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It’s the little things!

Not sure if this is the right place but I just have to gush on my boyfriend. We are coworkers (heart wants what it wants) and have been hanging out since end of January and made things official last week. Any who, yesterday I was very flustered and emotional and complained to him that I was hungry and couldn’t eat because it would ruin my lipstick (I was about to leave for work). He came to work with roses and a sandwich he cut up into bite size pieces for me. He then told me he wanted to me to be able to eat and not worry about my lipstick. After dating a few jackasses, I am so grateful for this one and all the little things 🥰 Submitted May 06, 2019 at 02:45AM Not sure if this is the right place but I just have to gush on my boyfriend. We are coworkers (heart wants what it wants) and have been hanging out since end of January and made things official last week.Any who, yesterday I was very flustered and emotional and complained to him that I was hungry and couldn’t eat beca...

Inspiration for those looking for true love

Be okay with not knowing for sure what's coming next, but know whatever it is, you will be okay. tinybuddha Submitted May 06, 2019 at 02:45AM Be okay with not knowing for sure what's coming next, but know whatever it is, you will be okay.tinybuddha

Does he really love me

Okay, so I’m talking to this 18 year old & we have only been communicating for about 6 days. We don’t know each other that well & he already told me he loves me. Is that normal? To have love for someone who you have never met & know so little about. Also we talked about how it’s early in the relationship for him to be saying “I love you” & he says he knows but I just think it’s kind of weird. He does seem like a really good guy. I don’t know if he has any type of issues though, but I think he does. He has talked about his past relationship & how it led him to almost commit suicide. I talked to his cousin & I don’t know if his cousin was just being funny or serious but he told me how he might have autism. Now, I don’t think he does have autism because of the way he carries himself (if that makes any sense) But there’s all types of autism which range & some are severe & some aren’t so maybe he does have it but just not as severe. Submitted May 06, 2...

/u/HavePlushieWillTalk on #JustAsexualThings

Look up Lord Libidan. I have done a few of their embroidery patterns, particularly the Christmas ones. Honestly, about copyright, if I make a cross stitch and I sell it, I am selling the hours of work I put in and the materials. I cannot sell the pattern I make if it is simply the sprite. But, what I could do, is sell you a pack of materials which includes that sprite pattern, as long as I claim no ownership of the sprite. ​ Gets a little dicey when you change things. https://imgur.com/5gFfwkq That is a... an ornament... a thing. She sits on the entertainment unit, she's 3D, stuffed, and I did a flipped version so I made it twice, sewed together, with a felt base. I used sprites from three different pokemon to design it after my dog. I think I could sell that pattern. I won't. But I think I could. ​ Similarly, when I finish my wall hanging for my lapras, I will contact Nintendo directly and ask for their permission to show it publicly because A) that sh*t is going to be a...

I [23M] have been out of the game for a while, am going on a 1st date, and need some advice

So I've been single for about a year and a half. I feel like being single for that long has made me pretty awkward around girls. My daily routine has been work, gym, home, and not a lot of socializing in between. Well, recently I've been talking with a girl I met on an app and I really like her. She's witty, smart, cute, and I feel like we really connect. I asked her out and she said yes! We're going out for dinner and drinks. I really don't want to fk this up. I feel like I've forgotten how to do the whole dating game and I've gotten a lot quieter over the past year. Any tips for a guy in my situation? Like topics of conversation, how to keep it interesting, how to not come across as a nervous wreck. Would really appreciate some advice. Submitted May 05, 2019 at 01:00AM So I've been single for about a year and a half. I feel like being single for that long has made me pretty awkward around girls. My daily routine has been work, gym, home, and no...

Does this means purely hookup? Is he even interested in a LTR?

I've matched this guy on an online dating app, but we haven't met in person yet and im contemplating to go on a date or not. 1st sign: he offered to snuggle and said he's a great spoon 2nd sign: I asked him what's his ideal date n he replied a 2 days date: drinks and breakfast the next day Honestly I just want a nice date and not end up in his bed on a first date cos I'm not comfortable in sleeping with someone that I just met. So now he's asking When's our date gonna happen and I don't know what to reply. Any help? Submitted May 05, 2019 at 01:12AM I've matched this guy on an online dating app, but we haven't met in person yet and im contemplating to go on a date or not.1st sign: he offered to snuggle and said he's a great spoon2nd sign: I asked him what's his ideal date n he replied a 2 days date: drinks and breakfast the next dayHonestly I just want a nice date and not end up in his bed on a first date cos I'm not comfor...

