Never had sex that doesn’t hurt

I (20F) have had sex 3 times, as well as tried and failed 3 times. The first attempt was a fail. The second attempt was when I lost my virginity, but it hurt the whole time and I eventually had to ask the guy to stop. The third attempt was another fail because he said my vagina was just not letting him in (possibly because it was remembering how badly my first time hurt and it didn’t wanna go through that again, who knows). The fourth time he was able to get his penis in and, after the pain from initial penetration, it actually started to feel good but we stopped before either of us could come because he was uncomfortable in that position (really not sure why we didn’t try another one, oh well). The fifth time he was able to get it in again, but it hurt almost as badly as the first time and I actually bled so that was a bit jarring. Finally, the last time I tried was with a new guy, and yet again he couldn’t even get his penis in so we gave up.

Also interesting to note is that the only position that works for me is doggy style and all of the failed attempts were missionary. I really wanna try other positions because I don’t really like doggy style, but that’s the only one that has actually allowed for penetration.

I briefly thought that I had vaginismus, but I don’t think that’s the case since I’ve been able to have sex before, and I don’t have issues with tampons or fingers (although any more than 2 fingers also hurts).

Sorry for writing an essay, but this is really frustrating and I’d appreciate some advice!

Submitted January 13, 2020 at 11:45PM

I (20F) have had sex 3 times, as well as tried and failed 3 times. The first attempt was a fail. The second attempt was when I lost my virginity, but it hurt the whole time and I eventually had to ask the guy to stop. The third attempt was another fail because he said my vagina was just not letting him in (possibly because it was remembering how badly my first time hurt and it didn’t wanna go through that again, who knows). The fourth time he was able to get his penis in and, after the pain from initial penetration, it actually started to feel good but we stopped before either of us could come because he was uncomfortable in that position (really not sure why we didn’t try another one, oh well). The fifth time he was able to get it in again, but it hurt almost as badly as the first time and I actually bled so that was a bit jarring. Finally, the last time I tried was with a new guy, and yet again he couldn’t even get his penis in so we gave up.Also interesting to note is that the only position that works for me is doggy style and all of the failed attempts were missionary. I really wanna try other positions because I don’t really like doggy style, but that’s the only one that has actually allowed for penetration.I briefly thought that I had vaginismus, but I don’t think that’s the case since I’ve been able to have sex before, and I don’t have issues with tampons or fingers (although any more than 2 fingers also hurts).Sorry for writing an essay, but this is really frustrating and I’d appreciate some advice!