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Dating spam messages

I recently was texting with a guy I met online. He stopped responding individually to my messages but I’m still getting generic messages from him. A kiss emoji here, a ‘Gmorning’ every day, ‘heading out for a run’ etc. I’m pretty sure this is a group message he has not removed me from and he just spams a bunch of women to see who bites. Is this common practice these days? It’s creepy. Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:03AM I recently was texting with a guy I met online. He stopped responding individually to my messages but I’m still getting generic messages from him. A kiss emoji here, a ‘Gmorning’ every day, ‘heading out for a run’ etc. I’m pretty sure this is a group message he has not removed me from and he just spams a bunch of women to see who bites. Is this common practice these days? It’s creepy.

/u/Iokar1 on I need some help understanding sex-favorable asexuality

So, I consider myself a sex-favorable asexual and I have struggled with these questions you posted here for a long time! Thanks for bringing this up, I will tell you my take on this but I would also love to hear opinions from others too, as I'm still doubting. Before having sex, I was a bit indifferent to it. I always had a high libido but I just wasn't attracted to anyone sexually hence I wasn't actively seeking to have sex with someone, or in general. There have been times during my relationships where I have enjoyed sex, some more and some less (depends on the partners and our communication, the situation etc). I can go on explaining my journey and how I thought enjoying or even seeking sex out was a proof that I'm not asexual and all the doubt I've been through but I'll just tell you TL;DR version. What persuaded me that enjoying or initiating sex with someone is NOT sexual attraction (therefore I had a lack of it) were the reasons behind it. I enjoyed se

Is that even possible??

Hello, my girlfriend and I are both virgins. However, she and I grinded together (only ~30 seconds of skin on skin) about two weeks ago and she said that she's missed her period. Should I be worried??? I don't know how much of a chance there is of getting pregnant when there was (a) no penetration and (b) I didnt cum. Help pls!! Its been about 6 days since she missed her normal time of the month. Submitted November 30, 2019 at 10:26PM Hello, my girlfriend and I are both virgins. However, she and I grinded together (only ~30 seconds of skin on skin) about two weeks ago and she said that she's missed her period. Should I be worried??? I don't know how much of a chance there is of getting pregnant when there was (a) no penetration and (b) I didnt cum. Help pls!! Its been about 6 days since she missed her normal time of the month.

Are women more horny than men

Hi guys, As a young male who plays sports, I have a crazy high sex drive. When I quit sports for one year, I had to masturbate at least 8-10 times a day or else I’m always horny. Now that I got back into sports, my sex drive is even higher. My question is will there ever be a woman who has a crazy high sex drive like mine or will I be frustrated for my whole life having that curse. Submitted November 30, 2019 at 10:27PM Hi guys,As a young male who plays sports, I have a crazy high sex drive. When I quit sports for one year, I had to masturbate at least 8-10 times a day or else I’m always horny. Now that I got back into sports, my sex drive is even higher. My question is will there ever be a woman who has a crazy high sex drive like mine or will I be frustrated for my whole life having that curse.

I [26F] want to enjoy sex and intimacy in general – but I can't and never have, and idk why

I don't know why. I am not asexual, I don't have a huge libido but it's there, somewhere between low and medium. I masturbate and have fantasies. Yet when I touch another human being there is nothing. I have never gotten aroused or enjoyed myself with another person. I was a bit of a late bloomer, but then had my first kiss with some guy I had a crush on at the time, so I was definitely into him. His technique and everything seemed fine, but I didn't feel anything. It was just kind of weird, but not unpleasant either. Anyway, that still peaked my curiosity and I went through a phase of basically just kissing a bunch of people (both men and women) and later going on to do sexual stuff, I've not had full on penetrative sex though because I've never felt aroused enough to try it. The problem is that I just don't really feel anything. Like I said, when I masturbate everything works fine and I actually can come pretty fast. But when another person touches me I

Pap test was positive, need follow up tests every 6 months. Do I need to tell future partners this?