Messaging on social media

I (22M) graduated from college last year and discovered this really cute girl (22F) had also graduated in my class. I've been thinking about contacting her via social media, but we've never met in person because I didn't know she existed until the end of my undergrad time. I've been considering messaging her on either Facebook or Instagram, but I feel like she'd be creeped out. Women, any input on this or guys that have taken the risk? Thanks TL:DR Is it weird to message a girl that I know of but not personally on social media? We live in the same general area and I'd like to get to know her. Submitted May 05, 2019 at 12:13PM I (22M) graduated from college last year and discovered this really cute girl (22F) had also graduated in my class. I've been thinking about contacting her via social media, but we've never met in person because I didn't know she existed until the end of my undergrad time. I've been considering messaging her on eithe...

Another day, another disappointment

Just a rant... Just started seeing a guy that I met on one of those popular dating apps for the past 3 weeks, we've started seeing each other every weekend (im busy during weekdays because of my job) since we started talking so we have only gone out three times so far. We've maintained consistent communication daily and everything was going well. Our dates lasted really long (6 hours). We've gone to a local fair, and a wine festival in downtown together, stuff like that, compared to my other dates, we usually went out for dinner or grab a few drinks and then the guys would ask me to go back to his place right away, like other guys usually gave me the I want to hookup vibe right away early on. I mean we still went out to dinner and I went to his place before, but he was a lot different than other guys (even tho I know its too early to say anything), so I felt like we were heading somewhere. I have gone on many one off dates for the past few months and none of them went an...

How does dating work?

The whole love thing really confuses me. What's the goal of dating? What is the traditional order of events, like friendship, dating, boyfriend girlfriend, sex, kissing, marriage, and the whole crush thing. Arent crushes and love the same thing? How did we distinguish crush and love? It's all one feeling, not separate feelings I think. Someone help haha, it's making my head spin Submitted May 05, 2019 at 02:14PM The whole love thing really confuses me. What's the goal of dating? What is the traditional order of events, like friendship, dating, boyfriend girlfriend, sex, kissing, marriage, and the whole crush thing. Arent crushes and love the same thing? How did we distinguish crush and love? It's all one feeling, not separate feelings I think. Someone help haha, it's making my head spin

Not sure if to keep trying with her or not.

I (21M) asked this cashier that i had been seeing in my local shop regularly (21F) "if she'd like to get to know eachother better", she said yeah and we agreed to meet after her shift that night. We meet up talk a bit and learn a bit about eachother and we follow eachother on instagram and before we're about to go our separate ways and say goodnight I ask if she'd like to meet up again (keeping in mind we only talked for 15 mins that night) she says yeah and to message her. I message her the next day in the afternoon asking her if we're still on for tonight. She didnt reply and two days later i saw her in the shop and from her reaction when we talked she seemed like she did actually forget to go on the app and she still looked at me sexually, replied on insta saying "hey, sorry i completely forgot to go on here x" so I try asking her out again and she asks if we could do it another night cause she isnt feeling that well, she told me she was working ...

/u/theexitisontheleft on Straight Aces. Is it a thing?

Why are you commenting on something that's 15 days old? Oh, just checked your history and I see you're interested just interested in sowing discord. Why do you have such a problem with asexuals should be your big worry. May 06, 2019 at 07:20AM

/u/HavePlushieWillTalk on Yikes

Yep but when they meet, can they fight each other and not me? I have given enough blood for their war! ​ Plushie is being literal. Literal blood was taken from Plushie. May 06, 2019 at 07:19AM

/u/WikiMB on Yikes

I really wonder if people really have random sexual thoughts from time to time or maybe it's exaggerated? Do they think randomly they'd like to bang someone or would like to date someone while in the middle of the class for example? May 06, 2019 at 07:17AM

Haven’t seen each other in years. Went out Friday night and I (26M) can’t tell if she’s(27f) into it.

