I was with my ex for 3 years, and only ever got her to climax a few times through oral despite trying anything she or i could think of. Her friends used to crack jokes about it and insult me, and that got pretty annoying. It kinda messed up any confidence i had in intimacy, and im too nervous to try hooking up with people for fear they wont climax either and the experience will disappoint them. Submitted January 26, 2020 at 11:30PM I was with my ex for 3 years, and only ever got her to climax a few times through oral despite trying anything she or i could think of. Her friends used to crack jokes about it and insult me, and that got pretty annoying. It kinda messed up any confidence i had in intimacy, and im too nervous to try hooking up with people for fear they wont climax either and the experience will disappoint them.

Hey so I'm a 17 year old guy and recently got a girlfriend and we have been sexual with eachother for about three weeks now. We have a problem, I commonly have troubles maintaining an erection, and I think this is mostly due to my penis feeling very numb whenever I am with her. I can barely feel anything when she touches it or I insert it. It feels better when I touch it myself when I'm with her but even then it doesn't feel nearly as good as when I'm in my room by myself. Basically when I masturbate it feels good and sensitive yet when I'm with her it just magically feels dull. What could be some reasons for this? Submitted January 26, 2020 at 11:31PM Hey so I'm a 17 year old guy and recently got a girlfriend and we have been sexual with eachother for about three weeks now. We have a problem, I commonly have troubles maintaining an erection, and I think this is mostly due to my penis feeling very numb whenever I am with her. I can barely feel anything wh...

I (21 F) have been seeing a guy (30M) for casual sex for about a month now, we’ve been meeting every Saturday night so I just saw him for the fourth time. Our sex is always amazing because he clearly knows what he’s doing in bed. I am a bit intimidated by him since he’s extremely attractive (he was a male model) and I’m just a regularly attractive girl. During our last session, he had me flipped on my stomach laying down, while having my torso propped up on a pillow against the wall. (I guess like, walrus position). He was really pounding his cock into me and I was taking every inch of it, it almost started to overstimulate me. I started to have bad thoughts like “you’re just a piece of meat, you’re a slut” which usually never happens to me. I couldn’t say anything and I started shaking uncontrollably and breathing heavily. My partner stopped to check in on me but I told him to continue. I’m not sure if I reached orgasm but the entire situation was extremely overstimulating. He came ...

Can I use lubelife silicone lube with condoms? I'm not really sure about this.. Submitted January 26, 2020 at 11:43PM Can I use lubelife silicone lube with condoms? I'm not really sure about this..

Hi! So this is a post about vaginal health but I'm a trans man (he/him), and I've been having some problems that don't seem to be going away. Over a week ago, I was hooking up with a male friend, it was great- fantastic even, he made me squirt, hard. But in the days after I continued to have discharge, or maybe urine, I couldn't tell. There was a lot of it- so much that it soaked through my boxers and made me chafe raw. After 4 days of this I finally went to Planned Parenthood and was tests for all sorts of things and diagnosed with BV. Pretty normal I guess, and not uncommon for transmen on Testosterone. However, I've been taking the antibiotics for 3 days and and I'm still having a problem. Should I wait longer? Is it possible it was urine and I also have BV? What would I do about that? I don't think I can get pregnant, and I seriously doubt I am, because he never finishes inside me. ( I haven't had a period in over 2 years and I'm on hormone rep...

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 months. She's my first girlfriend and sexual partner. I'm 27 she's 21. I have a problem actually maintaining an erection during any sort of penetration. I can do okay if she's on top or it's a blowjob, anything else and I lose it within 15 seconds. The annoying part is if I'm by myself I have erections that last forever, it's irritating because I want her very badly... It's gotten better.. But not good enough, not even close. I don't know what to do. I'm tempted to just give up. She says it's no big deal but I know it irritates us both. Submitted January 26, 2020 at 11:53PM Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 months. She's my first girlfriend and sexual partner. I'm 27 she's 21. I have a problem actually maintaining an erection during any sort of penetration. I can do okay if she's on top or it's a blowjob, anything else and I lose it within 15 seconds.The ann...

I (m) have never had any anal play. Have not even touched it in a sexual manner. Fiance has a fantasy to peg me. She has not done this before. So we watch a few porn videos on pegging. 1) This looks very scary to me. Is there not a beginners guide somewhere? How does one start out slowly? 2) Is this generally a male or female fantasy? The videos do show the females having a good time, but, the males seem more into it. Are there other girls who want to do it like my gf where the males may be reluctant? How did you deal with this? Any tips Submitted January 26, 2020 at 11:59PM I (m) have never had any anal play. Have not even touched it in a sexual manner. Fiance has a fantasy to peg me. She has not done this before.So we watch a few porn videos on pegging.1) This looks very scary to me. Is there not a beginners guide somewhere? How does one start out slowly?2) Is this generally a male or female fantasy? The videos do show the females having a good time, but, the males seem mor...

