The first person [27 M] I [24 F] almost dated after getting out of a serious relationship suddenly decided to not hang out a few weeks back. He had our fifth date planned, then he postponed. We both got busy and never ended up rescheduling it, and a week later I asked if we could just hang out. He said he was having a rough week so not that week. I told him I hoped his week got better and to let me know if he ever wanted to hang out again. He replied with, “I’ll let ya know,” to which I didn’t respond because that was definitely a sign he wanted to stop talking. It’s been over two weeks since that. Fast forward to today. I am helping out with a video for work. We end up going to his business to film, and we are on camera together. He then strikes up a conversation after filming and acts like nothing had ever happened. Him ending things over text certainly frustrated me, but I have been trying to move on. We weren’t actually dating, ya know? Then tonight I realized that I still have ...

This is going to be extremely long but my friends advice is super vague rn! So my sorority has our semi formal social tomorrow night, and all of my friends currently have dates. Before i give details i just want to preface.. I’ve gone to socials without a guy every other time and have a BLAST! Semi is a bit more of a ~bring a date/guy~ thing so it would be least awkward to go with someone! I’ve also never had a date before to a social so like why not!? Anyways, this weekend is also my schools homecoming so going to a semi themed social isn’t really that attractive of an invite... I asked my guy friend 3 days ago and he said he was really sick but he would let me know. I messaged him 4 hours ago asking again and it still hasn’t been opened.. so i’m taking that as a no! (no sweat, i get it!) But I’m left in a tough spot now on who to ask/go with. I have a few options left to ask, one is my “friends” ex, an old hookup that ended weirdly but on good terms, and be set up with a friends...

I really don’t know the lyrics were just variations of “I couldn’t sleep because sex sounds” October 25, 2019 at 12:11AM

And for those willing to date people with kids, what caveats are there? Kids over a certain age only? Empty nests only? Does it make sense for those of us with kids to drop out of the dating pool until the kids are grown, or is that overkill? There are tons of posts from the childfree crowd. We don’t need to hear from them. I’m looking for something those of us with kids might actually find encouraging. Submitted October 24, 2019 at 11:44PM And for those willing to date people with kids, what caveats are there? Kids over a certain age only? Empty nests only? Does it make sense for those of us with kids to drop out of the dating pool until the kids are grown, or is that overkill?There are tons of posts from the childfree crowd. We don’t need to hear from them. I’m looking for something those of us with kids might actually find encouraging.

(29f) I caught my husband watching Shemale porn. I am very open minded. It doesn’t bother me. It became an interest because he was in Dubai and a lot of the guys would talk about it. He never had sex with one. He also says after he finishes watching it he gets kind of grossed out. He also said the attraction became because he watch a lot of porn .... he became desensitized. Is he bisexual ? Is this a fetish? I even asked if he would like to try it and I would be open and he says no way. He never cheated - he is a devoted husband and father in all honesty. I was never into marriage but he was so amazing I married him TL;DR I love my husband very much. And we have kids. I just want him to not be scared and open because he comes from a conservative family. We have been together for two years and our love is amazing . And he’s so heartbroken that he didn’t tell me . He cried and begged me to stay - I was in shock and I wasn’t speaking so he thought I was going to walk out and not be so u...

I know it’s common to have trouble moving on, but I feel like this story is different. Thank you for reading :) I just got out of a 2+ year relationship with my ex. She dumped me. There wasn’t anything that should have caused a breakup, but here we are. Throughout the 2 years, she went from saying “I love you” to calling me “husband material”. In the last 3 months, she went from still saying “I love you” and talking about our futures together. In the last 2 months, she went from motioning her fingers around my ring finger to still being in love with me. In a period of 2 weeks, she went from saying (and I remember fondly) “I‘m so appreciative for you. The way you treat me and love me is commendable. I know we are capable of anything and everything.” To a week later saying “I’m sorry, but I need a break” to “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” and now we are broken up. Sadly I don’t see her coming back for some reason. I’ve been in no contact and off social media. Because o...

