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I (46F) think I ruined my marriage because of a stupid mistake.

I met Daniel (47) 25 years ago and from the moment I've seen him I was in love with him . He is a kind , smart and funny man. We married 20 years ago , worked hard to buy our own house and had 3 kids (19m, 16f and 10f) . Daniel has always had a job where he had to travel around half of the year . We missed a lot of anniversaries, Christmas and birthday parties . It was hard at the beginnig but I got used to it and I like to have my own space sometimes . Two months ago I started a really big project at the company I work for with a coworker named Alex. This required me to work with him 8 hours a day and I will also go to his house on the weekends . He is married with two kids and this meeting at his house happened ONLY when his wife was home to not raise any suspicions. This means I saw him everyday for the last 2 months . Nothing ever happened between us and we kept our relationship professional . My husband has been gone for 4 months and came home last night . After a nice dinn...

36, Never been in a serious relationship

I'm 36 and I've never been in a serious relationship before. I was at my work Christmas party last night and I started to get super down because everyone was there with somebody. I was at a friend's wedding this year and I had similar feelings. Add in alcohol and I think it makes it worse (I'm not a huge drinker but it does loosen me up in social settings). I've had a few random hook-ups here and there but nothing has ever stuck. How do you meet people? Apps/OLD? What kind of pictures do you take for your profile? Submitted December 16, 2019 at 12:25AM I'm 36 and I've never been in a serious relationship before. I was at my work Christmas party last night and I started to get super down because everyone was there with somebody. I was at a friend's wedding this year and I had similar feelings. Add in alcohol and I think it makes it worse (I'm not a huge drinker but it does loosen me up in social settings). I've had a few random hook-ups he...

I dont know what to do?

Im 18 and went to a 10 day trip with my parents, we always go to the same place. I met a girl there when i was a kid, then i had no feelings for her but in the last 5 years i got my heart broken and lost trust to every girl, not that i wanted to its just instinct. So we met again, i instatnly liked her(17), she is pretty funny, can take a joke, i even farted accidently and she smiled. Last 2 days of the trip we became a couple. Month and a half past since i left, i hoped she could heal my heart, but the thing is i got jealous when she went to get high with her male friend and spent 3 hours with him, but with time i slightly got over it. 3 days ago i noticed she is ignoring my messages and i sent 3 messages like what did i do wrong and why are you ignoring me? Even called her 2 times, nothing. She called 15 min later and she got angry, honeslty i didnt want to do anything wrong i just got the same feeling i got when my heart was broken first time. Now she doesnt want to talk to me and ...

First relationship in 6 years, and its over. I don't know how to cope.

I feel like I need a place to just let this out. I (25M) met this girl (28F) back in early August on OKCupid. This has been the only girl I have gone on a date with since high school and the first one to actually show interest. The date went great and we went back to her place and had sex. I had never done anything like that before, and the whole experience was exciting and had me so nervous. The morning after I went home, I was still in a shock because of how new it was. And I didnt think it would go anywhere. So, like a moron, I told her I wasn't interested in anything romantically, but a few days later I told her I shouldn't have said that, because I actually had strong feelings for her. That was my first mistake. After that we would meet up on the weekends and go to clubs and dance and drink. It was going great. Then after about a month, she saw my facebook messages, and was convinced I was talking to other women based on how they were ordered in my messages list. When sh...

Oblivious guy needs advice after co-worker was flirty at the work party.

There is a girl at work who I've only talked to a few times and is honestly waaaaay out of my league. She expressed she was happy to see me at the party as I previously told her I wouldn't be able to make it. At the after party - she came up to me while I was on the dance floor and was very touchy while talking. Pretty much holding me with both arms while we had a conversation. Me - being nearly blackout drunk at the time and always completely oblivious with women - didn't think much of it and I don't even remember what we talked about as I was very intoxicated (I do remember she wanted me to come to the yoga classes she organizes at work). I also remember leaving later in the night and she was like "You're leaving" and I kind of just dipped with a quick wave. All this said - the girl is pretty physical by nature and I don't want to read into it too much if she was just drunk and being friendly. Someone told me last year she got pretty intoxicated and...