Today was the last day I am with my bf because he took a job far away. We knew it was coming and we don’t want to do long distance, and it’s only temporary - so we’re hoping the stars align and we will get back together when he’s back. Anyways, we are in love and have said it to each other before. But I guess I had never said “I love you” during sex until today, our last time together. He came right away and told me that emotional intimacy is such a turn on for him. Wow I’m going to miss him so much. What a good way to end it, for the time being at least. Submitted January 27, 2020 at 12:05AM Today was the last day I am with my bf because he took a job far away. We knew it was coming and we don’t want to do long distance, and it’s only temporary - so we’re hoping the stars align and we will get back together when he’s back.Anyways, we are in love and have said it to each other before. But I guess I had never said “I love you” during sex until today, our last time together. He ...

It’s going to be Chocolat (French) but I’m wondering how English speakers know that Chocolat isn’t pronounced as chocolate Don’t wanna tattoo if most people will butcher it Submitted January 27, 2020 at 12:07AM It’s going to be Chocolat (French) but I’m wondering how English speakers know that Chocolat isn’t pronounced as chocolateDon’t wanna tattoo if most people will butcher it

I don't want to say I was raped because I don't feel like it's fair for me to say that when I consented to it at first, but I feel like I was taken advantage of. My gf and I have been experimenting for 2 months or so and she wanted to try something a bit more extreme I guess? It felt extreme to me but it probably wasn't. I'll call her G for the post. A few days ago, G's parents were away for the night so she asked me to stay at her house. She asked me and we texted for a bit about what we'd do and I ended up agreeing to let her tie my wrists and whatnot to the bed but if I said red we would stop immediately. When I got to hers we watched a movie in her room and kissed and warmed up a bit. I was feeling nervous but she asked if I was alright and I said yes. Once we started she had tied my wrists to the bed head above my head and it was a little tight but she said that was how it was meant to be. (To quickly clarify, I have anxiety and I freak out or get u...

Does saying "I love you" during the sex means anything else other than I like you, the sex and of course your body. Update: Talking about hookups and not intended sex. Submitted January 27, 2020 at 12:22AM Does saying "I love you" during the sex means anything else other than I like you, the sex and of course your body.Update: Talking about hookups and not intended sex.

I didnt know this was a thing lol but apparently it is and it is awesome. I've now given myself multiple orgasms 3 times without any form of stimulation at all except my thoughts, and let me tell you they've been good. Panties soaked everytime. Has anyone else managed to do this? Submitted January 27, 2020 at 12:23AM I didnt know this was a thing lol but apparently it is and it is awesome. I've now given myself multiple orgasms 3 times without any form of stimulation at all except my thoughts, and let me tell you they've been good. Panties soaked everytime. Has anyone else managed to do this?

My partner (26M) and I (28F) have been together for over 3 years, and have lived together for 2 years. Our sex life was absolutely amazing (the best I've ever experienced!), but the frequency of sex has decreased dramatically over the last year and it's making me very disconnected and unwanted. Especially since this has happened before with my ex of 5 years (I ended due to the lack of sexual intimacy). I began to resent my ex because I was rejected so often (and other reasons). However, it's different with my current boyfriend because he is such a great person, I'm incredibly attracted to him and respect him very much. He has undeservingly been through a lot over the past couple of years. He suffered the loss of two very close family members late 2017 and early 2019, and has been dealing with some financial difficulties which has had a negative impact on his mental health. He has gained some weight as a result of comfort eating and working long hours. He also dislike...

I've been in a few long term relationships, but only one or two of the females were able to squirt. I'm just looking for some clarity. Submitted January 27, 2020 at 12:26AM I've been in a few long term relationships, but only one or two of the females were able to squirt. I'm just looking for some clarity.

Hey everyone. So I’m (23F) having a bit of a hard time as of recently. I have minimal experience in the dating world and for a while had very specific views on how I was going to approach dating. That’s recently changed as I’ve been messaging this guy. It’s nothing serious just something new and I’ve kind of started realizing some things. I won’t go into too much detail on him, but we met recently and he wanted to meet up to hangout. I pushed it off a bit wanting to get to know him some more. But throughout this whole process I’ve just started feeling so guilty and ashamed. I didn’t think I was necessarily holding on to all of these negative messages about dating from when I was growing up. My family comes from a different culture and were always very strict when it came to dating/talking to guys. Although as I got older they became less strict. However there’s no way they can know about this guy or they will no longer trust me. It’ll change their whole perspective of me. I’ve just...

