Another day, another disappointment

Just a rant...
Just started seeing a guy that I met on one of those popular dating apps for the past 3 weeks, we've started seeing each other every weekend (im busy during weekdays because of my job) since we started talking so we have only gone out three times so far. We've maintained consistent communication daily and everything was going well. Our dates lasted really long (6 hours). We've gone to a local fair, and a wine festival in downtown together, stuff like that, compared to my other dates, we usually went out for dinner or grab a few drinks and then the guys would ask me to go back to his place right away, like other guys usually gave me the I want to hookup vibe right away early on. I mean we still went out to dinner and I went to his place before, but he was a lot different than other guys (even tho I know its too early to say anything), so I felt like we were heading somewhere.

I have gone on many one off dates for the past few months and none of them went anywhere, so I already set my expectation super low. Yesterday after we went out, I found out (on social media) that he has a long term girlfriend and she went over to his place just the night before we went out. However, he told me that he went out with his friends that night.. Also found out that she was at his place multiple times for the past few weeks and they used to live together at his apartment, but she recently moved out. After finding out about it, I told him that I can't see him anymore.

It was an odd feeling. IDK how people survive in the modern dating world, especially with all the unspoken, confusing, and exhausting rules, dont text too much, it will come off as needy, but if you dont text regularly, people are gonna assume you're not interested or not putting effort, dont define the relationship during the early stage, you are gonna come off as possessive, just go with the flow, and then there is, have the talk early on, so you wont have any miscommunication and misunderstanding, and MANY MORE. ive seen all kinds of polarizing suggestions and advice on here.

Looking back on the only relationship that I got into, neither of my ex and i followed any of those rules (we broke up due to distance, but thats not relevant here). It made me realize that there isn't actually any formulate to follow, when its right, its right.

Submitted May 05, 2019 at 02:03PM

Just a rant...Just started seeing a guy that I met on one of those popular dating apps for the past 3 weeks, we've started seeing each other every weekend (im busy during weekdays because of my job) since we started talking so we have only gone out three times so far. We've maintained consistent communication daily and everything was going well. Our dates lasted really long (6 hours). We've gone to a local fair, and a wine festival in downtown together, stuff like that, compared to my other dates, we usually went out for dinner or grab a few drinks and then the guys would ask me to go back to his place right away, like other guys usually gave me the I want to hookup vibe right away early on. I mean we still went out to dinner and I went to his place before, but he was a lot different than other guys (even tho I know its too early to say anything), so I felt like we were heading somewhere.I have gone on many one off dates for the past few months and none of them went anywhere, so I already set my expectation super low. Yesterday after we went out, I found out (on social media) that he has a long term girlfriend and she went over to his place just the night before we went out. However, he told me that he went out with his friends that night.. Also found out that she was at his place multiple times for the past few weeks and they used to live together at his apartment, but she recently moved out. After finding out about it, I told him that I can't see him anymore.It was an odd feeling. IDK how people survive in the modern dating world, especially with all the unspoken, confusing, and exhausting rules, dont text too much, it will come off as needy, but if you dont text regularly, people are gonna assume you're not interested or not putting effort, dont define the relationship during the early stage, you are gonna come off as possessive, just go with the flow, and then there is, have the talk early on, so you wont have any miscommunication and misunderstanding, and MANY MORE. ive seen all kinds of polarizing suggestions and advice on here.Looking back on the only relationship that I got into, neither of my ex and i followed any of those rules (we broke up due to distance, but thats not relevant here). It made me realize that there isn't actually any formulate to follow, when its right, its right.