Does it mean anything when a girl compliments you a lot

The other day, she said I was an amazing guy and that she loves talking to me. She also compliments me saying that I'm a sweet guy and that I'm one of the best friends she has. What do you think? Should I make a move or are we just friends? Submitted December 16, 2019 at 12:02AM The other day, she said I was an amazing guy and that she loves talking to me. She also compliments me saying that I'm a sweet guy and that I'm one of the best friends she has. What do you think? Should I make a move or are we just friends?

Getting jaw surgery to get into the same “looks league” as the girls I’m attracted to

Every human being needs to be physically attracted to a someone’s else in order to have sexual relations with them. Therefore, I’m taking responsibility and getting jaw surgery to place myself in the same league looks wise as the girls I’m attracted to. Submitted December 16, 2019 at 12:03AM Every human being needs to be physically attracted to a someone’s else in order to have sexual relations with them. Therefore, I’m taking responsibility and getting jaw surgery to place myself in the same league looks wise as the girls I’m attracted to.

why the f*** do i feel this way??

I think I have a problem with my self confidence. The reason I say i think that, is because i dont have a problem with talking to girls when im meeting them or at other social events when its a friendly conversation, but i have a problem with taking it to the next level, turning those conversations into potential dates and relationships. Ive had girlfriends before, so its not that i dont know how to kiss or that im scared of something, but i just dont think any girl finds me atractive. Sometimes when i look at myslef in the mirror i think "how the f was i able to maintain a relationship with my ex,wtf did she see in me?!". Something ive also noticed is that, when im looking at a group photo of x people, wheter it be me and my guy friends(no homo) or girl friends everybody is prety to me,nobody looks bad except me and that makes me feel like shit. Im scared of being rejected so even when im interested in a girl, im scared of making a move, or sliding in the dms because i auto...

Asking a girl out on a first date?

So I need some advice... I want to ask this girl out on a date who’s just got back from her 3 month holiday I know her because we used to go to the same secondary school and now we go to different schools but we live close to each other. We never spoke in secondary school but we did when we attended the same house parties I don’t think I’m great at making ‘flirtatious’ conversation on Instagram/Snapchat and so I don’t know whether I should ask her straight up on a date so we can get to know each other or to go through the process of getting get to know each other over online messaging. I’m worried that asking her on a date despite us not knowing each other too well is to upfront but at least she will know my intentions And I’m worried that online texting can easily result in being friend zoned and sometimes doesn’t lead anywhere but it is more relaxed for both of us And here’s my second question... If I was to ask her out on a first date what are your first date recommendations...

My (m24) girlfriend (22) just moved to nights

My girlfriend started nights and it’s new so very weird I’m always up when she’s asleep and vice versa. How do I alleviate this Submitted December 15, 2019 at 10:51PM My girlfriend started nights and it’s new so very weird I’m always up when she’s asleep and vice versa. How do I alleviate this

I [20F] ended up in a love triangle with a coworker [19F] and mutual friend [20M]

So its a very messy situation. I'm bi and after the girl [19F] found out she has been hitting on me. I don't feel the same way about her (especially because we work together and that's never a good idea) and haven't reciprocated at all. However, she doesn't seem to notice this and has continued flirting. I overheard her loudly confessing her feelings to the guy [20M] and since then he has been asking me about my relationship status and etc. I'm pretty sure he has feelings for me too (he's overprotective and compliments me a ton). I am single but have been trying to avoid them and their questions because its just a very confusing situation. I do like the guy and would go out with him, but don't want to hurt the girl's feelings. She has also been verrry persistent about this and it makes me a little worried about how she might react. Any advice would help at this point haha Submitted December 15, 2019 at 10:55PM So its a very messy situation. I...

My low self esteem has ruined my thing. How do you grow self esteem while dating

My low self esteem has turned me into someone I don’t recognize I feel clingy, constantly apologizing, make rude comments, jealous, impulsive and and the list goes on. Casually dating someone and it’s almost over since I fly home in a few days but I rly dislike that this is the impression I’m leaving. ( my ego sadly caring more about what he’ll think of me vs enjoying our final moments together) I don’t like this person I’ve become. When we first started dating I was really confident and sure of myself now I’m weaker and stuck in my head. Submitted December 15, 2019 at 10:56PM My low self esteem has turned me into someone I don’t recognizeI feel clingy, constantly apologizing, make rude comments, jealous, impulsive and and the list goes on.Casually dating someone and it’s almost over since I fly home in a few days but I rly dislike that this is the impression I’m leaving. ( my ego sadly caring more about what he’ll think of me vs enjoying our final moments together)I don’t li...

