As an arosexual, no aro really wants to be suffocated in thighs, it’s just a dramatic appreciation. July 23, 2019 at 12:25AM

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You sound like "plain vanilla" asexual. Getting aroused doesn't make you gray-ace, and being willing/able to have sex after becoming comfortable with someone doesn't make you demi unless you actually become attracted. https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/wiki/what_is_asexuality July 23, 2019 at 12:20AM

Cis guy here. From my perspective, it's not surprising at all that the pressure to have sex is hitting you really hard. Having been male-identified my whole life, I have a lot of experience learning to deflect the bullshit and not let it affect me, but even so, I spent many, many years feeling bad about myself because of my lack of sexual "achievement", and I still get twinges of it sometimes. I don't want to presume, so feel free to tell me if I'm out of line, but I suspect being trans puts additional pressure on you to prove to yourself and others that you're a "real" man, and if so, that's yet another disadvantage you're having to deal with. The good news is it's something you can learn to overcome, so try to be patient with yourself, because as you say, male socialization really is a hell of a drug, and building up immunity to it is a major undertaking. July 23, 2019 at 12:17AM

I know in my earlier posts I said all great things take time... but back then I was kind of hoping to at least be able to develop some kind of friendship with you. We're now coming up to the 2 month mark when we first met. In these last 2 months I have learned so much. So much about myself, so much about my new-found friendships with other people, and so much on how to find out who I really am. I will tell you this much on what I know on who I am; I care deeply for those who are around me, I treat my friends in the same way I treat you, and I am able to see who's worth keeping in my life. The difference between my new-found friendships and you are quite intimidating... the main difference is - is that they actually respond to me and interact with me, and we have good deep conversations about our personal problems in life and we talk about what's going on inside our heads and let it all out. But you, you don't respond, you don't let me know what's going on, and...

Me and my roommates (m28) sister f(23) are having sex. We really like each other and i told one of roommates(m28) friends. She gave me an ultimatum and the sister (23) told her like I did. He's ok with it I think. Its been like 4 hours and he didnt snapso I think its ok. Does it make a difference that I had sex with his sister 4 days and 3 times each day? Submitted July 23, 2019 at 12:21AM Me and my roommates (m28) sister f(23) are having sex. We really like each other and i told one of roommates(m28) friends. She gave me an ultimatum and the sister (23) told her like I did. He's ok with it I think. Its been like 4 hours and he didnt snapso I think its ok. Does it make a difference that I had sex with his sister 4 days and 3 times each day?

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Sometimes a little flirting goes a long way. July 23, 2019 at 12:12AM

With the sushi metaphor, you could add that to some people, sushi seems downright gross. Just the idea of eating raw fish makes them nope nope nope . July 23, 2019 at 12:11AM

Not terribly familiar with it but I'm guessing they'd want "friends with benefits". July 23, 2019 at 12:08AM

Would be nice but I’d probably get slapped lol July 23, 2019 at 12:08AM

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Okey so from the top. I used to be with a girl I liked when i was about 15. And after we broke up I wasn't able to get into a new relationship. A view years I had a hookup (wich ended up only being us making out) and after that being ghosted. This is my only experience with dating so far. Up until now I go through the same procces. I meet someome cute we talk for a view days i ask her out she says sure. We exchange numbers talk about what we want to do. And at the day of the date I recieve a shitty mesage with sorry can't make it because (blank). This has been going on for years and I am really starting to question myself what I am doing wrong and it has been taking a tool on my self-asteem. I am almost 19 now and starting my second year of collage. I would say I am avrage looking, not fat but a bit small (1.71m). I just dont know anymore. Any advice would be appreciated. 👌 P.s. (sry for bad english) Submitted July 22, 2019 at 11:52PM Okey so from the top. I used t...

Alright, so I am asking for advice for a number of issues I have. One is that I live on a farm in the middle of nowhere. It’s very, very difficult to meet new people. I have used internet apps, but to no avail. I’ve had guys express interest in my profile for casual hook-up, but not for anything more involved, which is what I would prefer. I have my suspicions it may be partly because of the scarcity of people living near me in general, which I think is also compounded by my being over weight (I’m 5’4” and 180 lbs.). I am losing weight, but in the meanwhile I’d love to hear advice on what I’m doing wrong or if someone has any ideas about how to meet singles in rural areas. Submitted July 22, 2019 at 11:53PM Alright, so I am asking for advice for a number of issues I have. One is that I live on a farm in the middle of nowhere. It’s very, very difficult to meet new people.I have used internet apps, but to no avail. I’ve had guys express interest in my profile for casual hook-up,...

