In Love With Two Different Men & Looking For A Different View & Advice

I'm a 48y/o female that is needing (ADVICE) that has managed to get myself into a situation that I'm not exactly sure how I should handle it while not hurting the other two people involved in the situation with me. I've managed to fall completely in love with two different men and when I explain the details of what is happening and how I've managed to fall for these two men I am begging that if you don't have any kind words and honest useable advice please use your self control and refrain from saying things that are hateful or mean because I don't deserve it and damn sure don't need it I'm already in a compromised position in this ordeal and I don't need anything else making me feel worse if that is even possible at this point of the game. I have been in a very close friendship with a man who is in prison for the majority of the past 25 years but we never let our feelings go farther than friendship because I was married and he never wanted to do anything to cause problems in my marriage. (I've been divorced for a few years now). Well due to circumstances beyond our control we lost touch with one another for a few years and when he finally did find me and I informed him that I had been divorced and was single now he came clean and confessed to me that he had been in love with me for practically the entire time that he has known me and it was finally the right time for me to admit that I too had been in love with him as well. Well right now he's doing life without parole but in March that is very likely to change and him eventually get to come home. Well now the second guy in this predicament I met while he was in county jail with an ex boyfriend of mine and we've gotten very extremely close and have started to catch some very powerful and true feelings for one another as well. We talk every single day on the phone and mostly over video chat and now I am not sure what to do about the situation. I know that most people don't believe that you can be in love with more than one person at a time but rest assured that you can if they are the right two people. The really bad part is that I am the only person that either one of them have in the world, neither one has any real family or support system and they both trust me because whether you believe this or not I am a very extremely loyal and dependable person that doesn't lie or intentionally hurt the people that I love and I love these two men with everything in me. And I will also add that they both know about the other just not that I am in love with the other one. My conscience is killing me not knowing what I should do and the really bad thing is that there's a almost 100% chance that if I were to open up and tell them both exactly what has happened and that I love them both they would completely understand and wouldn't want me to give up the other and they'd be understanding and respectful of each other because I care about them but that makes it so much harder for me to deal with because I don't want either one of them having to mentally picture me with someone else. I'm not sure what I should do and I figured that it couldn't hurt to ask for some advice from other people on the subject and maybe I might get a better view of the big picture here. Thank you very much for reading this and if you have any questions or advice please just send me a message via this message because my DMs are full.

Submitted October 18, 2021 at 12:14AM

I'm a 48y/o female that is needing (ADVICE) that has managed to get myself into a situation that I'm not exactly sure how I should handle it while not hurting the other two people involved in the situation with me. I've managed to fall completely in love with two different men and when I explain the details of what is happening and how I've managed to fall for these two men I am begging that if you don't have any kind words and honest useable advice please use your self control and refrain from saying things that are hateful or mean because I don't deserve it and damn sure don't need it I'm already in a compromised position in this ordeal and I don't need anything else making me feel worse if that is even possible at this point of the game. I have been in a very close friendship with a man who is in prison for the majority of the past 25 years but we never let our feelings go farther than friendship because I was married and he never wanted to do anything to cause problems in my marriage. (I've been divorced for a few years now). Well due to circumstances beyond our control we lost touch with one another for a few years and when he finally did find me and I informed him that I had been divorced and was single now he came clean and confessed to me that he had been in love with me for practically the entire time that he has known me and it was finally the right time for me to admit that I too had been in love with him as well. Well right now he's doing life without parole but in March that is very likely to change and him eventually get to come home. Well now the second guy in this predicament I met while he was in county jail with an ex boyfriend of mine and we've gotten very extremely close and have started to catch some very powerful and true feelings for one another as well. We talk every single day on the phone and mostly over video chat and now I am not sure what to do about the situation. I know that most people don't believe that you can be in love with more than one person at a time but rest assured that you can if they are the right two people. The really bad part is that I am the only person that either one of them have in the world, neither one has any real family or support system and they both trust me because whether you believe this or not I am a very extremely loyal and dependable person that doesn't lie or intentionally hurt the people that I love and I love these two men with everything in me. And I will also add that they both know about the other just not that I am in love with the other one. My conscience is killing me not knowing what I should do and the really bad thing is that there's a almost 100% chance that if I were to open up and tell them both exactly what has happened and that I love them both they would completely understand and wouldn't want me to give up the other and they'd be understanding and respectful of each other because I care about them but that makes it so much harder for me to deal with because I don't want either one of them having to mentally picture me with someone else. I'm not sure what I should do and I figured that it couldn't hurt to ask for some advice from other people on the subject and maybe I might get a better view of the big picture here. Thank you very much for reading this and if you have any questions or advice please just send me a message via this message because my DMs are full.