weirdo-material than whatever your situation is. Not sure this is a helpful story, but what I'm trying to say is I don't think people will see you as a weirdo if you aren't. December 05, 2019 at 12:19AM

I live in a large progressive city but rarely every am asked out by men. I’ve been asked out twice in the last two years. Even on dating apps I get very few messages and lots flaking or lack of response when I message first. When I try to talk to friend I get frustrated. They tell me I am “a level of attractive” that I shouldn’t have any problems, that I should just talk to anyone I want. They are very dismissive. If that were true then why would I she this problem! The most advice I’ve been given is to just “act drunk” or “dumber”. I try to talk and be friendly to people but rarely get any response unless I directly ask to make out or something equally forward. The last time I tried this the guy said okay but then it became clear he wasn’t really into it. I just don’t really know what to do. Submitted December 04, 2019 at 11:58PM I live in a large progressive city but rarely every am asked out by men. I’ve been asked out twice in the last two years. Even on dating apps I ge...

I'm a cis male, from Ohio, 17 but very nearly 18. Aromantic Asexual I realized I was asexual about two and a half years ago, and the thing that made me realize was someone saying that sexual desire isn't, like, a thing that only happens in movies. I realized I was aromantic about a month later. I assumed I was straight right up until I saw how straight people acted around women in high school and then I stopped assuming that. Kinda just thought I was prudish or some shit. Normally I describe it as not having any desire at all to have sex or be in a relationship. I know that that's technically not completely accurate but it is accurate to how I personally experience asexuality. I'm aroace and sex repulsed so I'm not looking to be in a relationship at all. I'm male which is a bit more uncommon, plus being both aromantic and asexual is relatively uncommon. Oh my god so many things. One time someone thought I had erectile dysfunction, and though...

Thank you! The first BF I ever had made me feel like our whole relationship was going to lead to sex and I just felt so disgusted and anxious about it all the time. I’m glad I ended it before anything happened. So to be with someone now who finds other way to connect to me intimately has really made our whole experience together really enjoyable. Thanks again for allowing me to share! December 05, 2019 at 12:07AM

I am a 22 yr. old female in a 5 year relationship with a allo man (22 yr old.). We started dating before I realized I was asexual. It has been rocky. When we first started dating I was enthusiastic to try all different kinds of sex (first sexual relationship). However, once the newness wore off, and my realization that sex wasn't all that is was made out to be, we started having relationship problems. I pretended to enjoy sex for a while, and he was incredibly upset when I was honest about it with him. It destroyed his masculinity. We started to have semi-regular arguments over my sexuality for another 3 years, and a cycle of hoping I could "fake it till I make it" and then being honest and having him completely melt down ensued. I was afraid to tell him because I knew he would be upset for lying to him and I didn't want to lose him over it. I hated hiding from him because the guilt just ate me up inside. Once I finally figured out that I was asexual things have i...

Indeed. I don’t like being in public so that won’t be a problem. December 04, 2019 at 11:57PM

Wow that's suuuper cool! And totally the opposite of the society i grew up in (conservative one outside the US). "Reverse bisexual"-- nice December 04, 2019 at 11:56PM

Thank you for sharing. Compromise --> enjoyable isn't something you hear every day, that's awesome December 04, 2019 at 11:54PM

My girlfriend is allosexual but so fantastically chill and understanding about my asexuality. She says she doesn’t think of sex as a requirement for a caring relationship. I love her so much. Also she’s reading this. I love you so much [name omitted for personal privacy] ! December 04, 2019 at 11:52PM

Seeing as this is a small snippet of the whole list of reports, I can see how that may make it seem like that. The writer is not a doctor, but a psychologist reporting on the main character while trying to help him through his touch phobia. The way the report continues on makes it seem like this is just her wording on how she thinks he identifies, though the word is.... downright wrong. December 04, 2019 at 11:49PM