I mean, these women seem pleasant to interact with, and I feel that's enough of an impetus to learn more about them. But ultimately, the feeling is not mutual. I wish some of them would just stop and gimme a chance to know them better before they moved on to the next one. Submitted April 17, 2019 at 11:16PM I mean, these women seem pleasant to interact with, and I feel that's enough of an impetus to learn more about them. But ultimately, the feeling is not mutual.I wish some of them would just stop and gimme a chance to know them better before they moved on to the next one.

31F, not dating and have never used OLD. I met my soon to be ex husband in a bar one night ten years ago and we have been together ever since. I have a random question about online dating (disclaimer: I’m so far from ready to date and have no plans on doing it until the divorce is finalized or maybe even later, who knows. I’ll be honest and say coming to this reddit certainly makes the prospect of dating extremely daunting, but I digress) I work very close to where I live. At this company, I have I guess what you would call a position of influence (though it’s not management, trying to keep details spare for privacy). The company employs a lot of males, many of them single. It makes me cringe to think of seeing these people on an OLD site and them seeing me, entirely due to the type of role I have in the organization. Is this something anyone deals with? Is there a way to “filter” workmates out? I’ve never signed up or used a dating site so this is probably a ridiculous question. Tha...

I (38M) matched on tinder with woman who's profile i thought was a good fit. I do well with conversational openings usually. But I worry that im too boring sometimes. She messaged me first with "hi babe". Short, but flirty. So I figure I will try for funny/flirty back for a change. I went with "who are you calling babe, sugar?" And wink emoji. It seemed she might appreciate a little humor/ snark. But i was apparently very wrong. No response for 15 minutes. I was going to make a second, more standard attempt with an apology for being a smartass. Too late. Unmatched. I will stick with what works from now on. Submitted April 18, 2019 at 12:53AM I (38M) matched on tinder with woman who's profile i thought was a good fit. I do well with conversational openings usually. But I worry that im too boring sometimes. She messaged me first with "hi babe".Short, but flirty. So I figure I will try for funny/flirty back for a change. I went with "who...

Yeah, just typing that out makes me cringe. As a 33/m, the longest I dated a girl was for nine months when I was nineteen, and that was in college, mainly focused on enjoying mutual activities such as constant hooking up whenever and wherever we could. It never got to a serious point where "I love you's" were exchanged. Since then, I've only had one night stands, which I can count on one hand. At my age, it scares me that I haven't fundamentally connected romantically with a woman. So far, I didn't really put myself out there much in my life. I made attempts to date through both free and paid dating apps/sites, but those potential dates flaked out before meeting or the conversations otherwise fizzled. I honestly didn't even get hardly any matches on Tinder or OK Cupid. The matches that I did get were women who I didn't feel were physically attractive. I think it would be very difficult for me to date a woman who I wasn't physically attracted to. ...

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I was in a relationship for 13 years. Weren’t married, but we were obviously common-law. I met him when I was 21 and gravity was on my side, but now that I’m older and looking for a date, I’m not as confident as I was years ago. Submitted April 18, 2019 at 01:57AM I was in a relationship for 13 years. Weren’t married, but we were obviously common-law. I met him when I was 21 and gravity was on my side, but now that I’m older and looking for a date, I’m not as confident as I was years ago.

Hi all, I am trying to date and I am over 30. I see a lot of posts on here discussing attachment styles and their difficulties. Anyhow, I've come to realize that I myself may have an attachment issue. I am a man in my 30's and struggling with dating, but I myself and the perpetrator of my own pain. I can't seem to let my guard down enough to trust or truly connect with women prior to ending a relationship and moving on. I'm looking to understand these dynamics better... and this sub seems to be very experienced in attachment style. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Does anyone have and books they can recommended outside of "attached", perhaps particularly focusing on avoidant styles? Submitted April 18, 2019 at 02:51AM Hi all, I am trying to date and I am over 30. I see a lot of posts on here discussing attachment styles and their difficulties.Anyhow, I've come to realize th...

