I've been on a few dates lately off the dating apps where the energy felt good, conversation was solid but not exceptional, and there were a few small hiccups but in my mind they are first dates and hey it's tough to judge someone on one date alone. But the energy sort of goes out of the texting and the plans get a little harder to make so I've started taking to saying some variation of "Hey I enjoyed that date and would love to do XYZ if you're up for it, but if you're not feeling it that's OK too" I have had situations like this in the past that will limp along for a month and then I will stop maintaining it and get a "what happened, I enjoyed our date" text like 2 months after the initial date. To me that's sort of lazy BS and my "if you're not feeling it" text is sort of an earlier watershed moment so we don't waste time if there isn't real interest. But I wanted to get Reddit's opinion on how often that mi...

I kinda need help telling whether a guy Is interested in me or not, because I literally can’t tell since I’ve never been in a relationship. Submitted October 05, 2021 at 01:05AM I kinda need help telling whether a guy Is interested in me or not, because I literally can’t tell since I’ve never been in a relationship.

Hey I’m a 21 M and I’ve had very little experience with dating, I would count this to low confidence but I’m starting to build some using dating apps, I’ve had a few girls interested in me but most conversations die out. However I’ve been talking to this girl for a month now and she said let’s go get food, I took this as a date (for context this would be my first ever date). I was quite nervous but it went well or so I thought. Today we started talking about something and I wanted some clarification because it sounded like she finds a certain type of personality attractive which wasn’t similar to my personality. We discuss and I find that she finds me too nice, in fact she didn’t know that I was into her and it wasn’t a date My question is what does it mean to be too nice? I would agree I’m a nice open person but can you really be too nice? Submitted October 05, 2021 at 01:07AM Hey I’m a 21 M and I’ve had very little experience with dating, I would count this to low confidenc...

just came back to college and i really like this guy. Its the first time ive liked a guy in 3 years. At first he was giving me mixed signals but then all of a sudden he kissed me and then we made out for a bit and he ended up staying the night. We were fine after that just goofing around like friends. Then i invited him over thinking he would get the message but he ended up telling me that he really only wants to hook up/ have sex with people that he is with i guess or has a connection or something then I apologized cause i thought i made him uncomfortable for he said it was fine and it was good. He told me that he thinks im attractive and really cool and all that but because we are RAs it could be messy but he doesnt really care and shit like that. He invited me to go to a store with him and six flags one day he also wants to jam with me. Idk if its just my anxiety or what but i feel like its a little awkward. Idk i really like him and i hope he likes me too, Submitted October 05...

2 blonde girls just tried to get my Snapchat but I cannot be unfaithful to my gf, I had to reject them Submitted October 05, 2021 at 01:14AM 2 blonde girls just tried to get my Snapchat but I cannot be unfaithful to my gf, I had to reject them

I’m not 100% sure how but if there’s a common hashtag that goes along with the videos you don’t want to see, you can block the tag. Audios too, same process if a lot of the videos you don’t want to see use the same song October 04, 2021 at 11:57PM

I can think about having sex with someone but it doesnt turn me on as a neccesity or desire just something nice that I wouldnt be opposed to. I still consider myself asexual as I dont want to fuck a certain someone who I find extremely romantically attractive nor have I felt that desire. Just an activity. However if you still feel this desire its a still an asexual umbrella term as demisexual October 04, 2021 at 11:53PM

INTJ 🙂 October 04, 2021 at 11:48PM

In Medieval times, there were many possibilities for celibacy and abstinence. Numerous pledges, some of which are still available to Catholics, and then the good old "just don't" approach in which you simple just don't get married or have sex. That one's worked for countless men and women through time. October 04, 2021 at 11:42PM

You’re absolutely still Ace. If anything you’re demisexual, which is Ace. You have my certified asexual stamp of approval to continue calling yourself Ace :) For serious though, sexuality isn’t a mathematical constant. One crush, or sexual partner, doesn’t negate the years of asexual experiences that you’ve had before. And labels are meant to be used, not policed. If calling yourself asexual communicates what you want it to communicate, then go ahead and use it. If another label does better, then switch. Or use both! Or buck labels and just let society be confused. October 04, 2021 at 11:42PM

I’m still relatively new to sex and relationships but I’ve noticed I can’t seem to get enough of it. I’m so addicted I feel like it’s not good? I am so horny, I don’t want to weigh myself down with my urges any longer I am recently friends with benefits with this girl and we’ve done almost everything except sex but I can’t seem to get enough. I feel addicted to the sexual excitement too much so I think I’m not grateful for the present moment at times. I’m not even sure how to approach my situation. There are two things I’d like to have, I’m not sure if it’s realistic or not but: I want to be more intelligent of when to be horny depending on what may be going on because once I masturbate or cum with a partner once it’s a repetitive compulsion of hornyness to keep going again and again (I could masturbate all day I kid you not). I also want to enjoy the sexual experience in the moment. Submitted October 05, 2021 at 12:47AM I’m still relatively new to sex and relationships but I’...

