So lets say its real. I have been living for 27 years and never have sexual interest 🤣 sorry gangs my days are counted hehe /jk im just ace lol June 09, 2021 at 12:06AM

Okay legit I found this subreddit today to learn more and I can even say this guy is ignorant and completely inaccurate June 09, 2021 at 12:04AM

Parvati from the Outer Worlds game is an amazing, clearly homoromantic asexual character, and they never use "asexual" at all. What she says, hesitantly, is that she's not in... physical stuff. In context, she's clearly about hugging and touching, which makes it clear that it's sex that she's talking about. She was masterfully written, with a biromantic ace on the team that wrote her. The best ace character I've ever seen. (See her romantic arc here .) June 09, 2021 at 12:04AM

As an ace and aro lesbian, yes you are allowed ;) June 09, 2021 at 12:04AM

Honestly it almost sounds like purposeful ignorance. She sounds hypersexual and extra pro-sex (which isn't bad on it's own, but it sounds like she's pushing her own view to dismiss any other definition). June 09, 2021 at 12:03AM

I’m so sad and angry on your behalf right now. I think the most important thing you can do is decide if you want to continue in a relationship that’s so one-sided. Give yourself time to digest first. He’s been lying to you for years. Is it possible there have been other lies? This reminded me of a (bad) relationship I was in once where I was so in love that when the guy told me he didn’t love me and probably never would, I stayed, and it was the worst decision of my life. (I even had a little voice inside my head saying, ‘I deserve better than this’ yet didn’t listen). He was using me and I refused to see it for a long time... Long story short... if he’s just with you out of attraction then it sounds like he’s using you for sex and you’re not getting what you need out of a partner. Never mind what will happen as you get older. You need to take care of yourself first. June 09, 2021 at 12:00AM

uhh my mom told me it was just a phase, my friends are great and made my disco nickname ‘fuck the letters’. it’s a great excuse to shoot down people who asked me out. for me it just exists ig. June 08, 2021 at 11:57PM

There are plenty of panromantic asexuals, so it wouldn’t be too out of the ordinary for you to be a pan graysexual. June 08, 2021 at 11:56PM

I really like this approach. It's important to realize that many people have different levels of interest in the different kinds of attractions: romantic, sensual, sexual, etc. This is kind of obvious because of asexuals and aromantics, but it doesn't have to be taken to that extreme. Just... less in one, more in the other. Totally valid. June 08, 2021 at 11:53PM

Yeah, my body seems to want to get horny for the sole reason THAT I HAVENT BEEN HORNY FOR A COUPLE HOURS! June 08, 2021 at 11:53PM

I'm so sorry that your so called "friends" of the time shut you down. You did not disserve that. June 08, 2021 at 11:48PM

It's worth mentioning that "born eunichs" are often Intersex, rather than asexual. Intersex is when someone is born with oddly formed genitals, usually non-functioning. Intersex have even less visibility than asexuals. June 08, 2021 at 11:47PM

Omg, I don't really know what to say. I totally understand the importance of the "who we are" part and as someone who's awfully talkative and rambly when I talk about my passions (not all that good at listening to others but trying to improve!) I can't think of something more hurtful than what you just described 😢 I have trouble containing myself when I talk about things I love and I constantly think that my friends secretly want me to shut up even if they reassure me otherwise. I have this one specific friend that I practically tell EVERYTHING, and even if she has no idea what I'm talking about, she ALWAYS listens and ALWAYS gets excited with me and asks me for follow-ups and everything. If she ever told me something like this, my heart would be utterly broken, my soul crushed. I'm sorry, I know this isn't helping anything but I'm just utterly speechless. I can only send lots of love and support and good wishes and hope everything ends up alri...

they are both, just like me! June 08, 2021 at 11:37PM

I mean. There's asexuals who are pantomanitic. I myself could be polyromantic. Do/identify what feels right June 08, 2021 at 11:37PM

Totally! I'm a lesbian on the ace spectrum myself, you have plenty of company! June 08, 2021 at 11:34PM

Ace Lesbian here! Absolutely! June 08, 2021 at 11:33PM

Sex positive (your view of porn, sex scenes, sexual encounters outside of your relationship) and sex repulsed? You don't seem to be into sex within your own relationship (could just be low libido along with being sex indifferent if the thought of sex with someone doesn't bother you) June 08, 2021 at 11:31PM

Ace just mean lack of sexual ATTRACTION. Doesn't mean lack of romance. You love who you love June 08, 2021 at 11:30PM

There's definitely a divide between wanting sex and wanting an orgasm. A couple times a month in my hormone cycles my brain will suddenly be like: "I want to have an orgasm." Me: with another person? Brain: ew no not at all. Also this type of horny: Brain: let's think about sex Me: involving us? Brain: NO. Me: of our OTP from show/book/movie ? Brain: aw yeah that's the good stuff. June 08, 2021 at 11:29PM

Sex-averse? June 08, 2021 at 11:28PM

Thank you! I like all the categories they have, this may even be a better resource June 08, 2021 at 11:26PM

Yeah this is fairly relatable. Though from what I have learnt since understanding asexuality exists the 'arousal' that I feel is fairly different to sexual attraction. If you don't ever feel the urge to have sex with anyone then asexual is a label that would fit if you want it. June 08, 2021 at 11:26PM