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Am I (26F) too emotional for online dating?

Okay guys, I need advice, because this same shit keeps happening to me and I'm gonna lose my mind. Bare with me here people... I'm an extreme empath at my core, I feel everything on a ridiculously deep level. Here's an example and the basis of my dilemma... I started using the dating app Plenty of Fish and let me tell you it was a fucking nightmare. Within the first 30 minutes of having a profile I had over 50 messages in my inbox and they just kept coming. I'm not trying to be cocky or boastful here, but I'm a decent looking chick, I'm photogenic I guess, and I'd like to think I'm a catch, but this app was honestly horrendous. I'd say about 80% of the messages I received were just "hey" "hi" "what's up" or some kind of shallow compliment about my appearance. Another 15% of the message were from vulgar men, saying vulgar things... Gross (why do dudes do that shit. Fucking nasty...) Then we come to final 5% of the ...

I’m feeling very trapped and I need help (21 M)

Long time lurker here. I’ve read a fair amount of great advice on here, but I feel like I’m at a breaking point. After dealing with so many rejections recently, I’m starting to feel I’m incapable of having women be interested in me. It’s come to a point now that I’m either so stressed to talk to a woman in most social scenarios or that I think so much of what to say to not fuck up, I just don’t know what to say at all. I am not a virgin, I have a loving family, many friends, I’m in shape by working out at least 5 times week, I’m very much into fashion, I travel a lot, and I’m currently studying a subject that I absolutely love, but I just feel so empty by how unattractive I am to women. I dated someone for a while until she confessed that our whole relationship was just a rebound for her and that she fell in love with another man better than me. I felt so hurt for being used, so I then decided to just hookup with people, but even that is very hard for me to do. Literally, I’ve only ...

Fear of racism

First off I am Indian, I have a preconceived prejudice from elementary school that people are racist to brown people. No evidence has shown that that has been accurate as I’ve grown up. My fear especially is of white women with blonde hair which is very common in the southern US where I live. New semester at school started today- and while I am fit and attractive I get socially anxious that people are judging me. “Oh look at the loser Indian” or “ew I wouldn’t date an Indian” or that “they’re the inferior race”. This might be a projection because I’m ashamed to say, but I think that of my own race. Would appreciate advice Submitted January 14, 2020 at 12:17AM First off I am Indian,I have a preconceived prejudice from elementary school that people are racist to brown people. No evidence has shown that that has been accurate as I’ve grown up.My fear especially is of white women with blonde hair which is very common in the southern US where I live.New semester at school starte...

Why’d she wave at me??

This girl who I’ve never met before smiled and waved as I was walking past, so I decided to sit with her and we talked for like an hour and then went to an art show together. It was nice. But why’d she wave at me?? Ik this sounds dumb but I’m not good with this stuff. Was she interested or just super friendly? What should I do? Submitted January 14, 2020 at 12:18AM This girl who I’ve never met before smiled and waved as I was walking past, so I decided to sit with her and we talked for like an hour and then went to an art show together. It was nice.But why’d she wave at me?? Ik this sounds dumb but I’m not good with this stuff. Was she interested or just super friendly? What should I do?

How to come together when we are dealing with everything differently?

So my husband and I have had a pretty crappy 3 years. In 2017 he was diagnosed with cancer and treated, thankfully he was put into remission in Jan 2018. In April 2018 we found out he was sterile and we would need IVF if we ever wanted biological kids. We got married in August (it was a great day, second only to the day he was put into remission). We started IVF in September 2018. I got pregnant in May 2019 with identical twins. I miscarried the twins in August, we found out 3 days after our 1 year anniversary. Had a chemical pregnancy the month after that. Then we did another round of IVF with not so great results and a failed transfer. ​ Anyways, all of this takes a toll on us as a couple but also individually. My husband jumped into work. He just got a new job, which he loves, but requires him to travel a lot and he volunteers to travel more. His reasoning is that the only thing he can do to help us have a child is to work to afford it, and traveling gives overtime pay. I became ...

