Growing Older and Sacrifice

It feels like every year that goes by is another year that you won't be getting any younger. Each year that goes by you're expected to be more of an adult. Focused on your career, getting the house, the retirement plan, maybe a family... But you are still missing your person. You don't know where they went, and what's taking them so long but they still aren't here. You feel like you might be missing out on opportunities for adventure because you want to spend them with someone. You wonder what memories you might have made if your person showed up just a little bit earlier.

You look into the dating scene and you just feel out of touch. You don't understand the hook up culture that is out there now. You don't understand why people don't sacrifice for each other anymore. Value the other person's happiness above their own at times. You don't understand why people have the mindset of what can they give me, and let's face it you're a giver, instead of the mindset of what can they give towards us.

You prefer a connection that would lead to maybe 30 years, not 30 minutes. You aren't sure of how to proceed anymore because let's face it, you're too old for the games. Too old for the ghosting, the lack of communication and lack of commitment. Too old to abandon someone at the slightest hint of inconvenience. Yet you are too young to want to settle down and just live in the routine. You're too young to not want your crazy nights on occasion. You're too young to not want to explore the world with your favorite person.

So you wander around aimlessly, unsure of what to do. You hope to find direction, but in the end, you just feel lost.

Does anyone else feel this way?

Submitted October 15, 2019 at 11:44PM

It feels like every year that goes by is another year that you won't be getting any younger. Each year that goes by you're expected to be more of an adult. Focused on your career, getting the house, the retirement plan, maybe a family... But you are still missing your person. You don't know where they went, and what's taking them so long but they still aren't here. You feel like you might be missing out on opportunities for adventure because you want to spend them with someone. You wonder what memories you might have made if your person showed up just a little bit earlier.You look into the dating scene and you just feel out of touch. You don't understand the hook up culture that is out there now. You don't understand why people don't sacrifice for each other anymore. Value the other person's happiness above their own at times. You don't understand why people have the mindset of what can they give me, and let's face it you're a giver, instead of the mindset of what can they give towards us.You prefer a connection that would lead to maybe 30 years, not 30 minutes. You aren't sure of how to proceed anymore because let's face it, you're too old for the games. Too old for the ghosting, the lack of communication and lack of commitment. Too old to abandon someone at the slightest hint of inconvenience. Yet you are too young to want to settle down and just live in the routine. You're too young to not want your crazy nights on occasion. You're too young to not want to explore the world with your favorite person.So you wander around aimlessly, unsure of what to do. You hope to find direction, but in the end, you just feel lost.Does anyone else feel this way?