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Boner pill recommendations?

Never had any experience with them and my area isn’t very high in adult stores so I might have to stick to gas station pills. Looking for something that would make me last much longer and possibly remain an erection after climax. Suggestions are highly appreciated Submitted September 21, 2021 at 12:10AM Never had any experience with them and my area isn’t very high in adult stores so I might have to stick to gas station pills. Looking for something that would make me last much longer and possibly remain an erection after climax. Suggestions are highly appreciated

Stress causing lack of sex drive

I'll keep it short Recently my dad has been diagnosed with cancer about 3 weeks ago. It's been quite the fucking emotional rollercoaster. A couple times my gf (who has been extremely supportive) has initiated sex and I just have been so uninterested. Not that the situation was currently on my mind at that moment, but do you think that stress may be causing this situation? Additionally we had sex last night, lasted a while then couldn't get hard. Then it was almost like a performance anxiety thing where, in my head, I was freaking out that I couldn't stay hard, which made me not Able to perform. Any thoughts on this. I feel almost broken 😔 Submitted September 21, 2021 at 12:14AM I'll keep it shortRecently my dad has been diagnosed with cancer about 3 weeks ago. It's been quite the fucking emotional rollercoaster. A couple times my gf (who has been extremely supportive) has initiated sex and I just have been so uninterested. Not that the situation was c...

My(28) gf(27) is unable to orgasm despite our best efforts

A little bit of background info, my gf is not very sexual. She has a relatively low libido and it is usually me initiating anything sexual. In the 3 years that we’ve dated we’ve tried using vibrator toys, lots of fore play such as oral and fingering but nothing works. Every time she feels it building up to an orgasm, it starts to tickle, and she will start squirming and will even forcefully kick me away while laughing uncontrollably. When I asked her about masturbation she says she “fingers herself until she feels it building up and she has to force herself to stop” so she doesn’t even know if she’s ever experienced an orgasm before. We’re hoping someone else can relate to this and can help us out. Thank you all for any tips/advice! Submitted September 21, 2021 at 12:41AM A little bit of background info, my gf is not very sexual. She has a relatively low libido and it is usually me initiating anything sexual. In the 3 years that we’ve dated we’ve tried using vibrator toys, lots ...

My (F24) BF (M21) wants to fuck other girls but still be in a relationship with me.

He started off by saying he wants to be less attached, which ended up in him telling me he wants to fuck other girls. He basically wants to do the single lifestyle things while having a relationship with me because he treasures what we have, in his words. I have problems having sex, I constantly rip which causes us to have almost no penetrative sex but I always make sure he gets his needs met another way ALOT, and I even try rough penetrative sex every once in a while knowing it'll hurt but i want to keep him happy. I dont know how to feel about him wanting to explore other girls, and i'm scared that he'll leave me eventually. I dont want to fuck other men... Idk where to go from here. We've been together for almost 5 years & he already stated although he loves me alot i'm not his preferred body type, so im already super insecure.... i feel nauseous & empty Submitted September 21, 2021 at 12:51AM He started off by saying he wants to be less attache...

Unsure if she's wanting to be more than friends.

A lot of people having been asking lately if there is something going between my friend and I. Asking if we're dating or hooking up or whatever. And I've had people speculate that she likes me. I'm 30 and she's 27. We have been hanging out every weekend now for a couple months, and like every other weekend before that for a couple more. We're both part of the same friend group, so we hangout with that group but also hangout one on one. She has a nickname she calls me by and tells me she loves me and I say it back. She's a great girl, got her shit together, attractive, and we have fun together. We haven't slept together or kissed or anything, we're flirty a bit but it's stayed friendship level. All these people asking has been getting thinking about if there is something more there. But also I don't really know how to ask because that's such a fine line. If there isn't I'd be cool and still talk and hangout with her just as much, I ju...

"OMG I thought I texted you back!"

Girl Ive been talking to for a bit has pulled this one like 3 or 4 times now where she will go multiple days without replying and then say this. Obviously its bullshit, I dont think I just "forget" to text someone back for a couple days multiple times if I actually want to talk to them. I should probably take this as a sign she is uninterested, but why doesnt she just not text me at all? Like once it goes a few hours I just assume she wont reply and its whatever, and then I get these texts and its like what message are you trying to send? Seems like she is using me for attention.... Thoughts on how I should proceed? Next time she pulls this should I just not respond? Submitted September 21, 2021 at 12:02AM Girl Ive been talking to for a bit has pulled this one like 3 or 4 times now where she will go multiple days without replying and then say this. Obviously its bullshit, I dont think I just "forget" to text someone back for a couple days multiple times if I ...

I've made the first move. Now what?

