My (18f) boyfriend (19m) has a female friend (18f) and I don’t know how to feel

This is my first time experiencing this. They met at work and became quick friends. I know they’re just friends and It’s been proven multiple times. He’s been trying to set her up with his friends and he tells me she’s basically a little sister. What I’m starting to feel uneasy about is just how much he’s looking to talk to her. One time, he hid the fact he was calling her over the phone because he was afraid of how I’d react because, well, it’s a girl. I told him that I feel worse if he’s hiding it and he said he wouldn’t hide it again. Recently, she left the job and she left behind a little note saying “gonna miss u lots ya big loaf of bread - sophia <3” and I guess that was the last straw. I told him I feel uncomfortable about it and he said “why do you think there’s anything going on between us? There’s literally NOTHING. She’s just a friend I talk to and if I choose to talk to her LET ME,” and I just started to cry. He told me I should stop feeling so insecure over this, that he loves me and only me. I know this, but I can’t shake off this feeling that maybe he just prefers her to me. He’s talking to me less and just talking with her more over the phone. I know I haven’t been the best girlfriend and have acted out in ways I shouldn’t have, and I know there’s still a chance to better myself. How do I get over this jealous feeling?

TLDR; Boyfriend and his new female friend from work talk a lot and I can barley talk to him. He says he loves me a lot and I shouldn’t feel so insecure, but I can’t help it with how close they’ve become. They only talk online now ever since she left the job and he hasn’t looked to hang out with her in person. I know they’re only friends, I just hate how he’s pushing me away because of my past actions. How can I fix this?

Submitted October 25, 2019 at 12:01AM

This is my first time experiencing this. They met at work and became quick friends. I know they’re just friends and It’s been proven multiple times. He’s been trying to set her up with his friends and he tells me she’s basically a little sister. What I’m starting to feel uneasy about is just how much he’s looking to talk to her. One time, he hid the fact he was calling her over the phone because he was afraid of how I’d react because, well, it’s a girl. I told him that I feel worse if he’s hiding it and he said he wouldn’t hide it again. Recently, she left the job and she left behind a little note saying “gonna miss u lots ya big loaf of bread - sophia <3” and I guess that was the last straw. I told him I feel uncomfortable about it and he said “why do you think there’s anything going on between us? There’s literally NOTHING. She’s just a friend I talk to and if I choose to talk to her LET ME,” and I just started to cry. He told me I should stop feeling so insecure over this, that he loves me and only me. I know this, but I can’t shake off this feeling that maybe he just prefers her to me. He’s talking to me less and just talking with her more over the phone. I know I haven’t been the best girlfriend and have acted out in ways I shouldn’t have, and I know there’s still a chance to better myself. How do I get over this jealous feeling?TLDR; Boyfriend and his new female friend from work talk a lot and I can barley talk to him. He says he loves me a lot and I shouldn’t feel so insecure, but I can’t help it with how close they’ve become. They only talk online now ever since she left the job and he hasn’t looked to hang out with her in person. I know they’re only friends, I just hate how he’s pushing me away because of my past actions. How can I fix this?