Would it be embarassing or weird if I [17M] asked my cousin [14F] if she wanted to spend a weekend with me?

I don't have a lot of friends and the ones I have I don't spend a lot of time with. I only have two cousins. One is 20 and I've wanted to become her friend but if that doesn't work (I will continue trying to become her friend for at least a little over a month), I will end it using an exit bag, alternatively, I could try to become friends with my younger cousin. My cousins live 4-5 hours away from me, however I can take a bus to their house on Fridays after my internship is over and then come home on the Sunday. However I'm afraid of asking my cousin if we could spend a weekend together. I'm thinking I could watch her play football with her team, or we could play video games together or watch a movie. I've done those things before with her. but I know I'd just feel horrible for asking her if she said no. She did tell me before when I referred to her as a friend "no we're cousins" and when I asked her why we couldn't become friends, sh...

Am I [27M] being manipulative or is my partner [24F]

I'll attempt to keep this brief and use the simplest example as our main disagreement always ends up being a difference in language so some clarification there would be appreciated. TLDR : I asked my girlfriend about her past and when she wanted to know something about my past she used that to coerce me. This all started on our first date. She mentioned in passing that she had dated a married guy who was going to leave his wife for her but that she'd 'keep that story for another time'. I was a bit taken aback so I didn't really say much at the time. Over the following months she had told various stories about her past which made it pretty clear she had an affair while dating her last long-term boyfriend. She was going away on holiday - I was feeling insecure, and asked her to clear the air and be honest with me. I never really cared about what she had done - just more so about how she felt about it now and some reassurance that she wasn't that person anymore...

I (19f) don’t know how to leave my psycho husband (21m)

I’ve realized he’s abusive and extremely controlling. We started arguing early in the morning today over something stupid. Of course, I was the first one to cave because I didn’t want to argue. I started trying to hug and kiss him, while he aggressively shoved me and pushed me away from him. Mind you, I’m 8 months pregnant. He started telling me he didn’t want shit to do with me and to leave him alone. I immediately started crying and telling him to give me my car keys because he always hides them from me when he’s mad. He told me no, he can go with me wherever it is that I’m going. I told him to drive me to my moms house. Once there, I took some papers from my car, that he knew were divorce papers and numbers to divorce attorneys. As soon as he noticed, he took his foot off the brake of the car while I was getting out of it. Did I mention I’m pregnant? When he saw that I was able to get out of the car anyway (just barely, without falling), he put the car in park and started running ...

My [22f] boyfriend [27m] keeps talking about our future.

We just started officially dating a few days ago, and he's planning a future with me. Before we started dating he also talked about how he wants a future with me, and how he wants me to be his future wife. I never really took him seriously because I thought he just wanted to get me to say yes to dating. Now that everything's official he's telling me about his 5 year plan and how he's saving up money to buy a house for us and our future kids. I told him I wasn't in love with him yet, and that talking about the future kinda freaked me out. He said it was fine as long as I can see myself loving him in the future. I feel like he only wants to be with me because I'm his "ideal type" physically, he tells me that all the time. And I said yes to dating him because he has nearly everything on my list of attributes I need in a guy. He's honest, caring, has a good job, etc... but I'm starting to think that that's not enough in a relationship. Shoul...

He m 25 wants me f 24 to be his Carmella. I’m fed up and confused.

Boyfriend and I planned to move in together one day, that day was supposed to be coming up sometime this or next year. Had LOTs of ups and downs especially in the first year and a half but we are pretty much past all that. I do think we love each other but then this happens and it makes me question it all but don’t know if it’s break up worthy. So.....He supposedly is about to come up on big money over growing weed(which I do not hate in itself but not an ideal job imo just for the fact it’s weed, he dabs a lot and I don’t like it because one it’s a lot of money and two makes me feel like he just keeps wanting to zone me out or something). So anyways, I am worried about him working with those stereotypical weed girls and if they smoke together(which to me seems inappropriate if in a relationship, why would you spend time getting high with someone of the opposite sex alone, same as if I went out with guys and drank I know he would be upset) And I know those girls are his type and I don...

