I'm curious about your flair April 30, 2020 at 12:00AM

My (29F) sexuality was also formed on non-consensual fantasies. I don’t think it has anything to do with my a-spec sexuality now. I heard somewhere that BDSM is the most common fantasy for asexuals. It doesn’t sound at all like the erotica you were reading “scared” you... it sounds like you enjoyed it and it aroused you, which is normal and okay. I think most people are exposed to this type of fantasy as well, so it’s unrealistic for you mom to think she could have prevented this. Many people who were exposed to this stuff early are also allosexual when they grow up. In fact, non consent is a fairly common fantasy for straight women. It doesn’t mean they’d want this in reality. In our fantasies, we’re in total control, so it’s very different and there is no real danger. I don’t think it’s anything for either of you to worry about. I’m sorry she’s making you feel like your feelings aren’t valid. Maybe if she read more about asexuality it would help her understand. It is curious why sev...

You can make a less sweet frosting, which I prefer when making my own cake. April 29, 2020 at 11:56PM

read the rules. unless you're an asshole (or a troll), you're welcome here ;) April 29, 2020 at 11:54PM

Yeah, this is true, they are the reason Destiny 2 kind of went so bad and only got better after parting with them. They are one of those companies that has a micromanaging problem and are out to profit. Just because they throw an ace or gay or bi pride flag, or change their icon to a rainbow during pride month tend to mean they just want to do the bare minimum effort to seem "woke" and "accepting" because it gets them money. EA may microtransaction and nickel and dime their player base paid, even putting unskippable ads in games people payed $60 for, but Activision is the kind of company that pretends to care, but internally don't give a crap sadly. April 29, 2020 at 11:54PM

Look up aegosexuality 😁 April 29, 2020 at 11:44PM

give me some of that hot, steamy garlic bread action baby April 29, 2020 at 11:43PM

funny. if you're ever interested in "knowing what a proper orgasm feels like" ... don't go search for it from someone that told you he can give you one. ... 99% chance he'll only care about himself. also, "oh I'd rape you but I'm not a rapist" .... WTF. April 29, 2020 at 11:38PM

... uneducated is okay. a f*cking creep is not okay. April 29, 2020 at 11:36PM

kind reminder that not everyone is nice or even trying to be. also kind reminder that (some) people tend to get defensive when you tell them they've done something wrong. ... people are complicated. April 29, 2020 at 11:36PM

I don't understand the whole trans thing, but I still respect them. ... being a creep is being disrespectful, and that's the one thing I won't tolerate. Yes I'm a self-proclaimed assholephobic. also, "thats not real" is one thing. "I want to fuck you to make you change your mind" ... dude that's literally corrective rape. April 29, 2020 at 11:33PM

as a sex-positive ace, I do, and enjoy it. some people do it only to "tame" their libido ...some other people simply don't. ... each person is unique ;) April 29, 2020 at 11:30PM

... as I always say, if people can't accept you for who you are, you shouldn't waste your time on them. you're better off without your ex (and I'm sure you know it) April 29, 2020 at 11:25PM

Pattern recognition tells me that I'm glad that I can't see how that comment ends. April 29, 2020 at 11:25PM

So basically my bestfriend(single and more sexually open than most people) has a friend group she occasionally hangs out with. We are all somewhat young(19-24) and singleish(in my case ENM). It's usually playing board games, getting drunk, and they often get intimate with each other. I'm basically invited if I want to join, but I haven't made up my mind yet. My boyfriend is also welcome to join but he's been sober for a while and doesn't want to be around alcohol. Honestly it sounds hot and fun to me. My boyfriend said he doesn't mind too much(besides being against drinking but I enjoy a few beers from time to time already). He's against forming close emotional bonds, but there doesn't seem to be a crush/love situation with anyone in the group. Probably because guys don't get possessive over someone if they see them playing with others as well. I've had fwbs that I had to end because they were catching feelings so this sounds nice. I haven...

So, I've always been extremely shy about my body, but finally getting a good boyfriend seems to be changing that for me. In high school I was always the girl who changed facing the corner after gym class. I've usually been filled with dread before doctor appointments, and I didn't even like my cat seeing me naked. I'm not obese, and I don't have anything weird going on. I just felt like every tiny detail could be up for appraisal. A few months ago I started getting sexual with a guy, and the way he's been treating me has absolutely blown my mind! He asks me for feedback, like do you like that, does that feel good, or even what would you like me to do to you? And of course the sex is wonderful with all the communication going on! In retrospect, this seems pretty basic, but the other two guys I've had sex with didn't do that. I've put up with bad cunnilingus that I wasn't really into, and that's even after giving a few hints that were prompt...

