My husband knows my Reddit account, so this is a throwaway. I am 26 and my husband is 25. We have been married for 2 years and together for 5. He wants a baby, and I don't. The truth is, I do want a child (just 1), but I need my husband to make a few changes in our lives before I'm willing to consider it. Right now, I am working 2 jobs (38 hours a week at 1 and 29 hours a week at the other) while my husband is working 1 job (24 hours a week). He does occasionally cook, but I do most of the meal planning and prepping. I also do the vast majority of cleaning. I've been asking him to either get a full time job or a 2nd part time job for about 3 months now, and he just hasn't yet (he has filled out a few applications, but rarely does any kind of follow up). He does help around the house when asked, but I really have to get on him and "nag" about it (which I hate doing... I've NEVER wanted to be a naggy wife). I just can't imagine bringing a child int...

I broke up with my partner of 5 years recently. It was an abusive relationship and I'm finally starting to feel better. It took me a while (and lots of therapy) to get better but I'm ready to get back out there and meet someone new. I've gone on a few casual dates (like, tinder dates just to get back out there) and they were fine, but I'm facing a problem: I'm using more serious dating apps now and I think I'm matching with men way out of my league and I'm too nervous to meet them. Listen, I'm a solid 7/10. I'm alright. A little above average but not that much. I'm Jewish and have those kinds of features. I'm bad at makeup and kind of a tomboy. I literally don't know how to walk in heels. I'm thin but I don't have a gym-perfect body. I work as a teacher. It's fine. It's nothing impressive. Etc, etc. I'm pretty average. I'm matching with handsome doctors and lawyers and people who are just WAY too good for me....

(Before my post,I want to apologize about my bad English,I'm french) I know a girl since my last year in Middle School. At this time I was 14 and her 12. ( Fuck...It's so a kid story ) for summarize the situation,we went out an broke up 3 times on a year. For my first year to High School she didn't talk to me for August to December and for December to April 2019 and for April to October .In October we has talk and some days after she did her coming out and my reaction was to get me angry ( At this moment,I must confess,I did shit ). 3 weeks after one of my friend and her decides to hang out ( friendly ) and me I went to their "friendly date" and she said to me "Wait me,just 20 minutes and i will join you . I waited 1h30 for nothing and 1 week after (middle of november) I was in a date with her and it was magic.1 week later,after some cold SMS,we never have a real disscussion after late november .I don't know what I have to do,someone can help me ?( I...

I have talked to him about this, but it's just how he is (he's like this with everyone), he has a busy life and I suspect he has issues with executive dysfunction as he seems to lose track of time. We also currently only see each other once a week, often it's only when I prompt him (although I'm the type of person who likes to know plans in advance so maybe he'd get around to arranging things if I didn't contact him first). I'm used to partners who message all the time, it doesn't have to be a 24/7 conversation but just chatting throughout the day or sending odd messages - it makes me feel like I'm part of their lives, and helps me get to know them better. As it is with my current boyfriend (7 months) I feel like I'm not part of his life, it feels like I'm still single in a way because of this lack of contact. When we're together it's fine, he shows me he cares and of anything he may be more into me than the other way around - he...

tldr: Had a long ~1.5 yr long unhealthy relationship with 22F gf and she cheated on me 3 times (that I know of) that ended about 8 months ago. I thought I was over her, but I really am not sure. I think a relationship with someone new is the only thing that will help. First I'd like to say that I'm not really sure that I'm looking for help or just a place to vent and write this out because I've annoyed my close friends with this too much. I know that I'm over her but I really just want the relationship (good parts) we had back. We started dating at the beginning of the school year around October 2017. She was friends with a lot of my friends. When we started dating we were having a very physical relationship as well as connecting very well emotionally. Admittedly we both negatively affected each other's studies for the first couple months we were together but I quickly got my stuff together. Summer came and she stayed at the University to take summer classes...

This past summer I met a great person and we fell in love very fast. She is interesting, intelligent, hilarious, and has a passion for life that I've never seen before. Her smile lights up a room and I get lost in her eyes. Today she told me that she will go to a dangerous country with her family. She told me she wanted to go this Christmas which had me worried. To stay anonymous, I don't want to give details but this is a country where people actively run away from and migrate somewhere safer. A lawless land where if you don't join a gang, you'll likely be killed. At the time I unconsciously pushed her away. I didn't stop talking to her or anything but when I did see her, I acted distant because her dying in this country is all I can think about. The conversations weren't dynamic anymore and I could barely muster up looking at her eyes knowing I may never see them again. A few days later we talked about it and I told her I realized I was essentially pre-mour...

