Made a whole paragraph for what? Wasted time for what? You're pressed over nothing. October 12, 2021 at 11:35PM

You're crying too much about a situation that has nothing to do with you. I said my opinion. Shut up. October 12, 2021 at 11:34PM

Thank you, that means a lot. I’m just trying man. I want it to work; I can’t imagine life without her. But fuck does it hurt sometimes October 12, 2021 at 11:31PM

Why do you have to be such a fucking dick towards them, they're here asking about a relationship problem in a relationship with an ace person in it. They aren't saying "My girlfriend isn't having sex with me and that's a problem" all they said is they feel touched starved and you've decided to shame them because you can't relate, did you really think that's appropriate behaviour in a sub about informing and helping people with ace situations. Who sees a person getting depressed about their relationship and thinks "Oh wow, better tell them that they suck and don't deserve their girlfriend". They have noticed a problem and instead of just breaking up they've decided to go to who they think are experts on the matter only to get attack by people who think they're better than them just because they don't need physical contact to feel loved, the whole point of this subreddit is acceptance, weither they're ace or allo. All t...

But what if the gf doesn't want to break up, why is she with him then? Things aren't as easy as they looks, my point is not assuming, and it's not bad to express how you feel, sadly I leaned to hold in my emotions in cause of talk like this, and let me say, it doesn't go well October 12, 2021 at 11:29PM

Hi, my relatively new GF is worried about getting lockjaw from giving me oral. She has some Temporomandibular joint dysfunction, in that her jaw pops on both sides when she opens it wide. I'm a little girthy, so that does not help (yes, it's a curse!) Problem is, I love getting a good BJ! (Like, who doesn't???) She said she has been told an injection in the Temporomandibular joint on both sides will help, but that will cost 3k! Anyone experienced this? I don't think she is lying, as she is happy for me to finish in her mouth and swallow, and has tried a few times but says it hurts. Submitted October 13, 2021 at 12:32AM Hi, my relatively new GF is worried about getting lockjaw from giving me oral. She has some Temporomandibular joint dysfunction, in that her jaw pops on both sides when she opens it wide.I'm a little girthy, so that does not help (yes, it's a curse!)Problem is, I love getting a good BJ! (Like, who doesn't???)She said she has been to...

So I’ve never actually felt any pleasure from vaginal sex (I’m the one with the vagina haha) at least very minimal pleasure. It either just feels like nothing or the dick is too big so it’s uncomfortable. Or after a while it starts feeling like my pussy is being worn out and drying up. I’m thinking I’m Just not aroused enough since I’m on the ace spectrum and I’ve never been sexually attracted to the people I’ve had sex with but idk, maybe it’s pretty common. I kind of just fake feeling pleasure from it cause I am actually enjoying myself, just not feeling much pleasure from the actual penetration. I know lots of woman don’t get much from vaginal sex but I’m hoping to at least feel SOMETHING pleasant. Any ideas or advice on how I can achieve this? And does anyone relate? Submitted October 13, 2021 at 12:41AM So I’ve never actually felt any pleasure from vaginal sex (I’m the one with the vagina haha) at least very minimal pleasure. It either just feels like nothing or the dick i...

I've been dating this girl for over a year now. We are both 27 years old. She is quite experienced in sex, having had over a dozen sexual partners (lots of hookups/one night stands). We have a great sex life even though we are currently long distance (she is two flights away but we see each other twice a month). In my life I have only slept with 5 people including her, all of whom I cared for and was attached to in some way. She is a wonderful person and cares for me a lot. She always bakes Vegan treats and cooks Vegan meals for me even though she isn't a Vegan, and she gives me lots of gifts and love letters to the point where I had to tell her to stop being so generous towards me. Her family treats me like I am part of the family. She is always telling me how wonderful I am and has told me many times that nobody has ever cared for her or shown her love the way that I have. She lost her virginity when she was 21 to a guy at a party and since then she pretty much always slep...

I sent my boyfriend a TikTok about being a brat, it went something along the lines of : when she’s been a brat all day and broke 3 rules… (I don’t remember the rest) Well I like the idea of all that and he responded with “ew” And I asked why he didn’t like it and he said “it sounded too much like the way you discipline a child” What do you guys think? Submitted October 13, 2021 at 12:56AM I sent my boyfriend a TikTok about being a brat, it went something along the lines of : when she’s been a brat all day and broke 3 rules… (I don’t remember the rest)Well I like the idea of all that and he responded with “ew” And I asked why he didn’t like it and he said “it sounded too much like the way you discipline a child”What do you guys think?

I've never been able to orgasm, either on my own or with a partner. I know it's happened one time and it was waking up from a dream and all I remember is the sensation but not how I got there. My boyfriend has tried just about everything at this point and I've definitely feel like I've gotten close a time or two but when it doesn't happen, he sees it as him being a failure. This makes me feel awful because I know it's not his fault but he doesn't believe me. He thinks I'll never be satisfied if I can't orgasm but honestly, the sex is incredible with him, best I've ever had both physically and emotionally. I just don't want him to feel this way... I feel bad because there's something wrong with me and I don't know what it is or how to fix it. Submitted October 13, 2021 at 12:56AM I've never been able to orgasm, either on my own or with a partner. I know it's happened one time and it was waking up from a dream and all I r...