Posting this under an anonymous account because people I know hang around on reddit. ​ Before posting my problem, I'll give you some pertinent details: I'm 37, turning 38 in June. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of close to 4 years, because we just weren't working out. I've only dated 6 or 7 girls in 20 years Sex life is non-existent (average gap is 4-6 years). When I was 19 or 20, I had some luck at least meeting girls that led to hookups, but in the last 10-15 years, that's dried up. Since 27, I've only dated 2 girls, one for 1 year and one for 4 years. ​ The problem: I'll preface this by saying that I'm a nice guy. Not las in..."I'll come over and cat sit while you go out with your boyfriend" nice, but just...gentlemanly. I try to not be a dick to women. The problem that I have is that I've never had "game", never been able to talk to women, and now that I'm getting older (again, turning 38 soon), I...

This relates to some of the posts I’ve been seeing lately about ‘he’s just not that into you’. I just wanted to share my experience recently. This is the difference between a guy who’s just leading you on, keeping you as a back-up but who isn’t keen enough to give you any indication about where your relationship is heading and a guy who’s 100% into you. I met someone on tinder 12 months ago. There was instant chemistry and we started spending time together sporadically. He was always very clear about his situation and his inability to commit to anything serious, yet he also made it very clear he wanted to keep me around. He was constantly telling me how special, beautiful and amazing I was and how much he loved spending time with me, yet he rarely asked me out and he was terrible at replying to my messages. He was often late to dates and communication in between was sparse. However whenever we got together it was incredible. The sex was better than anything I’d had before and our con...

A little backstory on me: I’ve been single for 7 years- and when I say single, I mean single...I rarely dated anyone longer than a week or two (90% of the time not by my choice), and never even talked to anyone I was dating on a daily basis. Having lived in the largest and least datable cities in the country, I have a multitude of dating stories and have truly been through the ringer when it comes to meeting every type of crazy person there is. About two months ago, I randomly met a guy in another city who has a job in nightlife. I automatically wrote him off for those reasons and never in a million years would’ve expected someone in those circumstances to work out, but two and a half months later here we are. Despite all the obvious hurdles, he’s been the most consistent communicator, has put a ton of effort in, and is so considerate - I’m shocked! While it’s still very early, I can already see this actually turning into a serious situation! We’ve been seeing eachother every 2 weeks....

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so basically, we met through mutual friends and were both going through the lowest points in our lives because we had both gotten dumped a couple months prior to us becoming friends. we always had tension between us bc we were physically attracted to each other and everyone in our friend group wanted us to hook up but we were both 1. still in ‘love’ with our previous partner and 2. were too scared and insecure to actually go through with it. but, eventually our closest mutual friend got sent away to a boarding school and so we were left alone because with her leaving, her boyfriend promptly left the friend group and our other friend and i had a falling out so we were left with only each other. now, we had been hanging out alone a bit by then but nothing more than friendly stuff and talking about our ex’s (trying to get over them). this was strange bc she’s a shy person and i’m a pretty outgoing person but i wasn’t always that way and so i had to MAKE myself outgoing and so i had to ma...

---Long post warning, needed to get it all out--- Tldr: broke up, been heart broken for 2 months, but there's potential of me really liking someone but it's complicated to see if there's anything there because she's in Mexico and I'm in northern US. Also I can't tell by what she writes if she's even interested or not I was recently broken up with after living together with her for 3 years. I wouldn't say we were fighting all the time or anything like that. She couldn't see herself marrying me and thought that after 3 years of living with me and not feeling that way, that she probably wasn't really in love. So she moved out and broke my heart. I've been having a hell of a time getting over it. It's what I wake up thinking about, think about all day at work, and then fall asleep thinking about it, it really sucks. We are pretty differe t in the way we are. She is very logical and emotionless, and I'm more of a romantic and emotional ...

I would just like to gush about my current SO and just how ridiculously lucky I am. There’s a lot of backstory to our relationship but long story short he waited for me for a long time while I was going through some personal stuff. Every time I think about him or look at him I wish that I didn’t make him wait so long because we’re just so good together and he makes me feel like the most amazing gal in the world! We were recently at a party together and I started talking to him about how much i fucking love him. We stood out on a friend’s balcony for about an hour and just talked about our future and our plans and our past and it was absolutely incredible. I pretty much already knew the way he felt about the things we talked about, but it’s so nice to have that kind of confirmation sometimes. We haven’t been dating all that long I suppose, but time has just flown by and it still feels like the first date every time we go out. And he totally knows my reddit account but IDC if he sees th...

