What do you do when your SO just doesn’t seem to be ready for marriage and kids? When he says he wants to marry you and wants to have kids with you but still hasn’t proposed? When you know his entire family and he knows yours and it all just seems to fit? When everyone you know has been dating and engaged and then married less than you have just been dating? Is it time to break it off? What do y’all think? I know 3 years isn’t as long as some but most of our friends were together for 8 months - 2 years before they got engaged. We have had a talk about getting engaged almost a year ago and still nothing. We are going to Italy in a month and I honestly still do not have engagement vibes from him. I just want honest opinions. If he doesn’t propose on our trip in May, I think I want to break up but is that crazy? I love him so much and I want to have children with him. TLDR: Waiting for proposal and not sure if it is coming. Do I walk or do I wait it out? Submitted April 07, 2019 at ...

[29 F] so my [27 M] bf has these friends he's been close with for forever. From the start I felt like they haven't really liked me. No it's not just me saying that I have reasons. Now ever since we' started dating about 1.5 years ago I just felt like I've never been really accepted into their group. Sure I get invited to things but mostly just by extension. Now one of his friends I do have a beef with. Yes she is female but thats not the main reason. She lived with my bf for 6 months for FREE and didn't do a damn thing around his house. Didn't pick up after herself, didn't pick up after her cat etc. It pissed me off to no end that she lived there and didn't pay /do shit. Now I legit don't like her for that reason. But when I threw my boyfriend a surprise birthday party in December she didn't even have the decency to let me know she was not coming... I only found out through her friend and he didn't even directly tell me. He just happened...

So another parent (40m) and I (35f) are volunteering on a school theater project at my child's school. At the big performance, the children did extremely well, and I was so excited watching them and cheering on my child I brushed up against this other parent (we were sitting close because we were videotaping the event and both watching the viewfinder) his leg against my leg. I brushed against him more than once. I wasn't paying attention at the time enough for it to register but now thinking back I feel embarrassed and wonder if he noticed and felt like it was inappropriate. We are both married to other people and I am not attracted to him at all. But this project turned out so well I would like to volunteer on more with him. Should I mention what happened and apologize, or should I just pretend it never happened and sit further away next time? ​ TLDR: I brushed up against an acquaintance, wonder what I should do? Submitted April 07, 2019 at 05:44AM So another parent (...

tl;dr -- I was "ghosted" by my boyfriend after years of being in a relationship. How do I move on? An argument led to him completely moving out the same day and cutting all communication a week later. There was no conversation or any sort of closure. There was hope of a discussion right before all ties were cut, but he didn't fall through with it and stopped any sort of speaking that day. I don't know how to pick myself up after this and move on. I still deeply care and love this man, and find myself not even able to go home at night because I know I'll have to sleep in our bed, alone. I've been in long relationships since high school and this is my first major breakup, as someone in their mid twenties, and I don't know the best route to take, to get out of this depressing obsessed with my ex funk.. Any help, or advice, would be great. Submitted April 07, 2019 at 05:47AM tl;dr -- I was "ghosted" by my boyfriend after years of being in ...

My ex and I were together for nearly 2 years before I ended it back in January. We loved each other so much, but there were definitely ups and downs, with a lot of the issues being because of me and a lot of my own personal issues. I was immature, selfish, and always defensive. I would do the things I wanted to do, and when my partner got upset with me, I would spin it so that somehow I was the victim and he was the jerk for being upset. I felt jealous of how many friends he had, and how I really only had him after a falling out with my friend group. I put him on the back burner to the rest of my life because I expected him to eventually forgive me. It was so horribly wrong and I realized how toxic I was, but I can honestly say that I have been trying to be better. In spite of everything I did, he still loved me furiously. He still wanted to see me, be with me, do things for me, etc. He was a great partner to me, but because of how I acted, he started to resent me to the point of bei...

