I went on a date with a girl. We held hands ! What does it mean when a girl holds your hands. Submitted September 29, 2019 at 12:04AM I went on a date with a girl.We held hands ! What does it mean when a girl holds your hands.

Hi everyone, I met this girl at my university a week ago and we exchanged Snaps w/ eachother. A couple days later, I messaged her only to meet her in person 5 minutes later at school. I'm don't know if I should shoot here a text or not. Idk what to say. Can anyone help? Comment below. Submitted September 29, 2019 at 12:05AM Hi everyone,I met this girl at my university a week ago and we exchanged Snaps w/ eachother. A couple days later, I messaged her only to meet her in person 5 minutes later at school.I'm don't know if I should shoot here a text or not. Idk what to say. Can anyone help?Comment below.

Women, do you believe that a guy you're talking to should be as direct about what his intentions are as possible and announce what he wants after a day or two of texting, or do you prefer that he take a week or two of small talk before trying to do anything? Also, do you think a week or two is a good time period or what would be better? Submitted September 29, 2019 at 12:08AM Women, do you believe that a guy you're talking to should be as direct about what his intentions are as possible and announce what he wants after a day or two of texting, or do you prefer that he take a week or two of small talk before trying to do anything? Also, do you think a week or two is a good time period or what would be better?

Sorry, this is a long one. A few months ago (June) I got talking to someone who I instantly clicked with and had things in common with. She told me that I was what she wanted and that she really liked me. Fast forward two weeks of talking and she wanted to hang out at mine on the Saturday night. Cool with me. She got nervous and didn't end coming to mine. What happened was that she messaged me saying she was drunk and was out in the cold thinking about her life. In the end I had to go look for her because I was worried she was gonna hurt herself. I took her back to her sister's house and I went home alone. We text each other that night and eventually we started sexting (something she initiated). We even agreed to meet up on the Monday. So far so good. Not gonna lie I genuinely liked her. Next morning she tells me she made a mistake, hat she was drunk and feels like a slut, that she's not ready for a relationship, she needs to work on herself and be a good mum, but that s...

please credit the artist. Is that so hard? It's a panel from a comic by Adam Ellis aka Books of Adam aka Adamtots September 29, 2019 at 12:19AM

Of course! That's what this community is for. It's been such a help for me, gotta pay it forward. ;) I don't know any well that are open about it, or that even recognize it themselves (although I suspect a few). My husband has met a few at work, though. Then again, I didn't even know it was a thing until about a month ago, so I'm pretty new to everything still. It's been a crazy month! September 29, 2019 at 12:18AM

For me, kissing with tongue feels like taking blended raw oyster pieces, slathering them around my lips, adding some 9-volt batteries inside my mouth, with little shocks from the other person’s cheek hairs, and having little toy soldiers march into my ear and blast mouth noises. The time I tried it, I was nearly brought to tears. Having someone peck me is a little better because it eliminates most of the sliminess and texture of the inside of the other person’s mouth, but regardless, I have to feel it all slowly evaporate after it’s done, and if the partner wants to add some stroking of other body parts into the mix, especially if they want to lift up a clothing item, that’s extra nope. The best case kissing scenario for me is me pecking someone, but there are very few people I have wanted to do that to and it has all been platonic. I just don’t understand the urge overall. Mouths just don’t appeal to me. They make me want to look away if anything. When I describe this to most peop...

I would say I have an easier time being sexually and romantically attracted to women, as with men it’s usually one or other. I dated a guy once who one every level was pretty great, but I was never sexually attracted to him, and never would have been. We were definitely romantically compatible but he wanted a sexual relationship that I probably wouldn’t have been comfortable providing. I’ve also experienced the other where I never developed romantic feelings but definitely found one of my ex boyfriends sexually attractive. With women I tend to have both attractions pretty consistently. September 29, 2019 at 12:14AM

I know this is not what your post was mainly about but i first realized I am ace and i had been connecting a lot of my dysphoria to being ace. it was super confusing for me to differentiate why I dont like certain parts of my body...so i understand your confusion. What really helpedme differentiate dysphoria and my ace symptoms was me imagining "what if I had the body i want? would i still not want to be close to someone?" The answer was yes for me. September 29, 2019 at 12:11AM

I usually think about sex once a day. When I’m with my girlfriend I also think about it more frequently. I don’t get why the statistic is for 7 seconds, that seems kinda grossly over exaggerated. September 29, 2019 at 12:09AM