Burner account because I’m paranoid haha So me and this girl, call her Jess, used to be pretty good friends back in high school and after. We were in the same social circle and would hang out at parties and drink at her house with friends all the time. Nothing ever went on between us. Eventually my friend group all went there own ways due to life. Her and I haven’t hung out or really talked in like 5 years (give or take) and not for any particular reason, just life. So one night I decide to message her out of the blue because we have a lot of the same interests still and we hit it off pretty well I felt, and kept constant good conversation for like a week, so I ask her to go out to a bar to watch a playoff game of a team we are both pretty big fans of, she’s says yes, great. Still talking everyday leading up to it, then it’s the day of the game and we meet up in the city. Now the date itself I felt went pretty well, we had a good time, ate, drank, laughed, didn’t seem to be any lulls...

I get freakishly jealous, can someone help me out?

Okay. I guess I believed in the "twin flame" and "soul mate" thing, which is a disneyland fairytale lie I guess then right? Yes. I know this is totally unrealistic to logically think I am gonna find some pure angel walking among us, but it's how I emotionally react, it makes me have this sick feeling in my stomach, thinking about or knowing all the men she has been with before me, soiled, (how 99% of women AND men probably are right) how to deal or what to think and feel then? So I just don't want to date anymore and do this human game then (sad, right? how else to feel?)... it's so sick. Like all her sexual partners in the past. And now I'm kissing that mouth? And now I'm supposed to be emotionally devoted to her, even though she was heavily emotionally devoted to another man? :( Thx for the help, this hurts, badly. Like if she's been soiled and stuff like 99% of women (AND men) are... like that's so gross I don't wanna kiss her m...

Will saying I am a mother make me appear more attractive?

Since I don't have any kids, it makes me look like I couldn't get a man to get me pregnant. Which makes me look less attractive to some potential daters. I'm really insecure about this. One guy did think it was odd that I wasn't a mother Submitted May 05, 2019 at 04:00PM Since I don't have any kids, it makes me look like I couldn't get a man to get me pregnant. Which makes me look less attractive to some potential daters. I'm really insecure about this. One guy did think it was odd that I wasn't a mother

am I doing it right?

Edit: I just noticed I wrote a wall of text, sorry hope you gonna read through all of this lol Okay bit of context before starting: I'm a 21 y.o guy, not the best looking thus I'm not quite good at dealing with girls, I don't even have many female friends, most of them just "know" me because I hang out with their friends. ​ Now, like 4 days ago I was in a disco partying with my friends at a certain point of the night I see some girls (our friends) speaking to few guys of my group. I was a bit far from them and I was also talking with someone else, so I couldn't understand shit of what they were saying. Not much later a friend of mine comes, takes my arm and drags me further away while saying "you gotta meet someone", then leaves me. Suddenly this girl appears, I was a bit drunk so I don't even remember if someone brought her there or if she came near me by herself. So here I am in the middle of a disco with my friends and her friends watching...

Date ideas for first date

So, im (18m) thinking of asking this girl (19f) out, wondered if you had some good first date ideas :) Is bowling lame for a first date? Submitted May 05, 2019 at 04:25PM So, im (18m) thinking of asking this girl (19f) out, wondered if you had some good first date ideas :)Is bowling lame for a first date?

how do I figure out who's in my league?

I haven't had much luck with dating mostly because I keep chasing girls that are way out of my league. How do I figure out which ones are in my league? Submitted May 05, 2019 at 04:26PM I haven't had much luck with dating mostly because I keep chasing girls that are way out of my league. How do I figure out which ones are in my league?

Not attractive physically....

Hi, Would you consider getting in a relationship with someone that doesn't fit you at all physically? I [25F] am getting attracted to this guy [27M] who shares the same values as me, and who's really driven by what he does and he's educated and he's super nice and settled and everything. Really, the perfect match, we're having good discussions, we matched online and we've been having great convos. He's the second guy I find interesting, although I'm having really good vibes from him. The problem is.., I'm not attracted to him physically and I don't know what to do. He's like really not good looking at all (I believe he had some trauma when he was young,so yeah...). I'm in the middle of the situation where I don't know if I should go for it and maybe it'll develop attraction over time, or if I should skip my turn but I'm afraid to have regrets. I don't want to judge him for his looks, but I can't force it if I'...