Opposite sex friendships are never a good idea

I’m m(23) and I’ve realized in my short life experience that life friendly relationships with the opposite sex are rarely beneficial for any party involved. There’s likely to be some degree of attraction, and that’s blind to eventually lead to an emotional affair. Or at least make your significant other very jealous. You wouldn’t want your SO unhappy, would you? Then why put him or her through such anxiety inducing situations. Emotional affairs are rampant and it’s best to just not cross any boundaries, especially if you’re fucking married. You should always confide in your spouse. If you find yourself confiding in a male friend instead of your spouse, you are having an emotional affair. I’d suggest to break it off if you have an opposite sex friend you are even remotely attracted to. Even if you really aren’t. ESPECIALLY if they’re an ex. Relationships with ex’s are never a good idea and are super unhealthy. Tl;dr: it’s a bad idea to have an opposite sex friend, and stay far away fr...

Ya boi is an aromantic, how do I get lots of sex?

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Any people who work in skilled trades/ blue collar? We made a NSFW subreddit just for you

I hope this is okay to post here. I've noticed from browsing NSFW subreddits you find so many different kinds of NSFW content. Gonewild subreddits are huge, so a buddy of mine pitched a new one called r/tradiesgonewild . It's for skilled trades people to share NSFW content and discussions. It'd be great if we could get traffic to it and hopefully get more blue collar people posting there. I'm a female mechanic who loves fellow tradesmen so this is great place to meet and talk to other tradies. If we can get more people posting of course. Submitted January 13, 2020 at 11:42PM I hope this is okay to post here. I've noticed from browsing NSFW subreddits you find so many different kinds of NSFW content. Gonewild subreddits are huge, so a buddy of mine pitched a new one called r/tradiesgonewild. It's for skilled trades people to share NSFW content and discussions. It'd be great if we could get traffic to it and hopefully get more blue collar people posting...

Never had sex that doesn’t hurt

I (20F) have had sex 3 times, as well as tried and failed 3 times. The first attempt was a fail. The second attempt was when I lost my virginity, but it hurt the whole time and I eventually had to ask the guy to stop. The third attempt was another fail because he said my vagina was just not letting him in (possibly because it was remembering how badly my first time hurt and it didn’t wanna go through that again, who knows). The fourth time he was able to get his penis in and, after the pain from initial penetration, it actually started to feel good but we stopped before either of us could come because he was uncomfortable in that position (really not sure why we didn’t try another one, oh well). The fifth time he was able to get it in again, but it hurt almost as badly as the first time and I actually bled so that was a bit jarring. Finally, the last time I tried was with a new guy, and yet again he couldn’t even get his penis in so we gave up. Also interesting to note is that the on...

Does anybody love the swapping spit aspect of deep kissing?

My partner and I aren't willingly lugeying in each other's mouth, but it's a nice subtle thing Submitted January 13, 2020 at 11:50PM My partner and I aren't willingly lugeying in each other's mouth, but it's a nice subtle thing

Overly high sex drive

Looking for some advice, in the last few months my sex drive has more than tripled. I have had some bouts of depression in the past following some bad surgeries (failed/left with lasting issues) which I feel put a damper on my sex drive to begin with. But a few months ago my sex drive came back with a vengeance... Just curious if this has happened to anyone else and what have you done to temper it. I like being in the mood but there is a time and a place and I find myself fantasizing about my husband and different scenarios more often than not. Submitted January 13, 2020 at 11:51PM Looking for some advice, in the last few months my sex drive has more than tripled. I have had some bouts of depression in the past following some bad surgeries (failed/left with lasting issues) which I feel put a damper on my sex drive to begin with. But a few months ago my sex drive came back with a vengeance... Just curious if this has happened to anyone else and what have you done to temper it. I ...