Apparently he’s addicted to porn, he sexts me about all the things he’d do to me, yet he can’t do it? However, this was his first time. What should I do? He gets hard super fast, yet when we try to do it his dick goes limp.. :/ Submitted October 05, 2021 at 12:55AM Apparently he’s addicted to porn, he sexts me about all the things he’d do to me, yet he can’t do it? However, this was his first time. What should I do? He gets hard super fast, yet when we try to do it his dick goes limp.. :/

I(16m) miight have phimosis? When i was 13~ while my penis was smaller i was able to pull it back just before the head w/o an erection,anything further was painful. Right now i can only get it halfway across the head before its too tight. I have had no problems at all with it (Any tasks like peeing,masturbation,etc). Should i be worried orr? Submitted October 05, 2021 at 12:57AM I(16m) miight have phimosis? When i was 13~ while my penis was smaller i was able to pull it back just before the head w/o an erection,anything further was painful.Right now i can only get it halfway across the head before its too tight.I have had no problems at all with it (Any tasks like peeing,masturbation,etc).Should i be worried orr?

Hi I'm a 14 yo male and I've know about how to jack of since I was about 10 and iv loved it ever since. I was wondering if it is healthy of me to be jacking of at least 3 times a day? I am always extremely horny and the only way to help with that for me is to jack off. I can't go 2 days without jacking of or I get extreme pain in my balls. And just in general is this healthy? Submitted October 05, 2021 at 12:57AM Hi I'm a 14 yo male and I've know about how to jack of since I was about 10 and iv loved it ever since. I was wondering if it is healthy of me to be jacking of at least 3 times a day? I am always extremely horny and the only way to help with that for me is to jack off. I can't go 2 days without jacking of or I get extreme pain in my balls. And just in general is this healthy?

I (30F) have been with my bf (30M) for a couple years and I am happy in our relationship, I love him and things are great with us. For some reason I have a wandering mind lately, there have been a few times I would have dreams where I was having sex with someone else, like someone I knew from childhood but as an adult of course. I have never wanted to do it or take any action because I’m happy with my bf but sometimes I’ll get a random thought about having sex with another guy. When I have those thoughts it’s always a random person and not someone I know. I don’t know why my mind goes there, sometimes it’s about a girl and not a guy too. Anyone else been through this or something similar? Submitted October 05, 2021 at 12:57AM I (30F) have been with my bf (30M) for a couple years and I am happy in our relationship, I love him and things are great with us. For some reason I have a wandering mind lately, there have been a few times I would have dreams where I was having sex with so...

Before i divulge into my experiences i would like to disclaim that I am a straight male, and everything i feel is valid but it’s none of the girls faults. The retroactive jealousy is a result of my own insecurity, anxiety and my own thoughts. None of which is their issue. It is solely mine. I have never had an issue with confidence and charisma. I am a well mannered, fun, outgoing, polite, spontaneous, adventurous, extremely sarcastic man. Sexually I feel like I am open to new things, spontaneous and passionate, strike a balance between making love and rough fucking. Love providing orally, and eagerly listen to the communication and body language of my significant others. My member isn’t large nor is it small. Average at best This may seem like I’m tooting my own horn in certain areas but i do love my qualities and am proud of the son my momma raised. I also believe my sexuality is a healthy fun kind and always first and foremost respect my partners wishes and never pressure. No is N...

So basically just matched with this girl a day ago and she suggested we go for a drive for a first date. I’ve never really done this so does anybody have any advice? I feel like it might be awkward. Usually I suggest grabbing a drink or coffee on the first date so this is a change up Submitted October 05, 2021 at 12:08AM So basically just matched with this girl a day ago and she suggested we go for a drive for a first date. I’ve never really done this so does anybody have any advice? I feel like it might be awkward. Usually I suggest grabbing a drink or coffee on the first date so this is a change up

(23 M) Been going to the gym a lot lately and ran into an old friend from back in HS (24 F) (Im 1 year out of college) we got each others number and have been kind of talking here and there but when were at the gym together we have really good conversations. I just asked here the other day if she wanted to meet up every Saturday and she said yes! So here is the dilemma I have, I honestly didn't think that would work and now I'm trying to figure out my next step here, I mean I do like her, still not sure if she likes me but ig time will tell, should I wait a few weeks then if it goes well just bite the bullet and ask her out or should I ask to hangout with her outside of the gym? I guess I'm just asking for general advice on what my next step could/would be or for anyone who has experience? Submitted October 05, 2021 at 12:12AM (23 M) Been going to the gym a lot lately and ran into an old friend from back in HS (24 F) (Im 1 year out of college) we got each others numb...

I started to fall for an online friend (both late 20s). We’ve never met but we used to talk everyday and connected really well. He’s single and did mention he had some issues and wasn’t looking for a relationship for a long time. It wasn’t relevant to me at the time because I didn’t see him as anything more than a friend anyways. But recently I started to fall for him. Idk what changed in me. I confessed the other day, and he said he’s not ready for a relationship. I tried to continue as friends, but my feelings have been building up and I don’t think I can keep being friends. I told him this and decided to stop talking to him, for my own sake. I feel so bad and I miss him so so much. I feel like I messed up by telling him I liked him and lost a good friend, and if I just hid my feelings a bit longer he might’ve been ready to explore a relationship together. Idk, was confessing the right thing to do? Submitted October 05, 2021 at 12:15AM I started to fall for an online friend (b...

If they refuse to discuss their feelings when they have a problem or simply not mature enough to be emotionally ready. Submitted October 05, 2021 at 12:15AM If they refuse to discuss their feelings when they have a problem or simply not mature enough to be emotionally ready.