I've been extremely M.I.A on here, due to that fact that it's my junior year in High School and i've been slacking a lot on my work. I'm behind on a lot of work and i'm slowing tryna make that work up. Which reduces my time on here, as well as my ability to continue my stories since a lot has been on my mind. Basically, to cut this sob story short... I've come on here to seek some advice and different point of views of a current situation i'm in. I've been dating this boy, for a year, who meant the word to me. We would see each other almost everyday and created this unbreakable bond, so i thought. Of course, in relationships people argue and get upset with each other. Well, him and I got into an argument and decided to take a break; we agreed it would be good for the both of us. During this break, i slipped up... in a way. A mutual friend of mines introduced me to this boy who i met a few times but never actually had a conversation with. One day ...

Alright so my girlfriend since sophomore year in high school recently came out to me a asexual the other night and a long with that she also said that she'll still have sex with me but she's just not really into that and that it's ok that if I wanted to sleep with another girl occasionally (sex only of course) that it's fine. Now I've always had a bunch that she didn't really like sex all that much ( out of maybe the 10 times we did it she enjoyed it maybe twice) but I just kind of brushed off, but for her to straight up tell me she's asexual and that she's fine with me banging other girls is crazy and quite frankly I don't know what too do. Now while I'm kind of tempted to take the chance I really love my gf and even though said gave me permission I still don't want to hurt her. So in short, What should I do? (TL;DR: M Gf is asexual and is fine with me sleeping with other girls. I kind of want to take her offer up but I love her and I don...

So this is my first reddit post ever. Not sure if anyone will respond but obviously I'm optimistic enough to ask this. Essentially, I (male, age 21) like this girl (female, age 21) from my school. She's off on some sorority event and not here on campus right now. We barely text each other, only for class related stuff, but are in the same major in college. I like her. I definitely have a crush on her. Might be cheesy but she gives me butterflies when I see her in class. Never had a serious girlfriend though but she is single and seems like such a good/nice person. I'm drunk right now but am wondering what I should do. We both graduate this Spring and will likely never see each other again. However, we still have class together until then so whatever happens, I will have to see her every week until we graduate. Should I text her or what? Again, I'm drunk so this is the most confidence I'll have, which could be a good thing (or bad thing) if I want to actually make a...

Let me start off by saying this is my first post in the sub and I don't really have any other outlet for this kind of emotion. My S/O was my outlet for emotions like this and she, over the course of 4 months at the start of this year, said she was breaking up with me. This girl means the world to me. All that I want is for her to be happy and safe and know that she is loved. In January she broke up with me in person and later told me (via text) that she wanted it to be temporary and that she needed time to grow and figure herself out. I was very clear and upfront that I did not want to break up and that I would try my hardest to improve or fix any of my shortcomings. Couple months go by, we have been talking consistently via text and she tells me that she wants to break up for good. I really don't know how to handle being told by the person you love and admire and want to be with that they no longer want to be with you. I started to panic and ask questions and try to hold t...

I [15F] have basically had the same friendship group for the past three years. It has been a mess and I was only truly happy in my group for a small amount of time. Besides than, I've just felt like I'm alone. The way the group was 'created' was in a very toxic way. Originally, I had one close friend [14F] who I will call T. She was nice at first but everything seemed a bit forced in our friendship and we got to a point where I was getting really hurt by the things she would say to me. I met my other friend, L [15F] soon after I started feeling that way so I tried to move from T to L (it sounds bad but I was suffering a lot in the friendship). Once again, it started off well but eventually I felt like I was her personal slave and like o was being taken advantage of. I would always buy her food, do what she wanted and I even forced my self into anime in order to keep her as my friend. When I realised it wasn't worth it, I thought that I was too harsh on T and we fi...