My parents immediately after finding out I'm friends with someone will start making sexual comments about them and imply I'm in a sexual relationship with them, I mainly have female friends but they do this for both male and females alike. Whenever I get annoyed or say something they tell me to grow up and that I'm an adult and should be able to handle them making a joke They also say I should be able to handle talking about girls at my age I try avoid telling them as much as possible about my friends because of this. Is this normal or am I just being childish as they say? TLDR: My parents are always saying sexual stuff about my friends and say I'm acting like I'm 10 when I get annoyed. Submitted October 24, 2019 at 11:41PM My parents immediately after finding out I'm friends with someone will start making sexual comments about them and imply I'm in a sexual relationship with them, I mainly have female friends but they do this for both male and femal...

I'm a 23 year old girl from Saudi Arabia who ran away a few months ago to avoid an arranged marriage by my family. I left because I hated living in Saudi and I wasn't happy, during the time I was there I met someone (M27) online and we fell in love. When I ran away I came over to his country and I'm currently living with him. While I'm currently still in touch with my parents and siblings they don't know where I am but they know that I'm safe. They want to know where I am but I made it clear that I've moved out and I want to live independently. I want to fix my relationship with my dad and mom but I don't want to tell them that I'm living with a man outside of marriage and they would disapprove of that. I want them back in my life but I know they're going to ask us to get married right away so that no one in our extended family would shame me or my parents. I honestly don't know if I wanna get married ever, but that doesn't seem to work...

I've been with my boyfriend for 13 months, during which he's been dealing with several legitimate problems that I'll get to shortly. For the last few months, he has been extra-stressed with these issues, to the point it's hugely interfering with our interactions, and I'm beginning to feel burned out. The biggest issue is related to his job and money. He's being overworked at his job and isn't paid overtime, but that's how it is for people at the entry point for the career he wants. His family has money and health issues that he feels he needs to support. He needs to see a therapist but cannot afford it right now plus claims his work won't allow him to leave the office during the day. When I tell him that he's positioned to be paid comfortably in a handful of years, he says he needs more money now. When I say that other people leave his office for appointments so he should be able to as well, he says that he can't because working hard is ho...

This is my first time experiencing this. They met at work and became quick friends. I know they’re just friends and It’s been proven multiple times. He’s been trying to set her up with his friends and he tells me she’s basically a little sister. What I’m starting to feel uneasy about is just how much he’s looking to talk to her. One time, he hid the fact he was calling her over the phone because he was afraid of how I’d react because, well, it’s a girl. I told him that I feel worse if he’s hiding it and he said he wouldn’t hide it again. Recently, she left the job and she left behind a little note saying “gonna miss u lots ya big loaf of bread - sophia <3” and I guess that was the last straw. I told him I feel uncomfortable about it and he said “why do you think there’s anything going on between us? There’s literally NOTHING. She’s just a friend I talk to and if I choose to talk to her LET ME,” and I just started to cry. He told me I should stop feeling so insecure over this, that ...

So I'll start by saying that my husband used to be a warm and caring person. I'll call him Alex. Alex had a fall out with friends over the last year and he's turned into a cold and bitter man. Friends ghosted him. Started going out without him. Left him on read. Excluded him from activities. Slowly, my husband turned into a recluse. Alex only has 2 friends left. I have friends too, 6 or 8. I have girls night once a month. We call and text. Hangout. While my husband mostly keeps to himself now. Whenever an issue comes up with his 2 last friends, Alex won't bother to call or talk about it with them to solve things. Last week, they had plans to all hangout but he wasn't feeling it so he stayed home. Instead of calling, he just ghosted his friends. They waited at the restaurant 2 hours. He just ignored texts and phone calls. Of course, it's making him grumpy, lonely and even depressed. When I ask him what happened, he just say he hates people now. I love and su...

