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If I think I would be settling no matter what happens is it better if I give up on dating and accept being alone?

Im a 26 year old guy who has never been in a relationship or gone beyond making out with a woman and going on dates. I have had multiple women walk all over me, lead me on, use me for attention, and make me their back up guy. The worst experience was a woman I really cared about who I went on a few dates with and thought she would end up being my girlfriend played so many games with me, had many red flags, and would end things between us without saying why and then come back to me. Eventually I realized this was never going to work out and I had to just give up on that so I tried to stay her friend like she wanted and stopped giving her so much attention. She hated it, would interrupt me if I talked to the group if friends we had which is what she would do when women tried to talk to me before we started going out on dates, and she flirted with a guy in the group in front of me. She had randomly denied feelings for him when we were seeing each other and by this point he randomly deni...

afraid to go on dates because of my teeth

Hello! So guys i need your advice on how should i deal with this. My teeth are naturally yellowish but the problem is that they are crooked and a bit crowded and they are killing my confidence. I really want to get them fixed but its very pricy where am from, and to get braces i need to have 2 teeth extracted on both jaws to free up some space. I never asked a girl on a date because of my teeth. I am 18 suffering from depression and never had a girlfriend because of being insecure about my teeth and i feel like i am missing out. Maybe i am just overthinking too much but i am just afraid to go on dates mostly because of my teeth. How do you guys with not so good teeth deal with it, and how does it affect your dating life? Submitted October 18, 2021 at 01:07AM Hello!So guys i need your advice on how should i deal with this. My teeth are naturally yellowish but the problem is that they are crooked and a bit crowded and they are killing my confidence. I really want to get them fixe...

Dating two guys: how to proceed?

I (25F) met these 2 guys (26M and 27M) thru OLD. I have been talking to 26M for like 2 months and 27M for like 2 weeks. Both are gentlemen and very respectful. I have currently gone out on 2 dates with 26M, we held hands and kissed on both the first and second dates. We are both looking for someone who shares our values and whom we can build a real relationship with. He has a good career, is close with his family, and helps out around the house (he cooks and cleans). We we text pretty much daily (other than the one time he didn't text for a few days but apologized for being MIA and said he was dealing with personal stuff). During these few days, I thought he ghosted me, so I went back onto dating apps and matched with 27M. We really hit it off over text; he's really funny and we share the same sense of humor. He is very straightforward and says what's on his mind, and I find that very refreshing. I feel like I don't have to worry about him playing games. He said he doe...

how is hookup culture like really?

I recently had a breakup and been exploring, I had one girl tell me I'm definitely the relationship type and I'm like wtf?? are you supposed to be cold with someone you're sleeping with? like I tend to massage and get them food or whatever, some people have a 3 date rule too before they ditch the person their chilling with how's it like out there Submitted October 18, 2021 at 01:16AM I recently had a breakup and been exploring, I had one girl tell me I'm definitely the relationship type and I'm like wtf??are you supposed to be cold with someone you're sleeping with?like I tend to massage and get them food or whatever, some people have a 3 date rule too before they ditch the person their chilling withhow's it like out there

/u/BeePuns on Ace dudes, is it normal to get a boner while cuddling but still don‘t want sex?

Totally normal (I’m a cuddly ace cis male, for reference). Erections can happen for all sorts of reasons, and can even happen just from physical contact, even if there’s no desire for sex. I sometimes get erections from cuddling. I have no sexual intentions, desires, or even thoughts while it happens. It just does. Someone could ask me if I want to bang while I have an erection, and I’d be like “wtf no”. Hell, I’ll get boners just from wearing jeans on a long Amtrak ride. The tension occasionally just gets it going, even though I’m not thinking of anything sexy at all (I’m most likely listening to synthwave and spacing out). So if you’re pressed up against somebody, you could easily get an erection just by the pressure against your genitals. You’re totally valid :) October 18, 2021 at 12:27AM

/u/desiswiftie on To all my fellow sex-favorable aces out there, does this happen to you too? 😆😆

Yessssss I love the look she gets when she climaxes, and I feel so special that I’m the one who gets to make her feel like that October 18, 2021 at 12:26AM

/u/Enso_X on To all my fellow sex-favorable aces out there, does this happen to you too? 😆😆

Its like mowing the lawn. There is a sense of satisfaction when you are done. But it is still a chore at the end of the day. October 18, 2021 at 12:25AM

/u/JazzlikeJackfruit372 on Been getting a lot of “Sex channels” (?) replying to my YouTube comments

I keep getting follows from pornbots and onlyfan bots on twitter as well lol, but it's easier to just block them on there. On YouTube there isn't much that someone can do about it aside of reporting them and hiding the reply.. October 18, 2021 at 12:22AM

Childhood SA or am I just paranoid ?