So I'll just try and jump right into it. A few weeks ago I started to notice my wife was breaking her normal routine. What used to be nights where we would cuddle and talk was no longer happening, at one point I even got sick where I was sleeping on the touch pretty much all day and I think my wife never even bothered to check on me cept twice, not saying I need a nanny just something that I noticed as uncharacteristic. What has replaced our normal nightly cuddle and talks has been her playing video games with friends. A slight backstory, her and I have struggled with this before, I tend to argue she plays games a bit too much, so much that I feel like we dont get enough time together, her routine is fairly often, get home, shower, play video games pretty much until she goes to bed. Generally I stay up later as I get to work later but sometimes I am exhausted and want to crash earlier, every time I did that she would pretty much ignore the fact im going to bed and just continue ...

Me and my girlfriend dated for 4 months after matching on bumble. We are in a official relationship for 3 months now and it has been a fun ride. When we started dating we used to talk about anything and everything and we did not get bored with each other. It has became our thing to talk daily about random stuffs and daily happenings. Though last week, she stated that I bore her and we dont share any common interest, but she still loves me. I don't know what to do with that information. Another thing that concerns me is our sexual compatibility. She used to be in fubu/fwb setups. Everytime she tells story from her past, it was her who initiated the sex. After our first time doing it, she never initiated. We had a talk about it, her reason was being tired, but when I am initiating at times she is not tired, she is still not into it. What should I do? I had lots of talk with her, but was not able to get any solution or we are really not just compatible? TL,DR: I think we are havi...

I hooked up with a co worker (Gabby) for over a month and a half, until she ghosted me. She was going through a conflict with her sexuality, and didn't know what to say to me. I was going through burning out from working and school, and I had a close friend pass away unexpectedly. I moved on, and after time, we became cool enough to still work with each other. Gabby's bestfriend (Alice) is now one of our bosses. Within the first month, she told me "my friends are your friends so that means were friends now." I didn't know how to take it, since Gabby and I never hung out after she ghosted me, and I was on ok terms with her other friends (they have this strong core among four of them). One night, I got some drunk texts from both of them, trying to get me to go out to the bars. Alice and I continued to text each other, and I mentioned grabbing a beer since we live close by. She said we could only hang out through her friends, because shes my boss now and "ther...

My (22F) and my SO (37M) recently took a “break”/pause in our relationship. I’m hurting so much but not too sure if i want to go back to him or relish in the pain so it’ll be gone faster. He says we need to re-evaluate things in a week... he needs time to get things done. He says there’s three options 1) Never talk again 2) Be FWB or 3) continue in partnership without fighting constantly. He wants the FWB but i think it’s selfish and only he would ever benefit from it. He says he doesn’t want to lose me cause i’m “his best friend, the person he talks to everyday, the most compatible person he’s been with, and the only person he cares about in this world”. I want to reach out cause I miss him so darn much but do I wait? (7 whole more days) What do I do? Thoughts? td;lr: my SO (and me i guess) wanted/are taking a break. What do i do? Submitted April 07, 2019 at 06:46AM My (22F) and my SO (37M) recently took a “break”/pause in our relationship. I’m hurting so much but not too sure...

A little backstory; My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We've had our ups and downs as most relationships do but here lately I've been getting an uneasy feeling when we're together. We live together with 2 kids, 3 and 8 months and everything seems fine on the outside. We both suffer from anxiety and are both have medication to help, I take mine but as of a few months ago she stopped taking hers alrogether. Anytime I bring up that she looks anxious she brushes it off and blames it on work or says she doesn't notice it. She doesn't make eye contact with me much anymore and our sex life has almost disappeared entirely. If I initiate something she will but it feels as if she just does it so I will leave her alone. She's on her phone quite a bit and recently received a 2nd phone for her job (traveling nurse). I've tried to brush it off especially after she said I was being paranoid and am insecure with myself. Lately I've been feeling ...

I met this guy online about two months ago and we really hit it off. Surprisingly he flew out to see me for a week and just went home yesterday. He took me on really expensive dates and we had sex a few times. I thought things were going well until today I asked him if he liked my body. He said mostly. I asked what that meant and he was hesitant and said that he didnt want to be mean. Immediately I knew what he was going to say but just wanted to hear it from his mouth. He said I "could afford to lose some weight". I know I'm overweight. I'm working on it and he knows this. I've lost 20lbs so far and I've told him about it before. I even told him that I had an abusive ex that used to put me down about my appearance (even when I wasnt overweight). I've been having a hard time because I have severe bipolar disorder and have been having difficulty just trying to live. I've even lost more weight because I've been too depressed to eat or get out of be...

