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troubles keeping erection after weekend

hey guys, so ive been seeing this new girl and things have been really good like really good ... this weekend we had the whole weekend to each other so we got a little carried away and had a bunch of sex ... it was honestly great! going from my previous relationship (which ended 2 years ago) to now it was so good ... the only problem is after the 8th time in 3 days we went at it and i had a hard time getting an erection ... no problem i chalked it up to being tired etc .. well today i came home from work and thought maybe id jerk off to see and i had a hard time getting an erection and once i got it, it would die out quickly or it woulnt be 100% hard .. im fairly young 26 years old so i dont think i should be having those problem i work out 5 times a week for roughly 1-1.5 hours I have had anxiety in the past and its kind of bothering me, like I wont be able to perform or please her. I also feel like her sex drive is much higher then mine which im not complaining for but now im reall...

[mf4a] 26 year old couple who want to explore with others but not share partners? Has anyone had any experiences of group sex without swapping?

Don’t know if we would ever go the whole way, has anyone done everything but with others? Submitted October 16, 2019 at 12:05AM Don’t know if we would ever go the whole way, has anyone done everything but with others?

I'm [20M] nervous about seeing my LDR [23F] due to my inexperience/low libido?

I guess I have pretty much two main questions To start off I pretty much went until now with zero sexual experience. I have never felt the need to masturbate, and watching porn would get me aroused but I still can never get close to ejaculating as far as I can tell... I have had wet dreams before however. Normal things that get guys aroused by will do the same to me, but I've never had the desire to jerk it. When I do try to jerk it while watching porn it just kind of annoys me because I don't feel anything changing/happening and eventually I lose it. I'm sure theres a psychological block aspect there. I have no childhood trauma or glaring obvious reasons to be sexually repressed, although admittedly terrible sex education (christian absistence based education for the most part, although they were not very pushy or overtly anti-sex they were certainly very unhelpful). I am not quite sure what to call this problem. Since I have started dating my GF I wanted to get to the r...

Are there different...tiers of orgasms?

So 20F, discovering self love for the first time. Y’all must be getting sick of me on here but I promise, this is my last question! I’ve started using a vibrator and experiencing mind numbing orgasms. I’ve never had an orgasm before the vibrator and was wondering - do all orgasms feel like that? A bit of context to it: I use the toy on my clit. I start at the lowest speed and slowly work my way up. At one point. I feel tingly in my legs and my butt, tense up and shake a little. Then there’s this plateau where the sensation still feels good but not like, at a peak. I stop for a few seconds and then start again because I still haven’t gotten that feeling of relief. I repeat this twice or maybe thrice, depending on the day, and if I keep going at it persistently, the sensitive but needy feeling kind of morphs into a numbness. It starts in my legs and makes its way into my upper body. I tense up so much that even my teeth are clenched and my eyes are screwed shut. My mind goes blank an...

What kind of super taboo kinks are you into? Your deepest fantasies?

Judgement free zone. I've heard so many I love hearing about all of it. And fantasies that they could never do with their significant other. Thank you!! Submitted October 16, 2019 at 12:12AM Judgement free zone. I've heard so many I love hearing about all of it. And fantasies that they could never do with their significant other. Thank you!!

Actual effectivenes of the pill on day 1

The girl I'm seeing is on the pill but has only started on it again after a break from it. Doctor told her that it becomes effective after 7 days of use. So we had sex today and then remembered the 7 day thing, so stopped and used a condom going forwards. I was nowhere near when we stopped. So, surely the day 1 pill she took today had some effect? What is the percentage effectiveness of the pill before the 7 day mark i.em how wffwctive is it on day 1 - does the percentage ramp up with each passing say until it's fully effective? I know they're not fully effective till day 7 (now) but how effective are they actually on day 1, after just one pill is taken? Just wondering how much we should worry and if we should bother with the morning after pill or not. Having a baby is obviously a unanimous no. Submitted October 16, 2019 at 12:14AM The girl I'm seeing is on the pill but has only started on it again after a break from it. Doctor told her that it becomes effec...

Am I over reacting to my girlfriend wanting to try raceplay?