I had a pap test and it indicated abnormal cells (cancer risk). So I had a second one with a colposcopy and a biopsy. The doctor said the cancer reading was wrong and but still found some cells that looked abnormal (she couldn't even find them at first, she didn't seem too concerned). I have been single for a while and I'm worried about telling people I start dating about this (especially since I won't know them well at first!). I do STD tests after every relationship ends and I don't have any other signs of STDs. I feel pretty embarrassed and confused about this because I use protection. And let's say I hooked up with someone from a dating app that I wasn't even planning to date - do I have to tell them too? I want to do the right thing but I also don't want to share highly personal information with people I don't really know. If we use protection can they get anything from me? I asked the doctor if I had HPV, she said the test doesn't actua

I don’t like getting off

(Sorry for poor grammar it’s early and my hands are freezing) But me M(28) and Her F(25) have been together for about 2 years and it’s been great we are connecting a lot, but she doesn’t like our sexual life because I don’t get off ever. I don’t ever get off I haven’t technically ever came once or have an Orgasm but don’t really want to would rather focus on just her she says I spoil her and that I should focus on myself also I don’t really want to, is that a confidence issue or just my preferences she says it’s a confidence I just say I like it that way .Any advice on this situation? Submitted November 30, 2019 at 11:49PM (Sorry for poor grammar it’s early and my hands are freezing) But me M(28) and Her F(25) have been together for about 2 years and it’s been great we are connecting a lot, but she doesn’t like our sexual life because I don’t get off ever. I don’t ever get off I haven’t technically ever came once or have an Orgasm but don’t really want to would rather focus on j

[f20] Boyfriend doesn’t have as much experience but I’m not used to being in charge.

Looking for some pointers for how to ‘man up’ and teach my new bf some things. I’m am very shy and usually am told what to do so this whole thing is new for me. Submitted November 30, 2019 at 11:51PM Looking for some pointers for how to ‘man up’ and teach my new bf some things. I’m am very shy and usually am told what to do so this whole thing is new for me.

How do you become experienced in bed for male

I heard that while having sex in different positions certain angles may give greater pleasure .... is there any website or books that teach you or help you become a bit experienced Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:02AM I heard that while having sex in different positions certain angles may give greater pleasure .... is there any website or books that teach you or help you become a bit experienced

Why do I sometimes ejaculate so quickly while having sex.

(This is out of pure curiosity) Sometimes I don’t really understand why this happens but me and my girlfriend are quite active and have sex a healthy amount. I’ve noticed that sometimes (the minority of times) I ejaculate really quickly while sometimes it takes me a longer time like 30 to 40 min. A couple days ago I was going for most likely an hour changing position and doing different things before ejaculating. Today for some reason I ejaculated pretty quickly. I never really ejaculate quickly and usually it never happens but I’ve noticed a trend. I usually ejaculate quickly when there isn’t enough hookup time + foreplay before sex or if it feels rushed. Today it felt a little rushed (not that it’s anything bad but it makes me feel extremely insecure about myself). My girlfriend is an angel and is extremely supportive and she notices how embarrassing it makes me feel so she always tells me how she’s so happy to know that she made me feel so good and cum that quickly except that a lo

Negative sigma around uncircumcised guys

Hey all I was just wondering why there's such a negative stigma around being uncircumcised. I personally am not cut but I always hear girls saying how gross/ugly they are and I really don't understand the reasoning because I feel my own looks pretty nice. So anyone got any thoughts on what makes people feel this way and why it's directed to uncut ducks? Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:10AM Hey all I was just wondering why there's such a negative stigma around being uncircumcised. I personally am not cut but I always hear girls saying how gross/ugly they are and I really don't understand the reasoning because I feel my own looks pretty nice.So anyone got any thoughts on what makes people feel this way and why it's directed to uncut ducks?

Husband doesn’t want to cum as frequently as he used to.

Long story short, me and my now husband have known each other for almost 2 years and we were long distance for the majority of that time. Visits were once every 4 to 5 months and were 1 week long each and the long distance lasted a little over a year. Every time I flew here we came everyday but now that I’m finally here with him, he now barely cums whatsoever, if ever. I personally can cum twice even 3 times a day but he wants to cum once every 5 days the soonest. I’m not here to ask why this could be happening rather I wanna know how can I cope with this? What are my options? I would never in my life cheat on him or anyone but I do feel the need to be penetrated (not with a toy) and cum much more frequently. Masturbating can only do so much and I just feel so frustrated and sad, any help is appreciated. Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:13AM Long story short, me and my now husband have known each other for almost 2 years and we were long distance for the majority of that time.