So I got advice off another reddit to make orgasms a lot better and such n it was prostate play. Ive only done anal once and it wasnt enjoyable at all with a past male fwb. Ive wanted to expirement more with it by myself with my fingers or simply toys but I dont know where to start.....Like do I just dive in, lube up and stick a finger up there? Even if I go in with fingers ive always been a girl that has extremely long natural nails. Not like scary long just long nails and I dont want to clip them if I dont have to. I dont have any toys except a small clit vibrator n its not long or big at all and its like funnily shaped so im not sure if i wanna stick such a funny shaped object up there so soon. Should I expect anything? What should I do? Steps? tips? Anything id like to hear.. Submitted April 29, 2020 at 11:52PM So I got advice off another reddit to make orgasms a lot better and such n it was prostate play. Ive only done anal once and it wasnt enjoyable at all with a past mal...

I guess I came here to see yalls opinion and see if my situation is normal??. My current partner does not want to go down on me. I can only have an orgasm from clitoral stimulation and he's not good with his hands. We have been working on this for a while, trying to improve etc etc. But in 4 years I've had maybe like 3 orgasms with him. He says I taste terrible. But other men and women have said I taste fine. I'm just embarrassed any time he wants to have sex because I have to fake it, and dont get anything out of it. Also, We have a one year old so now it happens even less often. Is there anything i can do to improve taste? Or something to make him more comfortable? other than pineapple juice which i can't drinkb. (Btw ya girl already takes probiotics and drinks hella water). What can I do 😭 I dont want to force him to do something he doesn't like but I also like orgasms too lol. Submitted April 29, 2020 at 11:56PM I guess I came here to see yalls opinion a...

It’s always been such a turn off to me and I’ve never had any desire to have anything done to my butt. The whole thing is just really gross to me and not sexual (no offense to anyone). I had experimented a little bit with it in my previous relationship but it was painful and rather forced on me and I didn’t enjoy it. My new boyfriend and I both agreed that it was off limits and he didn’t have any interest in it either. However one thing led to another (all consensual, mostly me entertaining it) and somehow we ended up experimenting a little bit with it and surprisingly I enjoyed it a lot, way too much. It’s just a finger and he’s extremely gentle and not forceful or pushy at all. In combination with other things it makes me cum extremely quick and sadly feels better than any other method of orgasming I’ve felt. I say sadly because I just wish it wasn’t true almost. I mean it feels amazing but why does it have to be my butt? I hate the thought of butt stuff and I hate that I actually e...

(M) 20y/o I love getting head but I dislike having to eat p.... I’ll say I’m good at it but I still get seriously uninterested having to return the favor Submitted April 30, 2020 at 12:01AM (M) 20y/o I love getting head but I dislike having to eat p.... I’ll say I’m good at it but I still get seriously uninterested having to return the favor

I (25f) have been dating my partner (25m) for about 8 months. We have great sex and share similar kinks and fantasies, but I was never able to make him finish from oral like I have with other men until today! We were both left with shaky knees and giant smiles on our face and even managed to get it on camera. It was so good and I have some serious after glow right now, just wanted to share. Submitted April 30, 2020 at 12:05AM I (25f) have been dating my partner (25m) for about 8 months. We have great sex and share similar kinks and fantasies, but I was never able to make him finish from oral like I have with other men until today! We were both left with shaky knees and giant smiles on our face and even managed to get it on camera. It was so good and I have some serious after glow right now, just wanted to share.

First of all I love my boyfriend dearly but lately I haven’t feel the slightest bit push to have sex with him. I used to have a very high libido ( everyday a couple of times sex). Sex used to he fun and daily but lately I just don’t feel it anymore. He (M 30) has been nothing but supportive and patience towards my lack of libido lately. Especially with the current situation, we stay at home almost all the time. Any suggestion on how to reignite our sex life again? Submitted April 30, 2020 at 12:13AM First of all I love my boyfriend dearly but lately I haven’t feel the slightest bit push to have sex with him. I used to have a very high libido ( everyday a couple of times sex). Sex used to he fun and daily but lately I just don’t feel it anymore. He (M 30) has been nothing but supportive and patience towards my lack of libido lately. Especially with the current situation, we stay at home almost all the time. Any suggestion on how to reignite our sex life again?

So, I'm in a LDR and we've just entered the phone sex stage. My girl even got a toy that works through an app so I can be the one in control. And I found out I'm baaaad at this. I don't know how to work her up verbally. IRL I mostly just shut up and do things. When we tried for the first time I just ended up making her laugh because I talked too much. Help? Submitted April 30, 2020 at 12:14AM So, I'm in a LDR and we've just entered the phone sex stage. My girl even got a toy that works through an app so I can be the one in control.And I found out I'm baaaad at this. I don't know how to work her up verbally. IRL I mostly just shut up and do things.When we tried for the first time I just ended up making her laugh because I talked too much.Help?