I'm a 25 year old male and I'm going on my first ever date, I've never really struggled getting women just never had to take one on a date. In the last year I've struggled to find anyone really so this date is a big thing for me. But I'm so anxious and nervous about it. Any advice?? Submitted July 22, 2019 at 11:53PM I'm a 25 year old male and I'm going on my first ever date, I've never really struggled getting women just never had to take one on a date. In the last year I've struggled to find anyone really so this date is a big thing for me. But I'm so anxious and nervous about it. Any advice??

I (21F) started dating a coworker (22M) from a different department a few months ago. Everything was perfect at first. I would spend a night a week at his place at college and get to see him at work and we would text all the time even though he was busy with school and sports. In May, he left our store and moved two hours away to the beach to be a lifeguard for the summer. Now it's July and for the past month all I get from him is one lousy snapchat a day for the streak we have. I get that he's probably busy with working but everytime I try to start a conversation, I get left on read. I even asked if we could hangout while I was on vacation since I would be close by and he just said he's "super busy so most likely not" Should I be worried? I have no reason not to trust him. But just feeling ignored is making me frustrated and not liked anymore. I'm not even really sure how to handle this. I've never been in this kind of situation before and I'm not ...

I'm meeting a female friend for a catch up. She seems down and I want to compliment her without it being weird or like i'm interested in her more than friends. I'm thinking that when we meet I could just ask how she is and tell her she looks nice today? We're fairly close but rarely meet in person. Only chat online etc. Submitted July 22, 2019 at 11:59PM I'm meeting a female friend for a catch up. She seems down and I want to compliment her without it being weird or like i'm interested in her more than friends.I'm thinking that when we meet I could just ask how she is and tell her she looks nice today?We're fairly close but rarely meet in person. Only chat online etc.

Ok ok ok don't start telling me to stop in fear of friendzoning I know that already, but in the past two or three actual conversations and actual friendships I've had with girls, I've helped them out with a previous breakup. And it always ended up with me being put in the friendzone. Is this a way of friendzoning yourself? Like turning into a pillar of emotional support and nothing else? Sorry if I sound a bit cold hearted during this. Also, were both 15. Just thought I'd slip it in should anyone need it Submitted July 23, 2019 at 12:04AM Ok ok ok don't start telling me to stop in fear of friendzoning I know that already, but in the past two or three actual conversations and actual friendships I've had with girls, I've helped them out with a previous breakup. And it always ended up with me being put in the friendzone. Is this a way of friendzoning yourself? Like turning into a pillar of emotional support and nothing else? Sorry if I sound a bit cold h...

Ask your dad if he wants to have sex with a man. No? That’s how you feel about sex with men and women. July 23, 2019 at 12:05AM

Well in any case, it's really great that she has a parent who is so understanding! I think that will go a long way towards her feeling comfortable with her own identity. I realized I was ace when I was a teenager as well, but it took me a long time to accept myself because nobody around me had any idea what I was talking about. Just the fact that "asexual" is becoming a part of society's vocabulary is amazing. You might also want to introduce her to media with asexual characters - representation can go a long way towards feeling normal. The show Bojack Horseman has an asexual character, and there's a show called Sirens with an ace character (it's a comedy about EMTs). In the new Archie comics universe , Jughead is out as asexual (not in the show Riverdale, though, annoyingly). Here's a list of books with asexual characters and a list with aromantic characters . And please feel free to message me if you ever have any questions or anything! I've g...

Why are you saying autistic like it's a bad thing? seriously go check them out before you take offense. I have Asperger's myself, but I don't think his response was unreasonable considering you basically just armchair-diagnosed him with a psychiatric condition, which has nothing to do with his original post, immediately before ripping into his opinion and accusing him of being "brainwashed". July 22, 2019 at 11:54PM