So I’ve been with this guy for over a year. When we first met, he told me that he liked submissive women and it’s what he wants. I consider myself submissive so it seemed to work out great. I thought everything was going good until he wanted to have a talk a few days ago. His concerns is that I haven’t been submissive enough lately. He’s worried I’ve gotten too comfortable in the relationship to care about his needs. He wants me to work on it so he doesn’t have to leave Sometimes it sucks to hear but I admire that he’s always honest. I really want to work on this relationship because I can’t imagine my life without him. I’m just not sure what more I can do. Sometimes I do things just to make him happy, I get that relationships require sacrifices but I question if it’s healthy? How can I fix this relationship? Tl;dr: BF says I’m not submissive enough. I love him and want to work on it. How can I do that? Submitted April 07, 2019 at 06:50AM So I’ve been with this guy for over a...

First, he is the brother of my best friend (19F) and she hates him a lot. I’m afraid she’s hate me too once I admit I like her brother. Second, my mom is preventing me from liking him because he has ADHD. I don’t care but my mom does and she has been getting mad at me and screaming at me because of it. Lastly, I’m afraid that if we don’t work out, my friendship with my friend will become awkward and distant. TL;DR: I like this guy but he is my bff’s most hated brother (so she might hate me) and my mom hates the fact that he has ADHD. Submitted April 07, 2019 at 06:55AM First, he is the brother of my best friend (19F) and she hates him a lot. I’m afraid she’s hate me too once I admit I like her brother.Second, my mom is preventing me from liking him because he has ADHD. I don’t care but my mom does and she has been getting mad at me and screaming at me because of it.Lastly, I’m afraid that if we don’t work out, my friendship with my friend will become awkward and distant.TL;DR...

Hi there, r/relationships . LTL, FTP, sorry for formatting issues, etc. This got kind of long (oops), tldr at the end. My D(dear) Husband and I don’t drink very often any more, probably have more than a couple drinks once or twice a month at most. This is partly because we live on the rural outskirts of our city, so we either need to find somewhere to stay in the city or one of us has to DD. We generally do a good job of splitting DD duties, and I truly don’t mind doing it - I can have just as much fun without drinking - but when it’s my turn to drive my husband just gets...well, sloppy. Tonight he dumped a drink down the front of my dress while trying to do something “funny,” last time he started crying in the bar we were at because “some day our dog will die.” A few times he’s peed in our closet thinking it’s the bathroom. He likes to chirp at passers-by and sometimes has to be wrangled. The truly frustrating part is that he becomes paranoid and self-pitying every time - it always ...

When you love someone, they become a part of who you are. They're in everything you do. They're in the air you breathe, the water you drink, and the blood in your veins. Their touch stays on your skin, their voice stays in your ears, and their thoughts stay in your mind. You know their dreams because their nightmares pierce your heart, and their good dreams are your dreams too. And you don't think they're perfect, but you know their flaws, the deep-down truth of them, and the shadows of all their secrets. And they don't frighten you away; in fact you love them more for it, because you don't want perfect. You want them. Submitted April 06, 2019 at 01:17PM When you love someone, they become a part of who you are. They're in everything you do. They're in the air you breathe, the water you drink, and the blood in your veins. Their touch stays on your skin, their voice stays in your ears, and their thoughts stay in your mind. You know their dreams beca...

