Guy (28M) I've (22F) been seeing for the past couple of months told me I need to lose weight

I met this guy online about two months ago and we really hit it off. Surprisingly he flew out to see me for a week and just went home yesterday. He took me on really expensive dates and we had sex a few times. I thought things were going well until today I asked him if he liked my body. He said mostly. I asked what that meant and he was hesitant and said that he didnt want to be mean. Immediately I knew what he was going to say but just wanted to hear it from his mouth. He said I "could afford to lose some weight".

I know I'm overweight. I'm working on it and he knows this. I've lost 20lbs so far and I've told him about it before. I even told him that I had an abusive ex that used to put me down about my appearance (even when I wasnt overweight). I've been having a hard time because I have severe bipolar disorder and have been having difficulty just trying to live. I've even lost more weight because I've been too depressed to eat or get out of bed. This he also knows. I made sure that before he saw me he knew about my weight. I sent pictures and he said it was not a problem at all.

I blocked him and am no longer speaking with him. Was I right to end it or am I overreacting?

TLDR: guy I've been dating for two months told me I needed to lose weight and I ended it.



Submitted April 07, 2019 at 06:49AM

I met this guy online about two months ago and we really hit it off. Surprisingly he flew out to see me for a week and just went home yesterday. He took me on really expensive dates and we had sex a few times. I thought things were going well until today I asked him if he liked my body. He said mostly. I asked what that meant and he was hesitant and said that he didnt want to be mean. Immediately I knew what he was going to say but just wanted to hear it from his mouth. He said I "could afford to lose some weight".I know I'm overweight. I'm working on it and he knows this. I've lost 20lbs so far and I've told him about it before. I even told him that I had an abusive ex that used to put me down about my appearance (even when I wasnt overweight). I've been having a hard time because I have severe bipolar disorder and have been having difficulty just trying to live. I've even lost more weight because I've been too depressed to eat or get out of bed. This he also knows. I made sure that before he saw me he knew about my weight. I sent pictures and he said it was not a problem at all.I blocked him and am no longer speaking with him. Was I right to end it or am I overreacting?TLDR: guy I've been dating for two months told me I needed to lose weight and I ended it.
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