I [24M] have been on three dates with a girl [23F] and I need advice

I have been on three dates with this girl and they went well, the conversation was good and we laughed a lot but besides from hugging we didn't kiss. I always felt like she was keeping some distance from me and I was surprised that she actually suggested to meet a third time. Even at the end of the third date I felt like she didn't want to be kissed. After the 3rd date we texted a bit that night, then she went on holidays and we haven't texted since. I am not sure what she is looking for (also her profile says "Don't know yet" but personally I do not see myself in a relationship with her but I would like to have something casual if she is on the same page. I feel like she is probably not into casual stuff but what would be the best way to figure this out without offending her or being too forward? Submitted May 05, 2019 at 04:34PM I have been on three dates with this girl and they went well, the conversation was good and we laughed a lot but besides fro...

Should I (22M) make a move with my maybe more-than-a-friend (22F)?

Me and this girl have had an odd relationship to this point. We both go to professional school together, and we've really hit it off over the course of this year. This sort of culminated with me asking her out formally and receiving a yes, but the day before our date, she cancelled it after stating worries regarding mixing our professional lives up in a relationship. That would be fine on its own, but this is where things get a little weird. ​ In the wake of this event, our relationship has changed both for the better and worse. For example, she's way less connected to me digitally. Before I would receive regular texts, snapchats, etc. from her, but they're far less frequent. But our interpersonal relationship has almost taken the form of dating. We hang out together a lot. We study at the library together, we go running together, we've cooked together, and the conversations we have are extremely personal in nature. And that's not even mentioning the flirtation. ...

Here's a message to all ghosters, f*ck you.

Just a rant. Sorry in advance for formatting and English. I'm so pissed and hurt rn. I can barely think straight. Why? Why would you do this to someone? Why would you out of the blue just stop talking to someone who you professed to like or even love. Why leave me to toil and think over all the reasons you may hate me and leave me feeling worthless. Why would you come into my life and take my emotional investment and time only to drop out without warning or notice. Why would you claim you love or cherish or enjoy my company and just leave as if I meant nothing to you. Why would you do that to anyone? Here's a message to all of you who do this, fuck you. You are scum and you were never worth it if you can behave like this. You deserve no pity or forgiveness. You deny others closure to be a coward. Fuck you. You asshole. I hope one day you see how this feels. Submitted May 05, 2019 at 04:44PM Just a rant. Sorry in advance for formatting and English. I'm so pissed an...

My [21M] romantic interest [21F] is still friends with her ex.

We’ve seen each other five times now, and we’ve discussed becoming exclusive. She’s great, and all the signs point toward a great relationship. Here’s the rub: The last time I saw her, she told me she is still friends with her ex. According to her, she really liked him, they had an on-again, off-again relationship due to his unwillingness to commit, and then he broke up with her. He is a member of her tight-knit friend group. She told me that when he heard about me, he became angry and told her that he now wants a relationship with her. He has since been acting crazily, including showing up to her work unannounced and threatening suicide. She told him unambiguously that she does not want to be in a relationship with him anymore to no avail. How should I navigate this tricky situation? What demands of her am I within my rights to make in regard to this loser? Thanks, guys. Submitted May 05, 2019 at 04:44PM We’ve seen each other five times now, and we’ve discussed becoming excl...

Might people change their values based off who they are dating?

Can a man's values be changed by dating a woman whom he loves who has different values originally? If a man dates and loves a woman who has different values, might this cause this man to slightly change their values to values slightly more similar to the woman's. ​ This question is specifically geared towards men because I am a man. But, if you have a thought on whether a woman's values might change from dating and being in love, please comment. I doubt the answer will be much different between genders. ​ Values might include what a person thinks is important, how to live life, what to work towards, and/or some other things of that nature. Values would probably not include what things bring excitement: like playing golf, watching horror movies, etc. Submitted May 05, 2019 at 04:52PM Can a man's values be changed by dating a woman whom he loves who has different values originally? If a man dates and loves a woman who has different values, might this cause this...

the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another

I (39M) was dating a young lady, lets call her Agatha (23F) that I had met through a mutual friend, lets call her Mercy. Initially we were paired up for a simple hookup. After meeting, however, we clicked and I wanted more than that. We discussed things and decided to take a casual approach to the situation.Of course there was a catch, it wasn't a concern, but she said things would be different if they weren't already talking to someone else, Chad seems appropriate. I know the man in question, as we all work together at the same company (not the best decision.) Anyways, this man, is married and he was in a position above her. ​ Agatha and I ended up hanging out on my free weekends, spending all our free time together. Through our workday we spent our breaks together and sometimes in the evening we would speak on the phone. Even with the age gap, I saw potential. We had ended up making a bunch of plans even a month out in the future. Agatha seemed excited with everything but ...