I (24F) live with a roommate (24M) who is absolutely clueless when it comes to cooking whereas I cook on a regular basis. Not only do I cook regularly, but I often make more complicated dishes at least once a week aside from normal meals and use high quality ingredients. My roommate somehow manages to mess up boxed macaroni, knows nothing about food and his diet consists mostly of meat, no vegetables, etc. On top of that we have very opposite schedules as he works a regular day job & I work nights/weekends. He’s offered to pay part of the grocery bill in exchange for me making extra portions of whatever I make. However I have some concerns. I’ve told him if he has any recommendations on dishes to send them my way and I’ll make it or if he just wants to buy certain groceries with items he likes then I can figure out something to do with it if he tells me. Every time though he just says, “I don’t know where to start”. I’ve also tried telling him to get the ingredients for a recipe ...

So I (f25) caught my boyfriend (m26) of 3 years, masturbating and looking at women’s images and social media, who he knows in real life. Is this a call for concern? I don’t have a problem with him watching porn, it’s the fact he knows these women in real life. It makes me so insecure about myself and my body as I just feel I’m not good enough for him. Also, when I caught him, he turned it around to be my fault and I’m wondering if I’m being manipulated in this relationship. He expressed that I’m not being sexual enough for him and that he wants me to send him pictures and videos of myself performing sexual acts on myself. This isn’t something I’m really comfortable with although I have done it before. I feel like me doing this is the only way our relationship will last. I love this man with all my heart and the thought of losing him scares me. But I’m afraid I’m being a pushover and doing what he wants when I should just move on? TL;DR - Looking for advice on whether this sounds li...

I fucked up really hard. I cheated. I can write out a list of excuses and explanations, but none of it really matters, because at the end of the day, it's very simple, I betrayed the man that I love. I am going to have to live with that fact and own up to my mistake and move forward and just commit to not being this shitty to anyone ever again. I just need some help and advice figuring out what the right thing to do is here. Basically I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. We've lived together for 2 of those years. Things were great at the beginning, but eventually, I felt the relationship dying. There were no more dates, sex, or any kind of romance. I gave an honest effort to talk to him about it, but each time he was too overwhelmed with work/friends/family/etc. to have that talk with me. It was the same situation when I would try to initiate anything sexual/romantic, just too stressed for that right now. I'd get upset at first, let him know that I didn't ...

Been doing some writing lately, and this particular topic was brought on because a student pointed out that I “throw the word love out often.” It made me really step back. I thought why is that? Does it cheapen it’s meaning for me to use it so often? How can it mean different things when I use it? So this is me trying to decipher what Love is to me Love Light Spectrum Radio Love- love for yourself, it’s the first on the list, but the lowest in wave length. It can be sent out, but it doesn’t mean it will reach you. I like to think it’s connected to sound. That’s why you can feel music on such a deep level, and that’s why words and sounds of negative people affect how you feel about yourself. Microlove- Short, temperamental love. Passing and heated. Much like the relationships you have growing up while you are still learning how to navigate the waters of romance. Strong when you feel it, but it’s value doesn’t stay. The heat might make it seem legitimate, in the end you can’t really ...

(this reddit is so lovely❤I'm glad I finally stumbled on it) We're in a LDR, and I'm going to see him for the second time next month. I am beyond excited. Last time was three months ago because travelling between our cities is complicated. Literally can't wait to wake up and have the luxury of seeing his gorgeous face, so still and tranquil in the morning. I've always been a sucker for brown eyes but I have no words for his. They are the perfect shape and the perfect shade, surrounded by the softest eyelashes and crowned by perfectly drawn eyebrows ; and his face overall, it's like everything starts and stops at the perfect spot for his face to be the most satisfying and beautiful thing to look at. All I have are two poor quality pictures of him and I am so impatient to be able to witness again all of his traits in movement as he talks and thinks and sleeps. I'm going to enjoy Christmas with my family the best I can, but it's going to be hard not wishin...