My black girlfriend wants to incorporate elements of race play into our sexual lives. I am somewhat upset given that she is the love of my life and her race has always been irrelevant to me. Submitted October 16, 2019 at 12:14AM My black girlfriend wants to incorporate elements of race play into our sexual lives. I am somewhat upset given that she is the love of my life and her race has always been irrelevant to me.

Sex with a language barrier

I had a recent random and unexpected hookup with a woman this weekend who had very limited English and I knew zero Hindi. It was very primal and sensual sex because so little could be explained with words. Has anyone else had a similar experience? Am I am outlier in how good it went? Submitted October 16, 2019 at 12:17AM I had a recent random and unexpected hookup with a woman this weekend who had very limited English and I knew zero Hindi.It was very primal and sensual sex because so little could be explained with words.Has anyone else had a similar experience? Am I am outlier in how good it went?

What's the psychology behind femdom? (Asking for a friend, of course.)

Why are some men into femdom and its various levels? I understand that many men simply find the prospect of a woman taking charge alluring, but what are some of the deeper psychological reasons behind it? For example, how does a man's childhood, relationship with his mother, history of abuse (if any), and gender identity factor into it? I know every man is different, but is there a correlation? Submitted October 16, 2019 at 12:18AM Why are some men into femdom and its various levels?I understand that many men simply find the prospect of a woman taking charge alluring, but what are some of the deeper psychological reasons behind it? For example, how does a man's childhood, relationship with his mother, history of abuse (if any), and gender identity factor into it? I know every man is different, but is there a correlation?

What's a good messaging app to send my girlfriend sexy messages?

We want to send each other sexy pics, dirty messages, links to porn. But we don't want to do it over WhatsApp in case we accidentally send it to a family group chat or something. I've given Telegram a go, the "secret chat" feature seems good. It blurs images until you load them, the notifications are more hidden, and it has a self destruct feature. Does anyone else have any suggestions? Basically what app would you use to conduct an illicit affair - with your own SO. Submitted October 16, 2019 at 12:19AM We want to send each other sexy pics, dirty messages, links to porn. But we don't want to do it over WhatsApp in case we accidentally send it to a family group chat or something.I've given Telegram a go, the "secret chat" feature seems good. It blurs images until you load them, the notifications are more hidden, and it has a self destruct feature.Does anyone else have any suggestions? Basically what app would you use to conduct an illicit af...

Is it true that women who have excessive body hair also have higher libido?

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Growing Older and Sacrifice

It feels like every year that goes by is another year that you won't be getting any younger. Each year that goes by you're expected to be more of an adult. Focused on your career, getting the house, the retirement plan, maybe a family... But you are still missing your person. You don't know where they went, and what's taking them so long but they still aren't here. You feel like you might be missing out on opportunities for adventure because you want to spend them with someone. You wonder what memories you might have made if your person showed up just a little bit earlier. You look into the dating scene and you just feel out of touch. You don't understand the hook up culture that is out there now. You don't understand why people don't sacrifice for each other anymore. Value the other person's happiness above their own at times. You don't understand why people have the mindset of what can they give me, and let's face it you're a giver, i...

How can I improve my tinder profile? Looking for suggestions. 26 M

About me 26 M, straight, musician, originally Brazilian currently living in Western Europe. Roughly 10 matches. Pictures I am currently using (in this order) https://imgur.com/CJwFVeS - small video of me playing guitar shirtless, since I've put it on it has almost doubled the amount of likes (from 13 to 25) so I kept it. https://imgur.com/xB89DlG https://imgur.com/PI7szrR https://imgur.com/i9xIlYK Pictures I'm considering to use https://imgur.com/eXJzn8X https://imgur.com/0CflJSZ https://imgur.com/6m20Yg5 https://imgur.com/2GA6eYP https://imgur.com/rtpKGww Bio Traveler, Eastern Asian Philosophy enthusiast and song writer on the good days. Looking for people to hang out, explore the town, play games and/or chill. :) Goals Casual hookups but not a one time thing. If I like the girl I'd like to see her periodically. I'd appreciate comments exclusively from women since male feedback has not proved to be effective for me in the past. Thank...

What to do if you run into someone who ghosted you?

