I put ‘cool (っ◔◡◔)っ ♥’ as my answer in the other section lol. October 03, 2021 at 11:45PM

It sounds like considering you're all girls, and there are so many spaces in which women talking about sex has received negative reactions/slut shaming/etc, your friends are probably just feeling defensive because it IS a topic that has made a lot of girls feel criticized or dirty. I get what YOU'RE saying and feel similarly, but it's probably just them feeling like you're judging them since historically this is a sensitive topic (that women can talk about sex and taking charge of their bodies etc). I'd say they probably take the repulsive responses to mean you're grossed out by them and their choices-- not just the concept of it at all. And maybe that can be a discussion you have with them, at some point. October 03, 2021 at 11:39PM

However you end up asexual it's valid, but in this case you might just be afraid of sex. If you are allo, you'll eventually find someone that you will have good experiences with. If not, that's okay too. October 03, 2021 at 11:39PM

If you don't like the idea of sex and don't think you'll ever want to have sex you're probably ace. And that's great! If it turns out later down the road you do feel sexual you might be allo. And that's great! I will say that asexuality is a spectrum, meaning some asexuals masturbate or have sex for the purpose of procreation. Being ace just means that you don't have a sexual attraction for other people. I hope you figure this out OP 💜 October 03, 2021 at 11:34PM

Not heterosexuals, allosexuals. October 03, 2021 at 11:28PM

I’m 18F and I literally have no experience in sexual situations. I’ve never even seen a penis in person. I have someone to have sex and all the precursors with, but is there a way to take it slowly? I have pretty severe anxiety and I don’t want to end up freaking out Submitted October 04, 2021 at 12:28AM I’m 18F and I literally have no experience in sexual situations. I’ve never even seen a penis in person.I have someone to have sex and all the precursors with, but is there a way to take it slowly? I have pretty severe anxiety and I don’t want to end up freaking out

So I just found out about r/ThroughTheFly and you don't know how long I've been trying to find content like this. Is there like an alternative name for this kind of stuff? Also idk if this is the right subreddit, I just don't know where else to ask. Submitted October 04, 2021 at 12:46AM So I just found out about r/ThroughTheFly and you don't know how long I've been trying to find content like this. Is there like an alternative name for this kind of stuff?Also idk if this is the right subreddit, I just don't know where else to ask.

Hi I wanted some honest feedback from women so I am making this post. To keep a long story short: I am a 28 year old male. 6+ years ago I sustained an injury to my penis that has caused me some dysfunction down there. I won't get into details of the condition but it does not have much medical research on it and the best course of treatment is medication. I sometimes feel severely depressed. My only saving grace is my symptoms are not as bad as some others I have spoken to but it still severely distresses me sometimes. Basically, I sometimes lose my erection during intercourse and my erections feel uncomfortable. The intercourse can vary from great to poor. Basically I may be good 70-75% of the time and poor or meh 20-25% of the time. There have been times where my erections are great for 2-3x in a night but then times where I can barely get past 5 minutes. Cialis works well but I try to avoid taking it all the time. I sometimes feel like I will have no kids or a wife which is s...

...you don't cum in their mouth? I don't think It is. If you don't cum in their mouth, it's just foreplay or a bit of sucking. Submitted October 04, 2021 at 12:50AM ...you don't cum in their mouth? I don't think It is. If you don't cum in their mouth, it's just foreplay or a bit of sucking.

Sometimes during sex I squirt, and it makes a huge mess. I get embarrassed and ashamed, and I wish I didn't do it. I try to prevent before it happens by doing kegels, closing my legs, etc., but it feels impossible to stop once I get there . Any suggestions? It really bothers me. Submitted October 04, 2021 at 12:53AM Sometimes during sex I squirt, and it makes a huge mess. I get embarrassed and ashamed, and I wish I didn't do it. I try to prevent before it happens by doing kegels, closing my legs, etc., but it feels impossible to stop once I get there. Any suggestions? It really bothers me.

Have a criminal record, how do I begin…? 32M Canada. Just released from prison, was arrested for non violent/non drug related charges. I had a relationship that deteriorated due to me being arrested, and experienced a lot while incarcerated for 3 years. I’ve been working on myself, and prefer to be in a relationship as opposed to the bachelor routine. My issue is that I’m not sure how to broach this topic when meeting women, I’m afraid that they will immediately be discouraged from interacting with me because of my past. I’m a tall, reasonably good looking male, own my own business and home, and was caught up in this mess due to bad decisions I made. How would you react if someone you were dealing with said they were recently released from prison? What’s the best way to broach the topic? I won’t lie, and I won’t be deceitful if my past. I’m concerned enough about having to start dating again at this point in life, let along with this issue on the board. How would you feel? What’s the...