Quick background, I lost my V card late, this year to be exact, up till summer 2018 i had been fighting OCD and Anxiety disorder. After the correct medication though and therapy, I jumped into dating, tinder and approaching hardcore. To make up for lost time. I've got dozens and dozens of numbers at this rate, been on about five actual dates with different girls and slept with two. Really is a numbers game it seems. Alot of the frustrations of dating are still very raw to me, but at this point I'm pretty immune to most stuff. Girl says no/not interested: Fine Are not looking for anything: Fine Like someone else/my friend/wingman: Fine Have a bf/gf/husband/wife: Fine But there's one scenario that I still can't process peacefully, even though it would be better to be able to. That's when I've met someone, we like eachother, we agree to a date, but before anything has even happened, they say there was someone else and they are now together. It's happ...

What if I was on a date and I buy some appetizing food and the girl asks for a bite. I jokingly put some on my lips and say "Here have a bit". And if I see she is not into it after a couple of second I say its a joke and clean my lips. Is it a good idea or too creepy? I don't expect it to work, just think it's funny because I'm always so shy. Submitted December 16, 2019 at 11:56PM What if I was on a date and I buy some appetizing food and the girl asks for a bite. I jokingly put some on my lips and say "Here have a bit". And if I see she is not into it after a couple of second I say its a joke and clean my lips.Is it a good idea or too creepy?I don't expect it to work, just think it's funny because I'm always so shy.

I (15F) have been dating my (15M) boyfriend for a bit over a month, and I am very happy in our relationship. My boyfriend is usually really cute and innocent. Like, he doesn't even touch me as much as I'd like, but I've gotten used to it. So I kind of thought that he is just not a very physical person. And we haven't even had our first kiss yet, although I'm pretty sure it'll happen sometime soon. Today we were walking in the hall, and he kind of lost me for a second. He jokingly said that we should handcuff ourselves to each other so we wouldn't get separated. He then was like "I actually have some handcuffs at home!" *long pause as he thinks* "Yeah! I do!!" So jokingly I was like "Why do you have handcuffs?!" And then this is legit what he said: "That's something for me to know and for you to find out" AHHHH! That comment that he made turned me on so much. Like, holy cRAp! I didn't know how to respond when ...

This is all very new and exciting for me and I just want to put it out there. My boyfriend and I have been talking for 6 months, officially dating for just over 2 months. Today, he finally told me he’s in love with me. I’ve never been so close to anyone and I’m so incredibly happy. I’ve been wanting to tell him for so long but I know he’s very traditional and would’ve wanted to say it first, so I waited until he was ready. It feels so amazing to be able to tell him I love him! I literally felt like I could cry when he told me and a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders when I said it back. I’m sorry if this is bragging but I’m just SO happy, I felt the need to share. Thank you for listening and I hope everyone gets to experience love!! Submitted December 17, 2019 at 12:23AM This is all very new and exciting for me and I just want to put it out there.My boyfriend and I have been talking for 6 months, officially dating for just over 2 months. Today, he finally told me he’s i...

So, I’ve gotten back into the dating game after a breakup earlier in the year. Honestly, I can’t remember much about dating! Anyway, we went out on a first date which went pretty good, we had good conversation for a few hours at a local pub. I’m really into this woman! I have already asked if she would be interested in another, which she agreed. So, now I’m in between the dates and we are back to texting, I don’t want to seem eager or needy or what ever, so when a conversation stalls, do I just leave it??? Pardon my grammar and spelling lmao Submitted December 16, 2019 at 11:55PM So, I’ve gotten back into the dating game after a breakup earlier in the year. Honestly, I can’t remember much about dating! Anyway, we went out on a first date which went pretty good, we had good conversation for a few hours at a local pub. I’m really into this woman!I have already asked if she would be interested in another, which she agreed.So, now I’m in between the dates and we are back to texti...

a few days ago I(M) get out with two (f)riends and a girl I don't know. We walk in the city talking etc. everything is nice. Sometimes I walk alone with this girl, I find here attractive so it's nice for me, we can know each other a little bit with a touch of intimacy Later we all go to a restaurant, I share my plate with here, sounds good. We all go to here appartment, play a alcohol game while talking and laughing since it involve some sexy or ridiculous actions. It happened more than once, be at one time ,we face each other, with the two friends smoking at the window, eye contact each other with smile and no talking...The type of thing that melt my heart in 1sec... TL;DR : met a girl when going out with mutual friend, with intimacy and a lot of hint that we're interested each other. But...I don't have his contact on social media or phone number. I know his fb but I feel like sending a request would be weird...What should I do ? I think of doing a party at my ap...