First date is weeks in advance, any similar experiences?

I wasn't quite sure what sub to put this in. I've been on Reddit a lot lately reading advice posts and went back and forth about posting anything, but seeing Reddit responses is really helpful for me in regards to dating stuff. ​ I matched with a guy on Hinge. We exchanged a handful of messages and it seems very promising. He's responsive, asks questions, and the conversation flows pretty naturally. We both have the same goals in dating. However, he's out of state until the end of the month. I am nervous about this falling through. He initiated the match, so that could indicate that he'll follow through, or it could mean nothing. I know I should approach OLD without stressing about this sort of thing, but I'm nervous nonetheless. My last couple of matches and dates, in hindsight, had some red flags pretty early on that we wouldn't be compatible. With that experience in mind, this match seems promising. I don't want to message him constantly because we...

Dominant women and where to find them

​ Being a submissive dude in the dating game SUCKS. If I attract women it's always really submissive do what you tell them girls. I'm good on that. Shit tell ME what to do. I wanna be manhandled. I WANNA be the lil spoon. ​ I ain't a complete dormat but I prefer to be lead by someone in a relationship. Just how the cookies crumbles ​ But y'all RARE Submitted May 05, 2019 at 07:22PM ​Being a submissive dude in the dating game SUCKS. If I attract women it's always really submissive do what you tell them girls. I'm good on that. Shit tell ME what to do. I wanna be manhandled. I WANNA be the lil spoon.​I ain't a complete dormat but I prefer to be lead by someone in a relationship. Just how the cookies crumbles​But y'all RARE

No kiss on third date?

Ok so here is the story I (32M) and her (27F): i meet this girl on instagram. We texted for a bit and than she said why wouldn´t i invite her for drink, so i did. We went for a drink, talked about our passed relationships and about ourselfs. I ask for second date, she agree. Because it was showing rain she even suggests to meet her at her place (but was strictly plan B she said). So we meet in city for ice cream. I asked her for third date, she agree. It passed 3 weeks (she ad a lot of work), we didnt text much (she does not like that so much) and today we meet for 3rd time. Thing is everytime we meet, we are only 2 hours together. She is buisy. So, we just talked about ourselfs and than she had to go...i didn´t go for a kiss because i panic. I did ask her if she is free to go out again and she agrees. I was so mad that i didnt go for a kiss (it was 11 in the morning). But when we were at drink i didnt know if she is into me or not...if we meet 3rd time, and she agrees on 4th time, i ...

Stuck and lost in dating

Hello everyone, I am freshly 20 years old and want to improve my dating life. I had 3 gfs, with whom those relationships were even barely relationships. I had other opportunities, but declined them, but that was longer time ago. Now I feel like I lost all my skills with dates. Even tho I have somehow been on 2 dates this week (after almost a year maybe), I think I am missing something. On second date girl complimented me, that she thought I was cute when she saw me with my friend and asked him for my number so we went out, so from her side obviously there was attraction. But I think I messed it up. I do not want to blame it on "bad chemistry", because there was definitely chemistry from the beginning, I just think there is problem somewhere in me. I honestly do not want to approach 1000 girls, get 100 dates, because I want to have time also for other things. There are people going on dates, having LTR without having to work on dating. I know that it is more about handling...

I'm just confused!