This is probably going to be long but I need to give a lot of context so I apologize. Also on moble ... so again sorry. Tldr at the bottom. My friend I will call her El and I have had a weird friendship since high school. She has a best friend I'll call Beth who I've never gotten along with. She was always very dramatic and felt everything needed to be like a reality show. She's been toxic for as long as I can remember. In high school she spread some rumors about me at one point and trash talked me, after we graduated she sat me down and apologized. I accepted this apology and figured we could be friends. Instead she continued to talk crap and bad mouth me... strike one. A year or so later El invited Beth out with us to a bar. I was buying drinks for myself and bought one for El. I go to get my tab and notice it's a lot higher than I thought it should be given it was dollar ladies night (close to $90). I chalk it up to being too drunk maybe I read wrong?? So I pay o...

I didn’t (and still don’t) experience physical attraction. Girl friends would be like, “Isn’t he hot?!” And I never new how to explain things, so I’d just say, “I don’t see people like that.” At that time though, I had no idea asexuality was even a thing. In fact I only discovered it 4 years ago at 30 🤯 October 25, 2019 at 12:06AM

That’s so wacky October 25, 2019 at 12:05AM

Love it October 25, 2019 at 12:05AM

Christian Grey is widely considered to be a predator by women with half a brain. On the whole, I've never bought into the "mainstream" ideal of romance. I've surrounded myself with people who are not mainstream that way. Love is so much bigger than pop culture. October 25, 2019 at 12:05AM

SURE SEX IS COOL BUT HAVE YOU EVER BEEN A PLAGUE DOCTOR YES THAT'S MY TAG NOW. CHANGING IT NOW. THANK YOU FOR THIS GIFT. October 24, 2019 at 11:58PM

I don't personally love the word "queerplatonic itself," but it describes something important and real and necessary. Quoting what I think is a nice & thought-provoking passage The Invisible Orientation & Writing From Factor X: I tend to see the kinds of emotions I have as combining traits from both friendship and romantic models, which is why I usually use “queerplatonic relationship” and related terminology. I have listened to people describe relationships with similar levels of feeling to mine as either friendships or romantic relationships, and I really have a hard time figuring out where the distinction is. I also have a hard time figuring out where attraction comes into it, because for me it’s a matter of strength of feeling, not type of feeling. The focus on intensity rather than type of feeling is something cool to focus on & think about for me. October 24, 2019 at 11:58PM

So could wearing a leather animal mask or someone wearing Xs on their nipples instead of a shirt but they still do and I still saw them last month at Pride. If they can enjoy their hypersexual culture, why can I not enjoy my nice-smelling gender-neutral non-sexualised outfit of manic plague doctor huffing peppermint leaves? Rhetorical question- because I can and they can and we all can. October 24, 2019 at 11:56PM

Well. I have never ever seen anything about bigotry from asexuals to allosexuals and in particular GRSM allosexuals, and it's sad that that exists. But bigotry is everywhere and if you weren't allowed to do anything which might have some reference to bigotry, we would be immobile every day of our lives. Imagine if we stopped using the rainbow flag because the westboro Baptist Church uses signs with rainbows to say 'GOD HATES FAGS'. Imagine if I stopped making my lolita blouse (killing it, by the way) because lolita fashion has been sexualised and fetishised despite the point of it being to be non-sexual (and bloody comfortable). If I get a plague mask (oh please I want one now) and wear it to my next pride and someone steps to me, I will say 'bro, this is part of my culture. You wanna huff this peppermint?' Because it's communication , acceptance , and understanding that are the cures for bigotry, not total avoidance of anything which may offend any perso...

(what was the joke) October 24, 2019 at 11:52PM

When I realized "celebrity crush" really meant having intense romantic feelings for someone you've never met (?!?!) and is a normal thing people expect you to have. October 24, 2019 at 11:52PM

yeah same what October 24, 2019 at 11:51PM