Should I hire a prostitute?

I'd like to preface that sex work here is perfectly legal, and I have contact with ones that aren't exploited by anyone (self employed). I (22M) am very shy irl, I suffer from a severe anxiety disorder, and as a result, I am being extremely sex starved, and approaching any girls makes me really really nervous. I've heard that hiring one helps mitigate those issues, and it also boost confidence or something. On the other hand, there's also the social stigma that comes with it hiring one, and being with one. And I heard some people say the first time is better once the person you're doing it with is actually close to you. For that matter, should I do it? Or should I keep waiting for an opportunity? Submitted January 13, 2020 at 11:54PM I'd like to preface that sex work here is perfectly legal, and I have contact with ones that aren't exploited by anyone (self employed).I (22M) am very shy irl, I suffer from a severe anxiety disorder, and as a result, ...

What is “that thing you like”?

Everybody has that thing they like. What is it for you or your partner? Submitted January 13, 2020 at 11:59PM Everybody has that thing they like. What is it for you or your partner?

Sex is amazing When you connect with that physical, mental and emotional attraction

Sex is and can be amazing but when you connect with someone physically, mentally and emotionally, it just brings sex to a whole new level, love those levels of love and connection :) Submitted January 14, 2020 at 12:00AM Sex is and can be amazing but when you connect with someone physically, mentally and emotionally, it just brings sex to a whole new level, love those levels of love and connection :)

Women of this sub, what would make you said you had the best sex?

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Throat Cancer from Kissing and Cunilingus?

Val Kilmer has grown cancer in his throat from licking pussy. How much at risk am I of getting throat cancer from licking pussy and french kissing? I'm 34. Submitted January 14, 2020 at 12:04AM Val Kilmer has grown cancer in his throat from licking pussy. How much at risk am I of getting throat cancer from licking pussy and french kissing? I'm 34.

Am scared I might be gay

Okay so I am out as a bi teenage girl (18 and been out since 15) ( family don’t know but all friends do ) being bi no longer bothers me and I’ll speak about it openly to friends of strangers however I’ve never really enjoyed sex like I like kissing men when drunk and neck kisses etc but when it comes to the actual thing I either chicken out and say am on my period or I do it because I feel like it owe it to them or I’d be a tease, am known as a flirt but I’ve always seen it as a joke and never anything serious. I don’t know if it’s a mental thing or to do with the fact I was abused as a child( physical and mental not sexual) or if am insecure about myself or if guys just don’t do it for me Submitted January 14, 2020 at 12:04AM Okay so I am out as a bi teenage girl (18 and been out since 15) ( family don’t know but all friends do ) being bi no longer bothers me and I’ll speak about it openly to friends of strangers however I’ve never really enjoyed sex like I like kissing men whe...

Getting bored with my my gf [23], starting to compare her to my ex

Outside of sex, I’m crazy in love with her. But I’m...just getting kinda bored with her, and I’m starting to compare her to my ex. Current gf just bored me. Our sex is basically her jerking me off for like 1-3 minutes, then putting my dick inside her and fucking until I or sometimes both of us cum. Oral is very rare. She very rarely lets me finger her or go down on her. There’s like no foreplay, and when I try to initiate more foreplay, she just kinda brushes it off. She also seems like she doesn’t want me to see her. Lights are always off. If we fuck during the day, she’s got the covers over her. If we do it doggy, she lays flat with her legs closed. She’s gorgeous, and I don’t know what she is ashamed of, but it’s like she’s too shy for me to see her intimate parts, and I’m a guy...I’m visual and that’s part of the turn on for me. I’ve been just thinking about me and my ex gf’s sex life recently. We never could have worked out on an emotional-connection level, but our sex life w...