Those turned out really nice! January 16, 2021 at 11:54PM

My romantic relationship has been through a lot of stages, and so has my relation to sex. I’m currently married to an allo, and I love her so very dearly. I don’t really know what type of ace I am, I kinda never really felt like adding an additional label to myself other than asexual, but I am defo gonna figure it out once I get a handle on what ever the hell my gender identity is doing. Me and wife used to have sex, it was like at the 9 month point in we did it, but it was never really and expression of love just more of a “what fantasy/kink shall we explore” and at least for me was more like not having sex with her, but experiencing the action of sex. But since moving in with each over and getting married sex had just be erased from our lives. It’s not something we feel like doing at the moment. Before I even asked her out (which I did in my pjs after running to catch up to her, cause her fiend told me she was waiting for the last bus. and I had the realisation that I had a romantic

Sex positivity isn’t the same as sex-favorable. Sex positivity is a social stance, not a personal inclination. It is the idea that sex is a normal thing, that talking about it, having it, and not having it are all normal and acceptable and even good things. Sex positivity is the backbone upon which we argue that it’s acceptable, normal, and good for individuals to not be interested in sex. This is basic social justice stuff, and shouldn’t be controversial here. January 16, 2021 at 11:47PM

It does make me feel alone at times. I am neutral about some acts but repulsed by others. I don't mind sexual or lewd discussions either. The real problem arises when people try to invalidate you. January 16, 2021 at 11:46PM

Having an actual person over for movie night and cuddles January 16, 2021 at 11:40PM

I know that Aven has a forum section for older Ace, I'm not sure if it's very active though... January 16, 2021 at 11:40PM

I'm very sorry you're feeling that way... maybe try watching some nice videos or doing something that you like, perhaps it could make you feel a little better <3 January 16, 2021 at 11:36PM

Tbf, I'm female and only "out" to two people irl (two others might've guessed). I figured no one needs to know unless I want a relationship with them. January 16, 2021 at 11:35PM

Propably. More reasons to not care about them January 16, 2021 at 11:31PM

The account was made today so I assume they made it just to spew hate at me January 16, 2021 at 11:31PM

Wait, it's not a hipster trend? Then why am I wasting time here when I could be buying records or whatever is hip now? /s January 16, 2021 at 11:28PM

Just bye Felicia them and report that to the mods, no need to waste tour time January 16, 2021 at 11:28PM

I think part of the reason it seems like there are many more women, is that (in my experience at least) sex tends to be a more important thing to men socially. Not generally obviously, but they just tend to talk about it more. Asexuality isn't widely accepted, and and the stigmas affect all, but I feel like it could disproportionately stop many more men from speaking on it just based off of the culture they were raised in. Sorry if that didnt make any sense. January 16, 2021 at 11:28PM

They're probably just trying to justify being a jerk by saying ace people are homophobic January 16, 2021 at 11:27PM

I have the same issue, but with my grandparents as they are very religious. As for my parents, since I'm still young (to be fair I kinda am) I know I'm ace and I'm worried more than anything that they will say you just haven't found the right person, or it will come later in life. January 16, 2021 at 11:26PM

You’re so pretty! 😍 January 16, 2021 at 11:26PM

"Fix the homophobia withing the asexual community" Wait what? I'm sorry, but I've encountered much more aphobes in the LGBTQIA + community that the other way around Anyway , SpongeBob is an ace icon. Take it or leave it Felicia January 16, 2021 at 11:25PM

I'm attempting to not be upset by it but it is hurtful January 16, 2021 at 11:23PM

It‘s because for a lot of allos sexuality and romance are intrinsically linked/the same (at least in the "romantic relationships are also sexual" way, not necessarily the other way around) January 16, 2021 at 11:22PM

btw sorry this happened to you! you were just saying what you heard in a completely peaceful way January 16, 2021 at 11:22PM

Yeah it's someone else January 16, 2021 at 11:19PM

It feels manipulative because it is. January 16, 2021 at 11:18PM

this is not the same person who said to you "thank you for correcting me!", right? either way... very rude and shitty person January 16, 2021 at 11:18PM