Girlfriend’s birthday in a month, Need advice.!

Me and my girlfriend are in a LDR. She has her birthday next month. I was hoping for some gift suggestions. Submitted December 15, 2019 at 10:57PM Me and my girlfriend are in a LDR. She has her birthday next month. I was hoping for some gift suggestions.

After the 2nd date

Hello, I have my first 2nd date. My first dates have always been slightly awkard, get some drinks for an hour or so then leave and say goodbye. It might seem like I'm rushing off but I want to play it cool and not seem desperate. So we are going to a play for the 2nd date. What I do after it seems really weird to just go. Shall we go for drinks again. Really I'd want to go for dinner as a 3rd date. I don't want them to think I'm running off as it might come across i'm not interested. Equally I don't want to stay too long. Submitted December 15, 2019 at 11:00PM Hello,I have my first 2nd date. My first dates have always been slightly awkard, get some drinks for an hour or so then leave and say goodbye. It might seem like I'm rushing off but I want to play it cool and not seem desperate.So we are going to a play for the 2nd date. What I do after it seems really weird to just go. Shall we go for drinks again. Really I'd want to go for dinner as a 3...

Need some advice on how too meet people and taking the first step

Life is pretty boring since I finished school, now it's just work home and work again. I never really go out besides my Saturday morning walk but that's about it. Idk how I could ever meet someone. I have a bit of social anxiety and I have thought about trying to talk with some girls from RFR but I just cant send a message. One I feel like they would pretty much reject, and second, I worry about if we start talking, idk how to keep convos going. People say to let the girl talk about herself but I feel she would see me as boring if I dont contribute. Submitted December 15, 2019 at 11:50PM Life is pretty boring since I finished school, now it's just work home and work again. I never really go out besides my Saturday morning walk but that's about it. Idk how I could ever meet someone. I have a bit of social anxiety and I have thought about trying to talk with some girls from RFR but I just cant send a message. One I feel like they would pretty much reject, and secon...

Help with boyfriend

First time posting so I’m not sure how this works. So me (F20) And my boyfriend (20) have been together for over a year and for the past couple months he’s been saying that I don’t understand him/ we don’t understand each other, which I honestly think is not true because i do feel like i understand him, and he understands most of me. It’s just im not the best at expressing myself (never been) and I am a bit awkward in social situations. Is there any tip you guys could give me to improve this communication issue? I used to get silent sometimes but I don’t anymore (when talking about something bad? because i feel like crying, ik I’m quite emotional) but Now i talk and what not, but he still says that, so I’m not sure how to approach it. We have talked about it but i dont know how to proceed. Help please r_relationships Submitted December 16, 2019 at 12:00AM First time posting so I’m not sure how this works. So me (F20) And my boyfriend (20) have been together for over a year and ...

CONFUSED! if the guy takes hours to respond to a text, is he still interested?

I(25F) have been seeing this guy (31M) for a few months, we hung out sometimes, went to the movies and had dinner, which he paid, however we never kissed or anything, even though he seems interested. Our conversations are really interesting and I really enjoy being with him but when we text, he sometimes takes hours (or days!) to respond! I started to think that this was clearly a sign that he wasn't into me, but sometimes, out of nowhere he texts me asking about my day and trying to make small talk, but he still takes hours to answer - even when he is the one that started the conversation! On the other day he asked me to have dinner a few weeks from now, I said yes and a couple of days later he stopped texting... I am very confused and don't want to make a fool of myself (again), what should I do? Do I keep talking to him? I don't want to be "that girl" that is nagging him even though we aren't a thing but I can't deal with this uncertainty. I'm sta...

Should I ask an old friend from highschool to go out for coffee?

So I (22 F) have this old friend from elementary/highschool (22M) who I have recently reconnected with in university. I gave him his space when I first started seeing him around a lot but every once in a while he initiated contact with me (always when drunk) and when he’s sober he seems really nervous. But last time I saw him he came running up out of nowhere and said he’d been meaning to talk to me and started asking me how I’ve been. Not long after we got interrupted bc his bus came but he said it’s ok we’ll see each other bc we see each other all the time and he kept repeating that I should come say hi next time, no matter if he’s busy or whatever. We then exchanged a hug (which I was shocked he was open to) and he introduced me to his friends quick and then they got on their bus. He was pretty drunk so I’m not sure how much of this interaction he’ll remember but it seems he only gets the courage to talk to me when he’s drunk. In the past I suspected he had feelings possibly but n...

