Trying to ask out a guy[21M] I [23F] unintentionally rejected.

I'm very clueless about dating and flirting. I grew up in a Christian environment where flirting was discouraged. I also just didn't get noticed by guys my age until recently.

There's a guy in my class who I thought was just friendly and liked talking to new people. I also had never been noticed that way by men outside my race. Now that I have some hindsight, I think he made it very obvious that he was interested in me. He'd always try to catch my eye across the room and in hallways or I'd catch him checking me out. He did try to talk to me a few times and even sat next to me once, but I started avoiding him because I found my interest in him annoying (I had vowed to be single forever). I have a feeling he eventually wanted to try to ask me out, but I never really gave him a chance.

I think he's dating someone, because I overheard him talking about relationships and someone wished him good luck. I wouldn't be surprised if he has because he basically spent 8 months doing the things I mentioned. I don't know how many millennials are willing to wait that long for someone with all the dating apps available. Given all of that, I still want to ask him out because I don't want to regret it. At this point, I don't even care if he rejects me.

Unfortunately, the last time I'll see him is on Tuesday, during our final exam. I can't guarantee that I'd be able to talk to him after the final. The other problem is he always goes tp the train with his friend (my classmate). For some reason, I feel awkward expressing any interest in him when she's around. I don't even know what to say if I did catch him.

My other option is to add him on Facebook, but he just recently reactivated his account and it doesn't have much. Would this be awkward or should I let it go if I don't get the chance on Tuesday?

Submitted April 07, 2019 at 06:06AM

I'm very clueless about dating and flirting. I grew up in a Christian environment where flirting was discouraged. I also just didn't get noticed by guys my age until recently.There's a guy in my class who I thought was just friendly and liked talking to new people. I also had never been noticed that way by men outside my race. Now that I have some hindsight, I think he made it very obvious that he was interested in me. He'd always try to catch my eye across the room and in hallways or I'd catch him checking me out. He did try to talk to me a few times and even sat next to me once, but I started avoiding him because I found my interest in him annoying (I had vowed to be single forever). I have a feeling he eventually wanted to try to ask me out, but I never really gave him a chance.I think he's dating someone, because I overheard him talking about relationships and someone wished him good luck. I wouldn't be surprised if he has because he basically spent 8 months doing the things I mentioned. I don't know how many millennials are willing to wait that long for someone with all the dating apps available. Given all of that, I still want to ask him out because I don't want to regret it. At this point, I don't even care if he rejects me.Unfortunately, the last time I'll see him is on Tuesday, during our final exam. I can't guarantee that I'd be able to talk to him after the final. The other problem is he always goes tp the train with his friend (my classmate). For some reason, I feel awkward expressing any interest in him when she's around. I don't even know what to say if I did catch him.My other option is to add him on Facebook, but he just recently reactivated his account and it doesn't have much. Would this be awkward or should I let it go if I don't get the chance on Tuesday?