I need help accepting my orgasm

I (30m) have gotten good at edging but it is really starting to mess with my head. When ever I have sex with my gf I find myself holding back my orgasm the entire time. When ever I get close I slow down or stop. But eventually I edge so much that it can become a chore for me to orgasm. Other times I get myself into a mental state where I am so focused on pleasing her that my orgasm just doesn't happen. She was going down on me the other night and I wanted to come. She also wanted me to come because she has never gotten me there through oral before. I kept feeling myself getting close but deep down I knew we wouldn't be able to have sex then. So my brain kept me from coming. I hate the refractory period. I hate that I need to stop myself from orgasming, else my physical pleasure is over. I also don't want to come too quickly because I love the intimacy with her. While I absolutely love making her orgasm, I can feel myself growing envious of the fact that she doesn't

Partner uninterested in fetishes, find it hard to get aroused now

I’m not sure what the underlying problem here is. I’ll start by saying I’ve never forced my partner to participate in anything she’s uncomfortable with, my fetishes range from public stuff, being abusive (she enjoys this one too, but like, i can only call her so many derogatory things so many times), to really simple stuff like hearing her moan in my ear. The simple stuff just comes with normal sex honestly, but recently I’m having to try different things, only to get shutdown because it’s “weird”. What this has resulted in is me being unaroused and near unenthusiastic in initiating sex anymore. She still does, but I’m just getting her off and calling it a night. She gets upset that I don’t come. I’m even having impotence issues just because I’m so uninterested in the whole endeavour now, which just makes a weird tension about it. I’m no expert in the field, and I’d just like advice on this situation and if anyone’s had something similar Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:16AM I

Loss of sensitivity after Nexplanon

This one is for the ladies. I'll start by saying I (23F) have no underlying health issues that could be a cause. I'm young, healthy, and in my prime. This has been the case for 5 years, but has really gotten worse the past 2 months. I have had the nexplanon implant for about 5 years (first implant for 3 years, currently on my second). I love it for the most part. I don't have to worry about taking something every day, lighter periods, no cramping, 99.9% effective, etc. Though I love it, it's definitely given me a few bad side effects here and there, but by far the worst is loss of sensitivity. Not just loss of sensitivity inside my vagina, but everywhere sexual. Before this implant, either with no birth control or a different form, someone could touch me and I would be dripping wet. The slightest run if the fingers down my thigh would drive me absolutely crazy. My, and please tell me I'm not alone in this, nipples were EXTREMELY sensitive, just as much as my clit

I (m20s) told my fiance (f20s) of over half a decade about being into kinky sex and I regret it

For the longest time I said absolutely nothing. No hints, nothing. This was partly based on the fact that sex is hard to talk about on account if my upbringing and me doing absolutely nothing to fix it. And partly to the fact that I thought she'd laugh. Here's the thing, she's talked about a guy he dated who was into feet and laughed as she did, as if he should be ashamed of it. And when we had a dip in our sex life we decided to look at some lingerie. It was the most conservative online lingerie store you could imagine. And the entire time we scrolled through she howl with laughter nonstop about how "weird" this shit is. Then she asks me to pick something I'm into. After that? No fucking way. I picked the most conservative, least kinky shit I could to avoid embarrassment. Eventually, I told her what I was into. And she acted like she was into it as well. What are the odds right? Since then, I've seen her laugh at other stuff, the usual. But then she

Where are all the single people hiding in Seattle?

I walked around three different neighborhoods in the north end today and it’s couples everywhere :( where are you hiding single people of Seattle? Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:06AM I walked around three different neighborhoods in the north end today and it’s couples everywhere :( where are you hiding single people of Seattle?