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So theres this one crazy girl that im friends with. She posted an whatsapp status like this: "Guilherme (my name) is losing opportunity" yesterday and didnt talk to me today. But the thing is, yesterday she was asking me every fkin time to buy some food for her, and tried holding my hands many times. So what is the point of this? It kinda looks like she likes me by the way she looks and talks to me Submitted April 17, 2019 at 08:55PM So theres this one crazy girl that im friends with. She posted an whatsapp status like this: "Guilherme (my name) is losing opportunity" yesterday and didnt talk to me today. But the thing is, yesterday she was asking me every fkin time to buy some food for her, and tried holding my hands many times. So what is the point of this? It kinda looks like she likes me by the way she looks and talks to me

Today's the day I put my foot down. Erick told me, "It's not cool to be used man, I'm telling you. Don't put yourself through this." And he was absolutely right, but you live and you learn. I put it all on the table and it seems to me, that I'm on hold, just in case it doesn't work out with someone else. I should've left this place years ago, and now I have every reason to leave. Word to my man Nas "Life's a bitch and then ya die. That's why we get high, 'cause you never know when you're gonna go." Submitted April 17, 2019 at 10:42PM Today's the day I put my foot down. Erick told me, "It's not cool to be used man, I'm telling you. Don't put yourself through this." And he was absolutely right, but you live and you learn. I put it all on the table and it seems to me, that I'm on hold, just in case it doesn't work out with someone else. I should've left this place years ago, and n...

I am in love with my colleague. She is my supervisor, 8 years my senior, and she has a different social circle. She has taught me so much about life and people and work and emotions. She will also be leaving work in a week or so and I won’t see her as often, if at all. People have a way of disappearing from me once that which binds us is nonexistent. Even if I can somehow maintain contact with her after she leaves, I will be going to uni in three months in a different part of the country... so it sucks. I’m too bitter, boring, serious and full of self-loathing to deserve anyone’s love. My phobia of sex makes loving her both agony and easier, somehow. I will be watching and admiring beauty from a distance for the rest of my life - it sounds like a sentencing. It is my fate. She is the first of many who I will love from a distance. She is my first love. Her perfume haunts me. Her voice soothes me. The particular rhythm of her approaching footsteps are imprinted on my memory. It is ag...

They say true love is when you sacrifice everything for the person you love, even if it means you suffer or die. In a loving relationship, what happens if one partner is warm and sweet while the other is cold and distant? Talking about the trouble it's causing, makes no difference and points to no solution. Is it love to let go of the relationship and leave because it's become toxic? Or is it love to suffer in a toxic relationship so you two can be together? If your partner is still cold, distant, or mean despite raising concern; how much suffering should you endure to prove that your love is true? Submitted April 18, 2019 at 12:02AM They say true love is when you sacrifice everything for the person you love, even if it means you suffer or die.In a loving relationship, what happens if one partner is warm and sweet while the other is cold and distant? Talking about the trouble it's causing, makes no difference and points to no solution.Is it love to let go of the r...

my boyfriend goes to sleep earlier than I do because he works early in the morning. I am always missing him so much afterwards. I stare at our text chat endlessly thinking about the words of love I could say (usually I avoid sending a message because sometimes he leaves his phone on and the vibration wakes him up, but sometimes I can't help it). My love for him is overflowing, I just want to shower him in adoration, and repeat 1000 times just how much I love him. I hope he's dreaming of me : ) Submitted April 18, 2019 at 12:30AM my boyfriend goes to sleep earlier than I do because he works early in the morning. I am always missing him so much afterwards. I stare at our text chat endlessly thinking about the words of love I could say (usually I avoid sending a message because sometimes he leaves his phone on and the vibration wakes him up, but sometimes I can't help it).My love for him is overflowing, I just want to shower him in adoration, and repeat 1000 times just...