Hi redditors! I'm looking for some advice in a relationship I have recovered recently. We've been friends for almost 15 years, but lose contact for about 6 years (I moved to another city) until half year ago. I've been in love with her almost the same time we know each other, and always looked for her own sake and happiness. She ended a terrible relationship, and now she's diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. As I wrote, now we make up for the lost time, she completely trust in me and I've become her confident, I know every single aspect of her inner feelings/thoughts which is... I don't know how to describe it, but it makes me feel really glad, happy... obviously, she talk a lot with me, specially about love, her ideas, feelings, expectations etc. and sometimes about her experiences. Nowadays, she feels confident again, and recently told me she's ready to try hard and fall in love again. I been supportive, and maybe leaving aside my own feeli...

It has been a little over a month since my boyfriend (24) of 6 years broke up with me (f, 22) right after we both graduated from college and I am struggling with believing I will ever be able to find someone else since it was the only serious relationship I've had, even though it was very unhealthy. We broke up repeatedly over the last 3 years of our relationship and I would try dating through apps like Bumble and Tinder but nothing ever came of any of the dates I went on and we would eventually get back together out of loneliness. ​ I realize that it is still very early in my healing process but I am worried about never finding a healthy relationship with someone else because I need to be friends with someone for a while before considering a relationship with them, this is also why I believe online dating doesn't work for me since I feel very pressured to jump into a relationship with someone that I still consider a stranger. I have also never hooked up with someone which m...

I'm pretty new to this whole reddit thing so I apologize in advance if this isn't the appropriate place to post this, but I have an issue I feel like I can't talk about with many people irl. So I have taken to the forums of the interwebs in hopes of getting any kind of insight to help me. The gist of my story is last fall I (25 M) experienced something pretty traumatic, and one of my good friends (23 F) really helped me get through it. The issue now is that I find myself really attracted to her, but she has a boyfriend that she's been seeing for a while, so I'm left to stew with these thoughts on my own. At the time of the incident we had been friends for over a year, and we were already tight to begin with, however I never saw her as more than a friend. I'm not even sure if the title of this post is even a real psychological term, but idk if that's what I'm experiencing or if I genuinely love this girl now. The first month or so immediately following ...

My brother is 17, almost turning 18, and I am 15. Last year he found a lover letter of mine which I had written a few months before to a boy I liked. I hid it behind a calendar and forgot about it--which is pretty stupid on my part. Anyway, he found it, took a photo of it, and is threatening to expose it to my family and tell them I am gay. He is quite serious about it too. I got scared a few times because we would usually get into arguments and he would then threaten to expose it. Exposing it would not only embarrass the fuck out of me, but it would also mean the death of me because my family is extremely homophobic. I get so angry, and I would get anxiety attacks, but I cannot show my anger to my brother since I am afraid that he would expose it. It is extremely cruel and borderline diabolic; I want to choose the time I would like to come out, and I don't want him to do that. I have tried several time to access his MacBook to go on the Photos app and delete it, but I just could ...

It’s been a week since I’ve moved to the US to work and study. I met my girlfriend back in November 2017 and started dating on January 2018. I decided to move due to things not going as how I’d hope it would back home. We call every night and try to stay positive but it really kills that we’re split between thousands of miles. I plan on going back on the summer of 2021 and hopefully taking her with me, but just waiting that long makes my heart heavier when I think about it. TLDR: I moved to the US to work and study. We call and try to do things together but it typically ends with us being emotional or crying. How can we cope with it? Submitted January 27, 2020 at 12:22AM It’s been a week since I’ve moved to the US to work and study. I met my girlfriend back in November 2017 and started dating on January 2018. I decided to move due to things not going as how I’d hope it would back home. We call every night and try to stay positive but it really kills that we’re split between tho...

Hi guys, I guess this post is more of me venting than anything, but I'll also take any advice I can. Gonna be a long post so please bare with me. Also apologizing for format because I'm on mobile. My girlfriend and i met at a bad time. I've been going through a lot this past year, including a failed business with some "friends", which is a long story in and of itself. Basically got a lot of money stolen and was left without a place to live or vehicle. Anyway, her and I had such a great connection that my circumstances didn't matter to her. After dealing with the fallout of the business and trying to right their wrongs, i had no where to go because my family and I aren't close due to a pretty shitty/abusive upbringing. So, some friends offered to let me stay with them. They live way out in the boonies and it was hard to find a job out here without a vehicle, but eventually after a month or so I found one within biking distance. This whole time, my girlfr...

A lot of people don't consider asexuals "normal" so that's kind of hard to answer, but what you've described sounds asexual. In the end, you know how you feel. Have you tried things with multiple genders? Or are you sure that you feel no sexual attraction? If so, welcome to the community. January 26, 2020 at 11:54PM

I'm aroace and I still have the ability to love. Platonically and queer-platonically. My love just isn't defined by romance or sex. Love, for me, probably has a different definition than it would for someone else. January 26, 2020 at 11:53PM