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How often do typical allo couples have intercourse? I used to think it would be like a few times a month or once a week tops, but I've heard some people say that it's more like every day or every other day, which means it's much more often than I'd thought. What do you guys think? September 29, 2019 at 12:08AM

Same! September 29, 2019 at 12:05AM

Well for me I usually get flushed and feel a sense of excitement and nervousness when I’m with someone I’m sexually attracted too. I feel like I have goosebumps and that the air feels electric. Usually it calms down once the initial attraction has developed and becomes kinda like a simmer where when I’m around the person who I find attractive I just desire and crave being intimate. Usually through physical touch, like hand holding, cuddling, kissing, caressing, etc. Then the biology around what happens with arousal happens, like being warm, pupils dilating, self lubricating, etc. September 29, 2019 at 12:05AM

What about sex-repulsed aces? That literally IS a “fear/hatred of sex”. September 29, 2019 at 12:05AM

How is that ad supposed to make sense in the first place, lol? ​ Spotify's pretty hot, but Spotify, Hulu AND Showtime? Uuugnnnhhhhh September 29, 2019 at 12:03AM

Youre asexual if you dont experience sexual attraction. Youve not given much to go on here, so I couldnt really give you a more accurate idea, but that's the definition if it helps you at all. There's also graysexual if you only experience sexual attraction some of the time or under specific conditions. You may want to check out our wiki for more info if any of that sounds like you! September 29, 2019 at 12:01AM

I'm 16 (almost 17) and I realized that I'm ace last year :) September 28, 2019 at 11:59PM

Sexual attraction definitely happens to me when I begin to become interested in someone. It’s just not necessarily the first thing though. Usually it’s aesthetic attraction I feel first, like I think they are cute and beautiful. From there I usually get to know them on a personal level. With my current girlfriend we met on a dating app and we talked for a good couple weeks before we even went out on a date. We talked sporadically but usually about our interests and such. Once we went on our date I thought she was even more stunning in person. She was smart and funny and could make me laugh. I didn’t probably get the general stereotypical sexual attraction till a couple dates in. Soon after romantic attraction developed. Both romantic and sexual attraction was all there before we even became intimate. September 28, 2019 at 11:59PM

....except sometimes it *is* a hatred of sex. Honestly getting a little sick of how sex-repulsed aces seem to be treated, even in LGBT+ spaces. 'Ace people can still have sex!!!' yeah good for them, but stop pretending those of us who find sex repulsive don't exist. Poor wording, I guess, but it's so annoying. September 28, 2019 at 11:58PM

i am going through the ending of yet another thing i was hoping would work out. Of course it’s always hard, but it has me thinking about what I /do/ want in the person i end up with. I didn’t really know where to go with this, but I wanted to get it out somewhere, so i figured i’d leave it here. i want someone who is so enticing that it blows my mind they can be so beautiful at the same time. i want someone who is not afraid to compliment me in front of everyone, and i want them to be so proud of the fact that i’m theirs that they show me off every chance they get. i want someone who knows the line between teasing me and insulting me, and i want them to use it confidently. i don’t want him to ever feel as though he needs to spend money on grand surprises or take me to expensive dinners. i just want him to show me that he gives a damn and is willing to step up for me. i want someone who understands my passions and wants to listen to me talk about them, no matter how sick they are of h...

should i swipe right? he’s in one of the clubs i’m in at school so i see him maybe once a week but i just joined i never really talked to him. i saw him on tinder and i swipes left cause i thought it would be weird if he saw me. i saw him again on bumble and omg i kinda wanna swipe on him should i do it? Submitted September 28, 2019 at 11:52PM should i swipe right? he’s in one of the clubs i’m in at school so i see him maybe once a week but i just joined i never really talked to him. i saw him on tinder and i swipes left cause i thought it would be weird if he saw me. i saw him again on bumble and omg i kinda wanna swipe on him should i do it?

Yeah so basically there's this one girl in my class and there is a GREAT chemistry between us, but I have the feeling that I will enter the friendzone very soon so.. how can I turn it around and win her heart? Submitted September 29, 2019 at 12:08AM Yeah so basically there's this one girl in my class and there is a GREAT chemistry between us, but I have the feeling that I will enter the friendzone very soon so.. how can I turn it around and win her heart?