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I hate it when you like to talk to someone you like but at the same time you don’t cuz you might disturbing that person or she doesn’t wanna talk to you Submitted April 18, 2019 at 01:51AM I hate it when you like to talk to someone you like but at the same time you don’t cuz you might disturbing that person or she doesn’t wanna talk to you

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I think love is both a feeling and a choice . The feeling that you want someone and the choice to trust someone so much that you let them pick you apart piece by piece exposing your flaws and wishing they won’t leave you broken and in pieces. Submitted April 18, 2019 at 02:39AM I think love is both a feeling and a choice . The feeling that you want someone and the choice to trust someone so much that you let them pick you apart piece by piece exposing your flaws and wishing they won’t leave you broken and in pieces.

https://www.thepositiveidentity.com/ We've been on other parts of Reddit and we're getting ready to launch a video series (we have some videos out right now to let people know about us)! So we're about to go out to media companies to get them interested but we also want to build grassroots support as well. Our angle is that people celebrate and love Asian, Black, Hispanic and White people and to have people share media that shows that. We believe in "Love your neighbor as yourself" and want to have that mentality for how people see their racial community and others. Love your AsianBlackHispanicWhiteBeyond identity and love others the same. To do this we aggregate articles and media for people to spread that do exactly that. We want people to change the game and share positive stories and content on social media to show the good things people in your community and others are doing for each other and the world. We would love any support and direction. We're c...

It's like you're screaming, And no one can hear. You almost feel ashamed That someone could be that important, That without them, you feel like nothing. No one will ever understand how much it hurts. You feel hopeless, like nothing can save you. And when it's over, and it's gone, You almost wish that you could have all that bad stuff back, So that you could have the good. Submitted April 18, 2019 at 03:11AM It's like you're screaming,And no one can hear.You almost feel ashamedThat someone could be that important,That without them, you feel like nothing.No one will ever understand how much it hurts.You feel hopeless, like nothing can save you.And when it's over, and it's gone,You almost wish that you could have all that bad stuff back,So that you could have the good.

So the other day I got out of school early (I'm in Highschool) and on my way to the car I noticed how beautiful the day was. The wind was blowing pretty strongly but not enough that you couldn't breathe. The trees were rustling peacefully as I listened to "Song on a Beach"- Soundtrack of the Movie: Her (HIGHLY RECOMMEND THE SONG AND MOVIE) I started smiling cause I was just so happy I was alive to see such a beautiful day and feel so peaceful. I kept walking and down the sidewalk a block away I saw the guy I've liked for 6 years walking towards me. A year ago me and him had a falling out because he stood me up without telling me anything whatsoever. I don't know why I care so deeply about him and why he is so important to me. Everytime I see him I want to just go and hug him and tell him how much I care about him. (Side note: Earlier this week I had asked the universe to give me a sign if I should give him up or keep liking him. I was so done with having thi...

F21. I got out of a 3 year relationship in January, but now I am seeing someone new. We started dating officially 4 days ago. My current boyfriend i think will be the person I marry someday. Is it crazy to have that feeling so quickly? I have such a connection with him that I didn’t even know existed. I guess I am just looking for reassurance. Submitted April 18, 2019 at 03:58AM F21. I got out of a 3 year relationship in January, but now I am seeing someone new. We started dating officially 4 days ago. My current boyfriend i think will be the person I marry someday. Is it crazy to have that feeling so quickly? I have such a connection with him that I didn’t even know existed. I guess I am just looking for reassurance.

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This will be a long post... sorry guys It’s not often that we come across someone who leaves us with such a powerful feeling. The idea that such a feeling could make you feel the highest high or the lowest low. While you are going about your day you think of them. And, when you lay your head down to sleep, you dream of them. You begin to view the world in a different perspective. You gush at every romantic movie, book, or song, because you get it. You are always in a good mood as long as you get to be around them and talk with them. While you are with them it’s the best of times, and once you part, you look forward to the next time you can be in each other’s presence. The beauty that you see in them, goes beyond their appearance. You see their heart and they see yours. The two of you are two souls taking flight, and wandering about this new existence you both know as love. Writing this makes me think of you. I remember the first time we spoke, I told you I found you charming, intimi...