(M23) How do I actually start dating?

I know this sounds like a really silly question, but how do I start? When I was in high school I tried dating, but I was really dumb. I would tell the person right away that I had feelings for them. And I know now that is not what you're supposed to do. Dating is a long process. I've seen relationships go from 1-2 to receive 8 years! Before a couple gets married. But the thing is I'm so scared to attempt dating again. I had very bad experiences in high school that crippled me. I didn't realize how hard of a time I was having until college when I really started to break down. Only until recently have I tried to build myself up again. And that's when woman started appearing, honestly. As soon as I stopped giving crap. Woman were just there. Hot ones too. Way hotter than the girls I knew in highschool. However, this is my problem. You know that "butterfly" feeling you get when you like someone? Well, I get that feeling but all the time. And at the worst ...

Need some dating app advice!

Alright so I'm gonna reopen my bumble and tinder accounts and I just have a couple questions about my bio! Sorry if this gets asked a lot. 20 year old male btw Will I look like a douchebag if I put my height in my bio or will it get me more matches? I am 6'1 Will a pic of my cat and I be cute? I know women are suckers for dogs but not sure how they feel bout kittens. Will I look like a douche if I take a pic Clearly showing off my tattoo? 4.Is having 3 pictures enough, or should I try to get some more. I only have 3 really good ones I like. Is a one sentence bio enough? Thanks! Submitted December 16, 2019 at 12:10AM Alright so I'm gonna reopen my bumble and tinder accounts and I just have a couple questions about my bio! Sorry if this gets asked a lot. 20 year old male btwWill I look like a douchebag if I put my height in my bio or will it get me more matches? I am 6'1Will a pic of my cat and I be cute? I know women are suckers for dogs but not sur...

First love situation, need advice boys..

Hello people of reddit. It's my first time doing something like this simply because it's my first time being in a situation like this. It's going to be a long post simply because I'm going to write my feelings out. Shortly tho, i like this girl, I want her to be mine and I'll try to accomplish that until she tells me to leave her alone. Thing is I have no experience when it comes to dating, relationships and stuff like that. That's why I need your advice boys. A little background on me: I'm 20, okay looking guy with positive attitude to anything. I'm really confident too (except when it comes to girls haha). I ain't no fuckboi tho. I consider myself a likeable person since I'm really friendly to everybody and people around me see that, they always act postive towards me. I love all people since there is a lot of hate and negativity in this world already(dont take me for a hipster tho lol). I guess I'm a bit weird but I mean shit, I ain'...

I (23M) am feeling hopeless.

Sorry for any typos, I'm from my phone and a bit light-headed. Pretty much the title. I feel like this mostly because of my height (I'm only 5'2"), since almost every girl wont date a short guy. It's been more than a year since my last relationship and I haven't had a single conversation with a girl in this period of time, both in IRLD and OLD. Let alone a date. Hell, I even forgot what a hug or a kiss feels like. Needless to say I'm so touch starved. Plus, being the middle of a holiday season doesn't help at all, it gets extra lonely. I really feel that there's no hope for me. I think that this is it, no way I'm gonna love. Submitted December 16, 2019 at 12:15AM Sorry for any typos, I'm from my phone and a bit light-headed.Pretty much the title. I feel like this mostly because of my height (I'm only 5'2"), since almost every girl wont date a short guy. It's been more than a year since my last relationship and I hav...

How to tell if someone has a crush on you?

I am trying to figure out if this guy has a crush on me. He's from my college and works a part-time job at the library. I see him every week and noticed he is super nice to everyone. That made me think he's kind of cute. Two weeks ago I had to ask for a paper from the library and he was the only person available to give it to me. While waiting for it we just talked for a bit, just some small talk. He was extremely nice though. I ended up asking what his name was, and he also asked mine. After this first interation, he once stoped me just to say "hi (my name)", and another time I was walking and he joined me, we talked for a few minutes until we had to turn in opposite directions. Whenever I go to the library and he's there he says "Hi (my name)" and smiles. A couple of days ago I saw him, he was with some people around so I did not want to interrupt. I am like 99% sure he noticed me, but did not come to say hi and just left with his friends a few mi...