A Matryoshka doll of failures

I (33M) was ghosted again. I suppose it makes sense; I'm not a catch in the traditional sense. 5'5, working full-time to put myself through nursing school, I live with roommates, don't have lots of money. I've basically been alone since I was 23, when I went through a not-messy but not-happy divorce. I saw there was something wrong with myself so I sequestered and gained weight until I hit 31. I was basically playing with both feet in the grave for my whole 20's and much of my teens. Basically learned to love myself from the ground up. Lost a ton of weight, in great shape now, working to make life better. I used to be the SHIT with women... Now, I don't know, ya'll. I'm just ghosted all the time. This time, she and I got along really, really, well. I guess my hopes were up. I've just been through so much of the bottom, I don't know what I'm doing wrong these days. I get along with everyone , and I mean everyone. I'm funny, I know m

/u/Meganomaly on I found this really good comic about life as an aro ace

This made me cry. I think I understand my aromantic partner a little bit better now. Thank you. December 01, 2019 at 12:14AM

/u/altariasong on I found this really good comic about life as an aro ace

Chu writes Slightly Damned, a nice fun webcomic that I enjoy! I didn’t know until today that she was ace/aro! December 01, 2019 at 12:14AM

/u/ajnpilot1 on I drank and Primed a Pride flag the night before Thanksgiving. Was happily surprised when I opened my random package.

I wish i drunkenly ordered a pride flag. I drunkenly ordered myself an edible arrangement. Self care is important though so it’s okay. December 01, 2019 at 12:13AM

/u/OnlySpirit on Rant about asexuality and trauma

OP, I have many of the same feelings and experiences as you. I was sexually abused by several different people for most of my life, beginning as a child and continuing into adulthood. I don't think you need to wait until after you've "dealt" with the trauma to decide whether or not you want sex or if you are or aren't asexual. That's just offensive. I tell people all the time that sexual trauma can't make me *not* be attracted to someone. If the feelings aren't there, they aren't there. And to go one step further, even if sexual trauma *caused* asexuality, why is that by default such a bad thing? People act like sex in general is intrinsically a good thing and you should *try* to find every opportunity to identify as allo instead of ace - which is ridiculous and insulting. I don't think sex is anything intrinsically, it can be a good thing or a bad thing. I've always craved physical and emotional intimacy, just not with someone who will &

/u/KuruMarx on ♠️💜

Ex-friends? November 30, 2019 at 11:59PM

My asshole itches during and after sex (24F)

Alright y’all. I have an embarrassing problem. When I have sex with my boyfriend my asshole get super itchy. To clarify, this is while having PIV. But sex is pretty messy as you know and if anything gets on my asshole (and it always does, whether it’s from him or from me), it makes me itch. This has been going on for a over a month now. Sometimes it’s itchy just for no reason too. I can’t remember if it first started while having sex or not. MORE BACKGROUND: I’ve been with the same partner (he’s male, I’m female) for over year and it’s a monogamous relationship. We were tested for STD’s at some point shortly before getting together and all results were negative. We do not have anal sex, just PIV, although once his penis did slip. We do not use condoms. I’ve had an IUD the whole time. No significant medical history. I haven’t asked my doctor because this is an embarrassing problem. TL;DR what is making my asshole itch?? Submitted November 29, 2019 at 10:38PM Alright y’all.

Wife’s Vagina Getting Numb During Sex

Hello all, I’ve been married to my wonderful wife for a few years now. One thing that continually happens is a numbness during sex for her. Both of us have only been with each other (for real), so when things like this happen, it isn’t the easiest to figure out. It usually happens after 20 minutes of sex. Any thought on how to deal with this? And a random thing to give advice one. My lady is quite quiet during sex. Any thoughts on how to Yelp this? Thanks for the thoughts and ideas! Submitted November 29, 2019 at 10:40PM Hello all,I’ve been married to my wonderful wife for a few years now. One thing that continually happens is a numbness during sex for her. Both of us have only been with each other (for real), so when things like this happen, it isn’t the easiest to figure out.It usually happens after 20 minutes of sex. Any thought on how to deal with this?And a random thing to give advice one. My lady is quite quiet during sex. Any thoughts on how to Yelp this?Thanks for th

How the fuck do you tongue kiss?

