So, in junior high/high school I was totally oblivious. I had not idea about how dating, relationships, anything worked. I was super intellectual -- not bragging, I mean that I was just really into computer programming, reading, thinking, writing; basically always had my head in the clouds, living in my own world. However, I was good looking and did sports so some girls would almost pursue me - it felt great but in reality I was intimidated by all girls because they were like adults compared to me with regards to maturity; my "smart brain" was way ahead while other aspects were well BEHIND my peers. Regardless, I had a mostly happy high school experience however DEVOID of any romantic relationship whatsoever. Anyways, I started to normalize ~junior year of my undergrad, realizing how much entitlement I had built up due to being good looking and smart, and how much I had relied on these to get by hoping that I'd just magically find a girlfriend. I forced myself to come...

My crush in college is a couple years above so we don't rlly have classes together and I'm not sure what clubs he's involved in (if any). Is there another way to get to know him? I'm not afraid to approach him, but I don't want to ask him to hangout with me all the time. Submitted May 27, 2021 at 12:16AM My crush in college is a couple years above so we don't rlly have classes together and I'm not sure what clubs he's involved in (if any). Is there another way to get to know him? I'm not afraid to approach him, but I don't want to ask him to hangout with me all the time.

Side note but I love the “we just use discord” disclaimer lmao. My GF and I use discord a lot too because most nights we just play video games and chat with each other so it’s perfect for that. Happy for u! May 27, 2021 at 12:00AM

It's hard to tell from a tiny clip. To be honest, even if I was having a conversation specifically to aces, this little section might appear in it. It isn't a complete picture of the sexual spectrums, but it isn't a complete picture of the conversation either. With that being said, I get the sense that this is a conversation about a very specific person in a very specific situation. I don't think that this is an "overview of everyone". It's talking about a particular allosexual who was bicurious and trying things out. In that situation, bringing up asexuality would be completely off topic. May 26, 2021 at 11:58PM

(I miss falling asleep on the phone with someone, even though it was probably really bad for my health.) May 26, 2021 at 11:57PM

ah yeah i get a lot of friend group problems. im not in any group right now and its honestly so freeing. and thanks :) we are really happy, we fell asleep on the phone last night :’) May 26, 2021 at 11:56PM

Yo I wish a friend of mine would someday tell me they liked me back, they did back in November a little bit then weird shit happened with our friend group and... yeah it’s complicated and sucky and plays with my emotions more than I’d like. But anyway forget about me I’m so glad this happened to you and I hope you’re both very happy! May 26, 2021 at 11:51PM

Honestly I’m more uncomfortable with the discourse around kink at Pride than actual kink at Pride. A lot of the discourse feels very aphobic and calling anyone uncomfortable with kink a homophobe and a “Puritan” is really weird and dumb. I think with kink at Pride it really depends on what degree it is. No one should participate in an actual sexual act in public because people have to consent to viewing that stuff, but like, a person wearing leather is fine, because that’s not an actual sexual act. May 26, 2021 at 11:51PM

Yeah it's weird to me that people tell teenagers/kids who identify as ace that they're too young for that. It doesn't hurt anyone for someone to identify as ace at a young age. It would have been so helpful for me to have known that young. Also, I know that late bloomers are a thing but all the allos I've talked to had experienced sexual attraction before 14, often way before then. May 26, 2021 at 11:43PM

Congrats!! That’s so adorable! May 26, 2021 at 11:40PM

It is certainly possible for asexuality to change over time. Some asexuals may develop sexual attraction as time goes on, some won't. It's OK that sometimes these things alter with time, and a sudden interest in sex does not necessarily mean that he was lying about being asexual. May 26, 2021 at 11:40PM

Very cute 🥰 May 26, 2021 at 11:40PM

perhaps you would relate to seeing a cute fluffy bunny and wanting to cuddle it to bits. or, having a big warm comforter on your bed on a cold cold night and knowing how warm and snuggly it'll be when you get in. or maybe being out on a hot humid day and thinking about the feel of the blast of a/c against your face when you open the door when you get to your destination. the thought of it seems so nice and so you kind of crave it. it makes you be in a rush to feel it, and once it's there you don't want it to stop. i think of those kinds of feelings, applied to people, as sensual attraction. May 26, 2021 at 11:40PM

love it!!! omggg thanks you a lott 😭😭💚💚 May 26, 2021 at 11:36PM

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I texted my friend asking if she wanted to bond, but I accidentally said bone. She brought it to my attention that that is a euphemism for sex. May 26, 2021 at 11:26PM

Thanks. Yeah, I guess what makes it so hard is that the attraction I experience is somewhere in between. Like I don’t feel like it fits either sensual or sexual (def have aesthetic tho). May 26, 2021 at 11:25PM

Ooohhhh Congrats!! May 26, 2021 at 11:21PM

Ok, first off I totally didn't realize I was going downhill but you're totally right, and honestly, that's the lightheartedness I need right now. And thanks man, I really hope you end up better off than me when (if ever) you decide to tell them May 26, 2021 at 11:13PM

You can actually observe as OP slowly lose their cool as the post progresses. In all seriousness, I wish you luck mate, this kind of nonsense is exactly what Im trying to avoid by not telling my family. It sucks you're in all this shit now. May 26, 2021 at 11:10PM

Hello! I had the hardest time sorting out sexual from romantic feelings in a loving relationship. Sending you good vibes! May 26, 2021 at 11:09PM

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Ahhh! Godspeed! That's a really cool way to do it too! May 26, 2021 at 11:08PM