This sub is sex related so thought it would be relevant here…. Lately I have remembered a childhood memory that I believe is significant, but I can’t remember specific details, is this an indication of repressed sexual abuse? A little of background on me and why I believe I have repressed memories: I have borderline personality disorder (the believed cause of this disorder are physical, emotional abuse , and neglect and especially sexual abuse. ) I have had bulimia nervosa on and off for 7 years. I also have PTSD, GAD, depression, OCD, body dysphormia, alcohol dependence disorder, and skin picking disorder- these can be caused by child sex abuse and the fact I have all of them seems that this is highly probable to me. So the main memory that’s sticking out to me: I was VERY young so I don’t remember everything and idk what age exactly, but I remember multiple times were I was in a pool and my dad would act like we were playing some type of game. He would have this creepy look on his f...

an experiment with shocking results.

I just did an experiment to see how many creeps were in here and honestly I was shocked. If you are young please be very careful. Within 10 mins I had older men asking me for nude photos and telling me about having sex with their daughter and asking graphic questions that you just wouldn't ask an under age person. To those creeps, you will be caught out and jailed one day. Leave the kids alone! Submitted October 18, 2021 at 12:42AM I just did an experiment to see how many creeps were in here and honestly I was shocked. If you are young please be very careful. Within 10 mins I had older men asking me for nude photos and telling me about having sex with their daughter and asking graphic questions that you just wouldn't ask an under age person.To those creeps, you will be caught out and jailed one day. Leave the kids alone!

i can't have sex and it's really beginning to sting

i (18F) cannot have sex. i have no clue what it is, but it's just super painful and uncomfortable. it feels like i'm being stabbed and like i need to shit the entire time. i'm currently seeing a lot of doctors to see what's wrong with me. whatever. i have a boyfriend that i really love and want to please sexually. i know i can give him handjobs and blowjobs, but i can't help but feel incredibly jealous of women who can have sex. he doesn't make me feel bad for not being able to have sex, but i still hate myself for it. i want sex to feel good. i want it to be a thing we can both enjoy. i just don't know. Submitted October 18, 2021 at 12:47AM i (18F) cannot have sex. i have no clue what it is, but it's just super painful and uncomfortable. it feels like i'm being stabbed and like i need to shit the entire time. i'm currently seeing a lot of doctors to see what's wrong with me. whatever.i have a boyfriend that i really love and want to ...

May have an STD

Ok, so it’s not 100% sure but it’s not an UTI, but i’ve been seeing someone for 10 months, and did an std check after 3 months when we had unprotected sex, this was negative. Now last week I started getting some symptoms of the clap, drip, sometimee a little itchy, and a really bad pain when I get a boner. I tested negative for UTI and have to wait for the STD result. But I need some advice, as I haven’t slept with anyone else, did he cheat on me? And if the STD will be positive, how am I going to confront him with this. Submitted October 18, 2021 at 12:52AM Ok, so it’s not 100% sure but it’s not an UTI, but i’ve been seeing someone for 10 months, and did an std check after 3 months when we had unprotected sex, this was negative. Now last week I started getting some symptoms of the clap, drip, sometimee a little itchy, and a really bad pain when I get a boner. I tested negative for UTI and have to wait for the STD result.But I need some advice, as I haven’t slept with anyone el...

girlfriend (25F) is very experienced. I (24M) have no experience and nervous about going to her house.

I don't usually use Reddit for posting or anything like that. So sorry for mistake. Look I am sorry for this is the millionth post like this. I've been looking all over Reddit and the internet in general, and all I can find is people whinging that they're girlfriend slept with someone before them. I don't care about that and that's not an issue. My issue is that I have no experience. The most I've ever done is kiss a girl and that's it. I'm shit scared about my performance when she's use to having a partner who knows what they're doing. The one piece of information I've found over and over again is Porn is a lie. And like I'm not sure what I actually do. I'm supposed to be going to her house tonight to watch a movie and I've been nervous about it all day. Submitted October 18, 2021 at 12:53AM I don't usually use Reddit for posting or anything like that. So sorry for mistake. Look I am sorry for this is the millionth p...

DATING A GUY 5 YEARS OLDER

Hey I'm 19F and I have feelings for a guy who is 24 years old? Tell me pros and cons? Submitted October 17, 2021 at 11:59PM Hey I'm 19F and I have feelings for a guy who is 24 years old? Tell me pros and cons?

Setting a goal for myself. Advice is cool.