There are so many posts about this already but i haven't come across one that truly fits my circumstances. So here we go... I'm a 30 year old Woman that has the hardest time dating. I've tried dating apps, when I'm out with friends i mix and mingle to try and meet new people. When it comes to the apps I'll match with a fair amount of men, start convos that flow naturally, but in the end i get a bunch of unsolicited dick pics, or they don't want to go on a date they only want to have sex lol. OR they do want to go on a date but only after we have sex so they can determine if I'm "worthy" of a date!! Can you believe that crap?!! When I'm trying to meet men IRL, I'll come up to them since i NEVER get approached, start a convo, but it never goes anywhere. They always end up talking to and following around the woman that looks beautiful but has very few stones rolling around upstairs if you know what i mean lol. I'm assertive, i know what ...

So Many Men Secretly In Relationships On Dating Sites!

So the last time I was on dating sites/apps, the last 10 or so men I met online, they all secretly had a girlfriend. I had absolutely no idea! They pretended to be single and looking for something serious. Several of them had a live-in girlfriend as well. What is the deal with this? How can I avoid these guy?! I feel like I have to deeply online stalk any guy I'm potentially meeting with now, before we meet. Just because I don't want to have to go through this type of thing again. Anyone have similar experiences dating online?! Submitted May 05, 2019 at 08:09PM So the last time I was on dating sites/apps, the last 10 or so men I met online, they all secretly had a girlfriend. I had absolutely no idea! They pretended to be single and looking for something serious. Several of them had a live-in girlfriend as well.What is the deal with this? How can I avoid these guy?!I feel like I have to deeply online stalk any guy I'm potentially meeting with now, before we meet. ...

Went out for the first time in a while

So I decided to go out finally. I'm usually in the house writing or reading. I know it's not a good way to meet anyone. Anyway I had a good time but, after an hour I was ready to go home. I wanted to get back to my writing. Idk if I can focus on dating and my career at the same time. I mean I want to write and get my career off the ground, but I also don't want to be lonely. Idk what to do. Also, I spend so much time at home that I get anxious when I'm away from it for too long Submitted May 05, 2019 at 09:11PM So I decided to go out finally. I'm usually in the house writing or reading. I know it's not a good way to meet anyone. Anyway I had a good time but, after an hour I was ready to go home. I wanted to get back to my writing.Idk if I can focus on dating and my career at the same time.I mean I want to write and get my career off the ground, but I also don't want to be lonely. Idk what to do.Also, I spend so much time at home that I get anxious ...

/u/JekPorkins-AcePilot on Yikes

Yep! May 06, 2019 at 07:05AM

Making a move as a girl?

There's someone I'm interested in on social media, we have manyyy friends in common, I sent him a message asking about some of his conent, anyways, I want to make a move. Is that a bad idea? Or should I try to keep the conversation going first, I've never met in real life (I'm a F 21) Submitted May 05, 2019 at 09:12PM There's someone I'm interested in on social media, we have manyyy friends in common, I sent him a message asking about some of his conent, anyways, I want to make a move. Is that a bad idea? Or should I try to keep the conversation going first, I've never met in real life (I'm a F 21)

Dating a close friends exh

So I’m in a situation right now and don’t know what to do. I’ve been chatting with a girl for the last week or 2, started friendly and now is asking to meet up and go on dates. I would totally be on board but this girl dated my best friend for like 4-5 years. In my mind it just doesn’t seem right. I almost feel bad for even texting her for this long. They broke up about 2 years ago which doesn’t make it any better to me honestly. But the real curveball is, he met her through me. I hooked up with her back in high school and we hung out a little bit but I broke it off with her. She then started dating him shortly after. I know it sounds like my minds made up but I’m really asking this question because everyone is telling me they would do differently. They always say some little detail like “awe it’s been long enough” or “he probably moved on”. How would you feel about this. P.S. I talk to this guy like every other day and we live 3 states away now. Submitted May 05, 2019 at 09:17...

22M, genuinely can't tell if the women I like are shallow or what

Alright, look. My friends say I look good. I'm tall, I'm a little thin but lean enough, and apparently I have a nice enough face. I'm also intelligent, I have a solid plan and direction in my career, and I try to be as friendly as possible and listen to others. These are all traits that (I'm told) women find attractive. But I can't seem to get a second date. Truth is I don't find most women I talk to all that interesting, but even the ones I have great chemistry with don't want to be in a relationship with me. What am I missing here? Is there some part of a formula I'm leaving out, or are the things I have to offer good but not GOOD ENOUGH for a lot of women? Submitted May 05, 2019 at 09:50PM Alright, look. My friends say I look good. I'm tall, I'm a little thin but lean enough, and apparently I have a nice enough face. I'm also intelligent, I have a solid plan and direction in my career, and I try to be as friendly as possible and lis...