Short backstory: was seeing a guy for a few months. He ghosted me. This was about a year ago now. My sister actually moved into a condo in his complex, so I could run into him. It gives me anxiety thinking about the possiblity. When I was walking from her unit to my car I actually saw him drive by.. positive he didn't see me due to the distance but i think i could possibly run into him. How do you handle a situation like that if you do see someone? Submitted October 15, 2019 at 11:54PM Short backstory: was seeing a guy for a few months. He ghosted me. This was about a year ago now.My sister actually moved into a condo in his complex, so I could run into him. It gives me anxiety thinking about the possiblity. When I was walking from her unit to my car I actually saw him drive by.. positive he didn't see me due to the distance but i think i could possibly run into him.How do you handle a situation like that if you do see someone?

/u/ThatGirlWithAsperger on This is absolutely perfect.

Mood. October 16, 2019 at 12:16AM

/u/ThatGirlWithAsperger on The bracelet I made and wore to school today!

It’s so lovely 💛 October 16, 2019 at 12:13AM

"New"Partners of someone that lost his /her wife/husband ,how do you feel about the fact your partner will always love their former love and you may not be the love of their life ?

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Sweet water kisses

Oh my god, I'm on top of the world. My boyfriend and I were in the spa and I was floating on the surface when I felt a hand on my stomach pushing me down. He swam underwater with me and kissed me as I was dunked, I nearly forgot how to breathe and my heart skipped a beat I'm In love Love ​ Snickers Submitted October 15, 2019 at 11:29PM Oh my god, I'm on top of the world.My boyfriend and I were in the spa and I was floating on the surface when I felt a hand on my stomach pushing me down.He swam underwater with me and kissed me as I was dunked, I nearly forgot how to breathe and my heart skipped a beatI'm In loveLove​Snickers

Is it

Must be silence speaks volumes. But will keep my promise. Be at peace. Submitted October 15, 2019 at 11:40PM Must be silence speaks volumes. But will keep my promise. Be at peace.

If a girl invites a guy (crush on him) to a movie, but that guy refuses to go......., is that a sign of disinterest?

Hi everyone, if anyone can help me and give me any suggestions. Like I said, I'm not feeling well these three days. I don't know if I should give up. I like or I can say I crush on a guy (he's my classmate, we're the same major). I feel like he likes me, too. We have known each other for nearly two semesters. We also have three classes this semester. For example, he always waits for me to leave the classroom after class, talking or walking together to the library. But he never uses his phone to contact me if we didn't see each other, such as on weekend, unless I text him first, he just wants to reply. He is a very hard-working person and smart, he is a little introverted.....I never told him I liked him. Last Saturday, I tried to ask him if he had time to go to the theater to watch a movie next weekend, but he told me that he had something, and he didn't tell me that he wanted to change the time. I knew I was refused by him. I was really sad. Because I'm a ...

/u/Ayayaya3 on More people (even asexuals) need to know this. It annoys my how many people think asexuality is just childish and means you are scared/disgusted by sex.

I think you need to rephrase that October 16, 2019 at 12:04AM

/u/LCSDarkinBlade on Does a low libido always mean something is wrong?

I actually went in to a doctor to check this out before I accepted that I was asexual because I was concerned about it. I had blood work done and was told that everything was normal. So while low libido could be an indicator that something is wrong, it's not always a sure indicator. October 16, 2019 at 12:02AM

/u/eravyn on What are your experiences?

I didn't learn about asexuality until my mid 20s. I remember having a boyfriend in first grade, and my relationships in high school were almost identical. Friends ask who I like, I tell them someone either to make them happy or because it's a genuine squish (which I only learned the term for a couple years ago), friends go back and forth until we call each other boyfriend/girlfriend, we sit together at school assemblies and never see each other beyond that. In high school, I "dated" maybe four guys and can count on one hand the times I saw them out of school, combined. In 6th or 7th grade, I remember a friend coming up to me one day to tell me a certain boy was dating someone. I was so confused why they thought I'd care until it clicked that we were supposed to have been dating for like two years. Props to him for not ditching me sooner. I tried kissing, never liked it, never instigated it, and always physically distanced myself from someone hinting they wanted ...