Basically I got just a little over a year until I’m 30. I’m a male and I work on becoming the best version of myself and I love my job. If I make it to 30 and didn’t have any kiss, or any sort of romantic anything at all during my 20s I will feel a little sad about that. I’m open to something serious but only if the connection is there right now I’m focused on other things and not rushing something serious. Gonna try dating apps again in a few months. It’s been a few years since my last attempt but after trying dating apps about 3 different times in my life I’ve had no luck with any matches. But if it don’t make the goal it’s ok I’ll still be focused on becoming my best self and working on ways to give back and I may find that special someone one day. Really excited about getting a bench press in my garage in a few weeks gonna spam that thing consistently. Submitted October 17, 2021 at 11:59PM Basically I got just a little over a year until I’m 30. I’m a male and I work on ...

How in the world are you supposed to flirt?

I went on a date last weekend and with a different woman this weekend and while I’m perfectly able to have an engaging conversation for several hours, I cannot flirt or break the touch barrier. How do you break the line of just being friendly? I will admit this is more for last weekend’s date as I wasn’t very attracted to the woman I dated today Submitted October 18, 2021 at 12:11AM I went on a date last weekend and with a different woman this weekend and while I’m perfectly able to have an engaging conversation for several hours, I cannot flirt or break the touch barrier. How do you break the line of just being friendly?I will admit this is more for last weekend’s date as I wasn’t very attracted to the woman I dated today

Damn the friend zone is icy.

Predictably, as a woman, I have not experienced the friendzone. Until now. I don’t love it lmaooo. So basically I never meet men that I connect with. I live in Utah and I really like granola (not Mormon) men. Anyways, I haven’t had a crush in soooo long. So I meet a guy rock climbing and our two dates were as good as two dates can be from my perspective. Anyways it was lovely, but I guess he’s seeing another woman seriously now. I really really like his personality though. He is so attractive, funny, and outdoorsy. Now for advice. I rarely get asked out by men and it’s never by people who I vibe with per se. objectively, I’m cute and fun, but I just don’t know how to connect with guys I guess. Or where to meet them. There is no night life where I am and I never run into guys outside doing my hobbies lol. I have also heard it’s unattractive for women to approach men. Thoughts? Condolences lmao?? Submitted October 18, 2021 at 12:13AM Predictably, as a woman, I have not experienced...

Am I missing out by not using dating apps in college?

Am I really missing out with not using Tinder at college? I don’t use tinder just because I did it once and found it kinda useless in my hometown but now that I’m in college it may be a lot more useful… I am on NOFAP and I personally try to do cold approach or social circle game only. This increased my social skills. I also SUCK at text game and I don’t have a lot of pictures. I almost always get rejected by girls I meet over social media because I can’t text for shit. I also have no recent photos to put on my dating app so I just don’t download it. Should I download these apps and use them? Should I put work into getting new photos and create the perfect profile for myself? A lot of people seem to use the apps around here . I’m a little worried about texting because I suck at it. Submitted October 18, 2021 at 12:14AM Am I really missing out with not using Tinder at college?I don’t use tinder just because I did it once and found it kinda useless in my hometown but now that I...

In Love With Two Different Men & Looking For A Different View & Advice

I'm a 48y/o female that is needing (ADVICE) that has managed to get myself into a situation that I'm not exactly sure how I should handle it while not hurting the other two people involved in the situation with me. I've managed to fall completely in love with two different men and when I explain the details of what is happening and how I've managed to fall for these two men I am begging that if you don't have any kind words and honest useable advice please use your self control and refrain from saying things that are hateful or mean because I don't deserve it and damn sure don't need it I'm already in a compromised position in this ordeal and I don't need anything else making me feel worse if that is even possible at this point of the game. I have been in a very close friendship with a man who is in prison for the majority of the past 25 years but we never let our feelings go farther than friendship because I was married and he never wanted to do an...

Ok so I’m confused and should I try again?

For some context I was talking to this girl for about 2 weeks over snap chat and a little at school. Looking back on it I know what I did wrong and it kinda sucks. But after that we have just been snapping each other daily to keep our streaks up and I’ve realized when I send a picture of like half my face I get a picture back of a black screen or the sky. So I’ve stopped sending pictures of my face and just pictures of the ground or something boring and now she’s sending me back full face snaps and respond relatively fast. What I’m trying to say is this is what she was doing when we were talking almost every day so is this like a second chance or am I just wishing it was my second chance I’m kinda confused. Sorry if this is all over the place I suck at telling stories and I forgot to mention we’re both in high school which is why this might sound kinda childish Submitted October 18, 2021 at 12:15AM For some context I was talking to this girl for about 2 weeks over snap chat and...