I (23M) am pretty sure I still don't know how to tongue kiss. Like how long should tongue contact occur? Should it be quick or go on for a bit? Also what do I do with my tongue while it's in there? Just poke around, or move it more? I do my best to just be in the moment when this happens but I also feel like a complete dunce because I have no idea what I'm doing lol. Any advice would be appreciated Submitted November 29, 2019 at 10:49PM I (23M) am pretty sure I still don't know how to tongue kiss. Like how long should tongue contact occur? Should it be quick or go on for a bit? Also what do I do with my tongue while it's in there? Just poke around, or move it more? I do my best to just be in the moment when this happens but I also feel like a complete dunce because I have no idea what I'm doing lol.Any advice would be appreciated

I could use a bit of advice...

I'll try and keep this post as short as possible, but I'm going through a bit of a reflective period post-breakup. My SO and I broke up recently primarily because of a lack of sexual chemistry, along with a few other issues in the relationship. For me, the lack of chemistry was a problem. If I'm honest with myself, that chemistry had been lacking pretty much since the start. It's a real shame because, other than that, we got on so well and really cared for each other. In fact, in the days since the breakup, I've been wondering if we made the right decision and if we should have maybe explored all these things a bit more. We talked extensively about the lack of chemistry, but just couldn't really find any solutions. Background aside, this isn't the first time I've felt this way about a relationship. In fact, I wouldn't say I've ever been in a particularly fulfilling relationship sexually. I've never blamed my SO for this (it takes two to tan

Having a strange issue with fitting (not related to size)

Hi all, I went through the FAQ and didn't see much about this. my girlfriend and I have tried three times now, but essentially my rather average sized member doesn't want to go in. I don't get it, I've tried pushing in basically everywhere in case I was just in the wrong area but I am not. And I have no trouble fingering her. What's the easiest mode of entry in you guys's experience? I just want to be able to get in there already, dammit! Submitted November 29, 2019 at 11:56PM Hi all, I went through the FAQ and didn't see much about this. my girlfriend and I have tried three times now, but essentially my rather average sized member doesn't want to go in. I don't get it, I've tried pushing in basically everywhere in case I was just in the wrong area but I am not. And I have no trouble fingering her.What's the easiest mode of entry in you guys's experience? I just want to be able to get in there already, dammit!

How do i make my cum taste good in a day?

Uh hello, this is kinda my first time posting here so kinda nervous. Sorry if the question is a bit weird, but i am going to see my girlfriend for the weekend tomorrow (she lives 2h30 hours from me so i can only see her 1 time per 2 weeks) and i love her very much she is the best thing that has happened to me and i love her with all my heart. The thing is, last time was the first time she tried to give me oral (it is our first sexual experiences for us 2) and she said that my precum was salty. While i didn't cum because it is novemver, i am wondering, since tommorow is December and the end of nnn, is there anything i can do to make my cum or fluids taste better, so it will be enjoyable for her and share something special together? Thank you! Submitted November 29, 2019 at 11:58PM Uh hello, this is kinda my first time posting here so kinda nervous. Sorry if the question is a bit weird, but i am going to see my girlfriend for the weekend tomorrow (she lives 2h30 hours from me

If I’m A bi female and have sex with another woman, why am I “playing” with them? Nah, I am fucking them. Am I missing something?

This kinda pisses me off when I hear it but I don’t know if I’m just clueless. Is it old school/homophobic thinking that it’s not sex because there is no dick involved? Like, if those 2 girls like each other they will still drop everything if they see a dick so NBD. Am I missing something or...? I get when people talk about play in other aspects, like butt play or group play or whatever, and I understand there is such a thing as bi curiosity and that’s cool and all, but you are going to try having sex with a person, not “play” with them. When people say this I seriously imagine 2 girls cracking out the scrabble. Like, when do you “play” in a hetero hookup/relationship unless you’re talking about fetishes or kinks? Being bi isn’t a kink. Submitted November 29, 2019 at 11:58PM This kinda pisses me off when I hear it but I don’t know if I’m just clueless. Is it old school/homophobic thinking that it’s not sex because there is no dick involved? Like, if those 2 girls like each oth