I lied to him and I don’t think I will ever get another chance

I met this guy in December off a dating website. We went on our first date in March. It was great but we were drinking and I got sick at his house.. pretty embarrassing. He is 30 and I am 27[f]. I got a second date finally last night. So I hadn’t seen him in a little over a month. We were having a great time. Went out for drinks again, which he didn’t care at all that I was drinking again. We were having a great time and he was saying how he really hopes I get this new job I interviewed for so I could move out by him. So we go to one last bar and I had told him I was going to get one more drink here and that was it. But in the Uber I decided I didn’t want to drink anymore. I’m not sure what overcame me. But he went to the bathroom and I decided to order just a cranberry juice and when he came back I told him it was cranberry and vodka. I really don’t know what brought me to do this. It was so stupid and immature. But I still lied. I think I was just afraid he was going to think I real...

How do I take our conversations past Small Talk and Physics?

Background information: Me: Male, 17, Junior Her: Female, 17 (assumed), Junior Situation as of 1 month ago: So, this girl moved from a nearby state to the city where I live in before the school year began, and when school seated, her assigned seating in physics for the semester was at my table group. I got a crush on her and asked her to homecoming (this is back in October), but she said she was going to be gone the day (visiting her old state) but she said it was sweet of me to ask. We had a conversation afterward about where she was from and the new place where we both reside, and that gave me some hope. However, she wasn't gone on the day of homecoming so I have my doubts (there's a chance she left after the school day ended). For about a week she basically went out of her way to avoid me, but it got back to normal after. Then, in November, we were assigned the same group for a month long project and conversations were friendly from there. We eventually exchanged numbe...

I’m just lost

I want to talk to her but I feel as if I need excuses in order to do so, but I’m also self conscious about me always texting her first, help Submitted May 05, 2019 at 10:37PM I want to talk to her but I feel as if I need excuses in order to do so, but I’m also self conscious about me always texting her first, help

First date ideas

Interested in taking a girl I like out on a date and thinking of creative ways to ask her out as well as a cool and fun first date Submitted May 05, 2019 at 10:41PM Interested in taking a girl I like out on a date and thinking of creative ways to ask her out as well as a cool and fun first date

He is a total sociopath and lied about EVERYTHING.

So I (30 F) met a guy (30 M) a couple weeks ago and we fell into things really quickly. He was amazing to me, made me feel beautiful and smart, we spent so much time together. TURNS OUT he completely manipulated me. After I slept with him, he told me he’s a sociopath and is fucked up, and then he can’t be with me cause he’s too messed up. HOW DO PEOPLE COMPLETELY LIE ABOUT WHO THEY ARE?! I feel like such an idiot for believing anything he had to say.. and I’m so hurt that he just completely lied about everything. Sorry if this is the wrong spot to post, I am super in shock right now. What do I even do? TL;DR: he completely lied to me about who he was, and after I slept with him completely fucked me over. Submitted May 05, 2019 at 11:04PM So I (30 F) met a guy (30 M) a couple weeks ago and we fell into things really quickly. He was amazing to me, made me feel beautiful and smart, we spent so much time together. TURNS OUT he completely manipulated me. After I slept with him, he...

22M, The uncertainty is overwhelming me.

First, here's my background: I've always been the loner type in school, was always excluded in everything and because of that and other reasons I've never gotten involved in anything romantic with another girl. On the first day of this class is signed up to at my university there was this cute girl seated right in front of me. Suddenly she turns to me and makes a comment about a story the professor was telling us. I was slightly shocked because nothing like that sort of interaction ever happened to me before but I tried to maintain composure and smiled and agreed with her. At the end of the class we waved at each other as she was leaving the room. Obviously my insecurities and low self esteem led me to believe she was just being friendly. On the next class, I entered the room and took my seat. When she came in she chose a seat beside mine. This time she talked a bit more and even told me an anecdote about her job. I was polite and bit more talkative than last time but I ...