Hi! everything you are feeling is perfectly normal, 15 is a wild time. I came out as ace around 17, after several years of pressure from people around me. I didnt have words for it, but started figuring it out around 12. It was a weird time for me as well, I was in a long term relationship and only discovered the ace spectrum late into the game. I have since learned a lot of boundaries that have helped me. it is always ok to not know answers related to your sexuality or to need space to figure it out. It is also perfectly fine to find a label that fits ok for now, and realize later that another one fits you better/experiment with another label and learn it doesnt fit. if you experiment with relationships, always be sure you are enthusiastic with what is happening and saying you are not comfortable is always ok (not just in terms of intimacy, but any type of touch, speech patterns, or labels). I have considered having children (i landed on adoption, if it is going to happen), and ther...

This is a picture of a pride table. June 12, 2021 at 12:02AM

Me who is pk with people and their sexuality but have no interest when it come to sex of my own lol June 12, 2021 at 12:01AM

Aww thanks 🥰 June 11, 2021 at 11:59PM

I always point them here https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/wiki/the_spectra complete with whichever of the two are applicable (or both): Scroll to sex-positivity and -negativity Scroll to sex-repulsion and -favourability June 11, 2021 at 11:57PM

How comfortable could you imagine yourself being with using toys to help him achieve his goals? June 11, 2021 at 11:57PM

I love this omg! June 11, 2021 at 11:54PM

hugs some self-confidence into you please keep drawing though June 11, 2021 at 11:54PM

Thabk you this actually helps and I understand June 11, 2021 at 11:53PM

Yes. https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/wiki/the_spectra Scroll to sex-positivity and -negativity , 6.1% of asexuals who took a 2016 survey are sex-negative. You also might want to scroll to sex-repulsion and -favourability , which is the section right above sex-positivity and -negativity . Where you stand on favorability-repulsion is how much you enjoying engaging in sex in your own personal relationships, where you stand on positivity-negativity is a a political stance on how you view sex in society. 37% of asexuals who took that same survey are sex-repulsed. June 11, 2021 at 11:51PM

I think some people don’t have a good radar for clearly-made-up vs. realistic. Some people can’t imagine certain experiences, and so they decide it must be fake just because they don’t share it. Nevermind they’ve felt the exact same way in a different circumstance. “How can you not like pizza? You must be faking to seem special.” Okay, you have a food you don’t like too, just apply that feeling to pizza! But because the dislike is specifically directed at the popular pizza it can’t be real. I think that’s very weird. I also can’t imagine a lot of experiences whatsoever, like being blind. When I close my eyes, I just see black. I have no frame of reference for being unable to see whatsoever, only being unable to perceive specific objects because they’re too far away or blocked by other things. And yet I believe that people are blind, even though I can’t fathom what it’s like. People experience sexual desire, and even though I don’t know what that feels like I’m pretty darn sure it’s ...

aw, thank you so much :') June 11, 2021 at 11:49PM

I’m not from the Midwest but I’ve spent a lot of time there, hello! June 11, 2021 at 11:44PM

Wait what ....... June 11, 2021 at 11:41PM

And wearing a black ring on any other right hand finger means you’re a swinger. So, careful there. June 11, 2021 at 11:41PM

they really said “we actually care and we’re mot just doing this to look good” June 11, 2021 at 11:38PM

So pretty 😍 June 11, 2021 at 11:37PM

The rainbow flag was actually meant to represent the entire community when it was designed. June 11, 2021 at 11:31PM

Oh sh*t June 11, 2021 at 11:29PM

I consider myself sex indifferent. I enjoy taking care of my partner. And I just appreciate the closeness. Not so much the sex. June 11, 2021 at 11:29PM

Think of it as a sort of Venn diagram. One circle is aesthetic attraction one is sexual. You can take away everything solely on the sexual side but it'll still leave where they overlapped. Things that are generally considered sexy can simply be aesthetic too. June 11, 2021 at 11:29PM

Do what's comfortable. If you wanna try sex/sexual things do it. But if the simplest touches wig you out. You might be sex repulsed. Sometimes (like for me) finding the right person can change it. But I think its safe to say that is a rarity. Do what your instincts tell you June 11, 2021 at 11:28PM

wait it’s even funnier that 100% of those fics are sasi June 11, 2021 at 11:25PM