I love my parents but they want me to get married which I'm not ready for.

I'm a 23 year old girl from Saudi Arabia who ran away a few months ago to avoid an arranged marriage by my family. I left because I hated living in Saudi and I wasn't happy, during the time I was there I met someone (M27) online and we fell in love. When I ran away I came over to his country and I'm currently living with him. While I'm currently still in touch with my parents and siblings they don't know where I am but they know that I'm safe. They want to know where I am but I made it clear that I've moved out and I want to live independently.

I want to fix my relationship with my dad and mom but I don't want to tell them that I'm living with a man outside of marriage and they would disapprove of that. I want them back in my life but I know they're going to ask us to get married right away so that no one in our extended family would shame me or my parents. I honestly don't know if I wanna get married ever, but that doesn't seem to work with my parents, they're afraid of what people might say about me or them since it's a religious country and something like this would be taboo and scandalous. I love this man and I'm confident that I would live the rest of my life with him.

I was thinking about getting a civil marriage and then come clean to my parents but I don't know how they'd react. I've been told parents will love their children no matter what... But is this always accurate?

I honestly don't know what to do but I know that I want my parents to be in our life.

Tl;Dr ran away from Saudi Arabia, living with my boyfriend but I would like to have my parents back in my life and that might not happen unless I "make things right" do I get married to keep my parents in my life?



Submitted October 24, 2019 at 11:47PM

I'm a 23 year old girl from Saudi Arabia who ran away a few months ago to avoid an arranged marriage by my family. I left because I hated living in Saudi and I wasn't happy, during the time I was there I met someone (M27) online and we fell in love. When I ran away I came over to his country and I'm currently living with him. While I'm currently still in touch with my parents and siblings they don't know where I am but they know that I'm safe. They want to know where I am but I made it clear that I've moved out and I want to live independently.I want to fix my relationship with my dad and mom but I don't want to tell them that I'm living with a man outside of marriage and they would disapprove of that. I want them back in my life but I know they're going to ask us to get married right away so that no one in our extended family would shame me or my parents. I honestly don't know if I wanna get married ever, but that doesn't seem to work with my parents, they're afraid of what people might say about me or them since it's a religious country and something like this would be taboo and scandalous. I love this man and I'm confident that I would live the rest of my life with him.I was thinking about getting a civil marriage and then come clean to my parents but I don't know how they'd react. I've been told parents will love their children no matter what... But is this always accurate?I honestly don't know what to do but I know that I want my parents to be in our life.Tl;Dr ran away from Saudi Arabia, living with my boyfriend but I would like to have my parents back in my life and that might not happen unless I "make things right" do I get married to keep my parents in my life?
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