HIV Self-Testing Survey (18+ Men who have sex with men) - Academic

Hi there, I am currently a final year Industrial Design student at Loughborough University and for my final year major project I am looking to improve the HIV self-testing experience for men who have sex with men. I have prepared a short, anonymous survey that I would welcome your participation in. Should you agree to assist, prior to completing the survey you will be provided with more information about the study and then you will be given the opportunity to provide your consent. Thank you kindly in advance. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfVW4L3XiQ0s1d7ds9G28Jrqot4BgjGayl5YDP3W1h8YMUQ_Q/viewform?usp=sf_link Submitted November 29, 2019 at 11:58PM Hi there,I am currently a final year Industrial Design student at Loughborough University and for my final year major project I am looking to improve the HIV self-testing experience for men who have sex with men.I have prepared a short, anonymous survey that I would welcome your participation in. Should you agree to assis

Shower (story time :) )

He picked me up as usual. No one else home, the house all to ourselves, a few hours to spare. I was upset with him this time. He didn't care about me like I cared about him, I told him. He loosened me up. A few kisses here, a couple of hickeys there, and the next thing I knew we were in the shower. I had always told him Spanish music does something to me that I cannot control. The movement of my hips, the feeling between my thighs. The animal look I get in my eyes. Off went the lights, and he pulled out a speaker that had a light that danced to the beat. And loudly the Spanish music played. The water rushed around us as I grinded on him like we were in the movie Dirty Dancing. I grabbed his hair in my hands and lead his hands to where I wanted them and made him sway with me. I bit his ear and bit his lips and when he was finally done with playing around he pinned me to the wall and asked me why we had never played Spanish music before. He pulled my hair, and bit my lips, and th

What parts of your genitals are the most sensitive?

For whatever genitals you may possess, what part of it has the most sensitivity? Submitted November 30, 2019 at 12:24AM For whatever genitals you may possess, what part of it has the most sensitivity?

Are men intimidated by you?

A while ago I had put up a thread about how I found tomboys, muscular women and generally women with a more masculine bent to them particularly attractive. One thing that has come up in the past for me regarding this is that most men seem to find these types of women somewhat intimidating. I have never been able to grasp why exactly and so this is a question for both sides. Do you find these kinds of women intimidating and if so why? If you are one of these women have men found you intimidating in the past? Submitted November 30, 2019 at 12:24AM A while ago I had put up a thread about how I found tomboys, muscular women and generally women with a more masculine bent to them particularly attractive. One thing that has come up in the past for me regarding this is that most men seem to find these types of women somewhat intimidating.I have never been able to grasp why exactly and so this is a question for both sides. Do you find these kinds of women intimidating and if so why? If

At home/dinner dates - what is the norm?

When people have dates over for dinner what is the standard re the timing of sex? Can most of you wait until dinner is cooked and eaten? Or do you have to get the deed done before dinner as you can't wait? I'm just curious what others do in this situation. (This is after 4 normal dates in restaurants and bars which have ended up in sex). Submitted November 30, 2019 at 12:17AM When people have dates over for dinner what is the standard re the timing of sex? Can most of you wait until dinner is cooked and eaten? Or do you have to get the deed done before dinner as you can't wait? I'm just curious what others do in this situation. (This is after 4 normal dates in restaurants and bars which have ended up in sex).

/u/Rogue_Like on Touch-starved and looking for advice

That's wild I've definitely had cuddle puddles with my friends, never heard of a meetup. I dunno how I feel about that either. November 30, 2019 at 12:14AM

/u/Nerddess on Honest Question "Is it a need?"