I'm a college student that's goes to the campus gym pretty regularly. I noticed this girl that I find attractive there a few days in a row, so I went an introduced myself. Interaction went well, she was receptive although maybe she was just being nice. I couldn't get a good read on her, but she seems to be reserved and shy. She stays to herself, doesn't go with a partner. Should I try and talk to her more or wait for her to approach me? I know the general advice is that you shouldn't approach women in the gym, but I already did, so what do I do? I know this is pretty vague, so I can add to if needed. Submitted September 21, 2021 at 12:10AM I'm a college student that's goes to the campus gym pretty regularly. I noticed this girl that I find attractive there a few days in a row, so I went an introduced myself. Interaction went well, she was receptive although maybe she was just being nice. I couldn't get a good read on her, but she seems to be res...

Proposal

I (20f) have been dating my boyfriend (26m) for a year, we just welcomed our son I June. We did not want to get married just because we were having a kid together.. both of our parents did it and their marriages did not work out.. Thinking about it more I wanted the same last name as my child when he started school, so I casually mentioned it... we fought about it many times.. He says he ready for our kid but not ready for marriage, but I just accepted it. We fought about something else and he brought up the engagement and how we haven't yet, I was okay with the arrangement.. he had to propose before my 22nd birthday otherwise I was proposing. He ended the argument saying, "fine, whatever, I'll get a ring".. I was fine with our arrangement and I didn't want him to propose till he was ready. I told him, "I don't want you to say that if you are just going to say it and not actually do it". He rolled his eyes and told me, "fine we'll wait then...

Hooked up with his best friend

I was seeing a guy all of 2020. I had to end it because I caught feelings and he wasn’t looking for a relationship. I went to a bar a few weeks ago and ran into his best friend who is also his roommate. I got really drunk and ended up going back with him to their place and hooked up with the best friend. I’m not quite sure but I think it was me who came on to him. He must of not been home since I I didn’t see him. I ask his friend to please not mention any of it to him. We didn’t keep in touch and pretty much was a one time thing. Well it’s been a few weeks since then and I got an “I miss you” text from the guy I was seeing last year. I am still interested in him, but I feel like it’s too weird now. Especially since they live together. Is it too weird to continue seeing him? I wonder if the friend really didn’t mention it to him. Should I feel bad about it? I feel more ashamed of it. Submitted September 21, 2021 at 12:13AM I was seeing a guy all of 2020. I had to end it becau...

/u/Aawhystine on What do you think is could be the cause of asexuality

I’m autistic. If I remember correctly, asexuality is more common in that group. Regardless, I’m sure it contributes because of social issues. September 20, 2021 at 11:32PM

/u/Honest_Management_84 on Just, just realized I'm ace!

guy, I'm also a virgin, and I also never dated anyone. And I also realized my sexuality... Ehh, asexuality... Not long ago. At the end of the summer. Yes! Did you find it super liberating to have a label? September 20, 2021 at 11:31PM

/u/ChrisTuckerAvenue on How do you differentiate between platonic attraction and romantic attraction?

For me it’s like there’s an intensity spectrum, platonic hugs are nice and make me happy but they’re usually quick and light. Romantic hugs and cuddles are deeper and longer and more enthusiastic if that makes any sense September 20, 2021 at 11:29PM

/u/Clash_D on What do you think is could be the cause of asexuality

I can only speak for myself, as I have no recollection of my sexuality status before I got prescribed antidepressants (I was 14 at most). I had a range of traumatic experiences regarding sex that started when I was just a pre teen and continued until I was 20 or so too, so I can't rule them out as possible contributors to my asexuality either (I'm a very positive/ambivalent aego-demisexual). Thing is, I could have been allosexual before the trauma and the meds but I'll probably never know, I was too young and my memories about my childhood/early teens are pretty fuzzy and unorganized. All that being said, I do find a lot of comfort and validation knowing that there are other people that feel like me, with whom I don't have to navigate through hours of "defending myself" just to get a nod of approval from. I don't know if I was born like this, but I know I didn't choose it and even though my sexuality might change in the future finding out about asexua...

/u/Xinder99 on I feel so sad that I don't experience sexual attraction or arousal ☹️ I feel like I'll never really have the human experience of love and intimacy

That sub has 1 million people on it, this planet has god damn near 8 billion fucking people on it, even if ever single account on that sub was a real individual human being and all of them said no sex was a deal breaker that's such a small minute amount of the humans on this planet that you could possibly develop and share a strong emotional and human connection with, hell I think there are enough aces on the planet we could invade Poland or some shit. September 20, 2021 at 11:24PM

Does a below average penis mean below average sex?

