I (19f) don’t know how to leave my psycho husband (21m)

I’ve realized he’s abusive and extremely controlling. We started arguing early in the morning today over something stupid. Of course, I was the first one to cave because I didn’t want to argue. I started trying to hug and kiss him, while he aggressively shoved me and pushed me away from him. Mind you, I’m 8 months pregnant. He started telling me he didn’t want shit to do with me and to leave him alone.

I immediately started crying and telling him to give me my car keys because he always hides them from me when he’s mad. He told me no, he can go with me wherever it is that I’m going. I told him to drive me to my moms house. Once there, I took some papers from my car, that he knew were divorce papers and numbers to divorce attorneys. As soon as he noticed, he took his foot off the brake of the car while I was getting out of it. Did I mention I’m pregnant? When he saw that I was able to get out of the car anyway (just barely, without falling), he put the car in park and started running after me. He threw my cellphone out of my hand onto the pavement and snatched the papers out of my hand. He took them, ran back off to the car while I stupidly chased after him even though I’m way slower than he is, and then he just sped off.

He didn’t even wait to see if anyone was home at my moms house. No one was there, so I had to wait outside in the driveway for like 20 minutes like a dumbass while I waited for my brother to come pick me up.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. We recently signed a new apartment lease together, and to top it off my brother and his kids are currently staying with us. While I waited for my brother to pick me up he called and told me that he wants everyone out of the apartment by tonight. I want so badly to just pack all of my stuff and leave to my moms house, but I know my brother won’t just stay here when he knows my husband and I are fighting, and he literally has no where else to go.

I could make my husband leave, but that would mean that I would be the one to have to worry about rent this month and I literally have $0 to my name.

I’m scared, and I know his behavior isn’t right or normal. But I also know that if I don’t leave tonight, my weak ass is gonna forgive him as soon as he comes in here with a half assed apology and it’ll all be swept under the rug once again. I would feel less guilty knowing that I gave my brother a heads up so that he has until the end of the week to find somewhere to go, but I know that my psychotic husband and I will be made up by then if I stay.

TLDR; I’m really just venting but if anyone has any advice on how to leave my abusive relationship without forgiving him in a few days, please let me know.

Submitted January 14, 2020 at 12:06AM

I’ve realized he’s abusive and extremely controlling. We started arguing early in the morning today over something stupid. Of course, I was the first one to cave because I didn’t want to argue. I started trying to hug and kiss him, while he aggressively shoved me and pushed me away from him. Mind you, I’m 8 months pregnant. He started telling me he didn’t want shit to do with me and to leave him alone.I immediately started crying and telling him to give me my car keys because he always hides them from me when he’s mad. He told me no, he can go with me wherever it is that I’m going. I told him to drive me to my moms house. Once there, I took some papers from my car, that he knew were divorce papers and numbers to divorce attorneys. As soon as he noticed, he took his foot off the brake of the car while I was getting out of it. Did I mention I’m pregnant? When he saw that I was able to get out of the car anyway (just barely, without falling), he put the car in park and started running after me. He threw my cellphone out of my hand onto the pavement and snatched the papers out of my hand. He took them, ran back off to the car while I stupidly chased after him even though I’m way slower than he is, and then he just sped off.He didn’t even wait to see if anyone was home at my moms house. No one was there, so I had to wait outside in the driveway for like 20 minutes like a dumbass while I waited for my brother to come pick me up.I just don’t know what to do anymore. We recently signed a new apartment lease together, and to top it off my brother and his kids are currently staying with us. While I waited for my brother to pick me up he called and told me that he wants everyone out of the apartment by tonight. I want so badly to just pack all of my stuff and leave to my moms house, but I know my brother won’t just stay here when he knows my husband and I are fighting, and he literally has no where else to go.I could make my husband leave, but that would mean that I would be the one to have to worry about rent this month and I literally have $0 to my name.I’m scared, and I know his behavior isn’t right or normal. But I also know that if I don’t leave tonight, my weak ass is gonna forgive him as soon as he comes in here with a half assed apology and it’ll all be swept under the rug once again. I would feel less guilty knowing that I gave my brother a heads up so that he has until the end of the week to find somewhere to go, but I know that my psychotic husband and I will be made up by then if I stay.TLDR; I’m really just venting but if anyone has any advice on how to leave my abusive relationship without forgiving him in a few days, please let me know.