So about "depriving" your partner of a proper relationship, especially if it's their first one. I've gone down that guilt bullshit path myself before and what I needed to realise was that it isn't up to me to decide if I'm "good enough". You may get the feeling that "oh but he lacks experience so he doesn't know any better than to stick with me", but listen that's something your partner has to decide. You are not keeping him chained up in your basement. He is his own person and able to decide who he want to be in a relationship with. If he doesn't think it's working he can tell you. You can talk about it, you might find some compromise you are both comfortable with, he can even break up with you, but you don't get to decide if he thinks you are good enough for him, he does. You are beeing unfair and setting yourself up against a hypothetical person that you have made oh so wonderful and an ideal partner because you lov...

Seriously, what. the. fuck. why June 04, 2021 at 12:00AM

Right!!!! What a colorful coincidence! You’re very welcome! OP was really happy that it could be used as a Pride Phage! A very kind ally indeed! June 03, 2021 at 11:58PM

He's the only original camper to never show any attraction or romantic interest in any other character, and he gave dating advice to Geoff in S1 so it's not as if he's socially aloof and doesn't understand dating, he's just showed no interest in it. This was just a thought I had and was wondering if anyone else shared the same view. Credit to urfavisasexual on tumblr for the image. June 03, 2021 at 11:57PM

And dragons June 03, 2021 at 11:56PM

I knew a dude who thought he was on the ace spectrum but he's strongly anti-gay bc he's Catholic (tg hes not actually ace). So if you are against certain portions of the LGBTQ+, that might be why. Or if you're a more minor sexuality, you might have bad experiences with gatekeeping with the LGBTQ+ community in the past (us aces get excluded a lot...) you might not want to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community. Or if you're a cisdemihet, or even a cisacehet, you might not feel like you really "qualify" as LGBTQ, or that the label as LGBTQ doesn't quite fit/describe you. Or maybe you don't like the connotations of being seen as LGBTQ. If you're far right wing, you might get crap for being LGBTQ in right wing spaces. Or if an LGBTQ+ group near you recently did some Bad/Shady Things then you might want to distance yourself from them. June 03, 2021 at 11:55PM

A social media post by someone describing her own asexuality piqued my interest (I literally thought, “but I’m like that too, and I’m just straight...right?”), and then individual research (on AVEN, aka asexuality.org) confirmed it. June 03, 2021 at 11:54PM

so much of what you just said i relate to, the issue is even to the point of me invalidating myself, so either we both are or neither of us are.regardless it’s reassuring that i’m not alone here June 03, 2021 at 11:47PM

Could you imagine them saying that to someone sexually shut down from trauma? That's horrible in any context. I think especially as an ace its important to find someone that understands the spectrum of sexual desire. I'm very lucky, my boyfriend has told me time and time again that sex isn't that important. Sometimes I'm just so distracted I don't make the time and we only have sex once a month. . . He hasn't been upset yet. Its hard to find that special person but if it were easy they wouldn't be special. Your partner should never guilt you, or tell you you're abnormal or "broken" or something. Your partner also shouldn't be so comfortable violating your boundaries and pushing them so hard. People that care about you would respect them and would be gentle not to hurt you or make you uncomfortable. . . June 03, 2021 at 11:46PM

"I can appreciate how adorable that cat is... But I'm still allergic!" June 03, 2021 at 11:44PM

I figured it out after a coworker made a derisive "what are you? Asexual?" comment to me because I refused to participate in the incessant sexual bragging that goes on at my (very blue-collar) job. I gave a flippant "yeah pretty much", and then went looking for more info. Prior to that, i'd never considered asexuality as an option. Several realizations and a lot of introspection later, turns out my coworker's attempt at insulting me was accurate. I'm a-spec and heteroromantic. Thanks, homophobic asshole. June 03, 2021 at 11:40PM

i feel similar but i’m still questioning, just wondering could you explain to me why you don’t identify with LGBTQ+ June 03, 2021 at 11:39PM

Yeah makes me feel like a gender-stereotyped baby factory June 03, 2021 at 11:38PM

Thanks for explaining :) June 03, 2021 at 11:38PM

out of curiosity, do u know why people wouldn’t feel comfortable with identifying with the LGBTQ+ community June 03, 2021 at 11:38PM

Thanks a lot. I just don't know what's next o how to talk with my GF about it. I don't even understand if I'm Asexual June 03, 2021 at 11:37PM

LOL I already commented earlier in the thread before your's showed up and I don't want to be "that person". Oooo dang yes i completely get someone talking to you in just the right way making you melt!! June 03, 2021 at 11:37PM

Thanks for your insight! June 03, 2021 at 11:37PM

I second this, it's a fascinating topic and it's often not discussed openly enough. June 03, 2021 at 11:37PM

Thanks me to June 03, 2021 at 11:33PM

and various cake posts June 03, 2021 at 11:33PM

I can't believe it took me so long to figure it out - having this information at 13 would have been amazing, affirming and so incredibly helpful. And I don't understand why people get upset by self adopted labels that hurt no one. Geez. Get a therapist to figure out your own labels and maybe help you identify as a jerk, and leave the rest of us alone. June 03, 2021 at 11:33PM

Congrats!!! I’m glad it went well! June 03, 2021 at 11:33PM