I only called the fact that you're seemingly okay with the comments from the picture gross. The person in the photo said that asexual folks are actually just mentally ill and incapable of feeling love. You clearly don't, cause I layer everything out for you and you still, seemingly willingly, misinterpret what I said to make yourself out to be this helpless victim. I will say one last time: I don't give a SHIT if you think FOR YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIPS that attraction is needed for love, but if you put down others and say they're incapable of feeling love if they don't have sexual attraction then I'm sorry, but you're a piece of shit, plain and simple. You never tried, but alright! ✌ December 29, 2020 at 12:03AM

absoulutely. lgbtqia+ is any grsm minority December 29, 2020 at 12:02AM

Not everyone! I say “attractive” instead of hot, and it’s because I experience aesthetic attraction. It doesn’t mean I find them sexually attractive though. December 29, 2020 at 12:01AM

Even without the generalization, even if he wasn't being a creep and she was actually acting as he described.... Who goes online to complain about a mild annoyance they had with a stranger they just met at a party? Every aspect of his comment is bizarre December 28, 2020 at 11:58PM

I never called anyone ill. You called my view of love “gross” because you don’t experience it. I don’t know how to talk to you. Im sorry, i want to understand but this is making it hard. Have a good one, i wish the best for you. I don’t want to continue the conversation, i tried. ✌️ December 28, 2020 at 11:58PM

https://www.lookhuman.com/design/342036/3600-black-md This website has a lot of pride stuff, but I logically had to pick the dumbest one. Hope you find something to your taste! December 28, 2020 at 11:55PM

Oddly enough it's mostly an internal thing. I'm not out as ace because i don't really see any reason to explain my sexuality to others so I think my paranoia that I'm "performing" is more about me feeling like I'm tricking myself. I don't really care what people think of my sexuality but I do want to have an accurate perception of what i want and be true to myself, so when I feel like I'm performing for others it bothers me on an internal level because i only want to act for myself, if that makes sense. The concern is less with others perception and more with me feeling like I'm lying to myself December 28, 2020 at 11:54PM

Big time. Took a friend calling it out, research and introspection. I just thought I was late bloomer/broken. December 28, 2020 at 11:53PM

Turns out I’m demi, but it’s fun commenting aego stuff in normal subreddits. People get strangely upset. December 28, 2020 at 11:53PM

Omg I love your cat so much!! December 28, 2020 at 11:52PM

It's like you're not even reading what I said. Your view of love is gross if it discounts someone else's. If your view of love is that the ONLY way you can love someone is if you're sexually attracted to them, and if your view is that people are ill if they aren't attracted to people in that way, then yeah, it's gross. Now if your view only applies to you, then I don't think anyone gives a shit, but if you apply it to other people then you're a piece of shit. Don't use big words you don't understand, youre the one arguing in bad faith, you came into this discussion never intending to actually learn anything. Okay, then you admit you don't have to want sex with someone to love them. There are different kinds of love: romantic, platonic, familial. Sex is separate from those. If you can feel sexual desire outside of love then you can feel love outside of sex. It's like you're intentionally misunderstanding me so you can act like you&

I will call this one... Oliver. December 28, 2020 at 11:49PM

As a fellow male ace cat dad with a glorious sense of humor, I really, really want that hoodie. Any chance you could link it? Also, great post December 28, 2020 at 11:45PM

I'm sorry but this is still a generalization. Low libido allo people exist. December 28, 2020 at 11:45PM

Well, people annoying the other people used as a reason to dismiss entire groups of people. Story as old as the world. If this isn't bigotry, I'm not sure what is. In any case... I am conscious of how I may come across, because most people don't need to specify they are allos. That part is implied. There aren't many reasons when you can share your position on ace-allo spectrum naturally aтв to give opinion on something from ace-specific point o view, you kind of have to say clearly you're asexual or it wouldn't make any sense. But then you also keep in mind, that for most people asexual is just string of sounds, it doesn't click into their minds, so you're into uncofortable position: over-explain or mention it multiple times when you think it's relevant, or just mention it only once in a while and see them forget it about alltogether, because most allo people don't find this condition fascinating or noteworthy. December 28, 2020 at 1

I know just the name December 28, 2020 at 11:41PM

Really?! I think your face looks really symmetrical, and your hair line is super straight on your forehead (Someone did a great job - I love your hair), and I don't want this to sound demeaning from a lady older than you but your nose is absolutely adorable. Also the glasses fit your face perfectly. December 28, 2020 at 11:40PM

5/4? libido depends on the moon cycle and how the planets are aligned I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️ December 28, 2020 at 11:39PM

A agreed about the other comments, i feel like you are arguing in bad faith at this point. You just called my view of love “gross” thats not an argument, thats the same tactic as homophobia, or transphobia. My mother and my SO get different love. Thats a ridiculous comparison and i think u know that. Maybe u can clarify what u mean, but generally I can’t accept your response at all, it’s childish December 28, 2020 at 11:37PM

7/4? December 28, 2020 at 11:36PM

Definitely talk about your concerns with her. Figure out her boundaries and how much, if any, sex she wants to/is willing to have and compare that against how much sex you need to have in a relationship to feel fulfilled or if having sex with a partner who isn't sexuallyattracted to you is something you're comfortable with. From there you too can see if there are any reasonable compromises thst can be made for both if you to be happy. December 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

The punchline was so much better than I was expecting December 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

I hate that I can’t tell you how many times guys have said “oh once you try it you’ll love it, it just isn’t the same/you just need to meet the right guy” I always say “well you know you should try anal” and when they say they don’t like it I go “well scientifically men get better orgasms when you mess with the prostate, don’t worry you just haven’t met the right man yet, once you try it you’ll love it” December 28, 2020 at 11:35PM