That’s too bad December 17, 2020 at 12:02AM

Yeah, that’s what I’m afraid of December 17, 2020 at 12:02AM

Cis and trans are Greek, I first encountered the words in stereochemistry. Lesbian is also Greek because it’s derived from Sappho of Lesbos, a Greek female poet who loved writing about the ladies (hence sapphic and lesbian). However again I’m unsure if they use another term for lesbian, but they probably do for gay as in English that used to mean “happy”. December 17, 2020 at 12:01AM

I'll happily use it, thank you for such a lovely creation December 17, 2020 at 12:00AM

EDIT: I replied to the wrong person! Apologies. December 17, 2020 at 12:00AM

It sounds like u may be asexual if it helps u feel better u can identify as it until u feel otherwise some people feel better being able to label how they feel and it seems like u feel like an asexual when I was 14 I felt the same way I didn’t want to have sex with anyone but I still found people attractive and stuff December 17, 2020 at 12:00AM

The rest are cake/garlic bread pictures December 16, 2020 at 11:55PM

Yes, I can confidently say that, but still I don't feel confident in saying "I am asexual", I guess I'll just wait for other replies. Thanks though. December 16, 2020 at 11:55PM

It's all the right hand, middle finger for asexual, other fingers (typically ring finger) for swingers. Wearing it on the left hand would mean that other people just wouldn't recognize as signifying either meaning. December 16, 2020 at 11:55PM

Heeeyyyy~~~ December 16, 2020 at 11:55PM

Daud from Dishonored, actually. December 16, 2020 at 11:54PM

Hey dude, asexual mlm uni student here too! We do exist, unfortunately as you said, we're quite a small group. If you're sex-repulsed (like I am), then i would say that comprimising your identity is only going to make you and a future partner miserable. I'm not really sure what to do either really, just sort of hoping for someone to appear one day .__. December 16, 2020 at 11:53PM

If you can say "I do find women to be attractive, but I never actually want to have sex [with these women]." Then you are asexual. December 16, 2020 at 11:51PM

Yes you can find people hot. As long as you don't want to have sex with them, you are asexual. December 16, 2020 at 11:45PM

I was in my mid to late 30s when I realized. Growing up, the only "options" were straight and gay, so never realized that asexuality was an option. In my mid 30s I realized I didn't really care about sex, and figured everyone must be exaggerating. Then earlier this year I was reading more about asexuality and realized that it was an option, and saw signs of it going back to my early teens, and things made a lot more sense. Lack of awareness/publicity makes it hard for a lot of people to realize. I figure there's not difference in "required" age between asexuality and gay/straight; you don't hear that gay people will become hetero once they're older and "meet the right person". The young age at which some allos said they knew their orientation sounds rather ridiculous to me as an ace, so I don't buy their excuse that aces are too young to know. ​ I usually jump from "I am asexual" to "I am just too young to experience

I get there every time and with ease but then I am very comfortable and familiar with my body. I never thought of my body as something that was taboo or gross or off limits leaving it as something to explore for my future spouse. Being kept in the dark and covered until after I get married and have revealed as gift for my husband to unwrap for himself and depend on him to know what he’s doing and hope he’s not a selfish dickhead who only sees me as a masturbatory object that is different from his hand. If I combine clit stimulation with sounding, I climax within a few seconds...my normal time is 8 minutes with just clitoris stimulation. I say if you are having trouble and do want to experience it, then take the time to explore yourself there is nothing wrong with knowing yourself in and out. It will help with knowing what you like and what feels the best and with your overall physical health. Know what it feels and looks like down there just incase something is off. December 16,

Hopefully, I’m glad you had a chance to have a civil conversation with them, I know some people can be very closed minded and believe their way of thinking is the only way. December 16, 2020 at 11:39PM

Hey, that's really interesting, I never knew that. Do you think that you could clue me into a source for that? I'd love to learn more about the community's history. December 16, 2020 at 11:37PM

True, very true. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt though. I know this person just worries about me ending up alone and unhappy. Although their view may be that a family is happiness. That's why I politely explained my side, and hopefully enlightened them a bit. December 16, 2020 at 11:37PM

Thanks for being here! Enjoy your journey! December 16, 2020 at 11:35PM

Yeah it’s okay to not understand, but it’s not okay to invalidate someone because you don’t understand. December 16, 2020 at 11:33PM

Yea that's basically what I said. But I can understand why it's difficult for someone who enjoys it, to not understand that we do not. December 16, 2020 at 11:29PM

You're always welcome here! December 16, 2020 at 11:28PM