Haven’t seen each other in years. Went out Friday night and I (26M) can’t tell if she’s(27f) into it.

Burner account because I’m paranoid haha

So me and this girl, call her Jess, used to be pretty good friends back in high school and after. We were in the same social circle and would hang out at parties and drink at her house with friends all the time. Nothing ever went on between us. Eventually my friend group all went there own ways due to life. Her and I haven’t hung out or really talked in like 5 years (give or take) and not for any particular reason, just life. So one night I decide to message her out of the blue because we have a lot of the same interests still and we hit it off pretty well I felt, and kept constant good conversation for like a week, so I ask her to go out to a bar to watch a playoff game of a team we are both pretty big fans of, she’s says yes, great. Still talking everyday leading up to it, then it’s the day of the game and we meet up in the city. Now the date itself I felt went pretty well, we had a good time, ate, drank, laughed, didn’t seem to be any lulls. But the entire time I felt like I wasn’t gettting any “interest” signals back though. I was certainly giving them out, shoulder touches, hug when they scored, etc but not being over the top flirty. After the game we go back to the train station and say our goodbyes, we hug (it wasn’t like a long one or anything) and she says hey next time we have to go to (insert a certain fancy restaurant we were talking about earlier.) We still have been texting constantly for like hours a day since that night (until like 2 in the morning last night and started back up this morning for example) and it’s been going very well I feel, I’m making her laugh she’s making me laugh. The thing that worries me is that I didn’t get one physical sign that made me feel like yeah I think she feels the same way. Everything else seems right though.

I’m going to ask her out again tomorrow (or the next day) regardless but I’m just curious as to what you people think? Am I just being super paranoid?

Submitted May 05, 2019 at 03:34PM

Burner account because I’m paranoid hahaSo me and this girl, call her Jess, used to be pretty good friends back in high school and after. We were in the same social circle and would hang out at parties and drink at her house with friends all the time. Nothing ever went on between us. Eventually my friend group all went there own ways due to life. Her and I haven’t hung out or really talked in like 5 years (give or take) and not for any particular reason, just life. So one night I decide to message her out of the blue because we have a lot of the same interests still and we hit it off pretty well I felt, and kept constant good conversation for like a week, so I ask her to go out to a bar to watch a playoff game of a team we are both pretty big fans of, she’s says yes, great. Still talking everyday leading up to it, then it’s the day of the game and we meet up in the city. Now the date itself I felt went pretty well, we had a good time, ate, drank, laughed, didn’t seem to be any lulls. But the entire time I felt like I wasn’t gettting any “interest” signals back though. I was certainly giving them out, shoulder touches, hug when they scored, etc but not being over the top flirty. After the game we go back to the train station and say our goodbyes, we hug (it wasn’t like a long one or anything) and she says hey next time we have to go to (insert a certain fancy restaurant we were talking about earlier.) We still have been texting constantly for like hours a day since that night (until like 2 in the morning last night and started back up this morning for example) and it’s been going very well I feel, I’m making her laugh she’s making me laugh. The thing that worries me is that I didn’t get one physical sign that made me feel like yeah I think she feels the same way. Everything else seems right though.I’m going to ask her out again tomorrow (or the next day) regardless but I’m just curious as to what you people think? Am I just being super paranoid?