I would say I fluctuate a lot honestly, between being favorable, neutral and repulsed by it June 25, 2020 at 12:03AM

Yeah, I never expect this but it make my day June 25, 2020 at 12:02AM

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Someone needs to make that into a shirt. June 25, 2020 at 12:02AM

Indeed! It made me smile quite a bit. June 24, 2020 at 11:59PM

This is awesome news 🎊🎉🎊 June 24, 2020 at 11:55PM

I can appreciate a nice body, but usually doesn't make me feel super aroused or anything. June 24, 2020 at 11:55PM

I honestly think they genuinely don't understand. "Well I'm straight and I'm not attracted to literally every man/woman I see so how is this any different from just being allo?" Is a common opinion I see. Also, people commonly confuse "sexual attraction" with "having sex with", which is probably also a factor. "Well I'm allo and monogamous, I don't cheat either. Isn"t that the same thing?" something like that. June 24, 2020 at 11:52PM

My thoughts are what if a gay couple adopt a kid and that kid is then gay so he comes out to nothing but love and acceptance. Now say they run a family business and the kid is groomed to take over from them when they retire, so he'll always have a job. They live in an accepting community and while the kid runs into the odd jerk, for the most part he's never made to feel hated for being gay By these assholes logic this gay kid can't be in the LGBTQ as he hasn't suffered the same shit they did. June 24, 2020 at 11:51PM

Yup. I'm pretty damn ace (but not completely ace, but ace enough that I'm probably more ace than gray), and probably demiromantic or something (idk about that yet). I get these moments a lot. I've never dated before, but am super close with some of my friends, to the point that we'd seem like a couple to other people. So I do couple-y things, but have never actually wanted a romantic partner. So, yo' girl gets confused often. And I've never been in a position where I needed to decide if I would be comfortable with actual romantic or sexual things with a partner, so I can't be sure if I'd every actually be comfortable with these things, or if I just think that I might. Even the idea of kissing stresses me out, but I still don't know for sure. I'm happy with my labels as they are, but don't think I'll know for sure for a while, and I'm fine with that. June 24, 2020 at 11:47PM

Now I'm just reminded of Eddie Izzard You! Cake or Death? Uh, Cake, please. Well, we're all out. We only had three three bits and didn't expect such a rush... So, my choice is "or Death?" June 24, 2020 at 11:43PM

Sometimes I feel something is off when I do it too. I try to enjoy it though I only really do it because my libido is relatively high, but more than half the time it's kind of unsatisfying, and makes me feel strange about my body. every now and then it actually does feel really good though, and I think it's better when I use toys or do it a certain way. June 24, 2020 at 11:42PM

I'm Aego so I can get pleasure from it but it took me a long time to figure it all out. I don't know if you're male or female so this may not help at all but I spent a lot of time reflecting on myself and why it didn't feel right for me. https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/hb8w3s/hopefully_this_isnt_tmi_or_rule_breaking_but_in/ So this may help you if you're also male, if you're female then I honestly don't know if it will. Hell it may not help at all, I'm just 1 person. I just know because of the pressure to do it I tried for 9-10 years to find a way for it to feel good before it finally did. If I'd known my label I probably would've just stopped looking for a way for it to work but TBH I'm kinda glad I persisted as now it does feel good, well, it's better than it feeling like nothing or bad, lol June 24, 2020 at 11:38PM

Is this a mini jar?!?? June 24, 2020 at 11:33PM

Cake and garlic bread June 24, 2020 at 11:32PM

It always cheers me up to see supportive partners on this thread. :) The short answer is that you can only know by asking. Even then, she might not know. The truth is that some asexuals do get really stressed about kissing and romantic conversations, but it varies by person. If you are worried, I'm sure a simple question like "Do I bring up kissing too much?" or "I hope you'll tell me if you're tired of this" would help. June 24, 2020 at 11:25PM

I’m demi, so I can kind of explain “the other side”. It’s a lot like touch-starvation, if you’ve ever felt that before, where one just has the overwhelming urge to hug someone and have them hug back and calmly cuddle for hours. With sexual attraction, the only difference is that there are more desires than just cuddling. June 24, 2020 at 11:18PM

That's called a sex-favourable or sex-indifferent asexual. June 24, 2020 at 11:17PM

Thanks for sharing. Great read! June 24, 2020 at 11:13PM

Congratulations! June 24, 2020 at 11:13PM

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