I've been using OLD for six years now with little success (partially bc of my apathy towards how little matches I got). Well the last year I've really started working on myself (eating healthy, working out, grooming, clothing style, etc) and my profile. I get more matches now, but I've only been on two dates with the current app I'm using (Hinge). I think my biggest issue is that people will match with me, but then are completely silent when I send them a message. I've sent everything from the benign "hey x, how are you" (when their profile is devoid of info) to more personalised messages about a photo they have or in response to one of their prompts. I've even had multiple women match with me on one app then match with me again on another app months later and still never respond. Honestly, I feel like most of the dating profiles I'm perusing are just bots or catfish people. It gets me down to be honest, when I send message after message to poten...

This is going to sound crazy and mean, but I've been texting this girl who is like perfect when it comes to my kind of jokes and humour. It seemed great but one giant turn off for me is if the girl I "fat". Idk why exactly but my brain just says no. I've only really seen her face which I like :) but when I followed her on insta I saw that almost every picture she is in some big coat or loose cloth making it hard to decide what it she actually looks like. Is there a nice way to ask her or so I don't have to drive 4 hours to meet her and take the chance of loosing the attraction the moment I get there. I know I sounds like personality doesn't matter which it does, but I wanna be physically attracted also. Both 19 btw Submitted December 17, 2019 at 12:03AM This is going to sound crazy and mean, but I've been texting this girl who is like perfect when it comes to my kind of jokes and humour. It seemed great but one giant turn off for me is if the girl I...

Hey reddit, I need help. Please forgive me for how stupid this shit may sound. I'm a 23 year old guy with a terrible history in romance. I was bullied in high school, which led to me developing an at times crippling trauma of being left out/abandoned. I never had a girlfriend, but recently tried out tinder. Had a date last Friday and we got close. We held hands and kissed at the end. It was probably the happiest I've ever been.. I still feel euphoric when I think about it. So I'm meeting this girl on Thursday for our 2nd date, but I keep getting incapacitated by the thought of loosing her. We texted a lot in the last days, but I feel so weird about it. We went from this intense moment of kissing to just talking and I'm so scared, that the time in-between will set us back. It felt so real. She looked at me like no girl ever did before and I finally felt like I finally found someone to have a real bond with. Im quite emotional and have a super vivid imagination, so I...

So, I'm really new to this thread, but I've been wrestling with this question for months... I'm a cishet dude in my late 20's. I'm confused by something that's been happening to me for awhile. I would love to hear some female opinions on this... I've been trying to "put myself out there" more since recovering from a deep heartbreak several months ago. Since it's almost 2020, I figured that I would give dating apps a try. News flash, they're still horrible! I'm looking to build a mutual friendship that (hopefully) leads to marriage and eventual family, while maintaining my values and personal faith (no FWB or one-night-stands). Once I get past the hurdle of "matching" with someone, I either get "ghosted" or have the woman decline to chat on the phone (After a back and forth mutual conversation in text of some length, for at least 48 hours, but usually more like a week.), and then they disappear for good, witho...

Edit: I'm so sorry. The title should say "one person" In my college psychology class, the prof wanted to have a class discussion on some dating dynamics, especially to show different perspectives associated with men and women. So he split us up by gender, had us discuss, and then present our perspectives. Anyway, one young woman said: I usually have one guy that I'm hoping will ask me out, but then a different guy does, and that's really disappointing. I was pretty floored. Like, 1) why wouldn't you have a small handful of people that you would like to date? 2) why would that be disappointing? The other guy can still ask you out. 3) you're probably going to be constantly disappointed if you're just sitting around waiting for one individual to ask you out, which may never actually happen. Is this actually a common thing? Do people keep their sights set on just one person even if they've never talked to them? Submitted December 17, 2019 at 1...

3 days ago I went on a date with a girl and it went reasonably well considering I haven't been on a date in 2 years. I am 23 and she is 33 yes I know the age difference is big but I don't care. On the date she seemed very interested in getting to know me she was asking loads of questions. We got the bus home together as she lives near me and she seemed a bit untalkative on the bus maybe because it was busy on their but when she got of her stop she hugged me and touched me on the leg. When I got home I texted her saying 'I am home I know I am a shy one lol we should meet again but do something fun like an activity' (I also sent her a video I was talking to the about on the date). She said 'yes we deffo should and I will watch it'. I took this as she isn't interested, I didn't reply, I still haven't replied and I just started thinking about it and now I am thinking I was just being paranoid? I am a BIG overthinker and can be REALLY sensitive at times....