So I met this guys at a wedding a little over a week ago (I was bridesmaid and he was a groomsman). He made the first move on me on the Friday before the wedding. We spent the entire night talking and only got two hours of sleep. The next day at the wedding we spent almost the whole reception together and he insisted on taking photos with me. We spent the entire night again talking and cuddling. Before we fell asleep he told me he wanted my number before we both left on that Sunday. He lives 4 hours away from me and we both live in big cities. Over the last few days he hasn’t really texted and has stopped responding mid convo. I don’t know if I should just give up now or see it through for a little longer. The day after the wedding he said he couldn’t wait to come visit but it hasn’t come up again since. Am I being irrational for expecting more consistent texting or is this a sign he’s not actually interested? Submitted October 03, 2021 at 11:57PM So I met this guys at a wedding...

I’m so confused. We started hanging out at the end of July. Went on a couple of dates.. after we kissed for the first time he sent a large bouquet of flowers home. That was the sweetest thing ever. He called me over to his cousins house for dinner, and we continued meeting, chilling, making out until the end of august. However, we met once the entire month of September. We made plans to spend time in a hotel room and do a little staycation (and push the limit on how physically intimate we had gotten so far). That was his idea. He wanted to do it. He made the booking. And then last minute.. he cancelled because he had “too much going on” I flat out asked if he was losing interest in the situation and he said no.. it was just work etc. but we hardly talk anymore. He hasn’t rescheduled. It feels like it’s just dying a slow death. Sooo.. I downloaded bumble and said ok, back to the drawing board I guess. I saw the same guy on bumble.. swiped right, and now we matched. Lol. He even used hi...

I've been texting someone pretty much all day every day for the past four weeks, three weeks ago we had our first date. It was lovely, we got on well and had a mutual spark, no obvious red flags.. we've still been texting all day every day and he's reassured me that he likes me and wants to see me but keeps saying he's busy. He only lives 10 miles from me. If he doesn't want a second date why doesn't he just say? Looking for all types of opinions, I'd really like to know the psychological reasoning behind men doing this, it's very very confusing. Submitted October 04, 2021 at 12:11AM I've been texting someone pretty much all day every day for the past four weeks, three weeks ago we had our first date. It was lovely, we got on well and had a mutual spark, no obvious red flags.. we've still been texting all day every day and he's reassured me that he likes me and wants to see me but keeps saying he's busy. He only lives 10 miles from...

I just want some advice. I’ve never had a girlfriend before. I feel like every time I talk to someone, they don’t show the same interest as I am invested in them. I look back to all the girls I’ve ever talked to and they all really didn’t seem to care. I know I’m ugly and too nice for some people but damn. I can’t help but feel hopeless and now being 22 I just feel really lonely. I’ve tried dating apps but never get any swipes or likes back. At my job it’s mostly just older people and the young people leave because the job is difficult. I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m never gonna be with anyone in the end. Most girls just don’t take me seriously and it hurts. They kinda just laugh and grin whenever I approach them and nicely say no. I feel like that’s always the response I get. I feel like a joke. Submitted October 04, 2021 at 12:11AM I just want some advice. I’ve never had a girlfriend before. I feel like every time I talk to someone, they don’t show the same in...

Congratulations. I’ll give it a shot. I’m happy things worked out for y’all. ☺️ October 03, 2021 at 11:23PM

The problem with how a lot of people view sexual liberation and how it relates to feminist theory is that people correlate expressing sexuality with being progressive. What is truly important is that it's a choice. If people are uncomfortable with sex for any reason it is totally valid for them to express that as well and people should be understanding. October 03, 2021 at 11:17PM

I used to think I was being a prude when I was repulsed by conversations about certain sexual topics. But I realized I wasn't being repulsed by the idea of people doing those things, but that they would talk so openly about it. Shouldn't those sexual conversations be just between the people actually involved in those things? Sexual liberation doesn't mean gossiping about everything you do in private. If that's the same for you, maybe explaining that to them might help. October 03, 2021 at 11:16PM

Miyamoto Musashi from the manga Vagabond. October 03, 2021 at 11:10PM

You can know if you feel sexual attraction or not. If you don't, you're ace. If you do, you could be allo. If you do sometimes you could be grey ace. October 03, 2021 at 11:09PM