Hello, asexual man here. July 04, 2021 at 12:00AM

it always made me angry that the talking points were about the homo sexuals , it's always about "itr's unnatural for two men/women to have sex ". It's always "a weird kink" Society as a whole deciding to omit the whole part were the two people have a loving relationship in favor of making it a sex thing. So people hear asexuals and think well their issue is not related to gay sex so they don't fit July 03, 2021 at 11:59PM

The thing that irritates me about people who yell about bathrooms, is that we all use a gender neutral bathroom every single day and it's called THE ONE IN YOUR HOME. It's a bathroom. You go in, do bathroom stuff, and then leave. Just let people use the damn bathroom. July 03, 2021 at 11:58PM

So pretty😍😍 July 03, 2021 at 11:58PM

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I'm not a troll. I just absolutely do not believe that sex has the same power you believe it does, and I've never seen evidence to the contrary. I've been ace my entire life. I didn't identify as ace because the majority of the ace community identifies asexuality as a lack of desire for sex, not specifically a lack of attraction to other people, and I couldn't relate to that. I'd been sexually active for 22 years by the time the word Asexual was a household word, let alone even recognized as a part of the LGBTQ+ community. I didn't have the privilege of growing up with choice around my sexuality or gender. The only reason you want me to get off my high horse, is so you can look down on me from yours. July 03, 2021 at 11:51PM

We’ve been sharing bathrooms where I work before this was even a thing lol. July 03, 2021 at 11:47PM

I mean.... there's already the next generation in my family.... guess I'm off the hook July 03, 2021 at 11:44PM

I got here from this. I never thought of asexuality as a thing that has a struggle, but it makes sense now that i have been presented that perspective. July 03, 2021 at 11:44PM

I bet atleast 1 person posted this somewhere July 03, 2021 at 11:44PM

I didn't know this. For some reason I thought to be truly "asexual" you wouldn't get feelings like that at all. I apologize, I am not the most familiar with this subject matter (I'm sure it's obvious by my initial post though.) Yep, it would be aesthetic attraction then. I didn't know this was a thing either but that's definitely what I would describe my feelings as. I always go back and forth on whether or not sex actually is or isn't important in a relationship. I tend to listen to people who say it is since I'm not really surrounded by asexual folk in my personal life. I want to believe it is possible though. I really thank you for what you've said here. I don't think I would be comfortable being in a poly/open relationship so I really would probably need to find someone who is low libido or also asexual. Again, thank you for clearing this stuff up. This does help a good bit though I am still thinking about it all. July 0

My music taste is usually musical soundtracks and songs from shows/movies, but there’s definitely also some alt rock and metal in there too July 03, 2021 at 11:40PM

I am not comfortable with public restroom. If a trans person wants to use the bathroom, who am I to stop them? I won’t even be in there! July 03, 2021 at 11:40PM

Not a clue July 03, 2021 at 11:38PM

This puts into words exactly what I've been feeling recently. Even though I'm sex indifferent leaning more towards favorable, I have always hated being sexualized and expected to put out even though most people don't find me attractive. Like I want to enjoy myself but why do I have to do it on your terms? My last relationship was a mess cause my partner was an allo with high libido and unwilling to do anything that I was comfortable with so 9/10 times I was pressured into doing what they wanted. When I finally had enough and put my foot down they made it seem like I was wrong for having conditions to having fun. I hate that I let myself be pushed around just to please my partner and I hate that I keep being treated like I'm down for anything simply cause I "act" allo. July 03, 2021 at 11:38PM

I didn’t discover the term until my mid 20s. I’ve felt intensely drawn toward a handful of people and after reading the resources linked on this sub and the experiences shared here, I suspect these were romantic attractions. Some were to women but most were to men. Im guessing that’s partially because of a common trend of shared interests and career representation (I’m a male in tech). I don’t have some satisfying conclusion to my story. I’m still figuring things out. I worry that I’m romantically attracted to a close friend of mine that I recently started working with. But it could just be that I really respect this guy and am striving to meet his professional expectations. It’s hard to quantify so I’m definitely in the same boat of questioning my romantic orientation. July 03, 2021 at 11:37PM

Don't worry, you're not alone. Because we don't feel sexual attraction, we have nothing to compare it too. So we assume aesthetic attraction is the same thing. I didn't figure it out until earlier this year, and I'm in my 30's. July 03, 2021 at 11:36PM

Bro, rock it! It looks AWESOME! :D July 03, 2021 at 11:34PM

I have a mighty need to add that button to my collection July 03, 2021 at 11:33PM

I can see the queer allegory. Like any other movie which has an outcast of some sort. But I fail to see the romance. Same with any boy girl friendship that some would see as a romance. I just watched the Goonies with my kids, and there's a part where Sloth kisses Chunk. They tell each other or show often that they like eachother. I never heard of anyone shipping "Chloth" anywhere loll July 03, 2021 at 11:32PM

My friend got me this pin! I love it haha, just wish I was out so I could actually use it July 03, 2021 at 11:29PM

Fuckin hell! This needs more appreciation! Like damn gurl, youre making me wish I could get my nails done like that, and I don't even swing that way 🤣 July 03, 2021 at 11:29PM

Im doing about the same thing lol. Its sucks but i know my real family are the small circle of friends that i chose and that are actually there for me :) I hope you have a better day tomorrow friend ✨ July 03, 2021 at 11:28PM