Me (21m) have never had sex. Still a virgin and I think part of it is due to my fear of the size of my member. I’m a small guy all around (5’5” and 115lbs) but I feel due to the size I will be limited in positions and performance. Is this a thing? Women, have guys you’ve had sex with done fine even though they may be lacking in other regards? What can I do to make sex better if it is lacking and still make it enjoyable for the girl? I don’t know anything about sex really but this has been on my mind for a while. Thoughts? Submitted September 20, 2021 at 11:28PM Me (21m) have never had sex. Still a virgin and I think part of it is due to my fear of the size of my member. I’m a small guy all around (5’5” and 115lbs) but I feel due to the size I will be limited in positions and performance. Is this a thing? Women, have guys you’ve had sex with done fine even though they may be lacking in other regards? What can I do to make sex better if it is lacking and still make it enjoyable fo...

Feel weird asking for a blow job

As the title suggests, I feel weird randomly asking my fiancée for a blow job. I’ve asked before and she did it, but I felt weird asking. When we have sex, she will give me one as foreplay without me asking. She asks me frequently if I want a hand job. Given she has done it after asking, I’m probably over thinking. I know every girl is different, but is asking something to feel weird about? Additionally, I think I have a subconscious fear she will say no and not like that I asked. If she doesn’t want to then I respect that, but I think I would have that thought in the back of my mind. If she were to ask me to go down on her, I would do it without hesitation. When having sex, I do it because I know she likes it. Submitted September 20, 2021 at 11:29PM As the title suggests, I feel weird randomly asking my fiancée for a blow job. I’ve asked before and she did it, but I felt weird asking. When we have sex, she will give me one as foreplay without me asking. She asks me frequently...

What is your favorite thing to do in bed?

So - I’m recently married but I love trying new things in bed but I’m also REALLLLLLY shy to try new things but I feel im also running out of ideas. So - can you guys tell me what your favorite thing to do is - something different? Detail is definitely okay as im really looking for something new to try! No judgment or anything. I respect anything you guys like and im super excited to read some of these! Submitted September 20, 2021 at 11:33PM So - I’m recently married but I love trying new things in bed but I’m also REALLLLLLY shy to try new things but I feel im also running out of ideas. So - can you guys tell me what your favorite thing to do is - something different? Detail is definitely okay as im really looking for something new to try! No judgment or anything. I respect anything you guys like and im super excited to read some of these!

Issue after trying to lose virginity (19M)

So I (19M) started dating my girlfriend (18F) around July. And she left for an out-of-state college at the end of August. And due to the fact that it would place us several hours away from each other, we decided to get a hotel room together before she left so we can get “physical” before she left. I’ve never had issues with erectile dysfunction or getting up before, but when we were making out and doing everything beforehand, I was totally into it, and so was she, but just couldn’t get up. It was like semi-hard, but not good enough. It was super embarrassing at the time, and I just ended up pleasing her instead. I went up and visited her at her college again this past weekend and we got a hotel in a neighboring city for the night to again get physical. And I had the exact same issue happen. It’s starting to worry me. I never have any issues getting a full erection when masturbating previously or anything like that. And I’m afraid that it is going to hold me back from having a great...

I can’t get over the past things a “one night” fling said about me.

(I’m using my friends Reddit account to stay anonymous, thank you!) So to preface this, I’ve had three “sexual” parters. I’ve only had piv sex with one who is my current boyfriend and who I lost my virginity to. But the other one was a junior high boyfriend. I remember we tried to do the deed but it was really awkward and he was on Xanax. So it never got in, it was flaccid. Anyway, the “One night Stand” starts like this. I just turned 16. I had only “pecked” a few crushes. Like a small kiss but that’s it. He was a older football player. I had a huge crush. He asked to come over, he knew I was very drunk. (He was sober) and then he came over and coerced me to give him head. I took my shirt off (not my bra) and left my pants on. It was a bad experience. Not a head pusher but really gross and weird. He knew how much I liked him, and he knew I wanted to date him. Afterward, he asked and said I should have sex with him because virginity doesn’t matter. He then left and that was that. T...

my bf discovered he can make me cum through PIV and won't try any other way now :(

my (22f) boyfriend (26m) recently discovered that he could make me cum from PIV, in the moment it was completely incredible. i never thought i’d be able to experience that because i’d always needed some sort of clitoral stimulation to finish (both in solo experiences and with him). after the first the time, we were sure not to build our expectations but it kept happening and it quickly became the norm for us. if for whatever reason he couldn’t make me finish by PIV alone, i would touch myself while he did his thing until i finished and those orgasms were really intense. however, now he literally will not try to make me cum any other way. no oral. no fingering. no anal. no toys. nothing. i keep bringing it up like casually “oh wow it’s been such a long time since you went down on me” or "wouldn't it be extra fun to fill up both my holes the next time we have sex?" but i feel like either he’s not taking the hints or he just doesn’t care. even position wise, he will only f...