Yeah, it does feel icky. I found out years afterwards that people in high school were sexualising me a lot because of my body and just felt disgusting. Best friend had to comfort me and I’ve never felt comfortable with classmates again (well I never was but this increased it). So yeah I totally get you it’s valid to feel icky about that. August 28, 2021 at 12:02AM

The same for me, actually. I've always dreamt of a house together with someone, so we both get lots of personal space. sigh August 28, 2021 at 12:02AM

I will take that a step further and say my ultimate would be two small homes or personal spaces connected by a kitchen or a hangout room. I get my own space/room/bathroom/hangout or hobby spot and they get the same. They would have to be okay if I never let them into my personal space and vice versa for me. August 28, 2021 at 12:00AM

I'm not sure what "normal" is, but you're not the only one that experiences this August 27, 2021 at 11:59PM

Okay but sleeping together as in sharing a bed with your partner or a close friend and snuggling instead of having sex is such a good idea. Cause then when people ask ‘WhY hAvEn’T yOu GoT a BoYfRiEnD yEt?’ or the equivalent depending on the attitude this heteronormative society has towards your gender, you can talk about it and they won’t know you were ‘just’ snuggling. August 27, 2021 at 11:58PM

I feel the opposite. As long as they don’t /tell me/ I’m in their fantasies, I don’t really care. If someone tells me “oh hey I masturbate(d) to you,” then that’s fucked up and I will be extremely uncomfortable around that person. August 27, 2021 at 11:56PM

To be honest i rather my hooker speak french and only french! That would be hularious 🤣🤣🤣 Like imagine they are trying to dirty talk and you don't undertand a thing 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Edit: or the friend when they get a hooker trying to talk to them anf not being able to understand anything. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thats hularious August 27, 2021 at 11:52PM

<33333 That's so fucking stupid, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I looked online, and found a few links to asexual dating apps if you'd want them (some look a little sketchy but I've never made a serious dating profile so I wouldn't know): https://www.asexualcupid.com/ https://weareher.com/asexual-dating/ https://www.asexualdatingsite.com/ https://www.asexuals.net/ August 27, 2021 at 11:52PM

I don't, and that's a huge problem, but even if i had one they would most likely be uninterested in such a relationship. August 27, 2021 at 11:50PM

It’s cool to see but I don’t get distraught when it’s not there, it’s importance depends on the purpose of the poll August 27, 2021 at 11:50PM

I think the bigger problem is finding a “best friend” if you don’t already have one. August 27, 2021 at 11:48PM

The closest thing I can think of is Golden Girls but this is reality,not the best sitcom ever made. August 27, 2021 at 11:48PM

Telling people to practice safe sex is wayyy more effective than telling them to simply not have sex. When are people gonna learn that? August 27, 2021 at 11:48PM

Don't hate yourself for that. If you're aromantic it doesn't mean you don't care about her. It's just something anyone can go through. I unde stand the feeling you get for leaving her. I hope she understands you. August 27, 2021 at 11:44PM

I’m the same- Christian and asexual, and I want to give you some of my thoughts on it. I’m no scholar, but maybe it’ll help you feel more comfortable with yourself. Say, as an example, that there are thousands of kids opening presents on Christmas Day. Every one of them opens their present and finds the hottest toy of the year. 99% of those kids absolutely adore their new toy, but there’s a small portion that maybe don’t enjoy it as much- or don’t like it at all. Instead, they return their toy and get something else with the money, something that they’d enjoy just as much as the others like theirs. I see it the same way with God giving humans a gift in sexuality. God gave humanity sexuality as a whole, but there are those of us (like me) that aren’t interested. Instead, I get just as much fulfillment from other things. Sex IS a gift, from my view, but it’s exactly that- a gift. Something that‘s supposed to make us happy, something we want and enjoy and take pleasure in. If one of Hi...

One thing is for sure: no matter how much you take to get to know yourself better, or what the outcome is, or if you eventually decide that you do need therapy to heal something; no matter what, this is your journey, and nobody has a right to pressure you to know, or to explain it to them. All of this can be uncomfortable for others, but it is for you too - and ultimately you have the responsibility to take care of yourself first. Consider what this means to you : If you were single and nobody had ever questioned this attitude towards sex, would this still be a thing you would want to research with a therapist out of worry or curiosity? Mental illnesses have concrete negative consequences that you can feel yourself, no matter which people surround you and what they tell you. I know that what hurts people you love ultimately hurt you too, but if deep down this is not problematic for you, no amount of therapy or research will solve anything as there is nothing to solve. August 2...

I know how you feel I really like memes so I was r/memes and recently there was a lot of NSFW memes that were really just repost of original memes but with breasts August 27, 2021 at 11:35PM

or gender and sexuality seemingly? August 27, 2021 at 11:33PM

Ohhhh okay I see lol August 27, 2021 at 11:31PM

It definitely should be an option but (and this might just be bc I’ve seen so many ppl say aces aren’t as important as other members of the lgbtq+ community) I feel like I would feel bad if ace was there and others (like pan bi lesbian etc) weren’t. Idk :/ August 27, 2021 at 11:31PM

That was my first thought too.🤣🤣 Apparently they meant french kissing, not the french language. August 27, 2021 at 11:30PM

technically i’m bi and ace so i might just put other but it was nice when my obgyn had asexual as an option August 27, 2021 at 11:30PM

I was 16. First kiss, on a date with a nice attentive guy (after watching the Star Wars Special Edition release on the big screen), I went home after and ate an entire package of gingersnaps because blergh . A couple months of dating, and I gradually realized that making out with him just made me uncomfortable, I was more interested in Luke Skywalker than a real person, and I didn't actually want a boyfriend I just missed the relationship I'd had with my best friend who'd moved out of state. The turning point in my head was kissing after a nice dinner date, thanks to an after dinner mint . . . he made an unfortunate (for him) comment about "what would it be like if everyone had different flavored tongues, and you had to find someone with compatible flavors". All I could think about after that was "ROTFLOL strawberry flavored tongue!" Poor guy got the most sincerely clichéd "it's not you it's me" (which did not include the details of ...