Every girl I talk to either has a boyfriend or they are just not interested in me. Or I’m like the “side guy” I try my best to stay true to myself but clearly I need to change something, any suggestions? Submitted October 13, 2021 at 12:00AM Every girl I talk to either has a boyfriend or they are just not interested in me. Or I’m like the “side guy”I try my best to stay true to myself but clearly I need to change something, any suggestions?

Met this guy 4 weeks ago. We’ve been on a few dates/hung out a few times. He took me out for my birthday and just did all kinds of fun things. We have been intimate, kissed, oral sex, but have not had intercourse. When I asked him if we could he said he didn’t have condoms. Perfectly understandable. He jokingly said he would make sure he was prepared next time. Well he wasn’t. Fine. Next time while we’re out of town, we start getting intimate again. He says he’s ready to do it. And he’ll run to the store for condoms. He comes back & still nothing happens. We get ready for the day. & it doesn’t happen.. My question is, what do I do? Should I straight up ask him? Leave it be and let it happen when it happens? I’d never want him to feel pressured. But I just have never experienced this. Submitted October 13, 2021 at 12:05AM Met this guy 4 weeks ago. We’ve been on a few dates/hung out a few times. He took me out for my birthday and just did all kinds of fun things.We ha...

With my question, I only ask this because I wasn't entirely financially well off or had the opportunities to really get certain things that allow me to make myself more "marketable". As the title suggest, I (27M) do not own a car, never needed it but am working on getting one. I don't want to bog anyone down with the life details, but I guess I should say that I'm currently working on myself. I've been trying to get back into dating for last few months, last girl got at me for not having a car (but I have a license), but she herself does not have license or car and I don't think it's right for me to say anything negatively about that (I guess because everyone's life situation is different). But as I'm working on myself, if I were to talk to you and told you I don't have a car (but working on it) do you think this will be a major deal breaker? ​ Honestly, I think I sound like a teenager asking this type of question, but it has gotten to ...

I’m an Indian man who would love to have a fun and prolific dating life. I unfortunately discovered that due to many derogatory and mean stereotypes about my people, no one swipes on me in online dating apps. My next approach was to try hobbies. And this has given me some success. Had 2 nice relationships that lasted a year. One broke up cos she moved cities and the other broke up cos she wanted to marry. Now again I’m flirting someone who shares the same hobby. Overall I’m content until I compare with my Caucasian flatmates. Despite being Caucasian, they exhibit every single trope and stereotype associated with Indian men. They have not only slept with 100s of women but they have also hurt and insulted these women (emotionally). Some of the things they boast about make me cringe and I suspect some are borderline criminal. They also make fun of me for putting too much effort in hobbies in order to meet women. I’m moving out of the flat cos these guys are toxic. I’m the “nice” guy w...

So there’s this girl I was/am talking to and in the beginning she seemed really really interested, I mean she came to my locker or to talk to me 4-5 times a day and she asked my sister for my phone number, but the past couple days she seems to have lost interest, on Friday of last week we hardly even talked (my fault) and she asked my sister why I didn’t talk to her, then later on Friday she asked my sister for my number, but we stopped texting eachother on Sunday and we hardly even talked on Monday (today) I feel like she’s interested in someone else but idk Anyway it seems like the amount she used to come talk to me, and put effort into the convo just isn’t there anymore, I mean usually on our way to second period we walk to class together (since our lockers are right next to eachother) and I was waiting for her to say hi or something but she shut her locker really har and started walking to class really fast, almost like she was mad about something But let me remind you I’m no so...

Sorry this person responded like this, that is not appropriate. In a relationship it’s important to care about yourself and the other person- if you neglect doing one of those, then it’s not a good relationship. So the fact you are trying to figure out how this could work for BOTH of you is so so important and brave. October 12, 2021 at 11:27PM

Honestly I think that's just your friend, I'm an allo and what you described sounds perfectly normal and realistic. You've been close to this person for a long time and feelings can definitely change from friends to romantic. You share a lot and as you experience more and more together your feelings can change! It doesn't have to change, but it can and in your case it did Same thing happened to me, I've been good friends with someone for 4 years but over 2020 we got even more close, and earlier this year I realized I developed romantic feelings for her that I previously didn't have October 12, 2021 at 11:22PM

“Listen here non-fucker” XD October 12, 2021 at 11:22PM

i’ve never related to a post more i have so many intrusive thoughts it’s hard to sort out which i should listen to and which are irrelevant October 12, 2021 at 11:19PM

Yeah I’ve always just called myself ace but thought of myself as an ally until I came out as trans recently, it was really hard for a while. But I feel like ace who wants to be part of the LGBTQ+ is more than welcome to be, kinda like how not all non-binary people are trans, but non-binary is still under the trans umbrella and they are free to identify with it if they wish October 12, 2021 at 11:18PM