I meant it more as an either/or than a causal relationship, but the way I phrased it may have sounded like it implied the latter. Thank you for keeping me straight. I really don't think sexual attraction is entirely related to hormones, though. The OP claimed to have no problems, and I have seen other posts where people have said the same. Hormones may be related, perhaps, but not the sole cause. I'm not sure if scientific research exists on it, though, and my claim is derived primarily from anectodal evidence, which is admittedly not always the best support in a debate November 30, 2019 at 12:07AM

/u/Ketchupf4n on Touch-starved and looking for advice

I don't think you actually told us what you exactly want. I think you need to figure that out for yourself first. It's fine saying you want a physical connection but you should have a think about what context. November 30, 2019 at 12:05AM

/u/distrahitur on Everything makes sense

Welcome! You're just in time for thanksgiving leftovers! Acele Pie? November 30, 2019 at 12:01AM

/u/aGayIntrovert on maybe only brits will get this one, but I woke up in a cold sweat needing to make this image to describe my sexuality

Never heard it in Canada, in both East and west coast. Or I just wasn't listening hard enough to hear it. November 30, 2019 at 12:01AM

/u/AceAllicorn on Honest Question "Is it a need?"

😋 Like me. With a torch. In your house. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Muahahahhaha! November 30, 2019 at 12:01AM

/u/CrimsonDoom39 on Honest Question "Is it a need?"

Okay, we aren't worrying about extinction from not having enough babies. Plenty of other things that can and will kill us long before the Mormons and Catholics stop reproducing. November 29, 2019 at 11:59PM

/u/VanillaViolet11 on Based on that topic about the Jesus joke, I'm wondering if I can be asexual but at the same time either a boobs man or an ass man.

I know there are already a lot of replies... but I wanted to add my own two cents: totally! I identify as ace and lesbian, and honestly,,,, thighs?? Really nice, but only in a non sexual way. I blame my best friend for this, her thighs make a really nice pillow— November 29, 2019 at 11:58PM

/u/nojox on Honest Question "Is it a need?"

Actually OP did not say hormones are the only component of sexual attraction. Therefore creating an inverse or converse of "hormones cause sexual attraction" is futile because it does not concern and address the unmentioned factors. Personally, I'm open to the hypothesis of us being hormonally challenged, although I don't think we are. There are other components in the complexs software and hormones are just the I/O module that interact with the actual hardware. People could be hella horny even with broken hormones, and people like us could be cold as stones with healthy hormones. November 29, 2019 at 11:57PM

/u/DrNerd14159 on Honest Question "Is it a need?"

Just because you're different from the norm in some way doesn't mean you have a disorder. In order for something to be a disorder, it has to significantly impair your life. There is quite a lot of natural variability in hormone levels between different people. So even if aces do have abnormal hormone levels, it's not necessarily dysfunctional. Especially if your hormone levels aren't that far from the norm. November 29, 2019 at 11:56PM

/u/OnlySpirit on Can Asexual people still have crushes?

God, I hope so, because I'm crushing harder than any other time in my life right about now and have been for about a month. I don't think crushes are explicitly sexual. At least in my experience, it's someone's personality which makes me swoon and then I just want to be emotionally close with them and be all romantic with them... November 29, 2019 at 11:51PM

Getting erections all time, in public places and at work.

I’m 34 and I get regular erections like a teenager going through puberty. I’m quite well endowed so my erections are always noticeable. The recent incident was at work when a very attractive woman came to talk to me at my desk and I instantly got aroused. Another woman noticed and said to me wow you’re big, then proceeded to gossip about it. There’s also a girl that I liked who I got aroused in front of her a few months ago,but she kept it to herself. Because I’m personable and not bad looking I’ve not been reprimanded or called a creep. But my nickname at work due to this is stiffler. I want to ask the girl out at work who kept it to herself on a date. I’m single and mostly fuck girls on tinder or girls I met at the bar. I’ve always had a high sex drive and been sex driven. But I want a more serious relationship. Submitted November 29, 2019 at 12:07AM I’m 34 and I get regular erections like a teenager going through puberty. I’m quite well endowed so my erections are always

Smell (and why you should talk about it)

Long time lurker posting since something nice came about. From experience, I (F) have concluded that there's a saddening amount of women out there that are self-conscious about the smell of their lady parts. Probably plenty of guys too, but really? I mostly come across women that are concerned with the taste or smell. Me included, of course. Nothing is wrong with me health-wise and I'm completely aware of this, yet still, when it gets down to it I still find myself wondering whether there might be something funky going on down there. My partner asked me a related question, and I come to find out that he loves the smell of my wetness (discharge? whatever you prefer to call it!), telling me that my smell is amazing, etc. This shocked me in the best way possible, since it had never come up before and I'm so glad it did. Honestly, I think this was one of the biggest confidence boosts I've gotten in a long, long time. Something so small, but so reassuring just really hit

How to get cum out of fluff?