Sometimes “The One” isn’t always that person you meet, fall in love with, marry, have kids with and grow old together. Sometimes “The One” is a person you only know for a short time and then you part ways. They come into your life and they’re not like any other and they come to mean so much in the brief moments you spend with them. You fall so long, deep, and hard that there’s no way you’d ever fall for anyone else again. Not like this. That’s “The One”. You may not grow old together. You may not take the usual path couples take. You may not even be a couple. But they are and always will be “The One”. Submitted April 06, 2019 at 02:48PM Sometimes “The One” isn’t always that person you meet, fall in love with, marry, have kids with and grow old together. Sometimes “The One” is a person you only know for a short time and then you part ways. They come into your life and they’re not like any other and they come to mean so much in the brief moments you spend with them. You fall so lo...

Is it possible just to fall in love with the idea of a person, and not the person themself? Submitted April 06, 2019 at 02:50PM Is it possible just to fall in love with the idea of a person, and not the person themself?

We used to be together...everyday... every evening ... our days were incomplete without meeting each other... His warmth was always with me.. the way he used to hold me...loved me...his warmth was the solution of every problem..it was my escape from everything... he is my escape from everything...and then life happened...now We are miles away from each other... different cities... different goals ....chasing dreams... Making a stable career.... i guess this is what it takes... We talk everyday... Video call everyday... Thanks to technology that at least we can feel a little better... Emotionally he's with me... Always.... Just that warmth....his touch.... Being close to him.. these carvings Kills me everyday...as the sun goes down... I can feel him under my skin... You took my whole heart with you... I love you a lot baby..... 💓 Submitted April 06, 2019 at 03:29PM We used to be together...everyday... every evening ... our days were incomplete without meeting each other... H...

Hi people of reddit, yesterday I learned that my girlfriend cheated on me with her friend. Its been a couple of months and I felt she was distant with me, awkward and couldnt look intoo my eyes as she use too. I talked to her about it, she sais that everything was okay. That she still loved me. After a couple od months of paranoïa and feeling depressed I decides too take a different approach and talk to her quietly without any judgement. I ask her if the relationship between her and her friend was platonic... She said no, I felt as if my hearth was about too jump out of my chest but I controlled it and said to her with all the love that I had left in me that if she loved her then to stay with her. When she told me that she loved her wich was one of the most painful emotion I have ever felt. She wantes me to stay with her but the paranoia would just be getting worst and worst and I would feel miserable. We cried in each others arms until 2 am. I feel miserable and lost but glad that sh...

According to buddist philosophy love is a wicked desire of our own selfish fullfillment therefore romantic love rarely exists. I agree with this mostly. I still hope some of my exs are doing great even though I will never see them again so there can't be a selfish desire where I gain nothing, then there are a couple of my exs not so much. I did love a couple of them dearly we were simply incompatible. I just went through this. It made me want to drink hard that he wasn't showing any effort to spend time with me nor care to explain why he had been MIA. He also made it sound like I was 4 yrs old. There were other problems that ranged from sex addiction to self esteem. I'm super over that crap. Sorry just venting. So I had to get away. I feel much better now just saying. I am not giving up. I have a date with a guy named Danny. Danny boy like my audition song. Danny boy was also my grandmothers favorite song. It has very little relevance only coincidentally. I've never da...

At what point did you realise you loved your SO, and do you think time plays a role in that change? Submitted April 06, 2019 at 05:46PM At what point did you realise you loved your SO, and do you think time plays a role in that change?

First thank you for reading this. Well a few days ago I could see my girl and every time we look at each other we always give each other a big hug as we move slowly side by side she and I always ask ourselves what it was like to wake up? And what if I dream something? At the time of asking me this last we both said if a big smile was drawn on our faces was ineffable to ask what it was she said to me: “I dreamed that you were with your ex-girlfriend (my ex-girlfriend was very toxic and a crazy fucked and the whole story to my girl when we met) in your Instagram stories “his face was taken and it hurt as much as his smile vanished curiously I also dreamed that she was in a picture with her ex boyfriend and I told her, after there was a silence but I took his hands and said “Hey? I would not exchange you for anything, and much less for my ex-girlfriend she is only star dust and your universe my universe “I love when her cheeks are blushing white are so sweet I gave her several kisses aft...