I have a fluffy tail butt plug that got man cum on it. How do I get it out? Submitted November 29, 2019 at 12:16AM I have a fluffy tail butt plug that got man cum on it. How do I get it out?

A Women’s Cum

A Women’s Cum Women’s perspective* Another day goes by.. No man bothers to even look in my direction I must be losing it by now.. 1, 2, another married couple. *sighhhh Drawing in She exhaled deep as she could A man approached her “Hello miss” “Hi!!” She replied happily My god he was cute Hair impeccably groomed Followed by his attire Sporting a Grey v neck with a black hoodie. Tight fitting jeans outlining his.. My god. he’s right in front of me get it together He smiled “You seem to be having some trouble” “Yeah I could really use some help, just moved” Was I always this obvious? He smiled again “Most of these guys don’t know what they’re missing, passing by a remarkably sexy woman like yourself” I felt my face flush with color He cannot be serious “My my, aren’t you forward” He leaned in, inches from my face eyes looking directly at me “You bet I am” I felt a shock between my legs I started to feel warm all over I couldn’t hold back “We close in 20 minutes, can you wait

/u/Ivanhoemx on How do you deal with aphobia?

Little indie film: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5441674/ November 29, 2019 at 12:21AM

/u/Anhtique on How do you deal with aphobia?

What movie is this? So I can avoid it November 29, 2019 at 12:15AM

I (21M) told this girl (23F) i love her and she said she has strong feelings for me but doesn't really want a BF but is super close with another dude

So I used to date this girl a few years ago and I ended up breaking her heart I was not smart back then and did a bunch of dumb things but we have since made and up and got close again as friends. I started to feel for her again and I just recently told her I love her she told me she also thinks she has strong feelings for me but also just got out of a relationship not that long ago and isn't sure if she wants a BF right now. The problem is there is another guy she also talks to a lot and Ive been getting jealous of them even though i know I shouldnt. We have very different schedules so it's hard to spend time together but I see myself being with this girl for the rest of my life but shes going to hang out with this guy among other people here in a few weeks and im just scared of what could happen. She's single so I know she can do whatever she wants but I have such strong feelings for her I still feel like im going to get hurt no matter what. i dont know what to do becaus

Best friends to Bf/Gf to ?Best friends?

So I met a girl who became my bestfriend 3 years ago. We helped each other out and enjoyed everything together. We then started to date after being bestfriends for a couple of months. We were together for about 2 years. We broke up now I wonder if we could still be bestfriends. I feel so lonely especially when something great happens because I have nobody to tell. I literally list my bestfriend and my Gf at one time. Any advice? Is it still possible to get back to being best friends cause honestly I really want her to be my best friend. Submitted November 28, 2019 at 11:23PM So I met a girl who became my bestfriend 3 years ago. We helped each other out and enjoyed everything together. We then started to date after being bestfriends for a couple of months. We were together for about 2 years. We broke up now I wonder if we could still be bestfriends. I feel so lonely especially when something great happens because I have nobody to tell. I literally list my bestfriend and my Gf at

Thoughts?

Okay so I dated a women for 10 months, I moved out of my place and moved in with her, I even gave up my dog for her as strata caught us. She got to keep hers... even after she told me if we got caught she’s get rid of hers, anyways this isn’t about that... Flash forward to about 7-8 months in. We were having a bit of a rocky bit. She went to stay at her grandparents for the night. I got a weird feeling something was up. So I checked her old phone she had at the house that was logged into her accounts. And I found out she was hiding talking to her abusive ex behind my back, asking when he’s going to be in town, what’s new with him. Catching up and what not for 21 days. That I had no idea about. She even talked about her living situation and mentioned our roommate but not me.... yeah, fishy eh?? So long story short. I got mad. Called her out on it. She came rushing home. And we got into a fight. She swore he knew about me and such. So I said prove it. Call him right now and ask him if